I think my boyfriend is embarrassed to be with me..

Op you are jumping to some big conclusions here. Saying that you think he didnt invite you to this wedding because he wants to cheat on you is a massive(and negative) leap. In regards to his social media.........does he post a lot of pictures in general? Just because a guy doesnt post pictures of you and him on instagram doesnt mean he's not into you. Social media is not a litmus test of a relationship. Long before there was social media people had healthy relationships that didnt need to be broadcasted and validated to the public. A lot of blokes just dont do the social media relationship thing. Theyre not into selfies etc., but that doesnt mean you should jump to a conclusion about his motives.
The only way you're gonna find out anything definite is by asking him direct questions. Not round a bout, indirect, passive questions, but direct. You could just ask about the wedding. It might be the case that he was only invited, no plus one. Or that he wanted to just go by himself. And if he did just want to go by himself that doesnt reflect negatively on you in any way. Some times guys just want to head off and do something by themselves, without their wives or girlfriends. That doesnt make him a bad guy or a cheater, he might just want to do his own thing on this occasion. Anyway you'll never know unless you talk to him directly. I'd be 99.9999% sure that none of this has anything to do with him being ashamed or not proud of you. Dont automatically jump to the most negative and extreme conclusion. Stop, calm your mind and think this through, not from a negative point of view but a rational one.

I had a boyfriend like him once. Told me CONSTANTLY how amazing I was - gorgeous and he told me he loved me very early on. At the time he was in his late 20s and I put it down to maturity. I met his entire family, became good friends with his siblings (one of which said she could see us married, I had completely changed him). I only met one of his friends, but oddly enough this friend was not aware that we were in a committed relationship. I assumed he knew but it turns out he was told something completely different by my ex. We never went out once we were "official". Literally he would pick me up, drive me to his and we'd get takeout and watch movies. He wasn't big into social media so there were no photos of us and none of his other friends even knew I existed.

The entire 2-year relationship he was meeting with and sleeping with other women. Any other women. He got a massive ego boost targeting them on dating websites and then "getting" them. I was utterly oblivious the entire time until his friend (who I thought knew about me) copped on and felt sorry for me. He invited me to a barbecue they were all going to so I could see for myself what he was up to. He was actually there trying to bed the host's girlfriend!

I cut loose, ignored the STREAMS of messages and calls begging me back, and am now married to said barbecue host

There is NOTHING wrong with you, unless you continue to put up with this!

Dtp1979 wrote: »

Hahaha, great ending!!

We still host barbecues in his honour

But seriously, OP. Even if he isn't actually cheating on you, this is super crappy behaviour after two years. Our dog is an incredibly anti-social, reactive jerk and he gets taken out more than you do I get what people are saying about you taking control and organising something, but is it worth it to get shot down/stood up/having him pretend ye aren't together in said public place?

You're clearly not happy and you know something isn't right. Cut him loose now while you still have the self esteem to find someone you deserve!

OP I'm sorry to hear how things turned out. I think you should consider this a lucky escape though.

Don't try to make too much sense out of his actions. He's merely a despicable person who wanted to have his cake and eat it too I'm afraid.

OP I'm sorry you're upset to hear what he's been up to but I swear you will honestly consider this a very lucky escape in a matter of months.

I had an ex very similar to yours, told me he loved me constantly, always sending me flowers and buying me presents - yet also manipulating me and wearing down my confidence until all we did was watch tv in his house and not venture outside the door.

He was extremely controlling and so anti-cheating (I wasn't even allowed say hello to any guys I knew in front of him) that I naively never realised that only meant that he was against me cheating - he was out cheating on me for 2 years solid and I had no idea until after we broke up despite all the signs staring me right in the face.

It damaged my self-confidence and I never acknowledged until afterwards that I was actually afraid of him - any suspicions I may have had were ignored and shoved down so I wouldn't have to have a direct conversation with him about it in case he got upset / angry.

I'm so glad I saw the light eventually and got away from him, he cried and begged and pestered me non-stop telling me he loved me but once I heard and confronted him about the cheating he turned very nasty. It took me a long time to get over all of this but I am so so glad it ended when it did.

You're going to be very sad about all of it and it will make you question your trust in people but you just have to remember that he is the one in the wrong here, he is the one who has made you question yourself and I promise there is going to be a moment when you just feel sweet relief that you don't have to worry about what he thinks of you ever again - you can just be yourself!

blueb wrote: »

There's plenty of good men out there for you..you have the experience to spot the bad ones now.

I know for a fact I would never have found my wonderful husband if it wasn't for my horrible ex so I'm weirdly grateful to him, without being glib you can try to have the ariana grande headspace of 'thank you, next' and see this as an experience you had to go through to find the right person for you.