Dated a blow in on tinder. Now thinking of flying over to see her.

LegacyUser · 19-09-2018 12:54AM #1

So for some thick reason I liked a girl on tinder who was just in the city for a week. Irish girl working overseas but back home visiting. I don't usually get involved with short term or "blow ins", but she was super hot so I just had to and we ended up matching.

Anyway we got on great, met a few days during the week. I know everyone says this but we clicked. Really liked eachother. She's wifey material this one...

Anyway she's gone back overseas, 1hr flight away. And she wants me to come.

How mad would it be to start something like this? Anyone have any experience in this? Good or bad?

I'd love it to work out somehow, just don't know how.

Neyite · 19-09-2018 01:17PM

Can you easily afford the flights? If so, go for it.

Worst case scenario it fizzles out after a few months or so and you've got some fond memories of a hot romance.

Best case scenario you make something durable work long term.

If you don't at least try, I think you'll always wonder if this could have been more than it was.

ginandtonicsky · 19-09-2018 01:22PM

One hour flight? So like London? Totally doable. As long as there's commitment and good communication on both sides.

For now, don't see the harm in meeting up with her and seeing if there's anything there beyond a fling. Worst case you get to date a hot girl for a few weeks/months!

LegacyUser · 19-09-2018 03:35PM

OP here. No idea what happened to my title. It's supposed to say "blow in".

LegacyUser · 19-09-2018 09:42PM

1 hr flight is not overseas ðŸ˜‚ðŸ˜ ðŸ‘Ž
You could be dating someone other side of country and could take longer to get there, go for it

Unanimous · 19-09-2018 10:58PM

give it a try, no harm!
as long as you being invited, go for it!

Mr. Incognito · 20-09-2018 03:29PM

The Bus to Greystones is over an hour.

An hr flight is nothing.

letsgo2018 · 20-09-2018 04:11PM

Ah sure if anything youll get a few rides out:pac: . Go for it

LolaJJ · 21-09-2018 08:52AM

1 Hour flight!!

I spend longer driving home from work!!!

Go for it

MissShihTzu · 21-09-2018 02:46PM

What are you waiting for, OP - Christmas?? If the lady is in the UK (sounds like it if it's only an hour's flight), then what harm in visiting her? My now husband and I did that for a couple of years before we married and I moved here:)

Flights are cheap enough. You could even go complete gent and book into an AirBnB or cheap B & B if you like. Might be good to stay separately anyway before you decide to take it further - If that's what you'd like.

Go for it! What have you to lose??

Kidchameleon · 22-09-2018 08:20AM

Why are you not there right now?

Slim Charles · 22-09-2018 08:23AM

Foodgirlpixie wrote: »

1 hr flight is not overseas ðŸ˜‚ðŸ˜ ðŸ‘Ž
You could be dating someone other side of country and could take longer to get there, go for it

Well a one hour flight isn't really one hour. You have to travel to the airport, wait minimum 30 mins before your flight, then the flight itself, then probably a bus from plane to terminal depending on which airport, then you've to travel from the airport itself to wherever she lives. Depending on each other's proximity to airports it's easily going to be 3 hours or more.

OldMrBrennan83 · 22-09-2018 08:25AM

A 1 hour flight takes at least 4 hours in real time so it can't really be compared to a 1 hour bus journey.

The high horse brigade · 22-09-2018 08:26AM

There's only one question, why not?

Atlantic Dawn · 22-09-2018 08:26AM

Many a person would travel an hour for a blow.

dudara · 22-09-2018 08:27AM

If you think she’s worth investing in, then it’s a no-brainer. Plus she’s interested in you coming over. If you don’t at least try, you’ll regret it.

Gentle nudge here to not get distracted by discussion on flying. Keep it relevant to the OP

Oink · 22-09-2018 08:46AM

Give it a shot. Just have a discussion early on as to what you both think your options are. Eventually, someone has to move. If you are both adamant that you’re not moving, you’ll need to know.

Good luck!!!

con___manx1 · 22-09-2018 08:58AM

Go for it op you only live once. I guarantee u will regret it otherwise. When i was younger i had a relationship for a few weeks with a french girl. She wanted me to go to france and i didnt go. I regret it to this day : ) dont make the same mistake.

