The ageing process

04-01-2019 05:43PM #1

Do you worry about ageing? With regards to what you have accomplished or rather, not yet accomplished in life?

I am approaching 30 and am beating myself up about where I should be in life, what I should be doing, and what I should have accomplished by now. I think I'm giving in to societal pressures but I can't help it. Yesterday I spoke to a 49 year old that told me he was the same in his late twenties but that that feeling of not being where you "should be" and the roof caving in so to speak eventually went away, and now he could not care less about age.

It was interesting to get another perspective for sure, and I'd like to hear AH's thoughts on the ageing process and what it means to you?

endacl · 04-01-2019 05:47PM

Every year I get older.
Every year I give less of a fcuk.

That’s it, really. I don’t give 45 fcuks at the moment.

mad muffin · 04-01-2019 05:48PM

I don’t care about accomplishing anything or not. I just don’t want to get old and all that goes with it.

endacl · 04-01-2019 05:49PM

mad muffin wrote: »

I don’t care about accomplishing anything or not. I just don’t want to get old and all that goes with it.

Give it time. You won’t give many fcuks!

DEFTLEFTHAND · 04-01-2019 05:50PM

I turned 30 late last year. It worried me the entire year, I felt like a man on death row with an impending execution date.

Then it passed and I felt great, can't wait to hit 40 next.

I'm not fully where I want to be either but I can see things falling into place and my confidence growing, I'm much more comfortable in myself now. I was insecure in my late teens, early 20s.

04-01-2019 05:51PM

DEFTLEFTHAND wrote: »

I turned 30 late last year. It worried me the entire year, I felt like a man on death row with an impending execution date.

Then it passed and I felt great, can't wait to hit 40 next.

I'm not fully where I want to be either but I can see things falling into place and my confidence growing, I'm much more comfortable in myself now. I was insecure in my late teens, early 20s.

I'm soon to turn 29, feel like my life will end once I hit the big 3-0.

Crazy! :pac:

mad muffin · 04-01-2019 05:51PM

endacl wrote: »

Give it time. You won’t give many fcuks!

I will go kicking and screaming. FÜCK YOU CELLS!!!

Roger Hassenforder · 04-01-2019 05:55PM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Do you worry about ageing? With regards to what you have accomplished or rather, not yet accomplished in life?

I am approaching 30 and am beating myself up about where I should be in life, what I should be doing, and what I should have accomplished by now. I think I'm giving in to societal pressures but I can't help it. Yesterday I spoke to a 49 year old that told me he was the same in his late twenties but that that feeling of not being where you "should be" and the roof caving in so to speak eventually went away, and now he could not care less about age.

It was interesting to get another perspective for sure, and I'd like to hear AH's thoughts on the ageing process and what it means to you?

"Approaching 30"....
FFS
The sooner you realise there is no place you "should be", only the place you are and what you make of it, is what matters. You've made it this far. Thats an accomplishment in itself. Dont look at what you've to do; look at what you've done.

Most importantly, stop giving a tiny shıt what other people think. Do what brings you happiness. Do what decreases want.
Be self aware rather than worry what others think of you.

DEFTLEFTHAND · 04-01-2019 05:58PM

Deleted User wrote: »

I'm soon to turn 29, feel like my life will end once I hit the big 3-0.

Crazy! :pac:

It's a definite milestone, kind of the end of youth in a way. You can't really get away with certain things anymore. :pac:

But sure fck in the grand scheme of things there's no point in getting too caught up in it, the best part of your life is still ahead of ya.

Zorya · 04-01-2019 06:07PM

I LOVE the ageing process! Absolutely LOVE it. It sure as hell beats the alternative.

Roger Hassenforder · 04-01-2019 06:09PM

This girl is woke

https://twitter.com/StateOfLinkedIn/status/1081231108497436674?s=19

Galwayguy35 · 04-01-2019 08:28PM

Just turned 44 and I'm happy as Larry, we only have one life so no point wasting it worrying about getting older when there's nothing we can do about it.

Balanadan · 04-01-2019 08:36PM

Deleted User wrote: »

Do you worry about ageing? With regards to what you have accomplished or rather, not yet accomplished in life?

I am approaching 30 and am beating myself up about where I should be in life, what I should be doing, and what I should have accomplished by now. I think I'm giving in to societal pressures but I can't help it. Yesterday I spoke to a 49 year old that told me he was the same in his late twenties but that that feeling of not being where you "should be" and the roof caving in so to speak eventually went away, and now he could not care less about age.

It was interesting to get another perspective for sure, and I'd like to hear AH's thoughts on the ageing process and what it means to you?

I always remember a buddy of mine in his 30s telling me life was far more enjoyable than it was in his 20s. Something to look forward to. There's no point in getting hung up on where you think you should be, we all move along different paths at different speeds, choose your own path and enjoy it.

Ariadne · 04-01-2019 08:45PM

Could have written this post myself. I'd achieved a reasonable amount by the age of 28 and since then I've spiralled down into a black hole. I turned 30 in July and I'm unemployed and living at home with my parents. Never learned how to drive. I have Cystic Fibrosis and mental health problems so not sure if I will be able to work again. I dread every birthday as my physical health declines and I see how little I've achieved as I age.

Mister Vain · 04-01-2019 08:48PM

When you get to 30 you give up counting. When you get to 40 you just give up.

Agricola · 04-01-2019 09:01PM

When I was a kid, I used to wonder why footballers all seemed to retire around the 35 mark. Now I know.

Time for a nice sitdown I think!

04-01-2019 09:06PM

30 is the old age of youth, 40 is the youth of old age - Victor Hugo

wakka12 · 04-01-2019 09:08PM

Ageing sucks in many ways but when you know people who have died young you feel lucky to have the privilege to age as well

wakka12 · 04-01-2019 09:28PM

Ramone Silva wrote: »

What can't you get away with after 30?

