Dumped by my girlfriend today

mjv2ydratu679c · 14-02-2019 09:26PM #1

Will try to keep it short. Today my girlfriend dumped me as I didn't do anything for valentines day. We went for dinner last Saturday and I called over with a small box of chocolates last night and in 2 weeks I am taking her to Copenhagen for 3 days. She paid for her own flight but I will be paying for everything else, accomodation, food, drink and entertainment that will easily come to 1.5k for the 3 days there. But today I got dumped as I didn't do anything specific for valentines today. What do ye think?

EDIT. I should point out I am not taking her to Copenhagen for Valentines day I'm taking her just as a weekend away.

I'd be particularly keen to hear a female perspective

alchemist33 · 14-02-2019 09:29PM

If thats all it takes, you're better off out of the relationship. Hope you get your money back from the trip, or find someone else to go with.

artanevilla · 14-02-2019 09:29PM

Bullet dodged.

Dalomanakora · 14-02-2019 09:38PM

I'm female, just saying that because you want a female perspective.

She's bang out of order. You're spending over a grand on treating her on a weekend away, you bought her chocolates and ye went for dinner. So what if it wasn't specifically on Valentine's Day? Why does the day you treat her matter so much? Surely she should just be happy to have a boyfriend willing to show generosity and thought?

Be glad, you've dodged a bullet.

For the future, discuss Valentine's Day with partners. I make it clear to mine that I don't usually celebrate but if they enjoy it, I'm very happy to participate in gifts and dinner (and reciprocate obviously!).

Out of interest, what did she buy for you?

mjv2ydratu679c · 14-02-2019 09:39PM

Dalomanakora wrote: »

I'm female, just saying that because you want a female perspective.

She's bang out of order. You're spending over a grand on treating her on a weekend away, you bought her chocolates and ye went for dinner. So what if it wasn't specifically on Valentine's Day? Why does the day you treat her matter so much? Surely she should just be happy to have a boyfriend willing to show generosity and thought?

Be glad, you've dodged a bullet.

For the future, discuss Valentine's Day with partners. I make it clear to mine that I don't usually celebrate but if they enjoy it, I'm very happy to participate in gifts and dinner (and reciprocate obviously!).

Out of interest, what did she buy for you?

Thanks Dalomanakora, she didn't get me anything. It was only a very small box of chocolates I bought

baby and crumble · 14-02-2019 09:40PM

Dwayne Fluffy Spitball wrote: »

Thanks Dalomanakora, she didn't get me anything.

Pfft, I know it’s hard to hear but you’re honestly well shot of her. You sound lovely, brining her to Copenhagen and paying for everything there will cost a bomb it’s a super expensive spot.

Dalomanakora · 14-02-2019 09:44PM

Dwayne Fluffy Spitball wrote: »

Thanks Dalomanakora, she didn't get me anything. It was only a very small box of chocolates I bought

So she didn't get you anything, but expected even more than you'd already gotten for her?

Even if we only think about the small box of chocolates, that's far more than she bloody got you!

Funnily, I didn't think she'd gotten you anything, that's why I asked.

She's a hypocrite and you deserve better than that.

Aside from her being a hypocrite, any person who dumps you over a gift instead of discussing it is a greedy git that you're better off without.

If she wanted to celebrate Valentine's Day, she could have told you. She didn't though, because discussing it would mean her also having to buy you a gift.

Johnnyhpipe · 14-02-2019 09:45PM

Christ almighty. Well done for putting uo with her to date. You dodged a bullet there!

mjv2ydratu679c · 14-02-2019 09:46PM

Dalomanakora wrote: »

So she didn't get you anything, but expected even more than you'd already gotten for her?

Even if we only think about the small box of chocolates, that's far more than she bloody got you!

Funnily, I didn't think she'd gotten you anything, that's why I asked.

She's a hypocrite and you deserve better than that.

Aside from her being a hypocrite, any person who dumps you over a gift instead of discussing it is a greedy git that you're better off without.

If she wanted to celebrate Valentine's Day, she could have told you. She didn't though, because discussing it would mean her also having to buy you a gift.

Thanks i don't think she didn't discuss it as she didn't want to buy me a gift. I said last Saturday I didn't believe in Valentine's day which is why she didn't discuss it

Blazer · 14-02-2019 09:46PM

Hopefully now you’ll steer clear of her op. As many said here you dodged a bullet. It wouldn’t surprise me if she decided to get back together just for the weekend away.

Sono · 14-02-2019 09:47PM

OP what age are you? Sounds ****ing ridiculous!

mjv2ydratu679c · 14-02-2019 09:48PM

Blazer wrote: »

Hopefully now you’ll steer clear of her op. As many said here you dodged a bullet. It wouldn’t surprise me if she decided to get back together just for the weekend away.

Ah no she's not like that, she's very genuine. She was upset today

wiggle16 · 14-02-2019 09:50PM

Threads with titles like yours normally elicit a lot of sympathetic responses. You'll notice this one hasn't, because you don't need sympathy. She's done you a massive favour.

