Something women are better at than men

Driving in general.

jk23 wrote: »

Again it’s a generalisation but this usually is true, the woman usually gets all the hurt and pain out during these few days(ice cream and girl friends over!!) while a man will bottle it up and show he is fine!

First few DAYS?? I'm female and it's taken me the guts of a year plus to get over an ex. Breakups are a process for both men and women and not any quicker or easier for either imo. Much like a bereavement.

i would agree that men are more likely to be left with unresolved issues though, as i'd say women are more inclined to self-reflect and analyse the relationship and not be completely turned off the idea of romantic love and trust and what-have-you from then on. i know far more commitmentphobic / relationshipphobic men as a result of difficult breakups than i do women.

Playing the harp.

Having lovely boobies.

Communicating and talking about all of their feelings.

In my experience women seem to be better at reading body language and taking social cues.

Wibbs wrote: »

+1. Women™ may appear to get over relationships more quickly because the majority of breakups and divorces are instigated by the woman, so when the hammer falls they appear to be in more control. So the grieving period might last say a year for both, but the woman is more likely to have been mourning for and detaching from the relationship for six months before the split actually happens, so they look like they're bouncing back faster.

I can only speak for my own experience, and while I ultimately called the end of the relationship, it was for compatibility issues rather than a lack of love, which obviously is a tough nut to crack emotionally. It left a lot of emotional fallout, I was essentially on the verge of tears for the guts of a year - certainly not "together" emotionally in any way before then. I've remained single since, as the thoughts of going through that pain again fill me with abject horror :eek:

I've actually gone on first dates and ended up bursting into tears as soon as I came home and shut the door, but i guess the point is I still very much believe in love and believe in relationships. Some would say foolishly, I'd probably say courageously. it's a lot tougher to have those expectations particularly when they've been shattered so badly before. i feel like women are more inclined to give themselves that emotional space to breathe, to cry, to stop and take stock, re-evaluate and try again with their best foot forward. my ex meanwhile, rebounded hard with my carbon copy within weeks and still drunk texts me at 3am despite seeing someone new yet again.

Wibbs wrote: »

I'd agree with that G&Tsky. In my experience anyway far more women remain open to someone new, even after some really bad, even abusive relationships and they tend much more to fall fully back in. They can reinvent their emotional state and history. I have found that generally speaking men rarely get back that clean slate state and hold something back.

I have found women in general more emotionally resilient. Oh they may be throwing emotions all over the place, but they keep on trucking. I find women in general more life practical too. They're generally less queasy about the blood and guts of life with it.

i feel like we have more space and more permission to be emotional, to cry and wallow for a while, to round up the troops and lean in for emotional support, i've lost count of the amount of tipsy heart-to-hearts i've had with close friends and each one brought a new perspective on why my relationship failed and closer to healing from it all.

none of my exes ever discussed their relationship with their friends or their family beyond "G&T's coming for dinner" or "moving in with G&T". It's just not a language i've ever seen in any of them, i was very much that emotional crutch while we went out and after the fact i was either replaced swiftly or they went on the tear and disappeared into a drunken haze for a while

DaeryssaOne wrote: »

That really made me laugh, I do it all the time! Never a baby or a cute toddler but I will stop my husband mid-sentence and point until he acknowledges the cute dog close by

Definitely agree with the shopping list stuff too, he does a lot of the shopping but will never ever remember the things I've asked him to get so I will inevitably have to go to the shop myself anyway.

Haha, me too on the dog comments. I just assumed it was a "me" thing rather than a female thing, I guess you learn something new every day :pac:

Wibbs wrote: »

Generally speaking he found both talked as much as the other, but men's conversations were biased much more towards things; work, hobbies and the like. Women's conversations were much more biased towards people and their relationships of all sorts. Even in conversations around current affairs this bias was apparently evident. The men were more likely to discuss the overall outcomes and trends, whereas the women were more likely to discuss the individuals involved as well.

"Men are from mars" etc.

I think most women will have experienced the frustration of their partner trying to "fix" a problem when all they've really wanted was a rant, to be heard, to be understood. I've had that one a lot through the years - "what's the point of moaning about it if you're not willing to fix it?" "I don't want to 'fix' it, I just want a bit of support!"

At the same time the ex partners I've had were all that bit more emotionally accessible than the average joe I've met over the years. My most recent ex was extremely affectionate and emotionally expressive and it's what drew me right in. It was refreshing. Most lads i meet in any sort of romantic sense i find extremely difficult to read emotionally and it can leave you with a real sense of insecurity and uncertainty.