People are a lot easier on younger people in many work environments for examples. I used to look quite young for my age and definitely got babied by other colleagues because of it,people have more patience for your mistakes if you look young, its helpful to look young!

alexmalalex · 04-01-2019 09:30PM

Folks, the most important thing to know is that ageing is a process of discovery...you discover new things wring with you every day.

DEFTLEFTHAND · 04-01-2019 09:36PM

wakka12 wrote: »

People are a lot easier on younger people in many work environments for examples. I used to look quite young for my age and definitely got babied by other colleagues because of it,people have more patience for your mistakes if you look young, its helpful to look young!

It can be both a blessing and a curse. I'm a good bit younger looking. It's a gene we all seem to have in the family. The auld lad is 67 and looks 50.

I still get asked for ID a lot which is embarrassing when you're bleedin 30.

thesultan · 04-01-2019 09:57PM

I'm not financially sound. I have a low income. My hair is receding . I am not married yet. My relationship is not going great. I'm going to retire from hurling soon. I haven't enough money to build my own house. .

Zorya · 04-01-2019 10:04PM

thesultan wrote: »

I'm not financially sound. I have a low income. My hair is receding . I am not married yet. My relationship is not going great. I'm going to retire from hurling soon. I haven't enough money to build my own house. .

Keep writing. There's your first paragraph. I see an Adrian Mole style bestseller.

work · 04-01-2019 10:08PM

Guys cop on make what you can from what you have. nobody can have everything all the time. Be happy for what you have, the years spent and the time available...relish it.
Remember a quote something like "the last smell of flowers is the sweetest"...Try and live life like everything you do is the last time because it could be and enjoy it fully.
Alternatively waste your time and life about things you cannot control. This might seem simplified but it's your choice.

honeybear · 04-01-2019 10:10PM

Hitting mid 40’s. What I notice most is the extra pounds-in my 30’s I was a carefree eater and my daily walks kept me in shape. Now, the pounds come on easily & are very hard to lose despite my daily walks. I’m trying to be more accepting of the ageing process. I found a photo recently of me 10 years ago and I looked super-I can remember at the time thinking I didn’t.

Church on Tuesday · 04-01-2019 10:40PM

Meh

It's a cliche but age is just a number.

I'm 31, this is the decade were I hope to achieve certain things, no doubt it will be a busy one hopefully.

Frankly I don't miss my twenties, a lot of growing pains, emotional fallout and all round bull**** that I was happy to leave behind a little over one year ago.

Us men get better with age anyways

Edit:
And women too of course

Tuco88 · 05-01-2019 01:49AM

Rocked into the 30s last month... And wow everything's the same great &#55357;&#56833;.

Much happer at 30 than 29. Any age with a 9 is only for folks to annoy ya with ohhhhh "With that inhaling sound" almost xx now.... ehhh so? im glad to thanks.

Life is way to short imo, expectations usually set by others. Its actually amazing what people cant accept because "everbody else" follwed by the had and have and such age.

All in good time...flock em.

Roger Hassenforder · 05-01-2019 02:19AM

thesultan wrote: »

I'm not financially sound. I have a low income. My hair is receding . I am not married yet. My relationship is not going great. I'm going to retire from hurling soon. I haven't enough money to build my own house. .

Theres always junior B hurling....

Graces7 · 05-01-2019 08:19AM

As an almost-octagenarian who has finally ( almost! ) learned to be deeply thankful to be alive...

("almost" referring to the annoying and painful process of getting of bed, being unable to reach into bottom cupboards etc! OUCH!)

Life is not about what you achieve i n the usual sense. Wealth, position etc, I have been ill and thus no income, for fifty years, There are so many ways to fulfil and enjoy life however limited you are

Many far better ways than what the world values are.

And you can and need to grow into the stage you are at? For me, letting go of old ways to adapt to old days. Loving what I still have and can do. Fo rme that means the knitting work I do to supprt work my faith family do rescuing abandoned babies..... Reaching out , not getting so introverted..

Looking at the first of my forced indoor hyacinths; white and fragrant... A world in itself.... Just being and living. Enjoying food, walking gently... gazing at the sweet wild ocean and wider soft skies. Life is a gift and a giving. Ageing is a natural part of life. Not an alien force.

NSAman · 05-01-2019 08:57AM

Teens - full of angst
Twenties - work and uncertainty
Thirties - pressure and more uncertainty
Forties - absolute blast, more freedom financial and personal.
Fifties - who gives a ****, I am enjoying myself and dont give a **** what anyone else thinks. OK the odd pain and ache but what the hell...

Never thought I would make it to my 50s but I have, and I can honestly say, I am having so much fun. Hated when I was younger, never had money to do anything I wanted, worked and worked and still stood still. Was always looking at everyone else wondering how do they do it. Comparing myself to others, how come they have a nice house/car/stuff. How do they go on holiday a few times a year.

Now, they are all wondering how I have the nice stuff and travel extensively... you know what though? Stuff means F*** ALL... its all about enjoying life and family and friends, nothing else matters and if you are with people who care about you, life is great.

McCrack · 05-01-2019 09:18AM

honeybear wrote: »

Hitting mid 40’s. What I notice most is the extra pounds-in my 30’s I was a carefree eater and my daily walks kept me in shape. Now, the pounds come on easily & are very hard to lose despite my daily walks. I’m trying to be more accepting of the ageing process. I found a photo recently of me 10 years ago and I looked super-I can remember at the time thinking I didn’t.

If your calorie maintenance is less than before just eat less

There's no mystery between a person's weight and the amount of food they consume

The ageing process

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