Would you stand by him?

freshpopcorn · 29-07-2018 05:44PM #1

If a man in your life was accused of rape and it ended up in court. Be it a partner/friend/brother/son/friend/etc. Would you stand by him?
I ask this because I have heard some people say no woman would put themselves through a trial if it didn't happen.
Well obviously it would depend on the person but if they told me they didn't do it. I'd believe them. If there was a lot of evidence I might change my mind and some people I might be more dodge of than others.
I know this question can be turned the other way also.

super_furry · 29-07-2018 05:45PM

Sometimes it's hard to be a woman.

eviltwin · 29-07-2018 05:46PM

If he admitted it absolutely not.

Avatar MIA · 29-07-2018 05:47PM

freshpopcorn wrote: »

Well obviously it would depend on the person but if they told me they didn't do it. I'd believe them.

That's strange, because they would have a huge incentive to lie if they had done it. Why do you think you're special in that a rapist wouldn't lie to you?

Kevin Finnerty · 29-07-2018 05:47PM

I know if my partner was accused of rape I'd stand by her once she told me the truth.

Donald Trump · 29-07-2018 05:48PM

freshpopcorn wrote: »

I know this question can be turned the other way also.

Other way?

i.e. Would you stand by a man if he wasn't accused of rape?

:eek:

LaChatteGitane · 29-07-2018 05:48PM

If he said he didn't do it, I would be able to see if he was telling lies or not. Depending, I would or would not be standing by him.

When the OH is telling porkies (which happens from time to time), I just know.

Donald Trump · 29-07-2018 05:48PM

Kevin Finnerty wrote: »

I know if my partner was accused of rape I'd stand by her once she told me the truth.

Your missus did some bold things to me

I told her no

She wouldn't stop

What's worse is that she does them every time I come over.

Which is a few times a week

Basically whenever you're not about

freshpopcorn · 29-07-2018 05:55PM

Donald Trump wrote: »

Other way?

i.e. Would you stand by a man if he wasn't accused of rape?

:eek:

I meant more so would you believe a female friend/etc who said she was raped.

freshpopcorn · 29-07-2018 05:56PM

Avatar MIA wrote: »

That's strange, because they would have a huge incentive to lie if they had done it. Why do you think you're special in that a rapist wouldn't lie to you?

As I said it would depend on the person but some people I know when they are lying and others I find hard to believe because I know them.

Mocha Joe · 29-07-2018 05:57PM

Donald Trump wrote: »

Your missus did some bold things to me

I told her no

She wouldn't stop

What's worse is that she does them every time I come over.

Which is a few times a week

Basically whenever you're not about

Thats very unfunny. Not offensive or edgy or anything. Just very very unfunny.

Obi_Wan_Kenobi · 29-07-2018 06:02PM

Pearsons is open ?

freshpopcorn · 29-07-2018 06:05PM

eviltwin wrote: »

If he admitted it absolutely not.

If he said he was innocent tough?

Cleopatra_ · 29-07-2018 06:05PM

It really depends on the circumstances and the evidence and whether I believe he did it or not. If I felt he did it or the evidence was overwhelming then I don't think I could stand by him.

Donald Trump · 29-07-2018 06:05PM

Mocha Joe wrote: »

Thats very unfunny. Not offensive or edgy or anything. Just very very unfunny.

Life isn't funny.

OldMrBrennan83 · 29-07-2018 06:06PM

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freshpopcorn · 29-07-2018 06:08PM

Patww79 wrote: »

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So, you wouldn't support your son/brother/best friend if they were accused of a crime?
Would you go to court with them etc?

OldMrBrennan83 · 29-07-2018 06:10PM

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freshpopcorn · 29-07-2018 06:13PM

Patww79 wrote: »

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Sorry I must have misread the post.

OldMrBrennan83 · 29-07-2018 06:14PM

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Squall Leonhart · 29-07-2018 06:15PM

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A person being found guilty of a crime doesn't always mean the person is guilty. If a brother or son or whoever swore blind to me that they were innocent of said crime, and if I believed them, I don't know that a guilty verdict would change that belief.

Now if its PROVEN to be guilty, that's different.

Kevin Finnerty · 29-07-2018 06:17PM

Donald Trump wrote: »

Your missus did some bold things to me

I told her no

She wouldn't stop

What's worse is that she does them every time I come over.

Which is a few times a week

Basically whenever you're not about

Is this an attempt at humour? Jaysus.

Greentopia · 29-07-2018 06:22PM

freshpopcorn wrote: »

If a man in your life was accused of rape and it ended up in court. Be it a partner/friend/brother/son/friend/etc. Would you stand by him?
I ask this because I have heard some people say no woman would put themselves through a trial if it didn't happen.
Well obviously it would depend on the person but if they told me they didn't do it. I'd believe them. If there was a lot of evidence I might change my mind and some people I might be more dodge of than others.
I know this question can be turned the other way also.

If it was my partner I'd know if he was lying or not. If he did it it would be bye bye. He'd be dead to me. If I knew he was telling the truth and didn't do it of course I'd stand by him. Same with a friend. No male relatives.

If a partner or friend lied to me and it turned out he was guilty of rape of course it would be the end of the relationship/friendship. What normal sane person would want to stay in a relationship/stay friends with a convicted rapist?

freshpopcorn · 29-07-2018 06:26PM

Greentopia wrote: »

If a partner or friend lied to me and it turned out he was guilty of rape of course it would be the end of the relationship/friendship. What normal sane person would want to stay in a relationship/stay friends with a convicted rapist?

That's actually a very good point. You often hear of people standing by convicted rapists in prison and when they get released.
I can't think of anybody I know who's being convicted of rape but I can think of somebody who's son was caught with a large amount of drugs. They'd have had the attitude jail him for life/etc but when it was their son it was totally different.
(I know these are different situations)

eviltwin · 29-07-2018 06:30PM

freshpopcorn wrote: »

If he said he was innocent tough?

I don't know tbh, I don't think it's as simple as just standing by them.

I have personal experience of this, a sibling was jailed for a sex offence. He denied it at first and I believed him because we were very close and I didn't think he was capable of such a thing. He later admitted he was guilty and it turned out his actions were more serious than we first thought so I'm never going to have complete faith in anyone again.

Every rapist is a son, brother, partner etc

OldMrBrennan83 · 29-07-2018 06:31PM

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Westernyelp · 29-07-2018 06:33PM

Donald Trump wrote:

Your missus did some bold things to me

Donald Trump wrote:

I told her no

Donald Trump wrote:

She wouldn't stop

Donald Trump wrote:

What's worse is that she does them every time I come over.

Donald Trump wrote:

Which is a few times a week

Donald Trump wrote:

Basically whenever you're not about

You are getting to be worse than the that real AHole in the white house. Not funny. Yawwwwwn

OldMrBrennan83 · 29-07-2018 06:34PM

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Squall Leonhart · 29-07-2018 06:35PM

Patww79 wrote:

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Presumably he's posting from his phone on the app and when you tap a post to quote it, it picks each paragraph separately. Bad glitch of the app.

OldMrBrennan83 · 29-07-2018 06:36PM

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Westernyelp · 29-07-2018 06:36PM

Patww79 wrote:

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Didn't think I did. It does it on the phone sometimes. But thanks for going to the effort of correcting me!

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