would you be embarassed by fussy eating?

FunLover18 · 26-06-2017 01:02PM

Readingt this thread you'd swear there was no middle ground between the kids menu and fine-dining. Like someone said earlier, Chinese restaurants have a wide variety of different options, I'm really surprised the OP couldn't find something. Most restaurants now do fried rice dishes which is basically just fried rice with meat thrown in, be it chicken, beef, duck. Like if you're past your teens and you have to resort to nuggets and chips then yeh I'm going to judge you. I'm not going to say it and I'm certainly not going to be embarrased to be seen with you, I'll probably pity you more than anything just because you're depriving yourself of some really nice food, and this is coming from someone who isn't even very adventurous themselves.

Sorry but not being willing to try a food because you can't pronounce it just seems a little ... well, sad.

Roger Hassenforder · 26-06-2017 01:10PM

I think I should be embarrassed for ordering steak absolutely cremated.
The faces some waiters pull when I ask for it incinerated.
Fcuk em, I'm paying for it, they can cook it the way I like it.

LirW · 26-06-2017 01:11PM

I find the combo of Lasagna and Chips really odd.

My FIL is a fussy eater, it's a nightmare. He wouldn't eat anything out and taking him out somewhere always ends up in some low key complaints. We went to this fancy fish restaurant a few months ago and they do this savage calamari, he ordered them and complained about them not being piping hot (they were absolutely bomb).
Yesterday he and MIL went to Flavours of Fingal with the prospect of grabbing something there. He had one of his grumpy days, he didn't get anything so she said she wouldn't eat because she doesn't want to eat alone, which I can understand. He bought himself some sausages there and ate them at home grumpily.
He lives off steamed spuds, fried eggs, fish&chips and the overcooked chicken his wife whips up 2 times a week.
At least he admits being a nightmare to please with food.
They're both so funny.

andekwarhola · 26-06-2017 01:15PM

I wouldn't be embarrassed in the slightest (and despise food snobbery) but it sounds a bit strange..

As in, if you genuinely want XY dish, fair enough but to want it as a comfort because you can't face 'normal' food sounds like my 6 year old and I assume it can lead to rude situations at places like weddings when you refuse the menu and look for kid food.

Lux23 · 26-06-2017 01:17PM

I know a girl that had chips and gravy as her wedding day, she couldn't even manage the mash!

Boom_Bap · 26-06-2017 01:18PM

I think a guy in works body is mostly made up of Meanies Crisps and Monster energy drink he consumes so much.

I used to be very fussy, now just fussy. A girl I used to date ( I can say that because she is American) was very annoyed by it, she didn't appreciate how I'd get a meal in a restaurant, get most of the veg removed while ordering, and then watch me rummage through it to remove anything else I didn't like when I got it.
She was particularly annoyed when we went to 'the best sea food place' in West Palm beach and I asked what they had that has not come from the sea.

I'm much better now though at eating stuff.

Will I Am Not · 26-06-2017 01:24PM

Is nobody else wondering why there's chicken nuggets in a Chinese restaurant?

Oink · 26-06-2017 01:25PM

In a restaurant, a fussy eater is free to order what they want. I know what I'll be thinking, but that's my own problem.
Now if you are a guest and the menu is set, I would expect the fussy eater to stfu, eat whatever is in front of them, and say thank you it was lovely. My 2 cents.

ash23 · 26-06-2017 01:25PM

If I were on a first date with someone who ordered chips and nuggets in a restaurant, it would put me off a second date. Only because I love food, I love cooking, I love eating out.....I'd feel that would be restricted if I were with someone who was a very fussy eater and wouldn't try new foods.

Imagine being so excited to go to a new restaurant or country and having to listen to the OH complain about the food or not want to go to a place because they can't get chips and nuggets etc.

DaeryssaOne · 26-06-2017 01:30PM

I'm sorry to say this but I would be mortified if you were my date at a wedding and asked for the kids menu. It shows an immaturity to adapt to differently tasting foods - apart from the fact the bride and groom have chosen and paid for the main course.

No problem with somebody not being adventurous (I wouldn't be over the top adventurous myself, there's plenty of tastes I don't like) but it's so boring if you can only go to the same type of places to make sure they'll have the 'plain chicken dish' that's the only available thing on the menu for you.

