Irish bride-to-be pleads with hotel

razorblunt · 20-09-2017 12:44PM

If the Best Man doesn't play a video of well wishes from Joe Duffy and crew, then should he even be considered as the best man?

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Bacchus · 20-09-2017 12:50PM

ohnonotgmail wrote: »

how are 16 guests not turning up costing her €2000?

Reading between the lines, its pretty obvious this is about 16 gifts not attending her wedding to pay for the meals (and everything else). €2000 out of 16 gifts is a big stretch (10 gifts really... 6 couples + 4 individuals). €200 per couple (which is generous) gives her €1200... €100 from the 4 individuals gets her up to €1600. She's not too far off but her estimate is optimistic.

Boom_Bap · 20-09-2017 12:52PM

Loadsa extra desserts at the wedding, that's a win for the guests confirmed.

MarkR · 20-09-2017 12:52PM

She's not out 2k to the hotel. She's out an expected 2k in envelopes from the guests. If the late quitters were any ways decent, they'd be sending what they would have sent .

gramar · 20-09-2017 12:54PM

MarkR wrote: »

She's not out 2k to the hotel. She's out an expected 2k in envelopes from the guests. If the late quitters were any ways decent, they'd be sending what they would have sent .

They may well have done but might be reconsidering!
Her devious plan has backfired in the worst way possible.

20-09-2017 12:55PM

Heard it yesterday myself. The bride is a nasty piece of work.

Some of her guests have decided that they would rather play a football match (GAA) rather than go to her wedding. The hotel say that she has to go pay for the number of people booked as the wedding is in a few days. Bride lies by saying that a friend works for Joe Duffy & threatened to blacken the good name of the hotel.
Bride should be annoyed with her guests. Should have named & shamed them on air and not the hotel that has broken the terms of the contract in any way.

duffman13 · 20-09-2017 12:58PM

MarkR wrote: »

She's not out 2k to the hotel. She's out an expected 2k in envelopes from the guests. If the late quitters were any ways decent, they'd be sending what they would have sent .

100%, if I accepted an invite for a wedding and something popped up last minute that I couldn't make it, I would still send a card with cash. I've accepted the invite and would feel bad enough not going.

She's mad a tit of herself and I'd say a lot of the groom's friends and family are thinking the worst of her now.

ITMissy · 20-09-2017 12:59PM

Oh this is terrible. I would imagine it got completely out of her control and she lost the plot.

Butterface · 20-09-2017 12:59PM

We recently signed the wedding contract with our hotel of choice, and the minimum numbers are similar to theirs.. the hotel actually brought down their usual minimum numbers for us.

If some of our invited guests do not turn up, then that's unfortunate. However, we have agreed the contract with the hotel, fair is fair.

It's a pity she brought attention to this, it will overshadow their day

Bacchus · 20-09-2017 01:00PM

MarkR wrote: »

She's not out 2k to the hotel. She's out an expected 2k in envelopes from the guests. If the late quitters were any ways decent, they'd be sending what they would have sent .

Though weddings are a bit of a circus and for some couples it's an opportunity to have a big party with all the bells and whistles at their guest expense (or even make a bit of money off it), in this kind of late pull out the decent thing for those people would be to still provide a gift (even if it's smaller than they would have given if they attended). It's not a guests responsibility to pay for a couples wedding but that is essentially the reality of a lot of (if not most) weddings in Ireland and this couple booked the venue, meal and various vendors based on what they expected to afford (which includes €x times 130 guests). 16 people pulling out a few days in advance is essentially costing her between €1000 and €1600 which is no small figure (assuming they also withhold any gift). The way she has gone about this though is completely wrong. It's nothing to do with the hotel and threatening with going live on air was a terrible idea. Gonna be a lovely sense of tension now all day on Saturday with the venue now.

Muahahaha · 20-09-2017 01:00PM

Jaysis she really is a muppet. She threatens the hotel with Joe Duffy and ends up being humiliated on Joe Duffy by the hotel manager who exposes her lies.

Imagine what the main topic of conversation is going to be among guests on her wedding day? There is going to be one giant elephant in the room that nobody can mention to her directly but that everyone will be talking about behind her back. She knows it, the grooms family all know it as do the guests. Even the waiting and bar staff who will be serving the guests know what she did. The hotel manager will be telling her he hopes she has a lovely day while he is sniggering inside.

And all eyes will be on her for her wedding day but for all the wrong reasons. I almost feel sorry for except I dont, she brought it on herself after all.

20-09-2017 01:01PM

Loughc wrote:

The Cost of the meal would be closer to â‚¬50 than â‚¬25. Then there's prob half bottle of wine â‚¬15, still way off â‚¬125 package mark she's claiming she's paying.

I thought it was 16 guess. My wife insists she heard 28 not turning up. Maybe girlfriends of the footballers not going too?

gramar · 20-09-2017 01:02PM

Muahahaha wrote: »

Jaysis she really is a muppet. She threatens the hotel with Joe Duffy and ends up being humiliated on Joe Duffy by the hotel manager who exposes her lies.

