What's your ultimate age limit (upper&lower!) when dating?

Skeleton Key · 09-04-2019 07:34PM

Marcus Rashford wrote: »

People underestimate that power dynamic.

We all know men who only date younger women, less well-off people, or indeed foreigners.

They tend to be pathetic cuck types who cannot handle their peers or social/economic equals and who prefer to dominate their partners.

The predators mentioned earlier who targeted 16 year old girls strike me as pathetic characters who can neither satisfy nor amuse a proper woman.

Yeah and what's a proper woman? 45 and 250lbs??

And what's wrong with dating younger women or foreign women?

partyguinness · 09-04-2019 08:24PM

ToBeFrank123 wrote: »

Both of you probably should have made it clearer in the early days where each of your priorities lay. Most 25 year old guys are not ready to settle down while most 35 year old women are *

*There are of course exceptions to both rules before people remind me!

Yeah. I believe her older sister was giving her grief during the relationship for not sitting down for 'the talk'. I was too busy enjoying the fun every weekend with her and sort of sleep walked into a 2 year fun relationship. At the risk of sounding like I am blaming her she probably should have sat down and made it clear it was '**** or get off the pot' time a lot earlier.

Emme · 09-04-2019 08:27PM

Skeleton Key wrote: »

Yeah and what's a proper woman? 45 and 250lbs??

That's a good question these days with people born male identifying as female and vice versa and gender fluid people. It's basically whatever you're having yourself.

Skeleton Key wrote: »

And what's wrong with dating younger women or foreign women?

Nothing as long as it's a fair and equitable relationship.

Marcus Rashford · 09-04-2019 08:58PM

Skeleton Key wrote: »

Marcus Rashford wrote: »

People underestimate that power dynamic.

We all know men who only date younger women, less well-off people, or indeed foreigners.

They tend to be pathetic cuck types who cannot handle their peers or social/economic equals and who prefer to dominate their partners.

The predators mentioned earlier who targeted 16 year old girls strike me as pathetic characters who can neither satisfy nor amuse a proper woman.

Yeah and what's a proper woman? 45 and 250lbs??

And what's wrong with dating younger women or foreign women?

A proper woman is a consenting adult for starters.

Nothing in isolation, but people who exclusively date younger or foreign women tend to be cucks who can’t hack it with their own. It’s a power-play.

Skeleton Key · 09-04-2019 09:09PM

Marcus Rashford wrote: »

A proper woman is a consenting adult for starters.

Nothing in isolation, but people who exclusively date younger or foreign women tend to be cucks who can’t hack it with their own. It’s a power-play.

Wow! Never knew I'd be proud to call myself a cuck so!

Skeleton Key · 09-04-2019 09:12PM

Emme wrote: »

That's a good question these days with people born male identifying as female and vice versa and gender fluid people. It's basically whatever you're having yourself.

Nothing as long as it's a fair and equitable relationship.

Well then I'll stick with young beautiful slim women if you don't mind.

Something unfair about me having sex with the 24 year American college student I picked up last week?

ginandtonicsky · 09-04-2019 09:16PM

Skeleton Key wrote: »

Well then I'll stick with young beautiful slim women if you don't mind.

Something unfair about me having sex with the 24 year American college student I picked up last week?

A likely story alright there from Mr Regged-last-night-20-posts-all-in-the-same-thread wonderboy.

orourkeda1977 · 09-04-2019 09:16PM

most legal fanny is ok with me

Skeleton Key · 09-04-2019 09:21PM

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

A likely story alright there from Mr Regged-last-night-20-posts-all-in-the-same-thread wonderboy.

Maybe leave this thread to people who actually go out and have sex?

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 09-04-2019 09:22PM

Flying Fox wrote: »

I don't think it's fair to assume people are questioning your view because they are sensitive, jealous women.

I just find it very hypocritical. You think a partner can only be desirable if they are, for example, 10 years younger than you. A partner of your own age or older is a negative, yet you want the object of your desire to find an older partner attractive? Why should she 'settle', when she can go for a man her own age or younger?

I get that there are some women who like older men, but I think guys in their 40s and 50s who think they can get a woman 20 years younger need a bit of a reality check. I always found it unnerving when men old enough to be my dad hit on me, and so did my friends. The majority of women in their 20s are not interested in significantly older men.

