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Bucket List
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09-06-2018 11:17AM#1
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I’m dying and I don’t have a bucket list. I did consider writing one, and many terminally-ill folk do have one. But I decided against it for a number of reasons:
- I have a lot of pressures in my life and a bucket list would just pile on more pressure, be it financial or physical. It would be another burden in my life and I am maxxed out on burdens.
- I’d also feel pressure to Savour Every Moment TM. Like I couldn’t just be like “let’s see if I enjoy this”. Would I be fretting because it’ll be my one and only chance to do that activity?
- Expense. My circumstances are straitened now quite severely. I could try crowdfunding but panhandling doesn’t sit well with me PLUS if you are crowdfunding, the people donating to you deserve to know who you are and your story. I’m not willing to give up my privacy. The only things I’d likely panhandle crowdfund for are charity and if I wanted an expensive, experimental medical treatment.
- I take most joy these days from the everyday pleasures. Reading, watching films, hanging with my hub, family and friends. Going off doing Cool Things TM isn’t all that important to me now.
A bucket list would just feel like a millstone around my neck.
BUT what I have done since diagnosis is be more open-minded to more immediate Cool Things TM if they are suggested to me. I consider each one seriously. That way, I get some of the benefits of the bucket list without the burdens. A friend suggested last year that we should go to Iceland. I scoffed at first, thinking I couldn’t afford it. But we worked out a cost-effective way to go and it was the best trip of my life.
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I’m dying and I don’t have a bucket list. I did consider writing one, and many terminally-ill folk do have one. But I decided against it for a number of reasons:
- I have a lot of pressures in my life and a bucket list would just pile on more pressure, be it financial or physical. It would be another burden in my life and I am maxxed out on burdens.
- I’d also feel pressure to Savour Every Moment TM. Like I couldn’t just be like “let’s see if I enjoy this”. Would I be fretting because it’ll be my one and only chance to do that activity?
- Expense. My circumstances are straitened now quite severely. I could try crowdfunding but panhandling doesn’t sit well with me PLUS if you are crowdfunding, the people donating to you deserve to know who you are and your story. I’m not willing to give up my privacy. The only things I’d likely panhandle crowdfund for are charity and if I wanted an expensive, experimental medical treatment.
- I take most joy these days from the everyday pleasures. Reading, watching films, hanging with my hub, family and friends. Going off doing Cool Things TM isn’t all that important to me now.
A bucket list would just feel like a millstone around my neck.
BUT what I have done since diagnosis is be more open-minded to more immediate Cool Things TM if they are suggested to me. I consider each one seriously. That way, I get some of the benefits of the bucket list without the burdens. A friend suggested last year that we should go to Iceland. I scoffed at first, thinking I couldn’t afford it. But we worked out a cost-effective way to go and it was the best trip of my life.
So sorry to read about your circumstances. I really hope that you and your family get fulfillment and peace.0 -
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I’m dying and I don’t have a bucket list. I did consider writing one, and many terminally-ill folk do have one. But I decided against it for a number of reasons:
- I have a lot of pressures in my life and a bucket list would just pile on more pressure, be it financial or physical. It would be another burden in my life and I am maxxed out on burdens.
- I’d also feel pressure to Savour Every Moment TM. Like I couldn’t just be like “let’s see if I enjoy this”. Would I be fretting because it’ll be my one and only chance to do that activity?
- Expense. My circumstances are straitened now quite severely. I could try crowdfunding but panhandling doesn’t sit well with me PLUS if you are crowdfunding, the people donating to you deserve to know who you are and your story. I’m not willing to give up my privacy. The only things I’d likely panhandle crowdfund for are charity and if I wanted an expensive, experimental medical treatment.
- I take most joy these days from the everyday pleasures. Reading, watching films, hanging with my hub, family and friends. Going off doing Cool Things TM isn’t all that important to me now.
A bucket list would just feel like a millstone around my neck.
BUT what I have done since diagnosis is be more open-minded to more immediate Cool Things TM if they are suggested to me. I consider each one seriously. That way, I get some of the benefits of the bucket list without the burdens. A friend suggested last year that we should go to Iceland. I scoffed at first, thinking I couldn’t afford it. But we worked out a cost-effective way to go and it was the best trip of my life.
