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'Shallow' dealbreakers in a relationship?

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  • #542
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    Ada Deep Tapir wrote:
    I still want to know what it was you were supposed to be able to tell about someone from those two outfits goddammit.


    That one was a slut and one wasn't.


  • #543
    Lady is a tramp
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭Lady is a tramp


    Flibble wrote: »
    My friend pointed out that mah new beau looked a bit like a hedgehog.

    It was in the back of my mind when we attended a show together, where he volunteered himself for an act. Up on stage, noticeably shorter than everyone else & blinking rapidly/squinting into the bright stage lighting from behind his glasses. Then the song 'Bright Eyes' from Watership Down came on... And the transformation was complete in my mind's eye.

    He was legit a woodland creature.

    I broke up with him the next day.

    Was his name Jim?

    I broke up with a Jim for this exact same reason. He was lovely. Funny. Sweet. Interesting.

    But he did resemble a hedgehog. No denying it, and no going back once I realised it.


  • #544
    tomwaterford
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,768 ✭✭✭✭tomwaterford


    Flibble wrote: »
    I would have a problem with someone who has a disturbed sleep cycle, actually. If someone regularly stayed up past 1am and/or regularly slept past 10am I would count it as a very big turn off, and would use it as a reason not to have a second date with someone.

    How would you know this after a first date thou??


  • #545
    Widdershins
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,633 ✭✭✭✭Widdershins


    pilly wrote: »
    That one was a slut and one wasn't.

    I did wonder if it was the crop top that supposedly said so much.
    I'd love to know what my outfits say about me, in that case. Or maybe not. Jees...


  • #546
    peckerhead
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,388 ✭✭✭peckerhead


    My ex broke up with the guy she'd been going out with before me because he turned up for a date wearing a canary yellow v-neck jumper (this was the 80s, but still...). She said she walked in and spotted him before he'd seen her, and just turned around and slipped away quietly without saying anything.

    Fair enough really.


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  • #547
    seachto7
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,863 ✭✭✭seachto7


    peckerhead wrote: »
    My ex broke up with the guy she'd been going out with before me because he turned up for a date wearing a canary yellow v-neck jumper (this was the 80s, but still...). She said she walked in and spotted him before he'd seen her, and just turned around and slipped away quietly without saying anything.

    Fair enough really.

    Hold up now. She was going out with him but slipped away without saying anything on date night? How did they break up?


  • #548
    dreamers75
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,558 ✭✭✭✭dreamers75


    Making coffee and putting the spoon into the sugar afterwards leaving coffee in the sugar bowl. I dont drink coffee.


    Dumped.


  • #549
    SterlingArcher
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,767 ✭✭✭SterlingArcher


    Saying they were offended.


  • #550
    Heebie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,301 ✭✭✭Heebie


    Ugly hands or feet.

    Yes, that's pretty shallow, I know.
    If a guy's hands make me feel like I don't want him to touch me because they're ugly... there won't be much of a physical relationship. The feet thing is tough, though. Most people have hideously ugly feet.


  • #551
    2Mad2BeMad
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,792 ✭✭✭2Mad2BeMad


    If a girl is taller then me, It's a no thanks straight away
    I'm 6ft 5, and believe me I have seen girls taller then that -.-

    spotty arses, some girls have them some don't dunno if its just bad hygiene or what.
    Fake tan, don't like it at all.
    Long nails, Alot of girls have long nails or like getting their nails done, if its for events like birthdays or nights out I can live with it, but if its a long time thing as in everyday then no thanks.
    Constant texting, can't stand it.


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  • #552
    tomwaterford
    Closed Accounts Posts: 16,768 ✭✭✭✭tomwaterford


    Heebie wrote: »
    Ugly hands or feet.

    Yes, that's pretty shallow, I know.
    If a guy's hands make me feel like I don't want him to touch me because they're ugly... there won't be much of a physical relationship. The feet thing is tough, though. Most people have hideously ugly feet.

    Safe to conclude you dont have a foot fetish :pac:


  • #553
    Widdershins
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,633 ✭✭✭✭Widdershins


    Heebie wrote: »
    Ugly hands or feet.

    Yes, that's pretty shallow, I know.
    If a guy's hands make me feel like I don't want him to touch me because they're ugly... there won't be much of a physical relationship. The feet thing is tough, though. Most people have hideously ugly feet.

    I was always too stubborn to wear gloves and I often have my hands in something. Earth, pigment, chemicals, whatever. I'm weirdly fond of my hideous hands but I wouldn't blame anyone else for being put off. It's a wonder they haven't been put off. It's the only truly ugly part of me, if it was more than my hands I'd find it upsetting.

    There's something strange about feet in general. Like ears.


  • #554
    Flibble
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 232 ✭✭Flibble


    Lady is a tramp wrote: »
    Was his name Jim?

    I broke up with a Jim for this exact same reason. He was lovely. Funny. Sweet. Interesting.

    But he did resemble a hedgehog. No denying it, and no going back once I realised it.

    It wasn't, but hilarious that someone else had this problem too! :D
    tomwaterford wrote: »
    How would you know this after a first date thou??

    I always asked.
    I used to ask A LOT of questions on first dates :P


  • #555
    Roger Hassenforder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,555 ✭✭✭Roger Hassenforder


    Johngoose wrote: »
    Would you go out with somebody with a disability?

