How to deal with housemate taking the piss?

Big Bag of Chips · 22-03-2017 01:37PM

How to deal with it?

The only way is to deal with it. The boyfriend is the only 'official' housemate so he's the one you need to be dealing with. Not his gf or her mother. I'd wonder how happy he is with having his gf's mother living with them and never leaving the house and not speaking a word of English.

You need to talk to HIM. Be that through ringing him or sitting down with him later or whatever.

When you do talk to him DO NOT say you don't mind the gf living there. Use this as the opportunity to bring up that it is a 3 person houseshare. If there's 3 of them now surely they can afford to all move in somewhere together and you can advertise the room... And reclaim the sitting room.

echter · 22-03-2017 01:42PM

To clarify, I moved in two months after the girlfriend did. The arrangement for the girlfriend to live there was made before I moved in. The landlord was hesitant, but as the guy is best friends with our cousin she gave him a bit of leeway and said that she would be ok with it if the other woman in the house was.

The mam seems to have gone, and I've messaged the girlfriend to say that I want to talk with her and I fully understand that it sounds strange that I haven't confronted her/them yet but the house is small, and when the mother was there they spent their time together so pulling them out for a word was honestly not an option - there was nowhere to go and no real opportune moment to do it. I'm not really into arguments over messenger and i felt it best to do it in person. This whole post was made as I am aware that I need to confront them but not sure how to go about it

Big Bag of Chips · 22-03-2017 01:47PM

Well if you moved in AFTER the gf, and the gf was only ever supposed to be a short term thing until they sorted out their own place, then the landlord needs to be asking them when that will be as the house is only suitable for 3 people and it has been over a year now. It's not really your place as you moved into the current setup.

Your sister needs to become more business like in her dealings. It doesn't matter who her tenants are, if there are issues in the house that were supposed to be temporary and have become full-time then she needs to manage that in a business like way.

Is the rent divided by 4?

echter · 22-03-2017 01:52PM

We all pay seperately for the rooms, on a sliding scale depending on the size.

Emme · 22-03-2017 05:57PM

OP it sounds like this guy thought he could sneak his gf into the 3rd bedroom but then you moved in.

Your sister needs to review the rental agreement in the house and have a good stiff chat with the male tenant. It doesn't matter if he is best friends with your cousin, he is taking the p*** and it shouldn't be tolerated.

Does the other girl not spend much time in the house because of the situation with the male tenant and his girlfriend?

thalia_13 · 22-03-2017 09:01PM

Also to be fair on you and the other lady, the couple should pay 3/5 of the bills for the time they were hosting her mother (a months worth anyways)

Pelvis · 23-03-2017 05:15PM

echter wrote: »

We all pay seperately for the rooms, on a sliding scale depending on the size.

So the couple are paying for the larger room between the two them? So they're likely both paying less than you?

It sounds like you're being taken for a ride here.

mikemac2 · 24-03-2017 08:12AM

This isn't your issue to sort OP, don't let it eat you up. What is your sister the landlord doing??

The temporary friend on the couch turned into the girlfriend and she pays no extra rent because each room is rented separately. You are being treated as a pushover however your sister the landlord is even worse because they are making a laugh of her too.

The mature student guy needs to be evicted. He allowed the girlfriend to move in and while I doubt he wants the mother there he is responsible.

I'd guarantee the student will cry he had exams in May and can he stay until then but the time for flexibility is over. Also the additional bills the mother ran up come from his deposit. The friend who stayed from Wednesday to Monday I'd let that go, it was important at the time but it's done now

Your sister is a landlord and that brings more responsibilities then sitting back collecting rent. Though now there are 5 in the house and she gets paid for 3 so she is not even doing that

pilly · 25-03-2017 06:39AM

I think your sister is a lot a fault here OP, seems to me she's letting it all carry on and expecting you to deal with it.

You need to speak to her about it.

Panthro · 25-03-2017 01:54PM

Your sister is the landlord, that's the Ace card.
Play it!
And get that cheeky bint out of the house pronto!

Big Bag of Chips · 25-03-2017 02:22PM

To be honest the fact that the landlord is your sister is going against you. She's happy to inconvenience you and put you in an awkward situation because you're her sister. She will not tackle the other two because she doesn't want to make things awkward for them, or your cousin!!

Is the rent really cheap? If not, then you're probably better moving to a house where you don't have a personal relationship with the landlord or the tenants don't have a relationship with the landlord through family/friends. At least that way if there's an issue that needs to be sorted it is more likely be handled in a businesslike fashion rather than worrying about hurting someone's feelings.

How to deal with housemate taking the piss?

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