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RFOLEY1990 · 08-02-2019 11:17AM

pixelburp wrote: »

In all the episodes I've seen, I don't recall any of the final summaries ever suggesting a match went further than "...they went for drinks". Not that I'm expecting wedding bells or the like, but am a little surprised no date has ever grown into ... I dunno, a holiday together or some other milestone. Maybe I missed them? I think there's about 6 months between filming and broadcast, plenty of time for some development in one or two...

Id like to see a bit where we go back to all the first episodes for an update see if anyone actually went anywhere

RFOLEY1990 · 08-02-2019 11:19AM

MuffinTop86 wrote: »

The Galway girl was a stunner

thought she was fairly well on at the end

ligerdub · 08-02-2019 01:53PM

I thought the Clondalkin chick was great. Good laugh, not up herself and is physically attractive.

I wonder how many of the negative comments about her on here are from other women around her age.

Purple Mountain · 08-02-2019 01:56PM

ligerdub wrote: »

I thought the Clondalkin chick was great. Good laugh, not up herself and is physically attractive.

I wonder how many of the negative comments about her on here are from other women around her age.

I really loved her 'God yeah' comment when asked if she fancied him.

De Bhál · 08-02-2019 02:17PM

ligerdub wrote: »

I thought the Clondalkin chick was great. Good laugh, not up herself and is physically attractive.

I wonder how many of the negative comments about her on here are from other women around her age.

was there negative comments?

Yeah she was class. Perfect match, I'd imagine they're engaged by this stage

yourdeadwright · 08-02-2019 03:11PM

De Bhál wrote: »

was there negative comments?

Yeah she was class. Perfect match, I'd imagine they're engaged by this stage

I know "normal " isn't a thing but they seemed the most normal couple on it so far,
Just both very down to earth , very much your average Joe's which isn't an insult but a compliment ,

Flippyfloppy · 08-02-2019 04:19PM

De Bhál wrote: »

was there negative comments?

Yeah she was class. Perfect match, I'd imagine they're engaged by this stage

Not that I’ve seen? Do people just assume there will be?

gmisk · 08-02-2019 08:51PM

If your going to say no..don't let the other person go first....you tosser, I am looking at you in the hat baldy!

RhubarbCrumble · 08-02-2019 10:44PM

I thought the Dublin couple were the nicest. Both of them were very down to earth.

The trying too hard to be cool bisexual was painful. If any of the 3 guys that she was previously engaged to were watching I'd say they were thinking they had a lucky escape.

obi604 · 08-02-2019 11:06PM

RhubarbCrumble wrote: »

I thought the Dublin couple were the nicest. Both of them were very down to earth.

The trying too hard to be cool bisexual was painful. If any of the 3 guys that she was previously engaged to were watching I'd say they were thinking they had a lucky escape.

Yeah. The bisexual - if you got on the wrong side of her could be an absolute wagon I’d say. No wonder there is 3 previous. Unbelievably hard work.

joeguevara · 09-02-2019 12:54AM

I have read a lot of people giving out about girls not paying their way on the date. Get where everyone is coming from but if you just accept that 90% of first dates these days the bloke pays. It’s not sexist. It’s not a show of masculinity. It’s not bad. It’s just what happens. And if he does it’s not because he is expecting a second date. It’s not because he is expecting a kiss or more. It’s just the done thing.

If people accept that then there won’t be so much negative posts about feminism, equality, girls taking advantage, lads been taken for a ride. Sometimes it’s just nice to accept it for what it is.

When people don’t worry about who pays the bill they can then enjoy watching the date. Sometimes it’s fun. Sometimes it’s cringe. Sometimes it looks like it was real. Sometimes you know the producers put two together just to clash. I’m not saying how I know but a good few of the dates would have been filmed around halloween.

Would you prefer if the dates were chosen because they might get on but wouldn’t necessarily make riveting tv or do you want friction. To me I want to see if this social experiment can work and people can actually find something on a dating show (which should be pretty much a real date). I would feel short changed if I went on it and was obvious that I was paired with someone that would only be for ratings.

Also it is clear that edits can shape how viewers perceive someone. Someone who isn’t flawed could come across as an assh0le at the whim of an edit. In this modern society where if it’s on the net it can’t be erased is it worth putting your reputation on the line for €35, a date which mightn’t work and because a producer thought it would be a boost for ratings to make you come across poorly.

