"Why I did not report my rapist"

bubblypop wrote: »

If he had of stopped when she said no, none of the rest would have happened.

By the way, I don't think it's right that she put this out in public, where he is judged by social media. She is wrong in that.

bubblypop wrote: »

Well, you decided to have sex with him.
You didn't just let him have sex with you.

Buford T. Justice V wrote: »

Where did I say that?

Just to remind you, YOU said that.

pumpkin4life wrote: »

Originally Posted by Rosemary View Post
I wouldn’t get upset when I encountered mean girls. I found secondary school really tough. I wasn’t in the popular crew – in fact, I think I was probably pretty close to the bottom of the societal rung – and I was really sensitive to any slights, perceived or otherwise. I had curly hair that my mother insisted on brushing for me (frizz ball) and I was that kind of dangerous combination of incredibly self-conscious about my looks, and incredibly self-assured about my intelligence. I was, in short, a massive nerd – and I felt the brunt of it at school.

If you asked my sixth-year self what would be different about my life in, say, 13 years’ time, she would have told you that I wouldn’t be feeling intimidated and humiliated by groups of girls who thought they were better than me – but she would have been totally wrong. At 31 years of age, I still find myself whimpering, tears welling in my eyes, when “girls are mean to me”. I should know better, but I just don’t.

pointelle wrote: »

Dude, there's a rape awareness advertisement possibly English saw it years ago, it's the same scenario, WEARING DOWN A WOMAN"S RESOLVE to **** her is coercion. In psychological terms the victim enters a state of denial / self protection and basicly loses their autonomy, for "connoisseurs" of sexual deviancy it's known as droit de seigneur. I don't know how Ireland is ever going to be dragged into modernity with the bloody patriarchal dick wielding ****tard mentality so prevalent in this godforsaken arse of a place

LightlyGo wrote: »

What?
So are you saying that women have no responsibility at all for what happens to their body? What sort of message is that? By that logic none of us are safe, we're just sitting ducks waiting for rapists to whisper sweet nothings in our ear because we are incapable of resisting.

That ad you saw was made by someone who needed a dictionary.
Coercion by dictionary and legal definition is the action or practice of persuading someone to do something by using force or threats...FORCE OR THREAT.
Wearing down resolve is persausion by enticement, an entirely different and entirely legal act. We are on the receiving end of it all day from sales people to tv ads to well meaning mammy's offering us cups of tea. It's completely different. If women are not capable of resisting temptation that's on them.

The idea that are so weak minded that we would need to be protected even from temptation is so insulting to our entire sex is absolutely anthethical of what feminism should be.

LightlyGo wrote: »

What?
So are you saying that women have no responsibility at all for what happens to their body? What sort of message is that? By that logic none of us are safe, we're just sitting ducks waiting for rapists to whisper sweet nothings in our ear because we are incapable of resisting.

That ad you saw was made by someone who needed a dictionary.
Coercion by dictionary and legal definition is the action or practice of persuading someone to do something by using force or threats...FORCE OR THREAT.
Wearing down resolve is persausion by enticement, an entirely different and entirely legal act. We are on the receiving end of it all day from sales people to tv ads to well meaning mammy's offering us cups of tea. It's completely different. If women are not capable of resisting temptation that's on them.

The idea that are so weak minded that we would need to be protected even from temptation is so insulting to our entire sex is absolutely anthethical of what feminism should be.