Attractiveness!?

Malayalam · 08-05-2018 01:21PM

Shenshen wrote: »

That's how my brother ended up with b*tch after b*tch for girlfriends, until he married the queen of them.
And after the wedding, she stopped wearing make-up, taking care of her hair, wearing nice clothes - so now he's got a nasty and ugly wife.

The reason people tell you to look at people's personalities is because they don't change as fast as looks do.

Hahaha

You really love your sister-in-law, don't you.

Shenshen · 08-05-2018 01:32PM

Malayalam wrote: »

Hahaha You really love your sister-in-law, don't you.

I'm not the one has to live with her

And to be honest, he had been warned by a number of people (including her own father). So in a way, he's made his own bed there

Sam Quentin · 08-05-2018 01:34PM

Look I'll give you an example of my observation from yesterday, and what got me CONVINCED as per my op.

So I'm driving through town at a normal fair speed(there's not much traffic, but a steady flow)a man steps out to the edge of the road in front of me and seems to hesitate as I'm not in a position to brake quite hard and let him cross, as I pass I wave a bit and he waves back in an understanding way.. I see him cross behind my car in my rear view mirror. Grand..
On the same street not to far away a woman steps on to the edge of the road in front of me and attempts to cross hesitating also, again I'm not in a position to brake hard and I continue on, as I pass I give her a wee wave and she just looks at me like I've 2 heads, she actually looks disappointed and sad, I just feel she was disgusted that I didn't find her beautiful enough to jump on my brakes and let her cross over!? That wasn't the case at all, I actually thought she was a grand lookin woman.

Shenshen · 08-05-2018 01:41PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

Look I'll give you an example of my observation from yesterday, and what got me CONVINCED as per my op.

So I'm driving through town at a normal fair speed(there's not much traffic, but a steady flow)a man steps out to the edge of the road in front of me and seems to hesitate as I'm not in a position to brake quite hard and let him cross, as I pass I wave a bit and he waves back in an understanding way.. I see him cross behind my car in my rear view mirror. Grand..
On the same street not to far away a woman steps on to the edge of the road in front of me and attempts to cross hesitating also, again I'm not in a position to brake hard and I continue on, as I pass I give her a wee wave and she just looks at me like I've 2 heads, she actually looks disappointed and sad, I just feel she was disgusted that I didn't find her beautiful enough to jump on my brakes and let her cross over!? That wasn't the case at all, I actually thought she was a grand lookin woman.

So you happened to meet Aoife, who just had a crappy weekend with her sick children at home, and who just came from having a cup of coffee with her best friend who was crying the whole time as her boyfriend just broke up, and you assume she looked sad and disappointed because she obviously noticed that you're a handsome, attractive member of the opposite sex and got her hopes up right there and then, only to see them smashed when you didn't break to let her cross the road?

Wow, yes, I can see how an incident like that would have you convinced that all women are constantly concerned about nothing but the way they look...

sbsquarepants · 08-05-2018 01:43PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

I just feel she was disgusted that I didn't find her beautiful enough to jump on my brakes and let her cross over!? That wasn't the case at all, I actually thought she was a grand lookin woman.

Jaysus - you've got issues!

As you drove past you deduced from the look on her face, that she was disgusted at your opinion on her level of beauty?

Okaaaay then.

Sam Quentin · 08-05-2018 01:46PM

Shenshen wrote: »

So you happened to meet Aoife, who just had a crappy weekend with her sick children at home, and who just came from having a cup of coffee with her best friend who was crying the whole time as her boyfriend just broke up, and you assume she looked sad and disappointed because she obviously noticed that you're a handsome, attractive member of the opposite sex and got her hopes up right there and then, only to see them smashed when you didn't break to let her cross the road?

Wow, yes, I can see how an incident like that would have you convinced that all women are constantly concerned about nothing but the way they look...

NO NO Jeeeeez.
That was my observation JUST from yesterday which convinced me that this is true(as per my op)through years of countless relentless incidents similar to the one from yesterday.....

Shenshen · 08-05-2018 01:49PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

NO NO Jeeeeez.
That was my observation JUST from yesterday which convinced me that this is true(as per my op)through years of countless relentless incidents similar to the one from yesterday.....

