The 8th amendment referendum - part 4

Mr.H wrote: »

My comment isn't suppose to be mean. My comment is to show that abortion isn't the answer.

Let's say aborting exists. You get pregnant and don't want it so you have an abortion. Leta say you get pregnant again. Do you have another abortion? What if it happens a third fourth or fifth time? More abortions?

Because that is what is being talked about. You don't wanna go through a pregnancy and that bus fair enough. But what does that mean? You talk as if you can get pregnant so early then surely you would just keep getting pregnant.

By the way you could always have your tubes tied or your husband could get the snip.

Abortion won't fix your issue

I tried to do this btw.

After I gave birth to my son four years ago, I sat down with my a GP (not my regular GP because he wasn't available) and asked her to refer me for tubal ligation. She hmm'd and haw'd, said they wouldn't do it. I asked her to write the letter anyway, that I had 4 children and I didn't want another one because 1) we couldn't afford another one, my husband was on a CE scheme at the time and what we were being paid a week (and the 20 euro extra we were supposed to get, but actually went on taxes, which I'm not complaining about btw, but don't tell a familly they'll get 20 euro extra a week in their payment for taking up this government scheme and then take it away) barely covered feeding and clothing four kids as well as paying bills and rent, car insurance, tax, nct fee's petrol etc to get my husband to and from this job, I could go on. 2) I wasn't prepared to have my abdomen cut open giving birth again because it was the prescribed course if someone had already had two ceserean births. 3) I had actually just started applying for college again after spending 5 years at home looking after kids and wanted to better myself so we could actually afford to live.
4) I had had my lot. 4 kids in 5 years. I didn't want any more kids and neither did my husband. It would mean moving house and changing car, WHICH WE COULDN'T AFFORD!

So.... anyways. This GP sent off the letter and it took a year for me to be seen in the hospital for my appt. Off I went and sat down with the consultant. I asked for tubal ligation and he said.... No. You're too young. What if you change your mind. He actually said 'What if something happens between you and your husband and you meet someone else and want kids with them?'. Just get the mirena in.

I told him I didn't want the mirena in, I explained all of the above points 1-4 with him. I told him I wanted a permanent solution to birth control and I was very sure of my decision and would he please tie my tubes.

He agreed. BUT. He wanted me to lose 4 stone in weight before he did it, because he thought there were too many risks to doing the laprascope proceedure on obese women. We agreed that I would try to lose the weight and I would see him again in nine months.

That was in March of 2016. In April of 2016 my contraception failed and I became pregnant.

So, it's all well and good to say 'permanent measures of contraception' but it's all a load of **** anyway because currently they put so many barriers in place for people looking for these permanent measures of contraception.

eviltwin wrote:

Any woman who thinks abortion is a viable alternative to contraception will change her mind after her first.