Do relationships with big age gaps last?

Arghus · 26-07-2017 08:35PM

eviltwin wrote: »

I have to commend Permabear staying in the thread despite massive criticism of his relationship. I'd have legged it ages ago.

Hmmm.

I'd view it as a case of some people like being the centre of attention. Even bad attention.

Permabear · 26-07-2017 08:48PM

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Permabear · 26-07-2017 08:57PM

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mdwexford · 26-07-2017 09:11PM

Whispered wrote: »

I met my husband when I was 17, him 18 so no age gap, but still two young adults. We got serious quickly for our age and were living together within a year. We married when I was 26. We don't feel we missed out on anything and I don't understand why it would be different for someone in an age gap relationship.

You both did miss out on loads though.

Stheno · 26-07-2017 09:14PM

Permabear wrote: »

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Im the oldest of ten with my youngest brother being a full twenty years younger than me.

I get on on an adult basiss with my sibs who are within ten years of me, those more than ten years younger tend to see me as almost youd see an aunt with the exception of my youngest brother who was born when i was in college with whom id have a fairly distant relationship tbh

Hey! I said hey! · 26-07-2017 09:26PM

This thread is turning out to be better than a soap or an episode of Jeremy Kyle (which wouldn't be hard tbf)

Whispered · 26-07-2017 09:45PM

mdwexford wrote: »

You both did miss out on loads though.

Like what?

eviltwin · 26-07-2017 09:53PM

Permabear wrote: »

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The age gap was fine. I don't think I'm the type who could handle two or three small ones together. It was great to have my daughter's help on a practical level, she's a great sister and has no problem babysitting or taking her brother out. Financially it made sense too, we are in the midst of college expenses for the next few years and there would be no money if I had to pay for two.

eviltwin · 26-07-2017 09:55PM

Whispered wrote: »

Like what?

Loads of casual sex is the only thing I can think off, if you consider that something to be missed out on.

ibarelycare · 26-07-2017 10:20PM

eviltwin wrote: »

Loads of casual sex is the only thing I can think off, if you consider that something to be missed out on.

Really? What about living independently of your parents with your friends and/or random strangers? The spontaneity of nights out/weekends away where you can put yourself first and don't have to work about a child and partner at home? Not looking at your watch and wondering when you have to go home while everyone else has their whole day/night to do what they please with? The experience of making money in your first "real" job and only having yourself to spend it on? Getting to stay in bed all day eating pizza and watching Netflix if you want to? Just putting yourself first in general as an adult is a lot to miss out on when you have children in your teens imo. There's more to being single in your 20s than getting drunk and having casual sex.

And FWIW getting drunk and having casual sex are/were great parts of my life that I am so glad to have experienced and feel like I would have missed out if I hadn't

Whispered · 26-07-2017 10:30PM

You're talking about being in a relationship with kids. Evil twin was referring to me asking what i missed out on by being in a relationship with some one from 17.

Having kids is a totally different kettle of fish!

26-07-2017 10:53PM

Just when I thought it couldn't get funnier.

buried · 26-07-2017 10:53PM

Actual lol for real

LadyMacBeth_ · 26-07-2017 10:56PM

I love you Aongus.

r93kaey5p2izun · 26-07-2017 10:56PM

I've had a good laugh reading this thread. It was like being back in my student days watching a marathon of crappy Sunset Beach episodes. Such fantastical bullsh1t.

And that was before AvB appeared! The cherry on top indeed.

I don't know anything about age gap relationships though. I have never known a couple more than 5 years apart in age.

26-07-2017 11:04PM

LadyMacBeth_ wrote: »

I love you Aongus.

Get in the queue!

Conor Bourke · 26-07-2017 11:06PM

Marry me, Aongus

ibarelycare · 26-07-2017 11:07PM

AvB should give lessons in decent storytelling...

Conor Bourke · 26-07-2017 11:10PM

ibarelycare wrote: »

AvB should give lessons in decent storytelling...

His story didn't have any completely irrelevant mentions of ocean swimming though

26-07-2017 11:10PM

I was questioning everything - my place as an expat here in Germany; my role within the bank that I worked for at the time; my ability to ever achieve a 38 minute 10k run again.

This is how it should be done. Aongus, this line alone is gold.

buried · 26-07-2017 11:10PM

ibarelycare wrote: »

AvB should give lessons in decent storytelling...

Some things can't be taught. They can only be Bismarcked

Conor Bourke · 26-07-2017 11:12PM

You know when you've been Bismarcked.

I hope to know, one day.

Dial Hard · 26-07-2017 11:13PM

ibarelycare wrote:

AvB should give lessons in decent storytelling...

6/10. No oceans or fossilised tree sap. The devil is in the details.

The Moldy Gowl · 26-07-2017 11:17PM

Take me to the ocean and show me how to be a man aongus.
Make me happy like no other.

worded · 26-07-2017 11:28PM

Pablo_Picasso wrote: »

Do you believe relationships, where there is a significant age gap(10 years and over), actually work/ last? Are they based on lust?

I keep seeing that as relationships with big "apes" ....

King Kong ?

27-07-2017 05:00AM

Permabear wrote: »

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You're 42 and your partner isn't legally old enough to purchase alcohol in your hometown. That's just hit me when reading back through the thread.

eviltwin · 27-07-2017 05:32AM

ibarelycare wrote: »

Really? What about living independently of your parents with your friends and/or random strangers? The spontaneity of nights out/weekends away where you can put yourself first and don't have to work about a child and partner at home? Not looking at your watch and wondering when you have to go home while everyone else has their whole day/night to do what they please with? The experience of making money in your first "real" job and only having yourself to spend it on? Getting to stay in bed all day eating pizza and watching Netflix if you want to? Just putting yourself first in general as an adult is a lot to miss out on when you have children in your teens imo. There's more to being single in your 20s than getting drunk and having casual sex.

And FWIW getting drunk and having casual sex are/were great parts of my life that I am so glad to have experienced and feel like I would have missed out if I hadn't

The flip is you get to do all that and more when you hit your late 30's. I wasn't into the party scene, still not, so tbh it was great to have an excuse not to be out. I was busy in my twenties establishing my career and buying a house and made the choice to put my money into that rather than the kinds of things my peers were. I'm glad I did because I'm in a much better position having a small mortgage nearly paid while they are in rentals they hate or buying miles from anywhere, worried about how to juggle parenthood with work or struggling to have kids at all. Once my mortgage is clear I intend to cut back on work, spend more time travelling and enjoying my free time. It seems like a good pay off to me. I can see the attraction of having no ties in your twenties too but different stokes for different folks, I don't think there is a right time to settle down or have a child, pros and cons to it whatever age you are.

psycho-hope · 27-07-2017 05:52AM

I hope so my husband is 12 years older than me, hes been married before with 2 teenage sons one who lives with him. Weve had a long distance relationship the whole time as he lives in the USA and I live here but we are on the home straight for me getting a visa now that we are married.

ceadaoin. · 27-07-2017 06:28AM

Omackeral wrote: »

You're 42 and your partner isn't legally old enough to purchase alcohol in your hometown. That's just hit me when reading back through the thread.

I was thinking that earlier. Next we'll be given stats about how it's all different (and much much better) in the US with regards the average age someone takes their first drink, how socializing is different etc etc. In reality, it's weird. What about those dinner parties with the CEOs? They could potentially have been prosecuted for serving alcohol to a minor if she had wine. Bizarre

inforfun · 27-07-2017 08:15AM

A few years ago i mentioned in some thread here i was breaking the "half your age +7 rule"
Still breaking it with the same one so.... it can last.

Do relationships with big age gaps last?

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