Christmas party, Boss might have tried to rape me

To all the people telling me to be very careful using the word rape, why do you think I'm here as an anonymous poster asking for help and advice? If I was irresponsible, I would be all over social media using his real name and his real details.

The only reason I used that word (and attempted) is because I genuinely feel that my boss tried to take advantage of me sexually without my consent, and I think if his wife hadn't turned up, I don't want to think what he would have done.

Regarding the poitin,

Apparently he knew someone behind the bar who gave him the tray and glasses and he filled them outside. Someone said that I had to know what it was because poitin is so distinctive in taste, well, maybe it is a distinctive taste, but I've never tasted it before, so I had nothing to compare it with. But, I did know that it was a spirit of some kind and It was bad judgement on my part to drink it, although I suspect I'm not the only one who has drunk a mystery drink 'bought' for them them at a christmas party.

While I am angry that he gave out poitin during a work christmas party, I accept that it was irresponsible of me to drink something if I didn't know what it was, if that was all that had happened, this thread wouldn't exist.

My side of the story has been consistent up to now. I had too much to drink, apparently to the point where I couldn't walk properly and kept falling over, my boss followed me home, apparently to make sure I was safe, and the next day, I got a phone call from him saying "what have we done?" his wife had seen me kiss him outside the door of my house (actually, in the lane between my house and the neighbours (it's a semi detatched house and the door is right beside the lane)

I have absolutely no memory of kissing him or being confronted by his wife, everything I 'know' has come from them.
He says he doesn't remember anything, I don't believe him.

In the past 2 days, I have spoken to him in the phone multiple times, spoken to him while his wife was in the room and wouldn't talk to me, and yesterday, his wife called me and we talked directly for the first time, and in the last 2 days, their story has changed so many times that I am now convinced that I never kissed him, that I was either fully unconscious or semi conscious when he assaulted me, and I think his wife caught him in the act and freaked out, and he has spent the last 2 days with her trying to get her to go with a story that makes it look like a drunken snog instead of something much worse.

Some of the things that have changed about the story are to do with the time line, the gap between when I left the hotel and she 'caught us' was 10 minutes at the start according to his first version, which made no sense, because why would his wife come to look for him after only 10 minutes, then he said that his wife was only changing her shoes and was going to help walk me home, which makes no sense because why would we kiss if we thought his wife was on her way and could be there at any moment, but that doesn't matter, because the next version of their story is that it was more like a 20- 30 minute gap, that the wife went to change her shoes and meet us, but only after waiting around in her hotel room for 10 minutes, and that makes no sense either because he would have been home by then, I only live next door. Who changes her shoes to walk to a house they can almost see from the door of the hotel (shoes that were comfortable enough for her to be dancing in all night..)

The last version of the timeline from her is totally inconsistent, she first said she told her husband she was going to bed, and then she said that she was going to her room to change her shoes. It's clear to me that they're lying about him thinking his wife was on her way and about how little time he was alone with me. What I am convinced happened is that she went to bed, and then went looking for him when he didn't come back. And that's fine, but why did they lie about it first?

Also, her story about hitting me has changed, first she 'beat the two of us', then it changed to she slapped me once, then changed to 'she pushed me twice' (all told to me by the boss) and the last version from his wife was that she only hit him and didn't touch me.
And the worst thing she said that sends chills down my spine, is that she said before she left, she 'checked me to make sure nothing else had happened and my clothes were all in place'

Seriously. If i was conscious enough to consent to a kiss or take his pants down, she wouldn't have needed to check my clothes. That indicates to me I was unconscious when this happened, and she is now trying to protect her family from what her husband did by making me think that it was just a drunken kiss.

The last thing she told me on that call was to not tell anyone else about what happened, she wants to keep it quiet, also a few hours later, she texted me asking me to come into work on Thursday or Friday for tidy up some work.

I don't want to go into details about the company because I want to keep it anonymous and keep their identity secret, but she and her husband both control the company, so that's made it even more awkward, they run the company, I run the office, basically, I'm his secretary/pa. He can't run the place without me, at least not until he finds a replacement.

I know there are people talking about false memories, but I have been having a few flashbacks of that night. I'm not going to go into them but they confirm my suspicion that I was passed out outside and only came into the house some hours later.

Some people think it's irresponsible to use the rape word, but if you woke up in an alley and the next day you got a call saying that a man had been interrupted with you with his pants down and you have no memory of any of that, what would you think happened?

What would you do if you have a horrible feeling that your boss did something horrible and you have absolutely no way of proving any of it?

I just want to get out of this job, my husband and I agree that I'm never going to be alone in the same room as this man again.