What's the going rate for money gift for wedding

Whirl_wolle · 15-08-2018 09:12PM #1

What's the going rate for a money gift for a wedding for a single person? Person accepted the invite and was due to attend but can't make it now.

15-08-2018 09:14PM

Arguably bad form but zero. Depends on how well I know them and how close it was to the wedding.

freshpopcorn · 15-08-2018 09:17PM

Who is the person?
What can you afford?

Whirl_wolle · 15-08-2018 09:20PM

Not for me. Trying to find out for someone else.

The person is related to the bride but doesn't know her very well. Haven't seen her since she was small. I suppose only invited due to being a relation.

It's close enough to the wedding.

honeybear · 15-08-2018 09:21PM

Whirl_wolle wrote: »

Not for me. Trying to find out for someone else.

The person is related to the bride but doesn't know her very well. Haven't seen her since she was small. I suppose only invited due to being a relation.

It's close enough to the wedding.

Think 50 euro would be grand for solo guest

Whirl_wolle · 15-08-2018 09:21PM

I would persume 75 euro for a single person would be appropriate for a money gift. 150 for a couple.

I think the person should gift as if they were attending because it's close to the wedding. Maybe I'm a wrong a 50 might do.

15-08-2018 09:22PM

honeybear wrote: »

Think 50 euro would be grand for solo guest

When they can't attend?? no way
send a polite card

Noveight · 15-08-2018 09:23PM

'bout tree fiddy.

Obviously.

honeybear · 15-08-2018 09:24PM

bluewolf wrote: »

When they can't attend?? no way
send a polite card

Late notice though

Edgware · 15-08-2018 09:25PM

honeybear wrote: »

Late notice though

Can we bring the baby?

honeybear · 15-08-2018 09:26PM

honeybear wrote: »

Late notice though

Remember nightmare last year of my brother (groom) asking me at the last minute to rearrange tables bec of late no shows. NOT GOOD

jamesbere · 15-08-2018 09:29PM

A tin of USA biscuits

honeybear · 15-08-2018 09:31PM

Edgware wrote: »

Can we bring the baby?

Pleaseeeeee

Mam of 4 · 15-08-2018 09:33PM

If they want to give something , tel them to give whatever they can afford to give , it's as simple as that . Most brides and grooms would be grateful and appreciative of any gift I think .

DellyBelly · 15-08-2018 09:33PM

125 would be fair enough 200 if a couple I'd think

Whirl_wolle · 15-08-2018 09:33PM

Thanks for the replies. If it was me, I would gift as if I was attending and give 75/100 but it's not me. Person doesn't want to give anything because they are not attending now but I think something should be given. I will say 50.

BuboBubo · 15-08-2018 09:35PM

Going to one myself at the end of September, been told the bride wants cash only, so we're giving €100 between myself and Mr Bubo.

freshpopcorn · 15-08-2018 09:38PM

BuboBubo wrote: »

Going to one myself at the end of September, been told the bride wants cash only, so we're giving €100 between myself and Mr Bubo.

Just out of interest is that what you were going to give or did you mark it down because they requested cash?

honeybear · 15-08-2018 09:38PM

DellyBelly wrote: »

125 would be fair enough 200 if a couple I'd think

For single non attenders?

BuboBubo · 15-08-2018 09:39PM

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Just out of interest is that what you were going to give or did you mark it down because they requested cash?

Usually buy a gift, never gave cash before. Normally spend about €80ish. Haven't been to a wedding since 2008 though.

What do you mean by "Mark it down"?

15-08-2018 09:41PM

BuboBubo wrote: »

Usually buy a gift, never gave cash before. Normally spend about €80ish. Haven't been to a wedding since 2008 though.

What do you mean by "Mark it down"?

People have gotten crazy about throwing money at the couples so they think it should be 200 or more

BuboBubo · 15-08-2018 09:43PM

bluewolf wrote: »

People have gotten crazy about throwing money at the couples so they think it should be 200 or more

Not a chance, can't afford that - it's in the arßehole of nowhere and on a Thursday. If others want to give €200 that's their business.

freshpopcorn · 15-08-2018 09:44PM

BuboBubo wrote: »

Usually buy a gift, never gave cash before. Normally spend about €80ish. Haven't been to a wedding since 2008 though.

What do you mean by "Mark it down"?

In my area €200 would be about the norm for a couple attending. Unless they were very close or couldn't finance the amount.
A couple sent out the invitation saying cash only. So a good few markerd down the gift from €200 to €100 or €50.

BuboBubo · 15-08-2018 09:45PM

freshpopcorn wrote: »

In my area €200 would be about the norm for a couple attending. Unless they were very close or couldn't finance the amount.
A couple sent out the invitation saying cash only. So a good few markerd down the gift from €200 to €100 or €50.

Good to know

€50 from a couple would be a bit cheeky wouldn't it!

HappyAsLarE · 15-08-2018 09:46PM

You wouldn’t want to go below €500. Makes you look poor.

BuboBubo · 15-08-2018 09:47PM

HappyAsLarE wrote: »

You wouldn’t want to go below €500. Makes you look poor.

Oddly, the really well off people tend to be less generous (I mean in general rather than in this particular situation).

Suppose that's how they stay rich...

freshpopcorn · 15-08-2018 09:47PM

The only gift I'd never give is a hotel voucher.
I've seen couples and people get vouchers for places that were miles away.
They had to put a good chunk of money to get anything of use out of the voucher and had a time limit to use it.

Water John · 15-08-2018 09:49PM

Down my way, Cork, weddings would have gone cash with a good few years. Most couples have their house or would wish to furnish it in their own taste.
I find people very happy with the option. Usually a 'post box or treasure chest' at reception. Just slip in the envelope. Normally 150/200 per couple.

SEPT 23 1989 · 15-08-2018 09:52PM

One arm as long as the other

LirW · 15-08-2018 10:26PM

This question was recently coming up on a big English wedding forum and the vast majority said 20-50 for a single and 100 as a couple (which plenty considered as pretty generous).

Give what you can afford.

Greentopia · 15-08-2018 10:29PM

I suppose I'm an oddity in this country in this regard but I don't like the idea of giving money or expensive gifts to a wedding couple. And I'm not stingy and am getting married myself in the next few years and will explicitly not ask for or expect anything.

If someone wants to give a small (and I do mean small) gift like a bottle of wine or nice framed photograph or something like that that's nice, but I hate the idea of asking for money from friends and family. All it does is impose a financial obligation on some people who may not have cash to give.

So I guess I'm no help in this thread, sorry :pac:

What's the going rate for money gift for wedding

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