Some deserve it because they are fake wannabes but others are just normal who get pulled apart. Thoughts?

joeguevara · 09-02-2019 12:55AM

I have read a lot of people giving out about girls not paying their way on the date. Get where everyone is coming from but if you just accept that 90% of first dates these days the bloke pays. It’s not sexist. It’s not a show of masculinity. It’s not bad. It’s just what happens. And if he does it’s not because he is expecting a second date. It’s not because he is expecting a kiss or more. It’s just the done thing.

If people accept that then there won’t be so much negative posts about feminism, equality, girls taking advantage, lads been taken for a ride. Sometimes it’s just nice to accept it for what it is.

When people don’t worry about who pays the bill they can then enjoy watching the date. Sometimes it’s fun. Sometimes it’s cringe. Sometimes it looks like it was real. Sometimes you know the producers put two together just to clash. I’m not saying how I know but a good few of the dates would have been filmed around halloween.

Would you prefer if the dates were chosen because they might get on but wouldn’t necessarily make riveting tv or do you want friction. To me I want to see if this social experiment can work and people can actually find something on a dating show (which should be pretty much a real date). I would feel short changed if I went on it and was obvious that I was paired with someone that would only be for ratings.

Also it is clear that edits can shape how viewers perceive someone. Someone who isn’t flawed could come across as an assh0le at the whim of an edit. In this modern society where if it’s on the net it can’t be erased is it worth putting your reputation on the line for €35, a date which mightn’t work and because a producer thought it would be a boost for ratings to make you come across poorly.

Some deserve it because they are fake wannabes but others are just normal who get pulled apart. Thoughts?

Iseedeadpixels · 09-02-2019 01:25AM

Dan and Rachel are such lovely people, was hoping it would end up romantic but kinda figured it would be as friends.

Next weeks moaner looks a right bitch!

cgcsb · 11-02-2019 01:17PM

joeguevara wrote: »

It’s not sexist. It’s not a show of masculinity. It’s not bad. It’s just what happens.

No it's actually all of those things.

joeguevara wrote: »

If people accept that then there won’t be so much negative posts about feminism, equality, girls taking advantage, lads been taken for a ride. Sometimes it’s just nice to accept it for what it is.

Eh so you're saying that if you just accept gender inequality and don't call it out and just accept it, it'll be fine??

Just sit at the back of the bus, it'll be grand, don't worry yourself about silly things like equal social status.

Tchaikovsky · 11-02-2019 01:20PM

The most galling instance is when the girl lets the lad pay for her dinner when she has already decided that she doesn't want to see him again. That's not a matter of gender politics or 'how it is', that's just a pure lack of decency.

yourdeadwright · 11-02-2019 01:52PM

Tchaikovsky wrote: »

The most galling instance is when the girl lets the lad pay for her dinner when she has already decided that she doesn't want to see him again. That's not a matter of gender politics or 'how it is', that's just a pure lack of decency.

If the lad offered I don't see the big deal with this ?

if I was on the show id offer to pay for the girl regardless of how the date went, called me old fashioned but that's just how I'd be,

Buying her dinner doesn't mean she has to say yes , Can just be a nice gesture from a bloke weather there is another date or not ,

cgcsb · 11-02-2019 02:10PM

yourdeadwright wrote: »

If the lad offered I don't see the big deal with this ?

if I was on the show id offer to pay for the girl regardless of how the date went, called me old fashioned but that's just how I'd be,

Buying her dinner doesn't mean she has to say yes , Can just be a nice gesture from a bloke weather there is another date or not ,

And she could offer the same gesture, no? or is her gender a barrier to that?

yourdeadwright · 11-02-2019 03:26PM

cgcsb wrote: »

And she could offer the same gesture, no? or is her gender a barrier to that?

If she wanted ye she could have but in this case he did and she said ok ,
Why is there a problem with that ?

Just a bloke with a nice gesture and the girl accepting the gesture ,

But your right lets report both to the gender police , How dare he offer and how dare she accept it ,
How dare two people who aren't going to get married or have a second date be so nice to each other its so unacceptable in todays world.,

ohnonotgmail · 11-02-2019 03:27PM

yourdeadwright wrote: »

If she wanted ye she could have but in this case he did and she said ok ,
Why is there a problem with that ?