That would have been my experience too. Of course age gap couples happen and they can be very happy. But for most early-mid 20s women, middle-aged men wouldn’t be on their radar.

I agree with whoever said that older woman/younger man couplings can inspire more comment, even if the gap is really small. A woman who was in transition year when I was in first year of secondary school and a man who was in first year of secondary school when I was in third year are a married couple now. That’s, what, a five or six year gap? They got together when he was mid-20s. They were gossiped about a lot.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 09-04-2019 09:25PM

partyguinness wrote: »

There is a girl who works for us just gone 23 and lives at home with parents. Been with us since she left school- first and only job to date. She got engaged 2 years ago.

I had a right go at her for getting engaged.What type of person gets engaged at 21? This is not the 1970s and our parents era.

There is a whole world out there to see and experience. Getting engaged at 21? **** me..is that the extent of your ambition. Now I accept we all do not go to university for 4 years, do the whole J1 thing, shag and drink loads as much as possible, do a lot of traveling etc (me at 21),

Anyway, she dumped the fiancee at Christmas as he was caught drink driving. Sounds like she was looking for a way out...we teased her that it was just drama and they will be back together in a few weeks. She has held out so far and is having a right laugh heading off on her own or with friends for weekends away.

Glad she has seen the light.

This is really odd. What business was that of yours? She’s a colleague not a loved one. I’d think she was way too young too but I’d be keeping that to myself.

Skeleton Key · 09-04-2019 09:33PM

partyguinness wrote: »

There is a girl who works for us just gone 23 and lives at home with parents. Been with us since she left school- first and only job to date. She got engaged 2 years ago.

I had a right go at her for getting engaged.What type of person gets engaged at 21? This is not the 1970s and our parents era.

There is a whole world out there to see and experience. Getting engaged at 21? **** me..is that the extent of your ambition. Now I accept we all do not go to university for 4 years, do the whole J1 thing, shag and drink loads as much as possible, do a lot of traveling etc (me at 21),

Glad she has seen the light.

Translation: 'I was bitterly jealous that my friend found love so I did everything posible to ruin it. I want her to be as equally miserable as me as I spend my 20s riding the cock carousel before accepting my fate as a washed up cat lady'.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 09-04-2019 09:45PM

Skeleton Key wrote: »

Translation: 'I was bitterly jealous that my friend found love so I did everything posible to ruin it. I want her to be as equally miserable as me as I spend my 20s riding the cock carousel before accepting my fate as a washed up cat lady'.

Ah, brand new member, I’m pretty sure that forum member is a dude.

Skeleton Key · 09-04-2019 09:49PM

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

Ah, brand new member, I’m pretty sure that forum member is a dude.

Either way it was unbelievably shiity thing to do.

09-04-2019 09:52PM

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

That would have been my experience too. Of course age gap couples happen and they can be very happy. But for most early-mid 20s women, middle-aged men wouldn’t be on their radar.

I agree with whoever said that older woman/younger man couplings can inspire more comment, even if the gap is really small. A woman who was in transition year when I was in first year of secondary school and a man who was in first year of secondary school when I was in third year are a married couple now. That’s, what, a five or six year gap? They got together when he was mid-20s. They were gossiped about a lot.

It's crazy. There's almost five years between me and my other half, he was late twenties and I was early thirties when we got together. I had a couple of friends say "oh he's lovely, I'm so happy for you, but I could never go out with someone younger!". Mind you, one of them has never been in a relationship and the other was seeing a man about 10 years older, but once they split she got into a relationship with someone 4 years younger. Which kind of proves the point that arbitrary age limits are silly, you fall for whoever you fall for.

Frank O. Pinion · 09-04-2019 10:39PM

How about a 96 year old and 74 year old? Too big of an age gap? Yeah, they would probably have nothing in common. Wouldn't even like the same music, that sort of thing. The younger one wanting to go out late with their friends, playing bingo, doing mad stuff like that, the older one more interested in lying still in a chair. Nah, it'd never work.

Reviews and Books Galore · 09-04-2019 10:42PM

lainey_d_123 wrote: »

It's amazing how many men truly don't understand this.

