who are you surprised by coming out?

Andy From Sligo · 19-03-2017 02:30AM #1

this is in no way meant to be a gay bashing thread , or dis-respectful to anyone's sexuality, I will start off by saying that and whatever people choose to do or who to love in their lives is their prerogative and its nobody elses business but their own

But is there anyone in the public eye be it someone well known on TV/Radio/Politician/sports star that you are surprised that they have come out as gay

I will say that I was surprised by a couple of people a politician and someone on TV (dont think I better name names) where they came out as gay and I just thought, I would never have known that or guessed that they was and when they come out it was just surprising is all. - this particular politician that has come out publically, if you were to say to me 'he is gay' and I hadnt heard him say on TV that he was gay I would go "no, really!"

Also I note that a lot of Gay people in other countries tend to have 'give-away signs' where you have no doubt of their sexuality in the way they speak, look and their mannerisms , their body language but I have noticed greatly in Ireland that an awful lot of Irish people that have come out (or maybe even some that havent come out publicly yet) dont seem to share those same mannerisms and quality, and I wonder why that is?

Breaston Plants · 19-03-2017 02:31AM

Andy from Sligo, the new Mint Aero.

tomwaterford · 19-03-2017 02:33AM

Graham norton

mikeoneilly · 19-03-2017 02:35AM

Enda Kenny

B.A._Baracus · 19-03-2017 02:36AM

I fall in the category of people who couldn't give a toss what sexuality someone is. Just couldn't care.
That said, I was shocked to learn that one of the biggest womanizers in the history of Hollywood was accordingly video recorded giving another man a bj.....and that man's name is Charlie Sheen.

I know, I know. Technically he didn't come out by choice. But still.

BettePorter · 19-03-2017 02:38AM

There's a lot more that 'came out as straight ' that surprises the f**k outta me tbh

Sinister Kid · 19-03-2017 02:38AM

I'm surprised my mate came out lastnight, she's always flaking on plans.

Noveight · 19-03-2017 02:39AM

"I'm coming out" - Diana Ross.

Fleawuss · 19-03-2017 02:40AM

TL;DR I'm not gay bashing but why haven't they all got limp wrists and a lisp like Carry on films?

Answer: Fcuk off OP.

dbagman · 19-03-2017 02:43AM

my mate dave. aint seen the prick in years. settled down early and had his kids in his early 20's. now he seems and says hes happy out and who am i to judge but by jaysus i near fell off me stool when he walked in the door of the local yesterday. I mean theres been rumours for years he was going to come out but no one really believed it. but there he stood yesterday as proud as any man iv ever seen to be out.And he even had permission from the mrs!!

JackTaylorFan · 19-03-2017 02:47AM

Well you kinda expect this kinda pig-ignorant **** from a third world country like Longford - but Sligo? I'm disappointed.

Also, Jeff Goldbum - I was totally shocked by that one.

endacl · 19-03-2017 02:50AM

Desperate Dan was a surprise to me.

Andy From Sligo · 19-03-2017 02:50AM

do you reckon there is still huge pressure (for some people) to announce that they are gay? - I mean you havent got the same kind of pressure on heterosexual people to come out as not being Gay - why is it such a big thing for others to goad people into coming out in public still it seems .. and why are papers and the media still so interested when someone comes out in the public eye? - its there in huge headlines on the front page or there on the TV news featuring in the headlines .. as long as it continues to be like this how can it ever be normalised? - and its not like its a new thing now

endacl · 19-03-2017 02:51AM

Andy From Sligo wrote: »

do you reckon there is still huge pressure (for some people) to announce that they are gay? - I mean you havent got the same kind of pressure on heterosexual people to come out as not being Gay - why is it such a big thing for others to goad people into coming out in public still it seems .. and why are papers and the media still so interested when someone comes out in the public eye? - its there in huge headlines on the front page or there on the TV news featuring in the headlines .. as long as it continues to be like this how can it ever be normalised? - and its not like its a new thing now

Do you feel pressure to come out as straight?

19-03-2017 02:52AM

I was shocked when a good friend came out as straight. I just gave him a big hug and told him I would still be there for him.

Conor Bourke · 19-03-2017 02:52AM

JackTaylorFan wrote: »

Well you kinda expect this kinda pig-ignorant **** from a third world country like Longford - but Sligo? I'm disappointed.