Yep. Sure. All women who were disappointed you didn't appreciate their beauty. Obviously.

El_Duderino 09 · 08-05-2018 01:50PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

NO NO Jeeeeez.
That was my observation JUST from yesterday which convinced me that this is true(as per my op)through years of countless relentless incidents similar to the one from yesterday.....

I think that the posters are trying to tell you that the example from yesterday isn't evidence of anything because you made up a fairly wild interpretation. A thousand examples similar to the one above (the one that CONVINCED you) would be equally useless.

Sam Quentin · 08-05-2018 01:58PM

Like am sure she couldn't give 2 sheeeets what I looked like,.
A man(any man)not letting her cross the road, just seemed to annoy her it kinda effected her and made her feel unattractive in some way!?
But I swear she was hot enough...
I hope my post can help some women who maybe are feeling self conscious or lacking in confidence...

Malari · 08-05-2018 02:09PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

Like am sure she couldn't give 2 sheeeets what I looked like,.
A man(any man)not letting her cross the road, just seemed to annoy her it kinda effected her and made her feel unattractive in some way!?
But I swear she was hot enough...
I hope my post can help some women who maybe are feeling self conscious or lacking in confidence...

You have assigned certainties to so many variables in this, that it makes no sense!

She may have reacted the same way to a woman driver not stopping.
She may have not been annoyed at all, but not paying enough attention.
She may have had resting bitchface and not been annoyed at all.
She is unlikely to have had the thought of how attractive she was enter her head at all, let alone think it was in any way linked to a car stopping to let her cross the road!

etc, etc.

Good grief...

fattymuatty · 08-05-2018 02:11PM

This post is just bizarre. I am a woman in my early 30s and I cannot remember the last time I even considered if someone found me attractive never mind me caring if people do or not. Believe it or not us women actually have lives too. I have a family and a full time job and all the rest that goes with that. I don't give random strangers in cars any thought at all never mind needing them to validate me.

wakka12 · 08-05-2018 02:12PM

TheQuietFella wrote: »

No it's not!!! It's of the utmost importance. It's called attraction!

For me at least it's the eyes that attract, first and foremost.

To you, emotional connection and personality can massively increase my physical attraction to somebody..I of course see plenty of poeple I think are good looking but Ive never fancied somebody until I got to know and liked them for who they are as well as being attractive to me

08-05-2018 02:19PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

Look I'll give you an example of my observation from yesterday, and what got me CONVINCED as per my op.

So I'm driving through town at a normal fair speed(there's not much traffic, but a steady flow)a man steps out to the edge of the road in front of me and seems to hesitate as I'm not in a position to brake quite hard and let him cross, as I pass I wave a bit and he waves back in an understanding way.. I see him cross behind my car in my rear view mirror. Grand..
On the same street not to far away a woman steps on to the edge of the road in front of me and attempts to cross hesitating also, again I'm not in a position to brake hard and I continue on, as I pass I give her a wee wave and she just looks at me like I've 2 heads, she actually looks disappointed and sad, I just feel she was disgusted that I didn't find her beautiful enough to jump on my brakes and let her cross over!? That wasn't the case at all, I actually thought she was a grand lookin woman.

That's a fascinating insight into how your mind works..

kylith · 08-05-2018 02:19PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

Look I'll give you an example of my observation from yesterday, and what got me CONVINCED as per my op.

So I'm driving through town at a normal fair speed(there's not much traffic, but a steady flow)a man steps out to the edge of the road in front of me and seems to hesitate as I'm not in a position to brake quite hard and let him cross, as I pass I wave a bit and he waves back in an understanding way.. I see him cross behind my car in my rear view mirror. Grand..
On the same street not to far away a woman steps on to the edge of the road in front of me and attempts to cross hesitating also, again I'm not in a position to brake hard and I continue on, as I pass I give her a wee wave and she just looks at me like I've 2 heads, she actually looks disappointed and sad, I just feel she was disgusted that I didn't find her beautiful enough to jump on my brakes and let her cross over!? That wasn't the case at all, I actually thought she was a grand lookin woman.

