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Peak Trans

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  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Did any of you read my post?

    Sadly.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,248 ✭✭✭✭BoJack Horseman


    Did any of you read my post?

    I'm on your side buddy.

    We are team sanity around here!

    - If a child doesn't want to go through puberty they don't have to.
    - If a baby doesn't want to grow teeth, they don't have gum removal is stunning and brave.
    - If a toddler doesn't want to learn to use the potty, if is bigotry to make them do so.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,737 ✭✭✭Yer Da sells Avon


    Sadly.

    Judging by the knee-jerk responses, I don't think that's the case.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,737 ✭✭✭Yer Da sells Avon


    I'm on your side buddy.

    I know way too little about the topic to have a 'side'.


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    Or perhaps you may not have made your point in a clear manner. If so many seem to have misinterpreted you, perhaps it was you that was at fault???

    ..... No. It must be ours.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,188 ✭✭✭Malayalam


    I read it.
    Child doesn't want to go through puberty.

    So what...child doesn't want to get bigger, child doesn't want to grow teeth, child doesn't want nappy changed, child doesn't want two legs, child doesn't want to speak politely, child doesn't want to eat, child doesn't want to wash dishes...what's your point?


    It's medically possible for the child not to go through puberty.


    Refer to my post where i said a lot of things are medically possible. It is possible to euthanise a child too and some want it even - what do we do? We act in LOCO PARENTIS !!!!

    Parent says "no, you'll go through puberty, whether you like it or not" = parent forcing child to go through puberty against their wishes.


    Parent says no, you will go to bed, no, you will go to school, no, you will refrain from killing someone you don't like, no, you will get taller whether you like it or not, no, you will turn into an adult....this is the logical reaction to a child demanding an unreasonable intervention.


    Agree or disagree with the parent's decision, whatever, but they are forcing the child to go through puberty.

    If the child was left alone by the medical community who are advising hasty and untried medications the child would go through puberty. If interfered with, the child will suffer the consequences of delayed or aborted puberty


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,681 ✭✭✭✭P_1


    I have to say that some of the posts here are some of the worst I've read on this site, and from some people I would have had a lot of time for on other issues.

    I don't know if it's not knowing the issues or if it's blatant transphobia or TERFism but wow, just wow.

    I really hope its the former.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,737 ✭✭✭Yer Da sells Avon


    Or perhaps you may not have made your point in a clear manner. If so many seem to have misinterpreted you, perhaps it was you that was at fault???

    ..... No. It must be ours.

    I was very clear (no, really... read it again, slowly this time... and take a few deep breaths before replying). Someone took issue with the word 'forcing'. All I did was clarify that, rightly or wrongly (my own wholly uneducated gut instinct says rightly, FWIW), the parents are forcing the child to go through puberty.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,417 ✭✭✭WinnyThePoo


    P_1 wrote: »
    I have to say that some of the posts here are some of the worst I've read on this site, and from some people I would have had a lot of time for on other issues.

    I don't know if it's not knowing the issues or if it's blatant transphobia or TERFism but wow, just wow.

    I really hope its the former.

    It's a dose of ignorance and fear.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,070 ✭✭✭Franz Von Peppercorn


    P_1 wrote: »
    I have to say that some of the posts here are some of the worst I've read on this site, and from some people I would have had a lot of time for on other issues.

    I don't know if it's not knowing the issues or if it's blatant transphobia or TERFism but wow, just wow.

    I really hope its the former.

    Some of the posts are terrifying alright but not for the reasons you claim.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,737 ✭✭✭Yer Da sells Avon


    Malayalam wrote: »
    I read it.

    And you filled in the gaps yourself, essentially arguing against points I haven't made. Well done, you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,248 ✭✭✭✭BoJack Horseman


    It's a dose of ignorance and fear.

    1000%.

    In time people will learn that just because someone has a face like Brian Blessed and are packing 8 inches of glory between their legs doesn't mean that they are any less a woman than our own mother or sister.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,070 ✭✭✭Franz Von Peppercorn


    I was very clear (no, really... read it again, slowly this time... and take a few deep breaths before replying). Someone took issue with the word 'forcing'. All I did was clarify that, rightly or wrongly (my own wholly uneducated gut instinct says rightly, FWIW), the parents are forcing the child to go through puberty.

    That’s insane. Literally.

    Children naturally go though puberty. The action to prevent the puberty is the issue.

    In no other circumstances do we accept that children can make these kind of decisions. They can’t drive, smoke, drink, vote or sign legal documents. They can’t have sex. They can get a tattoo. They can’t watch certain movies depending on age.

    Apparently they can decide their gender however and have a right to stop puberty. An irreversible decision.


  • Posts: 0 [Deleted User]


    I was very clear (no, really... read it again, slowly this time... and take a few deep breaths before replying). Someone took issue with the word 'forcing'. All I did was clarify that, rightly or wrongly (my own wholly uneducated gut instinct says rightly, FWIW), the parents are forcing the child to go through puberty.

    No its not. Just because the parent has an option to stop something happening, doesn't mean they are forcing them.

    If my child wanted to run across the road on her own, I wouldn't say I forced them not to. I prevented them until they were able to do it themselves.

