"Why I did not report my rapist"

givyjoe wrote: »

Does it really matter who the words came from?

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

Reads more like something John Kavanagh would write.

ibarelycare wrote: »

Surprised that James wrote that as him and Rosemary are friendly. His brother is Conor's coach so fair play to him for saying it.

Outlaw Pete wrote: »

Aye, but RmacC sees the two as being totally different and not just the type of assault were a woman is isolated (which I think most people understand is more worrisome for women) but also assaults which take place in crowded bars, work places etc, were isolation is not a factor. Specifically the Q Bar in Rmac's case, where she says she was groped and when two men shared their similar experiences in bars, Rmac mocked them:

https://twitter.com/rosemarymaccabe/status/740183666597466112

https://twitter.com/Max_The_Serpent/status/740249229528948736

The saying 'Misery loves company but hates competition' is never more apt than with dealing with these people. They claim they want equality but yet try and discuss almost any topic they raise from an all inclusive perspective, with regards to gender, and they won't have a bar of it. But I guess when you are convinced that men are a privileged class, and woman in western society are an oppressed second class, then it's going to anger you when you hear them complain about things they deal with. The following kind of nonsense shows how out of touch she is:

https://twitter.com/RosemaryMacCabe/status/741148892968914944

Eh, me for one, Rosemary.

Men are far more likely (particularly young men) to attack other men. This kind of thing for example is all too common these days. Whenever I am walking through back streets in Dublin the past couple of years the actions of this chap come to mind and so of course I have been fearful walking home alone. In fact I would say most guys will have experiences where they have had to pass a group of lads in the small hours (in an isolated area perhaps) and I doubt many of them haven't felt at least somewhat apprehensive about doing so, and pondered the chances that there might be some sort of confrontation about to take place and given some thought to maybe how the should react if it does. Lost count of how many times I have changed route on seeing a gang of lads in the distance. For me it's almost automatic at this stage given that I have had numerous encounters with such idiots over the years.

So anyway, I find it damn foolish that anyone would think that women are the only ones who fear walking alone after dark.

westernlass wrote: »

James Kavanagh left this very valid comment on Rosemary's blog about Conor McGregor.  I admire what he says and find I agree 100%. 

“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
Your post contained no ideas, just tenuous inferences from quotes which do refer to a sport in which unshakeable confidence and a domination mindset are assets.
But note that you’ve done something much worse than reduce a person to an object. You’ve reduced him to a parody of his gender. Deliberately taking quotes that refer to combat sports and imposing them into a conversation about the treatment of women. You’ve imposed your own domination mindset, using terminology like “rape culture” and “rape” where they don’t belong, hoping to recruit our social disdain for these ideas (a disdain that wouldn’t exist if our culture really did venerate rape) to your ad hoc interpretations of this guy’s words.
Conor uses the threat of physical violence to dominate. You use the threat of social outrage. But you are trying, JUST as hard to dominate, but while Connor is dominating in consensual competition, you’re doing it to harm him, intentionally, by attempting to soil his reputation by associating him with rape.
This is not feminism. This is using the ground earned by feminism, and the social abhorrence of things like rape and violence against women, to bully people and advance your own journalistic career. You aught to think very deeply about the harm you do to equality with these things. Your ideas are a product of social progress, not a cause of them. If you want to exaggerate the problem for your own narrow self interest, just know that you’re impelling young, impressionable women towards a hysterical fear of men and how they’ll be treated.
By telling women society hates them, you stunt their potential. You lower their expectations. They stay out of male dominated fields, even though almost every male I know would love to work around more women. You do this in the interest only of exaggerating the problem, and barely mentioning a solution. Please, please, consider being a voice of inspiration and reason, and stop with the narrow, utterly baseless, identity politics.

There is an irony that she posted a photo of them being best friends last night on social media.

pilly wrote: »

Totally agree midlandsmissus, you're not entering into any conversation, simply posting the same thing over and over again in the hope that someone will agree with you.

Sorry but the majority don't.

People in the heat of a moment don't stop and say "do you want to have sex and are you sure?". It just doesn't happen.

midlandsmissus wrote: »

can you define how asking someone to have sex with you is in your terms, 'hysterical?'

midlandsmissus wrote: »

can you define how asking someone to have sex with you is in your terms, 'hysterical?'

MayoAreMagic wrote: »

But why cant she just tell him? Why does she have to lie there waiting for him to ask her a question, and if he doesn't then just goes along with it? Is she completely oblivious to what is going on or something that it has to be formalised for her? If she has something to say, there is nobody stopping her saying it except herself... Why does she need to be prompted?

Does she need to be asked if she is hungry too? Or thirsty? Or if she wants to go to the bathroom?
I think this idea is quite insulting to women.