Also, Jeff Goldbum - I was totally shocked by that one.

Woah woah woah. Andy lives in Sligo but he ain't one of us.

JackTaylorFan · 19-03-2017 02:56AM

Cornelius Crow wrote: »

Woah woah woah. Andy lives in Sligo but he ain't one of us.

Sorry, I like to make big sweeping generalisations about whole sections pf society - it saves time.

Andy From Sligo · 19-03-2017 02:57AM

endacl wrote: »

Do you feel pressure to come out as straight?

no, thats what I am getting at, if no pressure to come out as straight .. why this pressure for people in the public eye to come out as gay. I am all for if its helping them to feel better or come to terms with it or feel if it helps others. But why do the media judge their sexuality so much (or seem to?)

the_syco · 19-03-2017 02:57AM

Andy From Sligo wrote: »

Also I note that a lot of Gay people in other countries tend to have 'give-away signs' where you have no doubt of their sexuality in the way they speak, look and their mannerisms , their body language but I have noticed greatly in Ireland that an awful lot of Irish people that have come out (or maybe even some that havent come out publicly yet) dont seem to share those same mannerisms and quality, and I wonder why that is?

I think the mannerism is called "being camp"? Some gay people like it, some prefer the muscle bound sort. Each to their own.

19-03-2017 03:04AM

So, this is a new low. Even for the OP.

Mountainsandh · 19-03-2017 03:11AM

Andy From Sligo wrote: »

no, thats what I am getting at, if no pressure to come out as straight .. why this pressure for people in the public eye to come out as gay. I am all for if its helping them to feel better or come to terms with it or feel if it helps others. But why do the media judge their sexuality so much (or seem to?)

Well I guess for politicians it is a bit relevant : a political figure's stance on some issues may be different depending on their personal situation. Or at least the public might feel that they might have a different stance on something so maybe the political figure wants to set the record straight.

Other than that, gossip, yeah !
I love the "coming out" gossip about celebs, same as I love gossip about new babies, or celebs homes, or how a celeb had a strop about something, or Justin B's flashing yet again, or weddings... Only read about all that at the doctor's though.

Your man the news anchor with the really white hair and really blue eyes, in the US, I'd never have thought he was gay. Oh actually, the lovely news guy here too, who got married recently enough, I wouldn't have suspected he was gay either. News anchor in general I guess, they're so neutral on screen.

Anderson Cooper, that's the guy.

Rackstar · 19-03-2017 03:12AM

Your man that does the news and say yes to the dress

D0NNELLY · 19-03-2017 03:12AM

Andy From Sligo wrote: »

I will say that I was surprised by a couple of people a politician and someone on TV (dont think I better name names)

Going to be a short thread so.. why do you ask posters who they were surprised by, but you won't name names yourself?

retro:electro · 19-03-2017 03:13AM

So you don't wanna name names but start a thread asking other people to name names..

Samuel T. Cogley · 19-03-2017 03:18AM

It surprises me when anyone 'comes out' and has done since about 2000 because who the **** cares?

endacl · 19-03-2017 03:18AM

Andy From Sligo wrote: »

I am all for if its helping them to feel better or come to terms with it

Read that bit back slowly to yourself. Any thoughts...?

JackTaylorFan · 19-03-2017 03:19AM

Also, I was shocked at Rock Hudson - I'm guessing this is an antiquated frame of reference OP will understand

Canis Lupus · 19-03-2017 03:21AM

I've never really cared.

B.A._Baracus · 19-03-2017 03:23AM

Samuel T. Cogley wrote: »

It surprises me when anyone 'comes out' and has done since about 2000 because who the **** cares?

Totally agree.
What I also don't get is people making youtube videos about coming out too

I get that coming out can be a big thing as you are coming out to friends, family and people you know. But making a video for strangers over the internet to watch?

Comes off as "LOOK AT ME... I'M GAY!" - Erm, yeah, we don't care.

19-03-2017 03:25AM

Samuel T. Cogley wrote: »

It surprises me when anyone 'comes out' and has done since about 2000 because who the **** cares?

I was thinking more like the late 1980s...but the same "who cares" sentiment applies...

Andy From Sligo · 19-03-2017 03:25AM

anna080 wrote:

So you don't wanna name names but start a thread asking other people to name names..

Yes it does seem strange when you put it like that, I will agree

who are you surprised by coming out?

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