Having ceremony in hotel but confused with different tyoes

fitzparker · 11-07-2018 12:23PM #1

Hi all my partner and my Self want to get married in the hotel our reception is on but confused who to go for, she is more religious than myself but I still want to keep the faith I suppose. I looked up HSE for list and called our local deacon as we would like a roman catholic one. He advised that they can only do it in the church but as a deacon the mass aspect will not be there.

Can someone advise which is best to go to that will be closest to roman catholic that can perform a ceremony in the hotel?

Or if a definition of humanist/spiritualists/interfaith etc can be explained. It's hard to read up on without sensing propaganda so to speak

harr · 11-07-2018 12:37PM

fitzparker wrote: »

Hi all my partner and my Self want to get married in the hotel our reception is on but confused who to go for, she is more religious than myself but I still want to keep the faith I suppose. I looked up HSE for list and called our local deacon as we would like a roman catholic one. He advised that they can only do it in the church but as a deacon the mass aspect will not be there.

Can someone advise which is best to go to that will be closest to roman catholic that can perform a ceremony in the hotel?

Or if a definition of humanist/spiritualists/interfaith etc can be explained. It's hard to read up on without sensing propaganda so to speak

I was at a wedding in a hotel last week which was a civil ceremony but it also included a blessing from the brides local PP ... he got up and just blessed the bride and groom no prayers or anything, not sure if the priest was a family friend or anything. It was the brides parents who asked was it ok for the priest to give a blessing..it was all very relaxed atmosphere and I must say I prefer it over a traditional church wedding..
Was also at a humanist wedding last year which was a lovely ceremony and had a lot more personal feel about it..

baby and crumble · 11-07-2018 01:10PM

if you're married by a HSE registrar the ceremony can't have any religious aspects to it at all.

A humanist ceremony can be a lot more personal and many of the humanist cerelbrants are happy to incorprate some aspects of other faiths etc, but I do think it depends.

Spiritualists are usually good for someone who wants aspects of religion incorporated into a ceremony, however I'm not sure how many are actually registered as legal solemnisers - ie that they can preside over and conduct a legally binding wedding ceremony.

As an option, my brother got legally married by a HSE registrar on a Friday, and had a type of church service in the hotel the day after with the local rector presiding. The HSE ceremony was super chilled, just family, and everyone dressed quite casual, then the following day was obviously not legally binding but it's the bit most like a traditional "wedding" with all the friends and family there, suits, all that jazz.

That's, at least, what we figured out when we were choosing our celebrant but we deliberately didn't want any relious aspects, but we did want more personal touches than the HSE option at the time. We planned it in 2016 though and there's probably changes since then.

splinter65 · 12-07-2018 11:44AM

fitzparker wrote: »

Hi all my partner and my Self want to get married in the hotel our reception is on but confused who to go for, she is more religious than myself but I still want to keep the faith I suppose. I looked up HSE for list and called our local deacon as we would like a roman catholic one. He advised that they can only do it in the church but as a deacon the mass aspect will not be there.

Can someone advise which is best to go to that will be closest to roman catholic that can perform a ceremony in the hotel?

Or if a definition of humanist/spiritualists/interfaith etc can be explained. It's hard to read up on without sensing propaganda so to speak

The Sacrament of Matrimony can only be entered into in a church. There is no other “close” ceremony that can be “performed. Catholic sacraments are not magic tricks that are performed.
If you know a priest who would be kind enough to give you a blessing then that would probably be good.

Here Comes The Trio · 14-07-2018 07:09PM

Hi Fitzparker,

You can only have a Roman Catholic ceremony in a church, so I think you've accepted that this won't be possible.
From the other types, there are the HSE ones which are done with civil registrars (and can only be done Monday - Friday). These cannot include any religious references (e.g. the word "God" in a song, for example), so is probably not the right option for you.
Humanist ceremonies are very popular. Humanism is an ethical life stance, not a religion, so there would again be no religion, but you have a bit more freedom with the elements you include in the ceremony, and it can be performed on any day of the week.
I have been to a Spiritual ceremony too, which was not very religious, but was more personal and included more elements of faith than the other two. I haven't been to an interfaith ceremony.

Above all of these options, I think you'll find the Grace Christian Church helpful: http://www.graceireland.com/
I have played at numerous ceremonies of theirs, and they are wonderful! You can have the ceremony in the hotel, but incorporate many religious elements. The ceremonies are fully recognised by the HSE (i.e. they are legally entitled to solemnise marriages), and you and your partner can still acknowledge your faith as much as you like. It's not overly religious either, it's a very standard wedding ceremony. I think it sounds perfect for you, let me know if you have any questions!

appledrop · 14-07-2018 07:17PM

If you want a religious ceremony get married in the church. The whole point of civil ceremony is that not religious. As mention here if go for hse legal one no religion + humanist one the same although they may be bit more leianent about a blessing afterwards bit I don't know.

fitzparker · 14-07-2018 07:58PM

Thanks for the help all. We will look into each avenue. Appriciate the support

1perriwinkle · 16-07-2018 07:57AM

As mentioned above, if you opt to do the legal part separately it leaves you free to have any kind of a ceremony you want at the hotel. There is an Irish celebrant association and they can perform a wedding ceremony any way you want it so you could have religion incorporated into that.

GingerLily · 16-07-2018 10:34PM

Have you looked into an interfaith ceremony?

Having ceremony in hotel but confused with different tyoes

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