See if you can get the ticket changed to someone else's name, and enjoy Copenhagen

screamer · 14-02-2019 09:50PM

Ok I’m female too so here’s my take.

You are well rid, someone so materialistic like that will never be happy, and you’ll spend your life and money trying to meet her demands. How would a relationship built on that survive hard times, a job loss or illness where you couldn’t work to earn the money needed to keep her happy...... It sometimes helps to imagine into the future...would you be happy with her?

Go to Copenhagen, you’ve paid for it, enjoy yourself and take some time out.

sallyanne12 · 14-02-2019 09:51PM

I have a feeling this "dumping" you is a tactic of hers to get you to come chasing her with gifts. Don't do that. Ignore her and move on. I would bet you she will come back looking for you and wondering why you're not trying to get her back. Seriously move on, she's a game player playing with your feelings like that. I'm sorry Op

Alf Veedersane · 14-02-2019 09:51PM

Dwayne Fluffy Spitball wrote: »

Ah no she's not like that, she's very genuine. She was upset today

She's not mature enough for a relationship if, given everything else, she is ending it because you didn't get her something specifically on Valentine's Day.

She may be genuine somehow but you're likely to be genuinely better off without.

cannotlogin · 14-02-2019 09:52PM

It may not seem like it now but thid is the biggest warning sign ever of what she is like.

You are better off without the ungrateful wench.

Do not even consider taking her back under any circumstance - even if it costs you money.

Get as much of a refund as possible or bring a friend instead.

If this is her behaviour over something as small as a hallmark holiday, I dread to think how she would react over big things.

meeeeh · 14-02-2019 09:53PM

Blazer wrote: »

Hopefully now you’ll steer clear of her op. As many said here you dodged a bullet. It wouldn’t surprise me if she decided to get back together just for the weekend away.

Yeah I was just thinking that.

I despise Valentine's but even if I didn't I don't think breaking of with someone because they didn't bring you a gift on certain day is just not on. And it's clear there was no appreciation for other stuff you did for her.

mjv2ydratu679c · 14-02-2019 09:53PM

sallyanne12 wrote: »

I have a feeling this "dumping" you is a tactic of hers to get you to come chasing her with gifts. Don't do that. Ignore her and move on. I would bet you she will come back looking for you and wondering why you're not trying to get her back. Seriously move on, she's a game player playing with your feelings like that. I'm sorry Op

Thanks but I don't think that's it. She's just genuinely upset.

Pinch Flat · 14-02-2019 09:53PM

There’s better out there Op. chalk it down and move on.

wiggle16 · 14-02-2019 09:54PM

Dwayne Fluffy Spitball wrote: »

Thanks but I don't think that's it. She's just genuinely upset.

How long were yous together, OP?

Alf Veedersane · 14-02-2019 09:55PM

Dwayne Fluffy Spitball wrote: »

Thanks but I don't think that's it. She's just genuinely upset.

That doesn't make it any better...that she's 'genuinely' upset.

She has no reason to be upset. Look at the list of things you did do and she's upset because they weren't on Valentine's Day itself?

Do me a favour!

mjv2ydratu679c · 14-02-2019 09:55PM

wiggle16 wrote: »

How long were yous together, OP?

Just over 3 months

lawred2 · 14-02-2019 09:56PM

Better off

cannotlogin · 14-02-2019 09:57PM

How is her behaviour not a huge turnoff?

Why would you indulge such an entitled individual?

lalababa · 14-02-2019 09:57PM

If you love her you have to take the rough with the smooth. But she does need a kick up the hole.

screamer · 14-02-2019 09:57PM

Dwayne Fluffy Spitball wrote: »

Thanks but I don't think that's it. She's just genuinely upset.

But why is she upset? Because your gift was not grand enough..... seriously OP, don’t make the mistake so many men do and think that a materialistic woman can ever be anything different. She is upset because of a gift she didn’t receive, if your relationship is as worthless as a bouquet of flowers to her, then forget it. Move on, in years to come you’ll look back and see that it was the right decision

odyssey06 · 14-02-2019 09:59PM

Avail of this proferred escape from emotional blackmail while it is staring you in the face.

lawred2 · 14-02-2019 10:00PM

Dwayne Fluffy Spitball wrote: »

Ah no she's not like that, she's very genuine. She was upset today

A genuine gold digger

Time for some self respect now and leave her to herself..

Hoboo · 14-02-2019 10:02PM

Sounds like she needed to instigate a row so she could spend Valentines with her other fella.

She'll be back in plenty of time before Copenhagen, and to get that gravy train back on track.

MissShihTzu · 14-02-2019 10:02PM

She dumped yoiu because you didn't buy her a specific Valentine's gift? Nah - don't believe that. The fact that your ex was apparently upset tells me there's another reason...

I wouldm't be fazed by it. Move on. Bullet dodged and sanity saved. You were only together 3 moinths.

Hope you find someone for the trip. Enjoy!

Dumped by my girlfriend today

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