Married Life

tedpan · 28-09-2017 08:02AM

suicide_circus wrote:

Marriage is not the problem.

suicide_circus wrote:

It's the kids.

Spot on. Married 7 years, loving it.

The moment a kid arrives, the husband/wife is number 2. Why would anyone have a kid?

corner of hells · 28-09-2017 08:09AM

tedpan wrote: »

suicide_circus wrote:

Marriage is not the problem.

suicide_circus wrote:

It's the kids.

Spot on. Married 7 years, loving it.

The moment a kid arrives, the husband/wife is number 2. Why would anyone have a kid?

Small kids are handy when the remote control goes missing or useful if you need something valuable broken.

_Roz_ · 28-09-2017 09:58AM

I hope not. We don't want kids, and we're also not married (that's probably a long ways off as he has to divorce the last one first), so I hope we'll be good to go for some time yet.

Stan27 · 28-09-2017 01:47PM

Roger Hassenforder wrote: »

If you haven't married her yet , think about going gay:

Pros:
higher disposable income
Don't have to drive a people carrier
Can take a dump without an audience
Sleep in at weekends
Everything you touch isn't sticky/snotty
No turds behind the couch
You can wear whatever the fcuk u like

Cons:
The sex might take a bit of getting used to

This is hilarious. Make me laugh lol

Jim Bob Scratcher · 28-09-2017 02:18PM

Malayalam wrote: »

Don't get married, Jim Bob. All the forty and fifty somethings I know who are single are worn out and hollow-looking from the amount of rides they are getting.

(Not!)

:rolleyes:

Is that after they broke up with the wife ? :pac:

naughtysmurf · 28-09-2017 10:57PM

I'm married +20 years, had sex three times this week

Just don't tell the Mrs

Martina1991 · 28-09-2017 11:08PM

Honestly, does sex drive take a dive when you get older or do kids get in the way?

Pwindedd · 28-09-2017 11:29PM

Some make it ... Some don't.

That's the only certainty.

naughtysmurf · 28-09-2017 11:40PM

Martina1991 wrote: »

Honestly, does sex drive take a dive when you get older or do kids get in the way?

Both, sex drive dips as you get older for many, Lots of things happen, kids, careers, tiredness, LIFE,,
It's all about priorities & creativeness, last Sunday the Mrs & myself were having a nice time at 6,45pm, the eldest was plugged into the Xbox, the youngest was outside playing...... I miss massage nights though

GingerLily · 29-09-2017 08:22AM

Jim Bob Scratcher wrote: »

Just looking at the PI forum I'm beginning to believe there's some truth to this unfortunately. So may many men living in sexless marriages, and wondering what the heck to do ?

You tend to get pretty extreme cases in that forum, it's hardly a an unbiased sub population of Ireland now is it?

Day Lewin · 29-09-2017 08:25AM

Veteran. Decades.
According to newspaper articles, we do a lot more sex than your modern 30-yr-olds.
There were definitely lean years when the sprogs were small - granted.
But the last ten years have been brill. Full of pleasure, fetish and excitement. Hang in there, take the longer view, and work on your technique.

naughtysmurf · 29-09-2017 08:25AM

People get lazy in other aspects of the relationship too, which doesn't help to keep eachother gagging for it, just because there is a ring on your finger, doesn't mean the sex is on tap,, applies to both sex's, people change too over time, there is lots of stuff going on really,,,,,,, I'm not usually this thoughtful at 8.25am

Jim Bob Scratcher · 29-09-2017 08:27AM

GingerLily wrote: »

You tend to get pretty extreme cases in that forum, it's hardly a an unbiased sub population of Ireland now is it?

Well, it's quite an insight to married life, on how it can turn out.

Malayalam · 29-09-2017 08:29AM

Day Lewin wrote: »

Veteran. Decades.
According to newspaper articles, we do a lot more sex than your modern 30-yr-olds.
There were definitely lean years when the sprogs were small - granted.
But the last ten years have been brill. Full of pleasure, fetish and excitement. Hang in there, take the longer view, and work on your technique.

Another veteran. Decades also. Agree with this post. If you actually fancy each other - which unbelievably can last! - it's very good to make love with someone you have loved for a very long time.

Romantic Rose · 29-09-2017 08:30AM

I have two small children and I sink into bed every night. I definitely feel like we need to put the spark back in the relationship but I'm digging deep to find the energy, zzz.

_Kaiser_ · 29-09-2017 08:37AM

You don't even need to be married really. Any long term relationship where kids have come along will affect it.

As someone else said, when that happens the needs of the 2 adults come second (and rightly so in fairness). The problem is when one/both stop trying entirely and give up, even after the kids are a bit older. Of course the workload and day to day routine and stresses are significant, but the relationship is effectively just 2 people with a kid at that point.

There's a lot of very funny posts here about "don't tell the wife"

but I wonder just how common that really is, especially given things like (the lack of) father's rights (especially if unmarried), the way that the wife will generally get the family home while the husband is financially castrated etc.. Not saying that's a justification for infidelity, but it may make it more understandable.