    Completely different.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,223 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    That’s insane. Literally.

    Children naturally go though puberty. The action to prevent the puberty is the issue.

    In no other circumstances do we accept that children can make these kind of decisions. They can’t drive, smoke, drink, vote or sign legal documents. They can’t have sex. They can get a tattoo. They can’t watch certain movies depending on age.

    Apparently they can decide their gender however and have a right to stop puberty. An irreversible decision.

    Its not an irreversible decision.

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,681 ✭✭✭✭P_1


    It's a dose of ignorance and fear.



    Indeed, the lyrics of the second verse of this song spring immediately to mind.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,188 ✭✭✭Malayalam


    Its not an irreversible decision.

    Oh for the love of God, will you actually stop repeating that without first doing a bit of research. Maybe the child's mickey will eventually catch up on itself, or the vagina and uterus will reach normal expected size and function but there is serious concern regarding brain and cognitive developmental lags that cannot be reversed, bone density problems that cannot be reversed, and long term cancer, diabetes and cardio-vascular issues that are presenting decades after the use of pubertal blcokers


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 7,070 ✭✭✭Franz Von Peppercorn


    Malayalam wrote: »
    Oh for the love of God, will you actually stop repeating that without first doing a bit of research. Maybe the child's mickey will eventually catch up on itself, or the vagina and uterus will reach normal expected size and function but there is serious concern regarding brain and cognitive developmental lags that cannot be reversed, bone density problems that cannot be reversed, and long term cancer, biabetes and cardio-vascular issues that are presenting decades after the use of pubertal blcokers

    We’re a decade away from a lawsuit by an adult who has had this procedure who will claim that he wasn’t really transsexual to begin with but just an experimental teenager, but that the decision to delay puberty was taken without his proper legal consent i.e. he wasn’t an adult.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,737 ✭✭✭Yer Da sells Avon


    No its not. Just because the parent has an option to stop something happening, doesn't mean they are forcing them.

    If my child wanted to run across the road on her own, I wouldn't say I forced them not to. I prevented them until they were able to do it themselves.

    Completely different.

    It's a far more complex question than most of the knee-jerk posts shat onto AH would have you believe. The question isn't whether or not they're forcing their child to go through puberty (because that one's answered - hint: they are), but whether or not it's right to force that child to go through puberty.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,447 ✭✭✭Calhoun


    If only it was a dose of ignorance and fear on its own, as seen with Canada its a slippery slope from 16 year old then move on to having your children removed from you at 12.

    Then you have all the other behavior from the community, this article comes to mind showing how bad that community can be (shared already but way back) https://medium.com/@transvoicesforrepeal/trans-voices-for-repeal-call-on-the-together-for-yes-campaign-to-formally-apologise-to-trans-people-84931f0fa85d

    Possibly a fake but at the same time you have a number of trans activist actively liking it. A more current example of how this community acts is the recent backlash against Scarlet Johanson who was to play a trans male in a role. Apparently only trans people can play trans roles.

    Where all this leads to is a community that wants equality but only for them and will look to change laws to make sure it happens.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,188 ✭✭✭Malayalam


    It's a far more complex question than most of the knee-jerk posts shat onto AH would have you believe. The question isn't whether or not they're forcing their child to go through puberty (because that one's answered - hint: they are), but whether or not it's right to force that child to go through puberty.

    Are you an anti-natalist too, by any chance? Do you wonder if parents have forced their children to be born, and whether or not it's ''right'' to have forced them thusly?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,998 ✭✭✭c.p.w.g.w


    Calhoun wrote: »
    If only it was a dose of ignorance and fear on its own, as seen with Canada its a slippery slope from 16 year old then move on to having your children removed from you at 12.

    Then you have all the other behavior from the community, this article comes to mind showing how bad that community can be (shared already but way back) https://medium.com/@transvoicesforrepeal/trans-voices-for-repeal-call-on-the-together-for-yes-campaign-to-formally-apologise-to-trans-people-84931f0fa85d

    Possibly a fake but at the same time you have a number of trans activist actively liking it. A more current example of how this community acts is the recent backlash against Scarlet Johanson who was to play a trans male in a role. Apparently only trans people can play trans roles.

    Where all this leads to is a community that wants equality but only for them and will look to change laws to make sure it happens.

    So in a couple of years only English people can play James bond...Only Black American's can play black characters in civil war era American based movies. Trans actors can only play trans characters


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,681 ✭✭✭✭P_1


    Calhoun wrote: »
    If only it was a dose of ignorance and fear on its own, as seen with Canada its a slippery slope from 16 year old then move on to having your children removed from you at 12.

    Then you have all the other behavior from the community, this article comes to mind showing how bad that community can be (shared already but way back) https://medium.com/@transvoicesforrepeal/trans-voices-for-repeal-call-on-the-together-for-yes-campaign-to-formally-apologise-to-trans-people-84931f0fa85d

    Possibly a fake but at the same time you have a number of trans activist actively liking it. A more current example of how this community acts is the recent backlash against Scarlet Johanson who was to play a trans male in a role. Apparently only trans people can play trans roles.