    If it was Tourettes they can fcuk right off.


  • #556
    annascott
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,271 ✭✭✭annascott


    Has anyone ever mentioned what was wrong giving the other person the chance of correcting it? Obviously I do not mean pointing out something they cannot change such as malformed toes or ugly hands. But if the person had dirty shoes or something they could change, then point it out to see if they apologse and try to fix it.


  • #557
    jeanjolie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 484 ✭✭jeanjolie


    annascott wrote: »
    Has anyone ever mentioned what was wrong giving the other person the chance of correcting it? Obviously I do not mean pointing out something they cannot change such as malformed toes or ugly hands. But if the person had dirty shoes or something they could change, then point it out to see if they apologse and try to fix it.

    Would you include clothing style in that? I know a lot of relatively young attractive women who dress like the girl in the second image on Page 34 and could look much better with clothes in the first image.


  • #558
    Widdershins
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,633 ✭✭✭✭Widdershins


    jeanjolie wrote: »
    Would you include clothing style in that? I know a lot of relatively young attractive women who dress like the girl in the second image on Page 34 and could look much better with clothes in the first image.

    But it's probably the Summer when they're dressed like that! How would a rain jacket and scarf work out then?

    You wouldn't see me for dust anyway


  • #559
    RayM
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,973 ✭✭✭RayM


    Any interest whatsoever in rugby or the martial arts thing that Conor McGregor does.


  • #560
    MuffinTop86
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 957 ✭✭✭MuffinTop86


    One if the scariest things about men is that sometimes the roof doesn't match the carpet. I've been with sime with a nice crop of brown hair and then they drop trow and it's gingery.
    They should be made to wear a sign. Or sometimes the stubble is a giveaway.


  • #561
    jca
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,539 ✭✭✭jca


    Murrisk wrote: »
    I'd judge someone for disliking 1989-1997 Simpsons, the classic era.

    However, if someone thought Season 10-present day Simpsons was actually good, that would also be a problem.

    If you're being serious I think you need to go out more and try to remember it's just a TV show.


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  • #562
    RayM
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,973 ✭✭✭RayM


    MuffinTop86 wrote: »
    One if the scariest things about men is that sometimes the roof doesn't match the carpet. I've been with sime with a nice crop of brown hair and then they drop trow and it's gingery.
    They should be made to wear a sign. Or sometimes the stubble is a giveaway.

    I know quite a few men who don't have ginger hair, but their beards are a bit gingery. I've no idea about their pubes though (they refuse point blank to show me).


  • #563
    Roger Hassenforder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,555 ✭✭✭Roger Hassenforder


    I know a chap that broke up with a girl because she licked the knife after buttering her toast.


  • #564
    RayM
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,973 ✭✭✭RayM


    Roger Hassenforder wrote: »
    I know a chap that broke up with a girl because she licked the knife after buttering her toast.

    I've killed for less.


  • #565
    Roger Hassenforder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,555 ✭✭✭Roger Hassenforder


    RayM wrote: »
    I've killed for less.

    you wouldn't mind, but he was boxing way above his weight


  • #566
    Widdershins
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,633 ✭✭✭✭Widdershins


    Roger Hassenforder wrote: »
    I know a chap that broke up with a girl because she licked the knife after buttering her toast.

    The weird thing is, no man I've ever met has been like this. None of them would be that bothered about minor things. I wonder if people are exaggerating their dislikes for the sake of the thread.

    I'd hear older long-married couples carping about their other half's annoying habits alright but that's a familiarity-breeds-contempt thing. And like someone said, you mightn't like certain things but you can still live with them.


  • #567
    annascott
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,271 ✭✭✭annascott


    Knife licking definite deal breaker. It says so much about how someone was brought up. If it was pointed out to them and the person stopped, then maybe give them another go. If they did not care, then no way.


  • #568
    Widdershins
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,633 ✭✭✭✭Widdershins


    Well I'd agree with saying something..I was thinking of the entire thread though


  • #569
    wakka12
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,786 ✭✭✭wakka12


    Widdershins wrote: »
    The weird thing is, no man I've ever met has been like this. None of them would be that bothered about minor things. I wonder if people are exaggerating their dislikes for the sake of the thread.

    I'd hear older long-married couples carping about their other half's annoying habits alright but that's a familiarity-breeds-contempt thing. And like someone said, you mightn't like certain things but you can still live with them.

    For sure its exaggerated but its just for fun in the thread! Obviously that didnt happen, that he broke up with her for licking a knife like that just doesn't happen
    And if he did, then it was because he just didnt like her anyway


  • #570
    Roger Hassenforder
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,555 ✭✭✭Roger Hassenforder


    wakka12 wrote: »
    For sure its exaggerated but its just for fun in the thread! Obviously that didnt happen, that he broke up with her for licking a knife like that just doesn't happen
    And if he did, then it was because he just didnt like her anyway

    He actually did!
    It was the final nail in the coffin of a brief but doomed relationship.
    He's still a bit fcuked up from his x.


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  • #571
    Widdershins
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,633 ✭✭✭✭Widdershins


    So it was the straw that broke the camel's back, then. He didn't just flip out over a tiny thing in isolation. :)


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