Honestly, if some prick drove past me waving for no reason I'd look at him like he had two heads too. I'd be thinking 'why the fck is he waving at me. Well off for you in your comfy car and I'm here with a 2 mile walk home in the drizzle, ya wanker', not 'I can't believe he didn't find my bosom worthy of causing a 3 car pile up'.

TBH, it's a bit weird that you seem so bothered about what you think other people think you think of them.

Sam Quentin · 08-05-2018 02:30PM

fattymuatty wrote: »

This post is just bizarre. I am a woman in my early 30s and I cannot remember the last time I even considered if someone found me attractive never mind me caring if people do or not. Believe it or not us women actually have lives too. I have a family and a full time job and all the rest that goes with that. I don't give random strangers in cars any thought at all never mind needing them to validate me.

JAISIZZZZ YOU SERIOUS?
We have to meet up, I'd like to do a scientific experiment because your one of a kind.. Don't worry I'll just need some samples of your brain cells, it shouldn't hurt and will only take a few moments of your time

Sam Quentin · 08-05-2018 02:33PM

kylith wrote: »

Honestly, if some prick drove past me waving for no reason I'd look at him like he had two heads too. I'd be thinking 'why the fck is he waving at me. Well off for you in your comfy car and I'm here with a 2 mile walk home in the drizzle, ya wanker', not 'I can't believe he didn't find my bosom worthy of causing a 3 car pile up'.

TBH, it's a bit weird that you seem so bothered about what you think other people think you think of them.

NO NO NO
I just put the hand up as if to say "soz about that" pet

s7ryf3925pivug · 08-05-2018 02:33PM

We're encouraged to judge men by what they make and women by what they look like.

The reason we are encouraged to think this way is that it encourages us to make money and buy things. We're encouraged to think this way by PR and advertising to sell products.

Interesting fact: PR is just propaganda rebranded for domestic consumption.

Personally I think I do attach some self esteem to my salary, even though I recognise it to be an absurd thing to do, and as much to do with circumstance as anything else.

wakka12 · 08-05-2018 02:35PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

Look I'll give you an example of my observation from yesterday, and what got me CONVINCED as per my op.

So I'm driving through town at a normal fair speed(there's not much traffic, but a steady flow)a man steps out to the edge of the road in front of me and seems to hesitate as I'm not in a position to brake quite hard and let him cross, as I pass I wave a bit and he waves back in an understanding way.. I see him cross behind my car in my rear view mirror. Grand..
On the same street not to far away a woman steps on to the edge of the road in front of me and attempts to cross hesitating also, again I'm not in a position to brake hard and I continue on, as I pass I give her a wee wave and she just looks at me like I've 2 heads, she actually looks disappointed and sad, I just feel she was disgusted that I didn't find her beautiful enough to jump on my brakes and let her cross over!? That wasn't the case at all, I actually thought she was a grand lookin woman.

Honestly Im a very self conscious person who thinks about how I look a lot but if I were the girl in that situation the last thing I would think is that they kept driving because they thought I wasnt beautiful

08-05-2018 02:36PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

Are women only interested in how attractive they are, and does everything else come 2nd...
I think this is TRUE and only diminishes in their 40s as they realise how attractive or unattractive they are!?!?

Definitely. In fact, I would even say everything else comes 4th.
1. Looks
2. Looks
3. Looks

fattymuatty · 08-05-2018 02:39PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

JAISIZZZZ YOU SERIOUS?
We have to meet up, I'd like to do a scientific experiment because your one of a kind.. Don't worry I'll just need some samples of your brain cells, it shouldn't hurt and will only take a few moments of your time

No, I really don't think I am one of a kind. I am secure in myself like lots of other people. I have far more interesting things to think about other than what other people think of me.

Malari · 08-05-2018 02:43PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

JAISIZZZZ YOU SERIOUS?
We have to meet up, I'd like to do a scientific experiment because your one of a kind.. Don't worry I'll just need some samples of your brain cells, it shouldn't hurt and will only take a few moments of your time

OK, now I'm wondering if this is sarcasm...I'm very confused about SQ's thought processes.

kylith · 08-05-2018 02:45PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

NO NO NO
I just put the hand up as if to say "soz about that" pet

Ah right. You knew her from your sign language class. Or was it mind reading?

