How much should I give to my brother on his wedding day?

Like anything it's a case of how close are you and what can you afford.

It's entirely based, I think, on where you are in life.

When my brothers got married I was a broke student, so I didn't give money at all but sourced gifts that were not expensive but meant a lot- i even made one, which before anyone goes "oh god naff" it was something menaingful and I'm skilled at making - it wasn't "art" :pac:

When I got married one of my brothers and his wife gave us €200 was I thought was super generous considering they had to travel from the UK and stay in the hotel for 2 days, and the other got us a beautiful piece of art for our house which I adore and whilst I know wasn't mad expensive, they're about to have a baby so every penny counts, and I'd rather them spend ther money on their upcoming arrival than a present to me.

Now, every family is different but most, I think, are aware of where you are with money and I honestly think the majority of people getting married don't expect lots of gifts, even from family.

All our siblings gave us nothing when we got married. There were vague promises about 'we must get you something, aren't we awful' but after seven years I don't think we should expect anything.

Give whatever you are financially comfortable with. Please don’t put yourself in any kind of debt, it’s ludicrous.

ELM327 wrote: »

I gave €250, as best man.
And I think that's the ceiling really, anything else is ludicrous.

I've given 400e before, but the B&G paid for accommodation so we felt we should be more generous. That was our ceiling!

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

Definitely duvet sets so.

...and a canteen of Newbridge cutlery.

SarahS2013 wrote: »

Very useful altogether :rolleyes:

Well I’m going to your wedding and that’s what I’ve got you.

Direct family, 200 is fine.

Pissy Missy wrote: »

I'm currently in college and have a student loan and working as part of my course however I do not get paid for this; if things were different, I'd happily give more but €200-€300 is the most I can afford. But based on people's feedback this seems to be an acceptable amount so I'm content with that.

Given your circumstances, I really don't think you should be giving a cash gift at all, and certainly not that much. If I was your brother I'd be very embarrassed to receive it, from someone on no income and already in debt. Assuming he knows you are not paid, I'd suggest getting something nice for the house, or a restaurant voucher for 2.

Jayson Repulsive Balloonist wrote: »

200 is my standard for any wedding, around 300 if I'm a groomsman for the person getting married. Haven't had a sibling get married yet but I'd be giving a big gift. At least 600 but most likely more, it's something I would decide at the time.

is this rate for a single person, or couple ?

OP, retrospectively (as I've been through a wedding myself), I would prefer gifts from close ppl like siblings, and not more money.

splinter65 wrote: »

...and a canteen of Newbridge cutlery.

I'm laughing away to myself, we got one for our wedding 4 years ago and it hasn't ever been out of the box :P

I also agree with MLV that I'd prefer a nice gift from family, especially if they were strapped for cash.
Etsy has lots of nice gifts you could get personalised without breaking the bank.

guess it depends alot on their preferences. would they have a wedding list ? or is anyone in the family you can consult with ? in general i would think quality objects both of them would use, and that lasts longer.
- in my family tradition being luxury linen for the house, i got attached more to gifts from this category.
heard more recently of gifting a tree to be planted in the garden - and I find that interesting too (guess this won't work for everyone).