26 and missing out on concerts, festivals, and life in general.

GalwayGrrrrrl · 03-09-2017 08:02AM

OP - you need to make a plan to meet new people. What skills do you have? What would you like to learn? As you seem to like music is there a local music group/band/choir that you can join? Maybe to learn some new music (group drumming is popular and fun). Look for a local music festival/arts festival and volunteer- you'll meet lots of new people.
If you are good with computers volunteer with Coder Dojo to teach youngsters. Like fitness, help out at Parkrun. Enjoy the outdoors? Scouts always need helpers. These are just a few things off the top of my head but it shows there are ways to gently push yourself out of your comfort zone and widen your social circle. Joining a local choir helped me hugely. We meet often for social events, go to concerts, drinks, shows etc.

Wompa1 · 05-09-2017 06:06AM

missingoutonlife wrote: »

I've done plenty of things in life but they've all been alone.

Traveled alone on the typical backbacking trip to southeast Asia

I think you think other people are having much more fun and glamorous lives than they are. Don't believe what you see people post on Facebook or brag about. It's all for show. I didn't know know there was such thing as the typical backpackging trip to southeast Asia...not everybody gets to do that...

Anyway, you are the only one who can change your life. I advice against trying to find people to become co-dependent on...

jsms88 · 06-09-2017 06:08AM

You're not alone OP. I'm 29 and in the very same position as you. If i wanted to go to something like electric picnic, I wouldn't have 4-5 friends who I could go with either. I'm shy and it takes me a long time to get comfortable with new people so making friends can be tough. I've gotten better at it in recent years but as I said, it's still a problem. It's just the way it is.

The main thing I can say to you is that there are lots of people in the same boat. Everybody else is not having the fantastic social life you think they are. Some might be but certainly not all (or even most).

AidanadiA · 07-09-2017 02:34PM

I think you get out what you put in.

I wouldn't have loads of friends and out of the few I do have to get them to hang out together to do a pub quiz, you must be laughing! But I have gone along to pub quizzes with a gang f people I didn't know (I only knew one person there).
I've gone to Scotland with a gang of girls and only knew my cousin.

Unless you go and join groups, go to events and make an effort it isn't going to fall into your lap.

If it helps I've never once gone to a festival like EP or longitude even though I've always wanted too. Other things are more import than spending the money on a ticket, bills, food on the table, roof over my head.

There are great get together groups on that you can join getout.ie etc.

Neon_Lights · 08-09-2017 06:57AM

I'm the same age in a similar predicament OP, the GF and I have decided to go travelling to Oz to plug this gap. Be abundant in terms of new experiences, places and generally escaping the drudgery and begrudgery of Ireland. Don't let anyone hold you back from doing what you want to do.

The way I see of it with friends, everyone's priorities change. Only a few you meet will basically make it like it's been yesterday since you've met. These are the true friends.

Fozzydog3 · 08-09-2017 03:44PM

Get a couple off days off work and get a bnb down the country if you are careful with money you could easily do it under 100 euro if you were smart with your money.

If your social life is as you say, you might aswell get comfortable in your own company. And there's nothing wrong with that.

26 and missing out on concerts, festivals, and life in general.

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