Where did you meet your partner?

ginandtonicsky · 28-05-2018 01:22PM #1

I'm curious about how many people actually meet their partners online these days. My friends are telling me it's a majority, but I don't believe that for a second - can't think of many actual real-life couples who met on tinder or bumble or whatever yer having. Unless they're all lying.

Where did you meet your missus / fella?

Boom_Bap · 28-05-2018 01:23PM

I've met 6 of my 7 internet wives on the internet.

OldNotWIse · 28-05-2018 01:26PM

Work, although I did meet an ex online.

sbsquarepants · 28-05-2018 01:28PM

Pub.

That's where I've met at least 90% of women I've been with - the other 10% was on the way to or from the pub. I'm a traditionalist like that.

Since I met my missus and settled down to life of domestic bliss, the pub no longer has the allure it once did. Apparently, I went there for the crack, moreso than the craic:D

Mr. Incognito · 28-05-2018 01:28PM

Everyone meets on line

EVERYONE

Then they lie and say they met in a pub.

Outlaw Pete · 28-05-2018 01:28PM

Police captain roared at me to come up to his office and when I got there he introduced me to him.

DaeryssaOne · 28-05-2018 01:29PM

Met my fella in a pub, thinking about groups of friends and their long term relationships (around 10 years) they would all have met each other through mutual friends, in college, through work etc. but of my friends in newer relationships (4-5 years) I reckon 30-40% would have met each other online.
It still wouldn't be the majority but I'd say if you're in your early 20's or so it's more likely to be online.

SEPT 23 1989 · 28-05-2018 01:29PM

She was working as a waitress in a cocktail bar

eviltwin · 28-05-2018 01:29PM

He lived around the corner

PandaPoo · 28-05-2018 01:30PM

Met my husband online. We went to a pub for drinks that night when we realised he only lived down the road.
I originally thought he wasn't my type but by the end of the date I was mad about him. 11 months later we got married!

thebull85 · 28-05-2018 01:32PM

The Botanic House.

Im curious, couples that meet online do they actually tell people they met online. Some friends of mine met online but they tell ppl a BS story about meeting a nightclub. Hard to keep up that lie forever.

ginandtonicsky · 28-05-2018 01:40PM

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

Everyone meets on line

EVERYONE

Then they lie and say they met in a pub.

I wouldn't say everyone, but I'd say you're right that a high degree of couples that met online wouldn't tell you that. I can think of a few couples that I'd be like "how the hell did their crosses path, sure they've nothing/no friends in common" etc and you'd get the "down the pub" line off them or something equally vague.

DaeryssaOne wrote: »

Met my fella in a pub, thinking about groups of friends and their long term relationships (around 10 years) they would all have met each other through mutual friends, in college, through work etc. but of my friends in newer relationships (4-5 years) I reckon 30-40% would have met each other online.
It still wouldn't be the majority but I'd say if you're in your early 20's or so it's more likely to be online.

Yeah this is my experience too. Most of my friends are early - mid thirties, in relationships that are 5+ years and met their partners through their social circle or in a few cases at work. I'd know that for a fact.

Meeting online seems to be common for newer relationships

DaeryssaOne · 28-05-2018 01:47PM

ginandtonicsky wrote: »

Yeah this is my experience too. Most of my friends are early - mid thirties, in relationships that are 5+ years and met their partners through their social circle or in a few cases at work. I'd know that for a fact.

Meeting online seems to be common for newer relationships

Yep any couples I know who met online would have met in the last 4-5 years. None of them have a problem saying it was online, I don't understand why you would bother lying about it anyway. I'd say 75%+ single people use Tinder / POF nowadays so why would you lie about it being successful and getting what you wanted out of using it!

sbsquarepants · 28-05-2018 01:50PM

sbsquarepants wrote: »

Pub.

Mr. Incognito wrote: »

Everyone meets on line

EVERYONE

Then they lie and say they met in a pub.

