Do relationships with big age gaps last?

Permabear · 27-07-2017 11:19AM

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retro:electro · 27-07-2017 11:23AM

laserlad2010 wrote: »

One of my goals in life is to be present, on Boards, when Permabear admits he's made the whole thing up.

Every chance he gets, he launches into the same speech - "You'd think that the housing crisis will worsen/homelessness will be sorted/the ECB will raise it's interest rates... but when I met my OH in a church in North Carolina, I was impressed by her maturity. 2 years later we are happily settled with 3 children. She loves to swim in the sea and I love to indulge her".

I'm following all of his posts, just to be there on the day when he gives up:D:D

Now now that's not right.
He has four kids :pac:

27-07-2017 11:24AM

Permabear wrote: »

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Well it's pretty feasible for a 22 year old to be with someone can't get served. It's pretty odd when a 42 year old can't bring his other half to a bar for a drink because she's not old enough yet.

Bandana boy · 27-07-2017 11:27AM

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Sure no relationship is exactly equal ,There is always times when you are playing to each others strengths and the give an take of a life together.

But relationships should be roughly equal , your seems very one sided , and I suspect even if she wanted to leave , she is a good few years away from being in a position where that would not mean a sever blow to her and her children's quality of life.

I will take your word that you are both Happy with the arrangement and wish you best of luck.

Permabear · 27-07-2017 11:28AM

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The Moldy Gowl · 27-07-2017 11:30AM

2 years is hardly long term anyway so i dont know why you think you are an authority on it.
At 42 you should know that already.

If you keep spending this much time talkinh about her on boards, ye wont be together in 2 years.

But keep talking. Ive called sick to keep up to date.

WHIP IT! · 27-07-2017 11:30AM

This thread:

Person 1: "My mate had a relationship with an age gap and they got on great. So yeah they do work."

Person 2: "My mate had a relationship with an age gap and they broke up. So no they don't work."

Repeat for 11 million pages...

Permabear · 27-07-2017 11:33AM

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The Moldy Gowl · 27-07-2017 11:34AM

WHIP IT! wrote: »

This thread:

Person 1: "My mate had a relationship with an age gap and they got on great. So yeah they do work."

Person 2: "My mate had a relationship with an age gap and they broke up. So no they don't work."

Repeat for 11 million pages...

No its not. Are you not keeping up with all the sly digs and the entrenched american who wont give in to the feminist bitter mid 30s women who are bitter he has a younger woman.

WHIP IT! · 27-07-2017 11:37AM

The Moldy Gowl wrote: »

No its not. Are you not keeping up with all the sly digs and the entrenched american who wont give in to the feminist bitter mid 30s women who are bitter he has a younger woman.

I must've glazed over after the first 9 millions pages!
Hang on, I'll scroll back a bit!

leggo · 27-07-2017 11:37AM

WHIP IT! wrote: »

This thread:

Person 1: "My mate had a relationship with an age gap and they got on great. So yeah they do work."

Person 2: "My mate had a relationship with an age gap and they broke up. So no they don't work."

Repeat for 11 million pages...

Have you read it? That's not it at all! First people were like, "Yeah it's weird...", then someone came along all like, "How dare you sir I met my wife when she was a foetus and we're married now blah blah blah" and everyone else is all "Oh yay! Liberal views!" Then it was a bit of a circle jerk for a bit.

Then Permabear was like, "Yeah me too bro! I met my partner when I was 42 and she was 18!" And everyone was all like, "Oooo...kay, good for you!" And he got a bit more in-depth like, "Yeah her dad kicked her out when she's 16 but it's cool we talked about it and she totally doesn't have any daddy issues." Then everyone is like "Well look...while you're here and are happy to chat we've some questions...And by some, I mean ALL of the questions." Then some people started yelling and throwing stuff.

Now I see it like an inquest where we all wake up first thing with our coffees, walk politely together while making small talk, then spend the day dissecting every aspect of Permabear's life, before clocking out at the end of the day and all leaving together amicably. Some people go for a swim, some don't.

whoopsadoodles · 27-07-2017 11:37AM

WHIP IT! wrote: »

This thread:

Person 1: "My mate had a relationship with an age gap and they got on great. So yeah they do work."

Person 2: "My mate had a relationship with an age gap and they broke up. So no they don't work."

Repeat for 11 million pages...

You obviously haven't read more than the first two pages

Wibbs · 27-07-2017 11:37AM

Dial Hard wrote: »

It's the fact that the entire thing is a third-rate fantasy not even worthy of a Mills & Boon novel that people have an issue with.

Funny enough I personally know of relationship and life setups that make all of this sound perfectly normal and plausible. EG a wealthy lad who travels the world who has in effect three "wives" with kids(4 so far) in three countries who all know about one another. Two are slightly younger than him, one much younger. Another also worth a few bob who after his divorce uses high end escorts when the need arises(as do a few in his circle). In his case one might expect he'd go the much younger route(he's mid forties) because he's buying it, but nope goes for women in their thirties.

27-07-2017 11:38AM

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My point is that it's a strange situation that a man in his forties is unable to order his OH a glass of wine at dinner because she is not of age. Granted, it's nowhere near as strange as the fact that you and your girlfriend used to babysit a single 17 year old's baby together and then you ended up with said teenager and adopting that very same baby.