In my head after hours is a deliberate act of stupidity, it's a massive piss take.
I'm sorry to hear this, it's a bit odd seeing this in after hours.
I would be happy to contribute to your fund if boards.ie organised it. They could verify you and such... I'm not the best to say..
I'm don't really have anything to say it's mind boggling to be terminally ill. I am sorry you got delt a bad blow.0 -
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I’m dying and I don’t have a bucket list. I did consider writing one, and many terminally-ill folk do have one. But I decided against it for a number of reasons:
- I have a lot of pressures in my life and a bucket list would just pile on more pressure, be it financial or physical. It would be another burden in my life and I am maxxed out on burdens.
- I’d also feel pressure to Savour Every Moment TM. Like I couldn’t just be like “let’s see if I enjoy this”. Would I be fretting because it’ll be my one and only chance to do that activity?
- Expense. My circumstances are straitened now quite severely. I could try crowdfunding but panhandling doesn’t sit well with me PLUS if you are crowdfunding, the people donating to you deserve to know who you are and your story. I’m not willing to give up my privacy. The only things I’d likely panhandle crowdfund for are charity and if I wanted an expensive, experimental medical treatment.
- I take most joy these days from the everyday pleasures. Reading, watching films, hanging with my hub, family and friends. Going off doing Cool Things TM isn’t all that important to me now.
A bucket list would just feel like a millstone around my neck.
BUT what I have done since diagnosis is be more open-minded to more immediate Cool Things TM if they are suggested to me. I consider each one seriously. That way, I get some of the benefits of the bucket list without the burdens. A friend suggested last year that we should go to Iceland. I scoffed at first, thinking I couldn’t afford it. But we worked out a cost-effective way to go and it was the best trip of my life.
Such a sad brave post . Peace be with you and enjoy what time you have . Don’t know what else to say0 -
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ygolometsipe wrote: »In my head after hours is a deliberate act of stupidity, it's a massive piss take.
I'm sorry to hear this, it's a bit odd seeing this in after hours.
I would be happy to contribute to your fund if boards.ie organised it. They could verify you and such... I'm not the best to say..
I'm don't really have anything to say it's mind boggling to be terminally ill. I am sorry you got delt a bad blow.
No really, I have no interest in fundraising. But thanks for the nice sentiment. 0 -
((HUGS)))
This is far too premature for you; it is what many frail elderly come to terms with with far less grace and reality than you doing. Bravo!
I have been ill most of my life and now am getting frailer faster, but then I am very old. And I too have learned to value the simplest of things with joy. Before i read your post I too had rejected the idea of a bucket list. There are joys enough;
Blessings and peaceI’m dying and I don’t have a bucket list. I did consider writing one, and many terminally-ill folk do have one. But I decided against it for a number of reasons:
- I have a lot of pressures in my life and a bucket list would just pile on more pressure, be it financial or physical. It would be another burden in my life and I am maxxed out on burdens.
- I’d also feel pressure to Savour Every Moment TM. Like I couldn’t just be like “let’s see if I enjoy this”. Would I be fretting because it’ll be my one and only chance to do that activity?
- Expense. My circumstances are straitened now quite severely. I could try crowdfunding but panhandling doesn’t sit well with me PLUS if you are crowdfunding, the people donating to you deserve to know who you are and your story. I’m not willing to give up my privacy. The only things I’d likely panhandle crowdfund for are charity and if I wanted an expensive, experimental medical treatment.
- I take most joy these days from the everyday pleasures. Reading, watching films, hanging with my hub, family and friends. Going off doing Cool Things TM isn’t all that important to me now.
A bucket list would just feel like a millstone around my neck.
BUT what I have done since diagnosis is be more open-minded to more immediate Cool Things TM if they are suggested to me. I consider each one seriously. That way, I get some of the benefits of the bucket list without the burdens. A friend suggested last year that we should go to Iceland. I scoffed at first, thinking I couldn’t afford it. But we worked out a cost-effective way to go and it was the best trip of my life.0 -
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I’m dying and I don’t have a bucket list. I did consider writing one, and many terminally-ill folk do have one. But I decided against it for a number of reasons:
- I have a lot of pressures in my life and a bucket list would just pile on more pressure, be it financial or physical. It would be another burden in my life and I am maxxed out on burdens.