    Where all this leads to is a community that wants equality but only for them and will look to change laws to make sure it happens.

    Think about the logical fallacy of your argument for a second.

    Are all feminists SWERFs and TERFs?
    Are all men rapists?
    Did the sky fall in when we had equal marriage or repealed the 8th?

    Every movement has its more extreme elements and often they are the loudest.


  • Posts: 1,167 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I was very clear (no, really... read it again, slowly this time... and take a few deep breaths before replying). Someone took issue with the word 'forcing'. All I did was clarify that, rightly or wrongly (my own wholly uneducated gut instinct says rightly, FWIW), the parents are forcing the child to go through puberty.

    It's nature that's forcing them to through puberty chief.
    We all do it.
    Like getting our grown up teeth.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,853 ✭✭✭✭BattleCorp


    c.p.w.g.w wrote: »

    So in a couple of years only English people can play James bond...Only Black American's can play black characters in civil war era American based movies. Trans actors can only play trans characters

    Believe it or not but they have advertised for an openly lesbian actress to play Batwoman because she is a lesbian.

    Discrimination or wot!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,737 ✭✭✭Yer Da sells Avon


    Malayalam wrote: »
    Are you an anti-natalist too, by any chance? Do you wonder if parents have forced their children to be born, and whether or not it's ''right'' to have forced them thusly?

    Am I an anti-natalist 'too'? In addition to what? Not being 100% sure whether it's absolutely ethical to force a child to go through puberty against their will? You seem to be arguing against a view that I haven't expressed.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,623 ✭✭✭ceadaoin.


    Am I an anti-natalist 'too'? In addition to what? Not being 100% sure whether it's absolutely ethical to force a child to go through puberty against their will? You seem to be arguing against a view that I haven't expressed.

    The alternative is to put a child on a medication not intended for or tested on children. A medication that has documented long lasting health effects when used on children and adults. That certainly isn't ethical if that's what your primary concern is.

    When a child is put on puberty blockers they are set on the road of a lifetime of pharmaceutical interventions. If they decide to continue with hormone therapy they will be placed on "cross sex hormones". Their bodies will never develop normally. They will never reach their full height. They will be infertile for life. They will potentially have brittle bones at a very young age. Effect on brain development is unknown. They will have under developed genitals making future surgery to create a "neo vagina" extremely difficult for trans women. How the **** is that ethical?

    And people are claiming that parents who are reluctant to do this to their child are abusive and neglectful? It's honestly mind boggling to me how anyone could think this.

    I predict a whole load of lawsuits in the future from infertile, ill adults who were not capable of making an informed decision about this as a child but who were allowed to anyway. Remember, all evidence suggests that 60-90% of trans children and teenagers do not consider themselves trans as adults..that's a huge majority who may be put on medication unnecessarily these days

    Let a child indentify as they want, wear what they want and when they are old enough to make an informed decision about hormones or surgery, let them.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,853 ✭✭✭✭BattleCorp


    Am I an anti-natalist 'too'? In addition to what? Not being 100% sure whether it's absolutely ethical to force a child to go through puberty against their will? You seem to be arguing against a view that I haven't expressed.

    Would you allow your child to starve to death and not get them medical attention if they had severe anorexia?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,256 ✭✭✭metaoblivia


    I think adults have the right to modify their bodies as they see fit, even if it's something I don't personally understand. And I have no problem seeings trans men and woman as just men and women.

    But delaying puberty doesn't sit well with me. And I understand that it can put trans children in a really sticky situation. It's easy for a child to be gender fluid before puberty. It becomes harder once the hormones come rushing in. I get that. But at the same time, I can't help but think that part of that is because we don't live in a society that truly embraces gender fluidity. And is the answer to that really delaying a normal, biological process? Or is the answer continuing to push for a society where women and girls can have short hair, wear pants and men and boys can have long hair, wear sparkly dresses and no one really gives a shit? And I'm not saying that cross dressing is the same thing as being trans, just that, if we were more accepting of gender fluidity, would it make it easier on trans people who aren't old enough/don't have the resources to fully transition?

    I'm also not comfortable with the idea that children who are unhappy with their bodies sometimes have adults around them who encourage that. I know this is a fine line, but I wish we could focus more on body positivity with all kids. Something along the lines of, "Your body may not be perfect, and when you become an adult, you will have the ability to change it. But right now, let's try to focus more on all of the awesome things it can do."


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,797 ✭✭✭✭hatrickpatrick


    Its not an irreversible decision.

    It is to an extent actually. Not going through puberty at more or less the same time as one's childhood friends and peers would, I imagine, make the whole thing a hell of a lot harder psychologically than it already is. So delaying puberty by several years doesn't necessarily mean missing out on puberty, but it does mean missing out on any of the support and solidarity one gets from having a group of friends going through the same sh!t.

    Also, there are issues related to physiological development of secondary sex characteristics which are most likely irreversible if puberty doesn't happen when it's naturally supposed to.

    Delaying puberty, and even worse actually administering puberty-altering hormonal medication, has irreversible and long term effects in the event that it isn't what a person really wants. It's a far more serious issue than "sure just stop taking the drugs if you change your mind, be grand".


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