I was probably in my early 20s before I started to appreciate and eat lots more veg, fish, spices etc and now I couldn't imagine going back to such bland food that I used to enjoy.

Cee-Jay-Cee · 26-06-2017 01:31PM

I'd be embarrassed if someone in my company order a kiddies meal in a restaurant however I wouldn't say anything to that person about it but I would think its a bit childish and immature.

wally1990 · 26-06-2017 01:33PM

GLaDOS wrote: »

Call them goujons instead of nuggets and it becomes acceptable.

Haha so true

andekwarhola · 26-06-2017 01:36PM

ash23 wrote: »

If I were on a first date with someone who ordered chips and nuggets in a restaurant, it would put me off a second date. Only because I love food, I love cooking, I love eating out.....I'd feel that would be restricted if I were with someone who was a very fussy eater and wouldn't try new foods.

Whereas your date would presumably be plunged into a lasting depression at the thought of missing out on a life partner that inspected their dinner plate every night to make sure it passed muster?

GritBiscuit · 26-06-2017 01:36PM

ash23 wrote: »

...I love food, I love cooking, I love eating out.....I'd feel that would be restricted if I were with someone who was a very fussy eater and wouldn't try new foods.

I was just thinking the same...

In a friend I'd probably find it quite a funny quirk - in a potential partner it would be a seriously unattractive proposition...not sure what I'd have to be embarrassed about in any event, I'm not the one with the culinary repertoire of a toddler.

Godeatsboogers · 26-06-2017 01:37PM

Deleted User wrote: »

The only bad manners here is from people having the temerity to tell a grown adult what he should/shouldn't be eating. Bad breeding.

I can't abide when idiots in cafés and restaurants insist upon putting things on my order that I never asked for. This is widespread. If I order a sandwich, and specifically say I don't want salad dressing, coleslaw, crisps or anything else with it but you still put it on my plate that's just ignorant, patronising, disrespectful. You do not have some finer understanding of taste, and no, I don't feel happy to get something "free" on my plate. Just ignorant people, really.

When waiting staff give me free crisps I spell out 'I licked all of these' with them on the plate

ash23 · 26-06-2017 01:43PM

andekwarhola wrote: »

Whereas your date would presumably be plunged into a lasting depression at the thought of missing out on a life partner that inspected their dinner plate every night to make sure it passed muster?

Probably not. If food is a hobby/passion and the other person hates it, they wouldn't be very compatible. I'd feel the same if music/travel/hiking etc was my passion and the other person had no interest.

I wouldn't care what friends or family order when we eat out but in a relationship I wouldn't want to be with someone who was a really picky eater.

ScumLord · 26-06-2017 01:45PM

It's about as embarrassing as an adult trying to talk about their favourite episode of teletubbies or whatever the toddlers are into these days.

One of the advantages of getting old is you become more experienced, you get a wider range of knowledge on many different things.

Framed10 · 26-06-2017 01:45PM

Baron Kurtz wrote: »

Never got why the kiddies get the real shyte food on the menu. Are we not looking to set an example to parents with smallies of eating healthier etc? Here's some nuggets, chips and half-cooked cocktail sausages for ya, kids. It's all about the cost I suppose.

I don' know why there can't be a smaller version of some adult meals on the kids menu also. Parents often opt for the easy option.

There's alot of studies out there that believe fussiness in kids stems not from the taste of food but from its texture, how it feels.
Adults become “lazy” and forget to engage all their senses when selecting and eating food. Adults rely heavily on taste and sight when choosing food, whereas young children connect taste, touch, smell, sound, and sight.
If our taste buds were the only guide we had, a fillet steak would seem equally delicious after a trip through the blender.

Makes you wonder about Kids who only get pureed /blended foods,and never get to taste and feel food in their mouth from a young age.

I heard a DR. say on radio somewhere recently that it can often take up 30 times of just putting the food in your mouth and spitting it out for someone to get used to the texture of a certain food.
She gave mushrooms and Prawns as common examples.

IrishZeus · 26-06-2017 01:48PM

Food neophobia is almost impossible to explain to someone who has never experienced it. I suffered from it for years. From the time I was about 5 years old until about 20/21 years old, I lived exclusively on dinners made up of a combination of:

Waffles
Sausages
Chips
Chicken Nuggets
Mashed Potatoes

Nothing else.

