Problem with coworker!

amcalester · 01-07-2018 01:20PM

Batgurl wrote: »

But OP...you quit?!?

Why on earth do you think you are returning to work?

He still has to work out his notice.

So he phones up to see if they want him to work out his notice.

If they don’t then the OP should ask if they’re putting him on gardening leave and if he’ll be paid or if he’s been fired.

An important distinction when/if OP tries to sign on.

gr8 m8 · 01-07-2018 01:21PM

The manager rang me up and told me that he doesn't want to hear from the office that I quit! He maintains that I am just exhausted and fooked off but it will pass and he is going to talk to me tomorrow at work!

Westwood · 01-07-2018 01:30PM

Bloody culchies it wouldn't happen in the pale we'd drive a pitch fork up their you know what!

HeidiHeidi · 01-07-2018 01:47PM

gr8 m8 wrote: »

The manager rang me up and told me that he doesn't want to hear from the office that I quit! He maintains that I am just exhausted and fooked off but it will pass and he is going to talk to me tomorrow at work!

So what's your plan for this conversation? You need to have one.

They're all running rings around you so that everything suits them, and you wind up shafted (I don't mean that to sound insulting).

You need to get things straight in your head before you meet the manager and be able to explain things clearly, logically and calmly from your perspective. And have a plan for things going forward, which involves you doing YOUR work and no-one else's.

gr8 m8 · 01-07-2018 01:58PM

Westwood wrote: »

Bloody culchies it wouldn't happen in the pale we'd drive a pitch fork up their you know what!

What are you talking about?

gr8 m8 · 02-07-2018 09:03AM

Hello.

I showed up at work today and got sent home by the manager. I have to take holidays and think about what I want! I asked how long I'm taking and got told not to be stupid. I asked if I could contact work in 2 days and he told me that I was only trying to annoy him.

I'm on thin ice by all accounts and I have to apologise for handing in my notice if I hope to keep the job. I said that if I have caused so much trouble then I will leave and it will be sorted. That really seemed to get under his skin.

In a 20 minute conversation which the manager said "this has to be a civil conversation" I probably said 50 words of which most was yes and okay! But I still got dressed down and shouted at and told that a business was being run and not a child care facility. No more throwing toys out of the cot.

I was told that not many people would get so much time from management and I should be thankful. I didn't have the nerve to say how I put in a 60 hour week on average but only get paid for 40. I use my phone and car for doing their jobs and get no allowance for it.

I hate to leave because I have put so much into the place but I can't really stay if it's going to be on egg shells and I can't look sideways. Obviously I know I am only a number and can be replaced but to receive an ultimatum of shape up or ship out has just irritated me considering my service to them.

I'm tied in a knot here!

Batgurl · 02-07-2018 09:12AM

OP I’m still confused ( along with, I’d imagine, many others reading this).

Is this right? You announced you were quitting and stormed off? But now you regret your decision and want to keep your job? But you don’t think you should have to apologise, or ask for it back? Why on earth not?

The place sounds like a crap place to work, so either accept that and put up with it OR leave. You are so down the food chain that’s ITS NOT YOUR JOB to decide if there is enough staff on or the correct equipment; that’s your managers job. If anyone tries to give out to you about that, cut them off and direct them to your manager. But seriously stop caring so much. It’s not your job!

gr8 m8 · 02-07-2018 09:28AM

Hello.

Thank you for the reply. I will gladly leave but I can't seem to get around the manager! I handed in my notice to the office and was told that I would have to tell my manager directly. I did that and was banned from work for the weekend, I was told to take holidays until I get permission to return. I didn't hear anything from anyone so showed up this morning because if nothing else I want to work out my notice time. I don't want it said to future employers that I just walked out one day.

Last time I said I was leaving, the manager broke down in front of me saying that he is doing his best and now the owners are going to blame him and it's all going to be his fault! I explained that I am wrecked and sick of being the first in and last out and working through lunch and not having the equipment to get jobs done. He told me that he would make me a manager and the power and back me in my decisions. I declined because I just don't have the time or the knowledge of other people's jobs to enforce it, and also no money was mentioned.

To be honest I can't think of how they got around me the first time I quit! I really hate being the boy that cries wolf but nothing in work seems straight forward.

Batgurl · 02-07-2018 09:45AM

Ok so if you are happy to leave then remind him via text that your verbal notice was delivered to him last Friday and your last day will be 4 weeks from that date.

You are happy to be given 4 weeks paid leave in lieu of working your notice if that is what he wishes and that he should let you know via text if he wishes to amend any of the above.

Then do not answer any calls and do not call into the office. Make them come to you. Start looking for new jobs in your 4 paid weeks off. Best of luck.

whelan2 · 02-07-2018 09:48AM

Just leave. You don't need this stress. There are plenty more jobs were you will be treated properly

gr8 m8 · 02-07-2018 10:26AM

Hello again.

I just wanted to ask about this 4 week thinking. I have been there for about 15 months, I get paid weekly (although last week I never received my wages). So does that change the circumstances in relation to this 4 weeks leave.

I would rather just leave without stirring the pot any more than necessary.i don't have the energy anymore to go up against them. There is so much I want to say but no one seems interested in what I want to say.

gr8 m8 · 02-07-2018 10:44AM

I just got an email saying that I am paid. Are they on this?

WillyWonkaBar · 02-07-2018 11:21AM

Just finished reading your thread and wow. Sounds like you have been working in quite a toxic environment where your voice just isn't heard and doesn't want to be heard.

I can't offer any more advice but all I will say is when the ordeal is over and you're out of there, make sure you take a little time for yourself and destress. Constant frustrations and stress is not good for your health and it's important to get a break from that.

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