KevinCavan · 22-09-2018 09:45AM

If you can get a blow for the next few months, what harm if it doesn’t work out long term.

Car99 · 22-09-2018 09:50AM

Life's more fun when you say yes to opportunity , do it .

Debtocracy · 22-09-2018 04:25PM

Personally I wouldn’t based on a number of factors:

She wants you to put in the time, money and effort into visiting her but there is no indication she would go to this effort for you. This puts the relationship on an unequal footing from the start.

Her enthusiasm about you visiting may not be all down to you. Some girls like the idea of a guy travelling to see them, it’s more romantic and they can brag about it to their friends.

You’re too emotionally attached to this women after only a few days meeting her (“wifey material”) increasing the chances you'll make a bad decision.

If she lives abroad I’m guessing she lives in a big city and will probably continue to use tinder because of her anonymity. If she is really hot then she will have unlimited options, so is less likely to settle down with a guy she only gets to see a couple of hours every week or two.

If it’s just fun then that’s a different story but I wouldn’t put too much effort into this kind of set-up which fizzles out 90% of the time.

naughto · 22-09-2018 04:32PM

He said she was hot what more does he need. Balls deep is the only way to go

Ursus Horribilis · 22-09-2018 06:36PM

I've a friend with a story a bit like this. She met an English man who was over in Dublin for a stag weekend and they started travelling over and back to visit each other. Or as they said at their wedding, they should've bought shares in Ryanair. They're still married 10 years on and are living in the UK. She moved (obviously) but that was something they'd agreed on long before the wedding.

There's nothing wrong with giving it a go. If nothing else, you'll never have that "What if?" question in your mind. Long distance relationships are tough though but I think you know that already. There's also the question of who is going to move if it lasts the distance. If you don't see yourself moving and she doesn't plan on coming back, then you should cut your losses early.

ginandtonicsky · 22-09-2018 06:43PM

Debtocracy wrote: »

Personally I wouldn’t based on a number of factors:

She wants you to put in the time, money and effort into visiting her but there is no indication she would go to this effort for you. This puts the relationship on an unequal footing from the start.

Her enthusiasm about you visiting may not be all down to you. Some girls like the idea of a guy travelling to see them, it’s more romantic and they can brag about it to their friends.

You’re too emotionally attached to this women after only a few days meeting her (“wifey material”) increasing the chances you'll make a bad decision.

If she lives abroad I’m guessing she lives in a big city and will probably continue to use tinder because of her anonymity. If she is really hot then she will have unlimited options, so is less likely to settle down with a guy she only gets to see a couple of hours every week or two.

If it’s just fun then that’s a different story but I wouldn’t put too much effort into this kind of set-up which fizzles out 90% of the time.

Jaysus mate lighten up! Must be fierce depressing going through life with this level of distrust in women.

There's absolutely no indication this woman wouldn't go to this effort for him either. And most women have unlimited tinder options, doesn't mean they have no feelings and aren't prone to falling for someone either. Which sounds like is what's happening here, hence the invite.

Helps to think of us as just as human as you lot, albeit with boobs and added oestrogen

BrokenArrows · 24-09-2018 03:29PM

Am_i_Mental wrote: »

So for some thick reason I liked a girl on tinder who was just in the city for a week. Irish girl working overseas but back home visiting. I don't usually get involved with short term or "blow ins", but she was super hot so I just had to and we ended up matching.

Anyway we got on great, met a few days during the week. I know everyone says this but we clicked. Really liked eachother. She's wifey material this one...

Anyway she's gone back overseas, 1hr flight away. And she wants me to come.

How mad would it be to start something like this? Anyone have any experience in this? Good or bad?

I'd love it to work out somehow, just don't know how.

I did the same years ago and it was a 4 hour flight away. 4 years later we are happily married.

Its not easy but it can work, you wont know unless you try. It is however expensive as you both have to regularly travel to see each other which can add up.

heretothere · 25-09-2018 12:36PM

Go for it! From what I can see, you don't have a lot to lose and potentially a lot to gain.

Dated a blow in on tinder. Now thinking of flying over to see her.

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