Generalisations? And kind of a random ibe to be honest as more women would be commenting than the men. If anybody was commenting at all.

In fairness, a man being single would raise comments from the same people, but they may not be as nice as spinster

lainey_d_123 · 09-04-2019 10:48PM

Reviews and Books Galore wrote: »

Generalisations? And kind of a random ibe to be honest as more women would be commenting than the men. If anybody was commenting at all.

In fairness, a man being single would raise comments from the same people, but they may not be as nice as spinster

How is it a generalisation? I said it's amazing how many men don't understand that plenty of women have other priorities than bagging a man and getting married. Talking about men I've encountered in the real world, not just on this thread. Never said 'all men' or anything remotely similar. I'm talking about the kind of man who would tell you 'men don't like women with short hair' after you get a short haircut, honestly believing that you care about their opinion and honestly thinking they're doing you some kind of favour by letting you know what random strangers might find attractive. Bizarre.

Emme · 09-04-2019 11:39PM

Skeleton Key wrote: »

Well then I'll stick with young beautiful slim women if you don't mind.

Something unfair about me having sex with the 24 year American college student I picked up last week?

Yes. You're going public with it here. Have you not heard that a gentleman never tells?

misstearheus · 10-04-2019 03:49AM

I'm 38. Desired Age-range I look for in the O.D. World is 33 - 43. The hope would be to find a guy 35 - 40. Preferably don't want younger than 35 or older than 40. But age doesn't matter a smidgen really, 'cos if ya see a nice guy out and think he's nice, if he happens to be 25 or younger, - that may be far down the list of criteria! Last guy I met out lately was 33, lol I actually still did ask him his age so I'm kind-of contradicting myself here!

:rolleyes: But anyways the shock of it lol so young at 33 and me 38!

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Am almost 39. 39 like. It's getting to be srs bzns! I need to start being realistic and cop on lol! Soon I'm just gonna have to get real and just change the age-range to a realistic... I dunno... 35-45 or something... Or I dunno maybe I should just pretty-much forget about the 30s now as a whole altogether, and just go ... 39 - 46 or something... Ooohh lordyyy... 46...... Not ready for that at all. :pac::rolleyes::( At all at all at all!

Hate the thoughts of being late 40s / 50s stil single and child-less.

Larbre34 · 10-04-2019 05:05AM

misstearheus wrote: »

Hate the thoughts of being late 40s / 50s stil single and child-less.

I should warn you that most men do not think in those terms at all. Yes, partly for the obvious reason, but more generally those life goals, if you like, do not often form part of a chap's thought process. So, if settling down and kids are important, id focus on the guy that desires that rather than what age they might be.

I'm 42 now and if I wasnt already taken, my realistic dating range would be 35-45. That old formula suggests I could date down to 28 but im fecked if i know what i might have in common with a 28yo woman.

SoundsRight · 10-04-2019 07:09AM

Deebles McBeebles wrote: »

Are we still talking about the lad who was quite obviously taking the p*ss when he mentioned 16 year olds?

Amazing the tangents these threads can go on.

I wasn't taking the p*ss. You want to eat the fruit when it's ripe. Also a reminder that's the lowest end of my range, 16-25. Some girls are late developers.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts · 10-04-2019 08:02AM

SoundsRight wrote: »

I wasn't taking the p*ss. You want to eat the fruit when it's ripe. Also a reminder that's the lowest end of my range, 16-25. Some girls are late developers.

This is some top-notch WUM-istry right here.

Giving me life right now, giving me life.

10-04-2019 08:12AM

misstearheus wrote: »

Hate the thoughts of being late 40s / 50s stil single and child-less.

I once hated this as well. I was terrified of it happening. These days not so much. Life can turn in the blink of an eye. I do hope you get your hearts desire miss

Dalomanakora · 10-04-2019 08:30AM

misstearheus wrote: »

Hate the thoughts of being late 40s / 50s stil single and child-less.

There's no reason why you will be! Your late 40s is a whole decade away, so much can change in a decade.

Easier said than done, but ignore the worry. If you meet someone lovely, great! If you don't, there's nothing stopping you from making your own life and having children by yourself if kids is a definite want for you.

