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Dating during/after getting things sorted. Good idea or not?

  • 18-06-2018 02:05PM
    #1
    nigel_wilson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 176 ✭✭


    I'm a 20yr old guy who has "fallen off the rails" to speak over the past few years but I'm making a comeback.

    I was speaking to my therapist who says that since I lack social circle but can be confident when I want to, I should try as much as possible to date a young woman in college. I'm a bit hesitant because I don't know what could be reciprocated between two people in an relationship when one doesn't have a job, poor qualifications etc.

    She reiterates that finances are not an issue and you can date even when you don't have money. Is this true? I would feel like a scrougner.


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  • #2
    Dial Hard
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 15,270 ✭✭✭✭Dial Hard


    nigel_wilson wrote: »
    She reiterates that finances are not an issue and you can date even when you don't have money. Is this true? I would feel like a scrougner.

    If it's an issue for you, then it's an issue. I was unemployed for a good portion of last year and I had absolutely no interest in dating during that period. A) I couldn't afford it and B) I just couldn't bear the thought of having to have the "So what do you do?" conversation.

    Now, I fully accept that these were my issues and plenty of people will come on here and tell you that anyone who has a problem with your financial situation isn't worth dating in the first place, but I think that it's a perfectly valid concern for you to have on your own behalf.


  • #3
    BattleCorp
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,867 ✭✭✭✭BattleCorp


    I think if you are dating a college girl, then she will probably be tight enough on the auld finances and in no position to judge you on that front.


  • #4
    nigel_wilson
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 176 ✭✭nigel_wilson


    Dial Hard wrote: »
    If it's an issue for you, then it's an issue. I was unemployed for a good portion of last year and I had absolutely no interest in dating during that period. A) I couldn't afford it and B) I just couldn't bear the thought of having to have the "So what do you do?" conversation.

    Now, I fully accept that these were my issues and plenty of people will come on here and tell you that anyone who has a problem with your financial situation isn't worth dating in the first place, but I think that it's a perfectly valid concern for you to have on your own behalf.

    Someone did say this on Reddit and highlighted it's better to make friends first and then a girlfriend will come. They suggested meetup but the problem is...most events require outdoor activities where you pay money :(. The last time I had two euros was in May.


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