When I was 5 or so, someone in my immediate family tried to force-feed me an orange and from that day onwards, I was terrified of trying new food. I would pick something new up on a fork and physically be afraid of putting it in my mouth. Anytime I got the fork past the lips, I would gag even if the food was completely "normal". I know it sounds ridiculous but it is true. Same as being afraid of heights, spiders, whatever. I would have jumped out a of a plane before I would have eaten a piece of fish.

I remember my parents being sick to their teeth of it at times as we would go out for a family dinner and I would only have the above from the menu. If the above wasn't on the menu, I would refuse to eat or we would have to stop on the way home for me. It was highly embarrassing for me as a child and was far far worse as I got older when work dinners, dates etc started to kick in.

Everyone assumed it was fussiness but it wasn't - it was pure terror at the thoughts of having to eat something new. I am now mostly past it and will eat a much broader spectrum of foods - only due to the fact that I started cooking meals myself and realised that I was far more comfortable eating something once I knew all the ingredients that had gone into it and had prepared it myself. To this day however, I will not touch an orange. Fupping evil basta*ds of things. Its a bloody nightmare of a phobia to suffer from purely from an embarrassment point of view as it rears its head in most social situations. I'm 32 now and still have to check menu's in advance to make sure I can eat in a certain restaurant!

So OP, to answer your question, you can order whatever the hell you like in my company, embarrassment-free. You can ask Guilbaud himself for a chicken nugget and I'l fully support your decision!

sammyjo90 · 26-06-2017 01:52PM

My boyfriend is an incredibly fussy eater. Steak and chips/mash and carrots thats about all he'd ever order out. Chicken the odd time. Doesnt like the consistency of rice/pasta.hates sauces other than mayo or gravy.. I blame his mother because apparently she was a terrible cook and probably didnt get him to try anything..he's 30 now and his diet is terrible..

I love eating out but i just go to the fancier, more adventurous places with my friends instead of dragging him there and the only thing he'll eat is a plain burger. The only thing i mind about hos fussyness is that I cant cook him dinner that i want to cook.

the_pen_turner · 26-06-2017 01:53PM

there are 2 side to it.
say a man and women go out for a meal. the woman love Chinese and the man dislikes it . they have 2 options.
the both go to a basic restaurant that served what the man wants but the woman isn't getting what she wants.
or they go to the Chinese and she gets her Chinese and he get what he wants too.
to look down at the man in this case is very rude, he is going somewhere he hates the food just so the woman can get what she wants .
he is being very flexible and should be commended or it.

lertsnim · 26-06-2017 02:22PM

I really couldn't care less about what someone else eats. If they want chicken nuggets and chips in a restaurant then so what. It's not like I'm going to be eating it.

Malari · 26-06-2017 02:27PM

lertsnim wrote: »

I really couldn't care less about what someone else eats. If they want chicken nuggets and chips in a restaurant then so what. It's not like I'm going to be eating it.

As people said, it limits the kind of place you end up going to. I don't mind this happening once in a while with friends, as I'll eat almost anywhere, but it would be off-putting for me if my partner was like this because a large part of being in a relationship is eating together...whether at home or out. I like to try new places and different cuisines and trying food and it would definitely bother me if my partner wouldn't try anything new, or would have to seek out a McDonald's or something when we were on hols.

tommythecat · 26-06-2017 02:31PM

the_pen_turner wrote: »

there are 2 side to it.
say a man and women go out for a meal. the woman love Chinese and the man dislikes it . they have 2 options.
the both go to a basic restaurant that served what the man wants but the woman isn't getting what she wants.
or they go to the Chinese and she gets her Chinese and he get what he wants too.
to look down at the man in this case is very rude, he is going somewhere he hates the food just so the woman can get what she wants .
he is being very flexible and should be commended or it.

How is he getting what he wants if he dislikes Chinese?

Cork Lass · 26-06-2017 03:28PM

Deleted User wrote: »

The only bad manners here is from people having the temerity to tell a grown adult what he should/shouldn't be eating. Bad breeding.