From her point of view some fella waved at her as he drove past. She was most likely thinking "Do I know him?"

08-05-2018 02:48PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

Look I'll give you an example of my observation from yesterday, and what got me CONVINCED as per my op.

So I'm driving through town at a normal fair speed(there's not much traffic, but a steady flow)a man steps out to the edge of the road in front of me and seems to hesitate as I'm not in a position to brake quite hard and let him cross, as I pass I wave a bit and he waves back in an understanding way.. I see him cross behind my car in my rear view mirror. Grand..
On the same street not to far away a woman steps on to the edge of the road in front of me and attempts to cross hesitating also, again I'm not in a position to brake hard and I continue on, as I pass I give her a wee wave and she just looks at me like I've 2 heads, she actually looks disappointed and sad, I just feel she was disgusted that I didn't find her beautiful enough to jump on my brakes and let her cross over!? That wasn't the case at all, I actually thought she was a grand lookin woman.

I just saw this. This is comedy gold

One eyed Jack · 08-05-2018 02:49PM

Malari wrote: »

OK, now I'm wondering if this is sarcasm...I'm very confused about SQ's thought processes.

I think Sam may well have been taking the proverbial from the beginning tbh

Sam Quentin · 08-05-2018 02:58PM

kylith wrote: »

Ah right. You knew her from your sign language class. Or was it mind reading?

From her point of view some fella waved at her as he drove past. She was most likely thinking "Do I know him?"

Jaysizzzz so you think because I put the hand up to acknowledge 'yeah soz pet I just couldn't jump on the brakes there' just tip on over the road behind my car and everything's fine nothing to see here!?
I defo don't know you pet.

Ahhhhh c'mon she knows why I put the aul hand up for...

08-05-2018 02:59PM

One eyed Jack wrote: »

I think Sam may well have been taking the proverbial from the beginning tbh

Either that or he's the irish elliot rodgers

Malayalam · 08-05-2018 03:06PM

Sam Quentin wrote: »

Are women only interested in how attractive they are, and does everything else come 2nd...
I think this is TRUE and only diminishes in their 40s as they realise how attractive or unattractive they are!?!?

I think everyone is to some extent interested in their attractiveness. Though absolutely not to the degree implied by some in this thread, or in most normal cases it is balanced by at least as much if not more interest in our mental, emotional, and inner life.

The human species can produce very attractive examples of facial compositions and body forms and I think most of us have an innate aesthetic appreciation of beauty. Some more so than others. Beauty is part of nature. Naturally our external appreciation of the beauty of others would extend to an enquiry as to our own aesthetic reality. Men and women alike. Don't know why you limit it to women, OP. Some of the most shockingly beautiful faces and forms are mens. The bell curve again

Aesthetics though in the human form generally includes motion, as a still life is only appealing to a minor extent, and at the point of motion modifications can appear, such as an apparently very beautiful person losing almost all their aesthetic appeal if seen engaged in an act of cruelty, or a plain person, objectively speaking, gaining attractiveness due to a kind nature.

The percentage of people in the category of beauty that might reasonably ''expect'' to cause you to stop your car in its tracks, OP, is probably fairly minute. The other 99.5% of us just fumble along in our varying degrees of aesthetic appeal, and a quizzical look from a pretty lady in your direction may be, sad to say, OP, simply due to her experiencing a bout of repressed gas.

retro:electro · 08-05-2018 03:07PM

I am a huge ride. The end.

TheQuietFella · 08-05-2018 03:12PM

Shenshen wrote: »

That's how my brother ended up with b*tch after b*tch for girlfriends, until he married the queen of them.
And after the wedding, she stopped wearing make-up, taking care of her hair, wearing nice clothes - so now he's got a nasty and ugly wife.

The reason people tell you to look at people's personalities is because they don't change as fast as looks do.

And then there is divorce! Move on and try again!!!

Hector Bellend · 08-05-2018 07:14PM

Graces7 wrote: »

Because it is not of prime importance. Small part of life.

It's crucial.

Attractiveness!?

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