Just a bloke with a nice gesture and the girl accepting the gesture ,

But your right lets report both to the gender police , How dare he offer and how dare she accept it ,
How dare two people who aren't going to get married or have a second date be so nice to each other its so unacceptable in todays world.,

But, but, feminism.

cgcsb · 11-02-2019 04:11PM

yourdeadwright wrote: »

If she wanted ye she could have but in this case he did and she said ok ,
Why is there a problem with that ?

Just a bloke with a nice gesture and the girl accepting the gesture ,

But your right lets report both to the gender police , How dare he offer and how dare she accept it ,
How dare two people who aren't going to get married or have a second date be so nice to each other its so unacceptable in todays world.,

The point I was making that the implication that it's ok that it's EXPECTED of men to make this gesture solely because of their gender, is unfair. Also accepting a cash gift off someone you just met without ever wanting to see them again, is complete rudeness.

ohnonotgmail · 11-02-2019 04:24PM

cgcsb wrote: »

The point I was making that the implication that it's ok that it's EXPECTED of men to make this gesture solely because of their gender, is unfair. Also accepting a cash gift off someone you just met without ever wanting to see them again, is complete rudeness.

If a man offers to pay and the woman accepts then who has created the expectation? It isn't the woman. and going for dinner and allowing somebody else to pay is not "accepting a cash gift". I'm not sure what you are trying to imply there.

JP Liz V1 · 11-02-2019 04:25PM

Iseedeadpixels wrote: »

Dan and Rachel are such lovely people, was hoping it would end up romantic but kinda figured it would be as friends.

Next weeks moaner looks a right bitch!

Is Tallafornia Phil back?

Did they run out of new sign ups that some are getting second chances?

SureYWouldntYa · 11-02-2019 04:30PM

On a normal real life date, it should be the person who proposed the date who pays imo, which is usually the man in fairness, so it’s a grey area on the show and no right answer

Has there ever been a date between a man and a women where the woman ended up paying on this?

I remember a girl last year who offered once to pay her half after he offered, which he allowed, then after she was pissy about him not wanting to pay, utter daftness

11-02-2019 05:12PM

ohnonotgmail wrote: »

If a man offers to pay and the woman accepts then who has created the expectation? It isn't the woman. and going for dinner and allowing somebody else to pay is not "accepting a cash gift". I'm not sure what you are trying to imply there.

My issue is why a woman who doesn't intend seeing the man again would accept an offer of paying for her dinner, it really annoys me tbh, what is the readoning behind it if its not rudeness or bad manners?

RFOLEY1990 · 11-02-2019 05:13PM

Deleted User wrote: »

My issue is why a woman who doesn't intend seeing the man again would accept an over of paying for her dinner, it really annoys me tbh, what is the readoning behind it if its not rudeness or bad manners?

she's a huar

ohnonotgmail · 11-02-2019 05:14PM

Deleted User wrote: »

My issue is why a woman who doesn't intend seeing the man again would accept an offer of paying for her dinner, it really annoys me tbh, what is the readoning behind it if its not rudeness or bad manners?

so the man should expect something in return if he pays?

11-02-2019 05:20PM

ohnonotgmail wrote: »

so the man should expect something in return if he pays?

No.. I'm looking at it from the woman's perspective, why not pay for your own meal when you won't see him again?

TerrorFirmer · 11-02-2019 05:20PM

ohnonotgmail wrote: »

so the man should expect something in return if he pays?

I don't know why you're arriving at that conclusion, I think the implication is that the decent thing to do would be to firmly insist on paying half if you already know you've no interest in seeing the other person again.

Man or woman.

11-02-2019 05:21PM

if you've no romantic intentions that you know of, then the "DATE" is plutonic, so treat it as such and pay your half. if you do like them then you can let them pay on the proviso that you'll see each other again and you'll get the next one, NO?? QED the rule of reciprocity.

yourdeadwright · 11-02-2019 05:25PM

rusty cole wrote: »

if you've no romantic intentions that you know of, then the "DATE" is plutonic, so treat it as such and pay your half. if you do like them then you can let them pay on the proviso that you'll see each other again and you'll get the next one, NO??

If the guy offers to pay its a nice gesture that's all ,
You can be nice even if your not getting a second date,

Seems petty to offer to pay and then be annoyed if she accepts but doesn't want a further date,

Very childish the adult version of you can come to my birthday party only if I can go to yours,

What is wrong with people being nice and not expecting anything in return ,

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