I can't abide when idiots in cafés and restaurants insist upon putting things on my order that I never asked for. This is widespread. If I order a sandwich, and specifically say I don't want salad dressing, coleslaw, crisps or anything else with it but you still put it on my plate that's just ignorant, patronising, disrespectful. You do not have some finer understanding of taste, and no, I don't feel happy to get something "free" on my plate. Just ignorant people, really.

Don't hold back there now - speak your mind.

the_pen_turner · 26-06-2017 03:37PM

tommythecat wrote: »

the_pen_turner wrote: »

there are 2 side to it.
say a man and women go out for a meal. the woman love Chinese and the man dislikes it . they have 2 options.
the both go to a basic restaurant that served what the man wants but the woman isn't getting what she wants.
or they go to the Chinese and she gets her Chinese and he get what he wants too.
to look down at the man in this case is very rude, he is going somewhere he hates the food just so the woman can get what she wants .
he is being very flexible and should be commended or it.

How is he getting what he wants if he dislikes Chinese?

By eating chips and nuggets.

ohnonotgmail · 26-06-2017 03:46PM

I wouldn't worry too much about it OP. It could be a lot worse. You could be a vegan or vegetarian. Now they are a real pain in the arse to go to dinner with.

conorhal · 26-06-2017 03:53PM

IrishZeus wrote: »

Food neophobia is almost impossible to explain to someone who has never experienced it. I suffered from it for years. From the time I was about 5 years old until about 20/21 years old, I lived exclusively on dinners made up of a combination of:
Waffles

Sausages

Chips

Chicken Nuggets

Mashed Potatoes

Nothing else.

When I was 5 or so, someone in my immediate family tried to force-feed me an orange and from that day onwards, I was terrified of trying new food. I would pick something new up on a fork and physically be afraid of putting it in my mouth. Anytime I got the fork past the lips, I would gag even if the food was completely "normal". I know it sounds ridiculous but it is true. Same as being afraid of heights, spiders, whatever. I would have jumped out a of a plane before I would have eaten a piece of fish.

I remember my parents being sick to their teeth of it at times as we would go out for a family dinner and I would only have the above from the menu. If the above wasn't on the menu, I would refuse to eat or we would have to stop on the way home for me. It was highly embarrassing for me as a child and was far far worse as I got older when work dinners, dates etc started to kick in.

Everyone assumed it was fussiness but it wasn't - it was pure terror at the thoughts of having to eat something new. I am now mostly past it and will eat a much broader spectrum of foods - only due to the fact that I started cooking meals myself and realised that I was far more comfortable eating something once I knew all the ingredients that had gone into it and had prepared it myself. To this day however, I will not touch an orange. Fupping evil basta*ds of things. Its a bloody nightmare of a phobia to suffer from purely from an embarrassment point of view as it rears its head in most social situations. I'm 32 now and still have to check menu's in advance to make sure I can eat in a certain restaurant!

So OP, to answer your question, you can order whatever the hell you like in my company, embarrassment-free. You can ask Guilbaud himself for a chicken nugget and I'l fully support your decision!

I shouldn't laugh, but I can't help picturing you on a first date in a snooty French bistro as a waiter takes your order.

Soo for ze lady, the Escargots de Bourgogne starter, Coq au vin and for dessert, the panna cotta.....
And for... Sir.. the eh... 'pettite bites of breaded poussin' ......with waffles, the same for your main and ah, jelly and icream for dessert? Yes, Hold the strawberrys.
Can I send over the sommelier, I'm sure he can reccomend something to drink from our fine selection of TK lemonades perhaps?

IrishZeus · 26-06-2017 04:07PM

conorhal wrote: »

I shouldn't laugh, but I can't help picturing you on a first date in a snooty French bistro as a waiter takes your order.

Soo for ze lady, the Escargots de Bourgogne starter, Coq au vin and for dessert, the panna cotta.....
And for... Sir.. the eh... 'pettite bites of breaded poussin' ......with waffles, the same for your main and ah, jelly and icream for dessert? Yes, Hold the strawberrys.
Can I send over the sommelier, I'm sure he can reccomend something to drink from our fine selection of TK lemonades perhaps?

Ha - been there and done that. Eventually learned to check the menu in advance and subtly change venue if required. Ordering from the kiddies menu in fluent French would have been a good way around it, if I had thought of it at the time!

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