- I’d also feel pressure to Savour Every Moment TM. Like I couldn’t just be like “let’s see if I enjoy this”. Would I be fretting because it’ll be my one and only chance to do that activity?
- Expense. My circumstances are straitened now quite severely. I could try crowdfunding but panhandling doesn’t sit well with me PLUS if you are crowdfunding, the people donating to you deserve to know who you are and your story. I’m not willing to give up my privacy. The only things I’d likely panhandle crowdfund for are charity and if I wanted an expensive, experimental medical treatment.
- I take most joy these days from the everyday pleasures. Reading, watching films, hanging with my hub, family and friends. Going off doing Cool Things TM isn’t all that important to me now.
A bucket list would just feel like a millstone around my neck.
BUT what I have done since diagnosis is be more open-minded to more immediate Cool Things TM if they are suggested to me. I consider each one seriously. That way, I get some of the benefits of the bucket list without the burdens. A friend suggested last year that we should go to Iceland. I scoffed at first, thinking I couldn’t afford it. But we worked out a cost-effective way to go and it was the best trip of my life.
Sorry to hear that bud, but thanks for sharing.
Best wishes to you and your family for the times ahead.
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No really, I have no interest in fundraising. But thanks for the nice sentiment.
No problem. I want to suggest something. This could come across as very nieve on my part... I have no idea what your going through..
It's a book you might read if you like.
Marcus Aureliu more or less published his diary in the days leading to his end.
I read them and for a man the rules rome he was really very humble.. most of his writing followed the format of ...to my father I would say... to my mother I would say, to my brother.. .
It's not very long but i admire him for doing it ( even if it's poisoned by political edits)
He was an emperor seeing his end, he looked back and forward as truthfully as he could.
It's wonderful and maybe you could benefit from that.
Again I have no idea what your going through. I just wanted to share it.0 -
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No really, I have no interest in fundraising. But thanks for the nice sentiment.
No problem. I want to suggest something. This could come across as very nieve on my part... I have no idea what your going through..
It's a book you might read if you like.
Marcus Aureliu more or less published his diary in the days leading to his end.
I read them and for a man the rules rome he was really very humble.. most of his writing followed the format of ...to my father I would say... to my mother I would say, to my brother.. .
It's not very long but i admire him for doing it ( even if it's poisoned by political edits)
He was an emperor seeing his end, he looked back and forward as truthfully as he could.
It's wonderful and maybe you could benefit from that.
Again I have no idea what your going through. I just wanted to share it.0 -
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I’m dying and I don’t have a bucket list. I did consider writing one, and many terminally-ill folk do have one. But I decided against it for a number of reasons:
- I have a lot of pressures in my life and a bucket list would just pile on more pressure, be it financial or physical. It would be another burden in my life and I am maxxed out on burdens.
- I’d also feel pressure to Savour Every Moment TM. Like I couldn’t just be like “let’s see if I enjoy this”. Would I be fretting because it’ll be my one and only chance to do that activity?
- Expense. My circumstances are straitened now quite severely. I could try crowdfunding but panhandling doesn’t sit well with me PLUS if you are crowdfunding, the people donating to you deserve to know who you are and your story. I’m not willing to give up my privacy. The only things I’d likely panhandle crowdfund for are charity and if I wanted an expensive, experimental medical treatment.
- I take most joy these days from the everyday pleasures. Reading, watching films, hanging with my hub, family and friends. Going off doing Cool Things TM isn’t all that important to me now.
A bucket list would just feel like a millstone around my neck.
BUT what I have done since diagnosis is be more open-minded to more immediate Cool Things TM if they are suggested to me. I consider each one seriously. That way, I get some of the benefits of the bucket list without the burdens. A friend suggested last year that we should go to Iceland. I scoffed at first, thinking I couldn’t afford it. But we worked out a cost-effective way to go and it was the best trip of my life.
Maybe something simple like plant a tree in a special place?
I still remember family from our garden.0 -
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