WHIP IT! · 27-07-2017 11:44AM

whoopsadoodles wrote: »

You obviously haven't read more than the first two pages

Not gonna lie - that's exactly what happened!

Permabear · 27-07-2017 11:46AM

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Permabear · 27-07-2017 12:01PM

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Bambi985 · 27-07-2017 12:01PM

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She was a single mother and high school drop-out who was struggling to make ends meet and was estranged from her parents when you, a wealthy hedge fund manager more than twice her age, met her. If that's not a power imbalance I don't know what is.

The "fixer-upper" stuff makes you sound like her sponsor rather than her life partner, like she was a project to work on while gleefully telling the world you had a 19 year old missus, but look she's in college now and climbing up the corporate ladder while two years ago she was Cinderella. Go me!

It's like it's a (poorly-scripted) ego boost, to both take pleasure in harping on about your teenage girlfriend when you're a man in your 40s; but also to have this absolute control over the course of her life - almost as if to justify your relationship with someone so young in the first place. Who can criticise when you've turned her life around so drastically? Whether she wanted it or not seems totally irrelevant.

B0jangles · 27-07-2017 12:07PM

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Hmmm...

Permabear · 27-07-2017 12:08PM

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Kimbot · 27-07-2017 12:09PM

Pablo_Picasso wrote: »

Do you believe relationships, where there is a significant age gap(10 years and over), actually work/ last? Are they based on lust?

I was in a relationship with a 10 year age gap, I was 33 and she was just going on 23. At first we were just chatting as friends etc and it led to more. I was a bit taken aback at first but however sceptical I was about it working out etc I went ahead. We lasted 3 years, there was just too massive a gulf between us in the end that we parted ways. Sometimes they work and sometimes they don't but from experience of myself and people I know that have been through it I would say 90% of the relationships didnt last one only a small few a still going strong right now.

27-07-2017 12:11PM

Permabear wrote: »

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The situation is you live in the United States. The situation is you're a man in his 40's who's other half is not allowed to have a drink because she's not old enough. These are facts. To most people, this is an odd scenario.

Permabear wrote: »

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People do break up and get together. Most 40 year old's people don't end up taking their their 17 year old friend's child on as their own, especially as they used to mind that very child with their own OH. That is a weird, weird situation no matter what way you slice it.

Here's the thing, if you just said ''look I recognise our realtionship is not really common or usual but it works for us and we don't give a fcuk what anyone thinks'' people would have nothing they could say. All this she's never been happier swimming in the sea bullplop is what rubs people up the wrong way.

The babysitting for a single teen mother with your ex and subsequently getting with that teen and taking the child on as your own is among the oddest catalysts for a relationship I've ever heard. It's odd stuff to volunteer and comes off as such. It's almost like you revel in it.

WHIP IT! · 27-07-2017 12:13PM

leggo wrote: »

Have you read it? That's not it at all! First people were like, "Yeah it's weird...", then someone came along all like, "How dare you sir I met my wife when she was a foetus and we're married now blah blah blah" and everyone else is all "Oh yay! Liberal views!" Then it was a bit of a circle jerk for a bit.

Then Permabear was like, "Yeah me too bro! I met my partner when I was 42 and she was 18!" And everyone was all like, "Oooo...kay, good for you!" And he got a bit more in-depth like, "Yeah her dad kicked her out when she's 16 but it's cool we talked about it and she totally doesn't have any daddy issues." Then everyone is like "Well look...while you're here and are happy to chat we've some questions...And by some, I mean ALL of the questions." Then some people started yelling and throwing stuff.

Now I see it like an inquest where we all wake up first thing with our coffees, walk politely together while making small talk, then spend the day dissecting every aspect of Permabear's life, before clocking out at the end of the day and all leaving together amicably. Some people go for a swim, some don't.

Bloody 'ell, lad - ya weren't lyin'! I've somewhat caught up... the Yank lad is getting it from all angles but he's holding his own to be fair... wonder what'll happen next...

The Moldy Gowl · 27-07-2017 12:14PM

Did you not tell me you haven't worked there in 2 years?
Im not going back to find the post.

Pac1Man · 27-07-2017 12:19PM

The Moldy Gowl wrote: »

Did you not tell me you haven't worked there in 2 years?
Im not going back to find the post.

He hasn't worked in an investment back in two years.

I have the last season on Blu-ray if you want a lend?

Permabear · 27-07-2017 12:20PM

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Stoner · 27-07-2017 12:28PM

Quick question. Lets say a 50 year old married a 30 year old.
After twenty years the now 50 year old is 70 and dies.

The other person is only 50 at that stage.

Would that count as lasting? I'm not suggesting that couples have to die together to constitute the relationship lasting. But at the same time it only lasted for 50 percent of those involved

The Moldy Gowl · 27-07-2017 12:29PM

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Ok noted. Didnt get the second part.

Whats the bloomberg ticker or the isin? Domiciled in the caymans or bermuda as well id say.
Whats the aum?

Do relationships with big age gaps last?

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