D3V!L · 29-09-2017 08:38AM

From reading the thread its clear to see its having kids that will kill your sex life , not getting married.

mcko · 29-09-2017 08:58AM

Normally after kids ha ha

minikin · 29-09-2017 09:00AM

If it dries up: lube or spit.

nikkibikki · 29-09-2017 09:55AM

Romantic Rose wrote:

I have two small children and I sink into bed every night. I definitely feel like we need to put the spark back in the relationship but I'm digging deep to find the energy, zzz.

DO IT! You'll sleep sounder for starters!

Un1corn · 29-09-2017 10:23AM

To all the lads who have mentioned they are getting married, may I ask why? You gain very little and give up so much and put yourself at the mercy of another person. If you choose to cohabit you can still be with your girl and if she gets too crazy you can bail much easier.

Another point. I know so many men whose lives have been destroyed by women acting crazy. It's simply not worth it.

zmgakt7uw2dvfs · 29-09-2017 10:54AM

Married five years now. We reliably have sex around 3-4 times per week, including oral etc. And we have two kids. And we like having kids. And we like being married. Not sure if most of the responses are joking or if you just married the wrong person.

Jobs OXO · 29-09-2017 10:57AM

Liam Flabby Sinus wrote: »

Married five years now. We reliably have sex around 3-4 times per week, including oral etc. And we have two kids. And we like having kids. And we like being married. Not sure if most of the responses are joking or if you just married the wrong person.

You could be 25 or 55 we don't know !

zmgakt7uw2dvfs · 29-09-2017 11:14AM

Bloomber Terminal wrote: »

I would say you are in the 99th percentile for sex frequency for those married with kids.

I don't know to be honest, maybe we are, maybe we're not. My wife has always loved receiving and giving oral (one of the reasons I married her!) and this hasn't changed at all in the seven years I've known her, or since we had kids. We're in our late 30s.

She stays at home, my job isn't stressful, and we've no financial pressure (perhaps those are also factors). I find that seeing how good a mother she is makes me desire her more and she says pretty much the same about me as a dad. I can definitely say that our sex life is pretty predictable, but we are both creatures of habit and anyway, it got predictable after a few months.

Now, as someone who was single for years on end in my 20s, that type of life is definitely something I'd hate to go back to, or be stuck in. I can't imagine being single and childless heading into my 50s and beyond.

nikkibikki · 29-09-2017 12:51PM

Un1corn wrote:

To all the lads who have mentioned they are getting married, may I ask why? You gain very little and give up so much and put yourself at the mercy of another person. If you choose to cohabit you can still be with your girl and if she gets too crazy you can bail much easier.

Jaysus talk about cynical! There is a lot to gain if it's what you both want. It's usually best to know in advance tho if your partner is crazy.

Un1corn wrote:

Another point. I know so many men whose lives have been destroyed by women acting crazy. It's simply not worth it.

No crazy men around at all then? Don't you watch EastEnders?

naughtysmurf · 29-09-2017 12:59PM

Liam Flabby Sinus wrote: »

I don't know to be honest, maybe we are, maybe we're not. My wife has always loved receiving and giving oral (one of the reasons I married her!) and this hasn't changed at all in the seven years I've known her, or since we had kids. We're in our late 30s.

She stays at home, my job isn't stressful, and we've no financial pressure (perhaps those are also factors). I find that seeing how good a mother she is makes me desire her more and she says pretty much the same about me as a dad. I can definitely say that our sex life is pretty predictable, but we are both creatures of habit and anyway, it got predictable after a few months.

Now, as someone who was single for years on end in my 20s, that type of life is definitely something I'd hate to go back to, or be stuck in. I can't imagine being single and childless heading into my 50s and beyond.

Well, great but if you added a bit of work stress, financial pressure, both working, bit of shift work maybe I think your numbers would be different

Four Phucs Ache · 29-09-2017 01:02PM

I have 2 kids 6 and 8 that don't go asleep until we do so it takes a bit of imagination and a lot of excuses about random emergencies.

Our bedroom doesn't have a door anymore because of a game of monopoly one night so currently mammy and daddy tidy up the attic from time to time.

Jobs OXO · 29-09-2017 01:22PM

Un1corn wrote: »

To all the lads who have mentioned they are getting married, may I ask why? You gain very little and give up so much and put yourself at the mercy of another person. If you choose to cohabit you can still be with your girl and if she gets too crazy you can bail much easier.

Another point. I know so many men whose lives have been destroyed by women acting crazy. It's simply not worth it.

The biatches don't be cra-cra if you give them enough of that sweet sweet sex stick.....

ahnowbrowncow · 29-09-2017 01:29PM

Roger Hassenforder wrote: »

If you haven't married her yet , think about going gay:

Pros:
higher disposable income
Don't have to drive a people carrier
Can take a dump without an audience
Sleep in at weekends
Everything you touch isn't sticky/snotty
No turds behind the couch
You can wear whatever the fcuk u like

Cons:
The sex might take a bit of getting used to

Your missus sounds like a handful

Romantic Rose · 29-09-2017 01:59PM

nikkibikki wrote: »

DO IT! You'll sleep sounder for starters!

Hahaha I have no problem falling asleep. That's the problem, I'm asleep by the time my head hits the pillow.

We have no excuse now as we moved the wobbler into his own room.

Need to get a date night going every few weeks.

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