What's for you won't pass you by. Until then, enjoy the time you spend before kids and family come along

sbsquarepants · 10-04-2019 09:08AM

misstearheus wrote: »

It's getting to be srs bzns!

It's getting to be what now?

Deebles McBeebles · 10-04-2019 09:24AM

sbsquarepants wrote: »

It's getting to be what now?

Software requirements specification business?

F*ck kids (not you, SoundsRight), have dogs.

10-04-2019 09:48AM

Flying Fox wrote: »

So the oldest you're willing to go is 7 years younger than yourself, if she looks the part.

What exactly are you offering to this attractive woman in her thirties? Why do you expect her to go out with someone at least 7 years older, when you yourself consider an older partner (or even one the same age) undesirable?

Women saying they won't go out with someone a year younger than them are just as silly imo. People really need to stop being so hung up on a number and just go out and see who you click with. Within reason obviously (i.e. a 25-30 year old with a teenager is wrong).

What an attitude, what business of yours is it? the thread asks a question, people are answering it, you'd think I said I wanted to go out with a 19 yo. From a realistic point you gravitate towards someone you are attracted to, some of that is physical and some not, while I dont consider everything is all about looks, Id want to be able to connect with someone and share other things, but whether you or anyone admits it or not, ultimately we are drawn to people we are physically attracted to, If I wasn't I simply wouldn't be in that kind of relationship with them.
Ive just found that most women my age look a lot older than me, Ive seen women in their early thirties that look in their forties, and Im sure women notice the same thing about about guys also. I knew a guy who went bald before he was 20 and another who was grey before 30.

Ive always looked younger than my age, I dont have a beer gut nor do I claim to be perfect, and a 7 year age gap is not significant. More than a ten year age gap might limit the possibility of a lasting relationship, but if you like someone, what does age matter? you actually seem to say that so you are contradicting yourself.
I woudnt know what someone I have not met finds attractive or desirable and neither would you, but women seem to date more around or greater than their age, and mostly not significantly less, I think thats just the way it is generally and guys the opposite.
If I met someone and it turned out they were 39 or 42 and I liked them, I wouldnt shut them down and say, sorry its outside my age range, goodbye.

Emme · 10-04-2019 09:53AM

misstearheus wrote: »

I'm 38. Desired Age-range I look for in the O.D. World is 33 - 43. The hope would be to find a guy 35 - 40. Preferably don't want younger than 35 or older than 40. But age doesn't matter a smidgen really...

Am almost 39... Hate the thoughts of being late 40s / 50s stil single and child-less.

I'm late 40s and that ship has sailed for me. It's not what I wanted but that's the way life went. Like somebody said, life can turn on you in a second. I'm also single and have a lot going on (busy job, elderly family etc.) so I'm not interested in dating. Just as well really when I read some of the posts here.

I'm not being horrible but I would advise you to broaden your net a bit. Be open to dating guys up to 50. Some 50 somethings are very fit these days, into cycling, triathlons etc. They would be very happy to date a 38 year old.

Men don't have a biological clock so as a woman gets into her 30s if she wants a child she has to upwardly adjust the age range of the men she is willing to date.

Dalomanakora wrote: »

What's for you won't pass you by. Until then, enjoy the time you spend before kids and family come along

This is a dangerous fallacy. If you want something you have to be proactive and take the steps necessary to get it. Learn from those who have failed. Do not depend on fate.

Reviews and Books Galore · 10-04-2019 09:59AM

Emme wrote: »

I'm late 40s and that ship has sailed for me. It's not what I wanted but that's the way life went. Like somebody said, life can turn on you in a second. I'm also single and have a lot going on (busy job, elderly family etc.) so I'm not interested in dating. Just as well really when I read some of the posts here.

I'm not being horrible but I would advise you to broaden your net a bit. Be open to dating guys up to 50. Some 50 somethings are very fit these days, into cycling, triathlons etc. They would be very happy to date a 38 year old.

Men don't have a biological clock so as a woman gets into her 30s if she wants a child she has to upwardly adjust the age range of the men she is willing to date.

This is a dangerous fallacy. If you want something you have to be proactive and take the steps necessary to get it. Learn from those who have failed. Do not depend on fate.

I wonder is it possible to freeze your eggs?

What's your ultimate age limit (upper&lower!) when dating?

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