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Dealing with controversial person at work

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  • #32
    Paddy Cow
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,576 ✭✭✭Paddy Cow


    Op she sounds like Katie Hopkins - an attention seeking gobsh!te who will say anything "controversial" for attention. Next time she starts on one of her rants, just imagine her as Katie Hopkins and it will help you dissociate from her ;)


  • #33
    Kidchameleon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,482 ✭✭✭Kidchameleon


    Paddy Cow wrote: »
    Op she sounds like Katie Hopkins - an attention seeking gobsh!te who will say anything "controversial" for attention. Next time she starts on one of her rants, just imagine her as Katie Hopkins and it will help you dissociate from her ;)


    Katie Hopkins would tear the OP a new one. OP needs to toughen up and not worry about their "feels" so much. I mean that in a constructive way btw.


  • #34
    B0jangles
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,950 ✭✭✭B0jangles


    Kidchameleon wrote: »
    Katie Hopkins would tear the OP a new one. OP needs to toughen up and not worry about their "feels" so much. I mean that in a constructive way btw.

    Is the OP not just free to speak their own mind, or is that right reserved for people who seem to desperately need the attention they get by spouting controversial opinions as loudly and as often as possible?

    OP, like I said, this is a person with a serious personality defect or who is severely lacking in normal, non-internet socialization. In the absence of any H.R. structure, it's hard to know what you can do.

    Reacting negatively will only feed her need for attention - people like this are always looking for a reaction and it doesn't matter if it's negative or positive - it might be best to just walk away any time she starts up, or if that's not possible, just speak as though she literally never said anything at all.


  • #35
    Paddy Cow
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,576 ✭✭✭Paddy Cow


    Kidchameleon wrote: »
    Katie Hopkins would tear the OP a new one. OP needs to toughen up and not worry about their "feels" so much. I mean that in a constructive way btw.
    Would you ever cop on. The op was sexually assaulted and had to go to court. Her attacker was convicted. That's serious trauma and her colleague is well aware of it. This isn't just a case of the op indulging in their "feels" :rolleyes:


  • #36
    missrosetaylor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28 ✭missrosetaylor


    Paddy Cow wrote: »
    Would you ever cop on. The op was sexually assaulted and had to go to court. Her attacker was convicted. That's serious trauma and her colleague is well aware of it. This isn't just a case of the op indulging in their "feels" :rolleyes:

    Thank you for this. I have to admit it's a little scary as a sexual assault survivor to hear this response of 'toughen up'. I know that I cannot expect everyone to always be sensitive about these issues, but if you are aware that someone has experienced trauma as a result of sexual assault, it doesn't take much to keep those negative controversial opinions to oneself imo. But maybe I'm wrong ðŸ˜


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  • #37
    Kidchameleon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,482 ✭✭✭Kidchameleon


    Sorry if I offended you OP I was trying to tell you what I think you need to hear. Perhaps I was wrong. FWIW I am a survivor also.


  • #38
    bilbot79
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,113 ✭✭✭bilbot79


    Does she have a strong Dublin accent and a coarse, forced laugh?


  • #39
    missrosetaylor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28 ✭missrosetaylor


    Kidchameleon wrote: »
    Katie Hopkins would tear the OP a new one. OP needs to toughen up and not worry about their "feels" so much. I mean that in a constructive way btw.

    I'm not sure if you read the OP properly. These 'feels' you refer to are partly due to PTSD after sexual assault. I hope that you never have to experience it as I would not wish it on anyone.

    Maybe I do need to toughen up. But PTSD is complex. I may not have had the same reactions to these things before. But overcoming trauma is an uphill battle, you try to figure out and comprehend why something so awful would happen to you. There are lots of triggers in what people say/do that reignite the feelings of trauma and helplessness. It can be a nightmare at the best of times. But I have found that most decent people recognise and respect this.

    I hope you will please take this into account if you ever encounter a sexual assault survivor.


  • #40
    Snotty
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,298 ✭✭✭Snotty


    People have different opinions, you might not like them but why is your opinion of more value than hers?


  • #41
    missrosetaylor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28 ✭missrosetaylor


    Snotty wrote: »
    People have different opinions, you might not like them but why is your opinion of more value than hers?

    My opinions are not of more value than any ones. I just don't think nasty and negative attention seeking remarks are helpful in a workplace situation. But I've accepted that they can always be ignored too.


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  • #42
    missrosetaylor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28 ✭missrosetaylor


    Kidchameleon wrote: »
    Sorry if I offended you OP I was trying to tell you what I think you need to hear. Perhaps I was wrong. FWIW I am a survivor also.

    Sorry I didn't see this before I wrote the last post. You did say in your posts that you wanted to be constructive, so that's fair enough. I guess we all deal with these things differently. It's hard to describe the situation adequately for people who don't know me or the person involved so I accept that the situation can be construed in different ways.


  • #43
    Bigbagofcans
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,164 ✭✭✭Bigbagofcans


    Snotty wrote: »
    People have different opinions, you might not like them but why is your opinion of more value than hers?

    Someone who is racist, would love groups of people to be euthanised and idolises Hitler doesn't deserve to have their opinions to be heard.


  • #44
    mikemac2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,985 ✭✭✭mikemac2


    Tell her to leave the current job and buy a taxi plate. She can discuss her theories on the rank with the others


  • #45
    Snotty
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,298 ✭✭✭Snotty


    Bigbagofcans wrote: »
    Someone who is racist, would love groups of people to be euthanised and idolises Hitler doesn't deserve to have their opinions to be heard.

    Exactly, ignore them. Just like everyone has the ability to ignore any person, something our modern society seems incapable of.


  • #46
    missrosetaylor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 28 ✭missrosetaylor


    Snotty wrote: »
    Exactly, ignore them. Just like everyone has the ability to ignore any person, something our modern society seems incapable of.

    Thanks Snotty :)


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