You calling me a liar?:D

Alas, tinder etc just weren't a thing when my analogue mickey stumbled from pub to pub looking for a cosy place to spend the night.:mad:

ginandtonicsky · 28-05-2018 01:51PM

Maybe some people find it embarrassing, I don't know. It's not quite as taboo as it was say ten years ago when people genuinely thought only losers/weirdos used online dating, but it's still a bit more comment-worthy than "we worked together" or whatever.

retro:electro · 28-05-2018 01:53PM

College. IRL. Before the days of swiping. Probably would have swiped past him tbh

mr_edge_to_you · 28-05-2018 01:53PM

A yahoo chat room in 2006.

A/S/L?

hairyslug · 28-05-2018 01:53PM

Plenty of Fish, together 10 years now

ginandtonicsky · 28-05-2018 01:57PM

retro:electro wrote: »

College. IRL. Before the days of swiping. Probably would have swiped past him tbh

Ha! Same for me with my ex. And the ex before him too. Wouldn't have given them a second glance!

Your Face · 28-05-2018 01:59PM

Passed her on way back from work.
Went back to ask her out.

Still together.

Cleopatra_ · 28-05-2018 02:04PM

I'll be 30 in July and I met my missus in chat room in 2009, we were friends for a while before hooking up though. Come to think about it I met my first proper boyfriend because I got a random text from him as I knew his friend and the friend had passed on my number and showed him a picture of me without telling me. I was sixteen then and I met up with him on a blind date so I had no idea what he looked like. Went out for nearly four years. I also met a guy from Scotland in a chat room and went out with him for a few months. I did have a girlfriend when I was fifteen who I met through friends. And a boyfriend I met the same way. Most of my relationships have started online though and even when I was separated from the missus for a bit I went mad on tinder

I've had hook ups and one night stands on nights out but anything more lasting has usually started online.

Hitman3000 · 28-05-2018 02:05PM

College. I feel old....

blastman · 28-05-2018 02:12PM

As per Frank Turner's advice, we tell everybody that we met in jail.

(really though, friend of a friend scenario)

CelticRambler · 28-05-2018 02:14PM

Does "at Mass" count as a hobby?

ginandtonicsky · 28-05-2018 02:16PM

Online leading the race there if that poll's anything to go by!

Cina · 28-05-2018 02:17PM

Amazingly, through a friend.

After 2 years of dozens of failed tinder/PoF dates it felt great to meet someone the old fashioned way.

Also, my ma' wasn't massively disappointed in me when I told her.

28-05-2018 02:19PM

I met my wife in her kitchen over 30 years ago. I was visiting her sister at the time.

ginandtonicsky · 28-05-2018 02:19PM

Yeah I kind of prefer the idea of an old-fashioned story tbh. I've met all my previous fellas through work or friends or house parties etc, I don't like the idea of a tinder story..!

Not that it ultimately matters even a little bit when you're in the right relationship of course. But it somehow seems more romantic or something. A bit more When Harry Met Sally!

Tell me how · 28-05-2018 02:22PM

DaeryssaOne wrote:

Yep any couples I know who met online would have met in the last 4-5 years. None of them have a problem saying it was online, I don't understand why you would bother lying about it anyway. I'd say 75%+ single people use Tinder / POF nowadays so why would you lie about it being successful and getting what you wanted out of using it!

Was at a wedding and this came up at the table.

One lady said "we met online". A guy said "what Done Deal?" her partner said "No, Tesco. They deliver". She laughed but another girl said if her husband used that joke she'd kill him.

I'm single, not working currently and all my mates are married and not in to pubs where I'd go on the pull.

So, if I don't meet her online, chances are.........

Thanks OP.

Hammer89 · 28-05-2018 02:28PM

I'm not sure society will ever advance to the stage where most relationships are formed online, so I reckon your friends are probably wrong. Pubs and clubs are obviously still the most common breeding ground.

wakka12 · 28-05-2018 02:31PM

In first year in college. Together over 3 years now

I prefer having met in person, we became friends first and have mutuals friends because of college and share strong interest in our college/now profession, so I think I have more important things in common with him than I could with anybody I met online
And we are same gender so I feel very lucky to have met him in person too as nearly all my gay friends met their partner online.

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