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How to deal with patronising work colleague

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  • #32
    HeavyHeaded
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 85 ✭✭HeavyHeaded


    Big Bag of Chips wrote: »
    I would reply to him with a question.

    Him: do you want me to show you xyz?
    You: no. why would I want you to show me xyz
    Him: in case you're not sure about xyz
    You: why would you think I'm unsure of xyz?

    .

    This is what I'll do when I get back. I'll be prepared when I go back as in the past it's taken me by surprise and my responses may not have been what I wanted.


  • #33
    LynnGrace
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,346 ✭✭✭LynnGrace


    If you are otherwise happy in the job, I certainly wouldn't be thinking of leaving because of him. Those people are everywhere, believe me. As said upthread, they always know the right noises to make when management are around.
    If you are going to start asking him 'why would I need you to tell me etc' make sure to smile, in a slightly puzzled fashion, as you are doing it. He won't know what to make of that.


  • #34
    Ursus Horribilis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,168 ✭✭✭Ursus Horribilis


    You also need to learn how to shut down people like this, rather than engaging with them and allowing them to push your buttons.


  • #35
    HeavyHeaded
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 85 ✭✭HeavyHeaded


    Ursus Horribilis wrote: »
    You also need to learn how to shut down people like this, rather than engaging with them and allowing them to push your buttons.

    I definitely do. It's making be dread work which isn't good either.


  • #36
    by8auj6csd3ioq
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,124 ✭✭✭by8auj6csd3ioq


    ignore him


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  • #37
    robbiezero
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,901 ✭✭✭robbiezero


    Next time he mentions his lack of qualifications just say to him nicely - "Why don't you try and do something about it, like a course or night classes etc"?
    He will respond that he doesn't need them etc and you can reply - "Then why does it bother you so much".


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