Imagine what the main topic of conversation is going to be among guests on her wedding day? There is going to be one giant elephant in the room that nobody can mention to her directly but that everyone will be talking about behind her back. She knows it, the grooms family all know it as do the guests. Even the waiting and bar staff who will be serving the guests know what she did. The hotel manager will be telling her he hopes she has a lovely day while he is sniggering inside.

And all eyes will be on her on her wedding day but for all the wrong reasons. I almost feel sorry for except I dont, she brought it on herself after all.

If ever there was a wedding to appear in hello magazine or whatever the Irish equivalent is, then this is it.

Logo · 20-09-2017 01:02PM

In her defense, maybe she booked the hotel based on acceptance replies to invites. But I'd love to hear his side of the story Joe...

endacl · 20-09-2017 01:03PM

ITMissy wrote: »

Oh this is terrible funny. I would imagine it got completely out of her control and she lost the plot.

There. Better.

Bacchus · 20-09-2017 01:05PM

Logo wrote: »

In her defense, maybe she booked the hotel based on acceptance replies to invites. But I'd love to hear his side of the story Joe...

Hotel would have been booked long before a single invite went out. They estimated their numbers and booked the hotel/package based on that. Looks like they got their numbers right but this last minute drop out of 16 people was not anticipated. I'd feel sorry for the couple in this situation if it weren't for how badly she handled it. Had she said nothing, the hotel may even have just offered a discounted rate anyway and in all likelihood she still would have gotten gifts from the late no-shows.

The Backwards Man · 20-09-2017 01:05PM

If I was one of the ones going to the GAA match I'd change my mind and go to the wedding instead, sounds like there could be a bit of spice to it now.

Loughc · 20-09-2017 01:06PM

Sleeper12 wrote: »

I thought it was 16 guess. My wife insists she heard 28 not turning up. Maybe girlfriends of the footballers not going too?

I think the manager said it was 6 couples and 4 individuals that couldn't make it now.

ITMissy · 20-09-2017 01:11PM

endacl wrote: »

ITMissy wrote: »

Oh this is terrible funny. I would imagine it got completely out of her control and she lost the plot.

There. Better.

Thanks for fixing it up for me.

jamesbere · 20-09-2017 01:12PM

The bride really dug a hole for herself here. Imagine the atmosphere in the hotel when the reception is on. The match their on about must be a replay, can't see any other reason why a match would be scheduled this late.

20-09-2017 01:13PM

Scarleh fer her Ma fer havin' her :eek:

super_furry · 20-09-2017 01:13PM

She'd be better off sending an invoice to the guests that don't turn up.

Better off still in staying quiet and paying her bill.

Boom_Bap · 20-09-2017 01:14PM

Deleted User wrote: »

Scarleh fer her Ma fer havin' her :eek:

Scarleh for her da for ridin her ma

That is going to be one awkward wedding now given that she values all her guests in monetary terms.

Logo · 20-09-2017 01:14PM

The Backwards Man wrote: »

If I was one of the ones going to the GAA match I'd change my mind and go to the wedding instead, sounds like there could be a bit of spice to it now.

And I'd join you for a pint too. But where's the bride-groom when bridesella goes on the rampage?

valoren · 20-09-2017 01:14PM

She sent out invites to people which they accepted.

Now they decided to play a match instead leaving her out of pocket contractually with the hotel.
That's pretty appalling from those who decided to stay away having accepted an invitation.

There's a reason invitations have RSVP. It let's the couple confirm who will be attending to solidify expected numbers.
They will be attending barring an emergency situation, illness, a death etc. In many cases, couples have to ring people they've sent invites to before hotel deadline for numbers to confirm if they'll be there. People are really that stupid. "Oh...yeah...we'll be going alright..."

A football match is not an emergency. Clearly the bride in this case is quite understandably livid, clearly she is stressed out to the point of threatening a hotel with a smear via Joe Duffy. A self-absorbed bluff which the management tactfully called her on. From their point of view, they agreed a price, they spent from their expenses in lieu of that and don't want to be out of pocket understandably because of a group of ignorant GAA players.

jimmycrackcorm · 20-09-2017 01:17PM

"You can't use Liveline as a threat," Philip Boucher-Hayes told the bride-to-be, "that doesn't work."

This is disappointing news for players on boards who suggest that people contact liveline whenever they whinge about something.

Somehow I suspect this GAA match is an excuse for some people to avoid a bridezilla

super_furry · 20-09-2017 01:18PM

Even the story is misleading. She doesn't "face a €2,000 bill for no-show guests". She faces the same bill she agreed with the hotel. Some guests won't be turning up now and she wants a refund for their dinner.

joeysoap · 20-09-2017 01:19PM

A summons to a wedding now generally costs the recipients a cash present, even if they indicate they are not attending. If they do intend to attend I would expect that the cash present is increased. I would have thought €250 for a couple was pretty normal now but maybe I am out on that one. (A first communion is €50+)

Between outfits, hairdressers, drinks, presents, and maybe an hotel night ( or a taxi) wedding summonses are a costly business.:pac:

Irish bride-to-be pleads with hotel

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