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14 year old girl texting 20 year old

  • 09-02-2017 03:51PM
    #1
    kate357
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40 ✭


    Would you call the guards if a 20 year old man was engaging in sexual texts with a 14 year old girl?


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  • #2
    lawred2
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,783 ✭✭✭✭lawred2


    er yeah

    do you really need guidance on this?


  • #3
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 25,909 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    If he knows she's 14 then yes.


  • #4
    Shannon757
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,847 ✭✭✭✭Shannon757


    Definitely


  • #5
    jobbridge4life
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,759 ✭✭✭jobbridge4life


    Immediate answer yes.

    More nuanced response...

    Are you sure of his age and the nature of the texts?
    Does he know her age, or is there a chance of catfishing etc?

    I'm like 90% a yes.


  • #6
    kate357
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40 ✭kate357


    I'm not 100% on age but I've tracked him down on Facebook.


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  • #7
    Shannon757
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,847 ✭✭✭✭Shannon757


    kate357 wrote: »
    I'm not 100% on age but I've tracked him down on Facebook.

    How did he contact her?


  • #8
    Thoie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,340 ✭✭✭Thoie


    Let the gardaí know, and they can determine his age, if he knows her age, etc. If it's a genuine mistake and he didn't know her age, he'll cut off all contact immediately and be more careful in future. If not, then the gardaí have his information and can follow up.


  • #9
    kate357
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40 ✭kate357


    Snapchat, h knows she's 14, she said it to him. All the chats are saved on her side.


  • #10
    silverharp
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,853 ✭✭✭✭silverharp


    I'd want the background story first but if he knew or ought to have known she was 14 then yeah, totally inappropriate.

    A belief in gender identity involves a level of faith as there is nothing tangible to prove its existence which, as something divorced from the physical body, is similar to the idea of a soul. - Colette Colfer



  • #11
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    Is it you Kate?


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  • #12
    BorneTobyWilde
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,945 ✭✭✭✭BorneTobyWilde


    Could be general chit chat.
    Should find out more first I would think.


  • #13
    dexter_morgan
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 146 ✭✭dexter_morgan


    kate357 wrote: »
    Snapchat, h knows she's 14, she said it to him. All the chats are saved on her side.



    Definitely report it to the Gardai. He is a proper creep if he is sending sexual texts to a girl he knows is 14.


  • #14
    RustyNut
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,427 ✭✭✭RustyNut


    kate357 wrote: »
    I'm not 100% on age but I've tracked him down on Facebook.
    So he might not be 20, 17 or 18 maybe?


  • #15
    kate357
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40 ✭kate357


    No it's not me. The guards are on the way


  • #16
    Jack the Stripper
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    BorneTobyWilde wrote: »
    Could be general chit chat.
    Should find out more first I would think.

    You wouldn't be saying that if it were your own daughter.


  • #17
    pilly
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,005 ✭✭✭pilly


    kate357 wrote: »
    No it's not me. The guards are on the way

    Good, you did the right thing. It's not acceptable for anyone over 18 to be sending sexual texts to a 14 year old and could lead to more dangerous stuff.

    Mind yourself and your friend.


  • #18
    BorneTobyWilde
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,945 ✭✭✭✭BorneTobyWilde


    Jack the Stripper wrote: »
    You wouldn't be saying that if it were your own daughter.


    I'd find out more, like who he is and his age. She's not sure if he is 16 ,17,18,19,20, or 55. I'm not saying ignore it, geez no !


  • #19
    Thoie
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,340 ✭✭✭Thoie


    BorneTobyWilde wrote: »
    I'd find out more, like who he is and his age. She's not sure if he is 16 ,17,18,19,20, or 55. I'm not saying ignore it, geez no !

    The gardaí can find his age out a lot easier than all sorts of amateur sleuthing - if it's someone local they can just rock up and say "hi, how old are you?". If it's the neighbour's 15 year old, it won't go any further (though both sets of parents may be having chats with the kids). If there is anything more sinister going on (which there probably isn't), then the gardaí are the right people to deal with it.


  • #20
    jobbridge4life
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,759 ✭✭✭jobbridge4life


    kate357 wrote: »
    Snapchat, h knows she's 14, she said it to him. All the chats are saved on her side.

    And you've seen them and they are of concern to you and definitely of a sexual nature? And you are certain she has told him?

    If its yes to both of them get onto the guards.


  • #21
    kate357
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40 ✭kate357


    Who ever he is, what ever age he is, anyone that want to tie up a 14 year old child so "he can have total power & do whatever he wants" is a predator.


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  • #22
    punisher5112
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,519 ✭✭✭✭punisher5112


    I would suggest removing the phone until your child is old enough. Get one that you can see everything done on it.
    Contact gardai right away.


  • #23
    jobbridge4life
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,759 ✭✭✭jobbridge4life


    kate357 wrote: »
    Who ever he is, what ever age he is, anyone that want to tie up a 14 year old child so "he can have total power & do whatever he wants" is a predator.

    WTF is wrong with some people...


  • #24
    BorneTobyWilde
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,945 ✭✭✭✭BorneTobyWilde


    kate357 wrote: »
    Who ever he is, what ever age he is, anyone that want to tie up a 14 year old child so "he can have total power & do whatever he wants" is a predator.

    Whoa
    That escalated to a different level. Geez you're right to call guards if chat is along those lines.


  • #25
    Ashbx
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 750 ✭✭✭Ashbx


    kate357 wrote: »
    Snapchat, h knows she's 14, she said it to him. All the chats are saved on her side.

    If she kept screen shots of their conversations on snap chat, he would have got a notification that she took a screen shot. And if he was 20 knowingly talking to an underage 14 year old, im sure he would get a bit worried that the girls was screen shotting all the conversations. So id say he feels like he has nothing to worry about. And which may mean he may be younger than 20.

    But you did a good thing calling the guards! If it was me, I would be advising my daughter not to accept friend requests from strangers on any form of social media. Im nearly 30 and even I don't accept strangers on social media!

    Hope it all works out anyway! And good for you for keeping an eye on her! The internet is dangerous place for kids these days unfortunately.


  • #26
    SEPT 23 1989
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 43,038 ✭✭✭✭SEPT 23 1989


    I have a daughter around that age and if that was happening i would go and have a little chat with the 20 year old


  • #27
    bigpink
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 4,552 ✭✭✭bigpink


    How did contact start?


  • #28
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 15,055 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Maybe I'm in the wrong here (clearly, based on previous responses) but I think getting the Gardai involved is a tad dramatic.

    Firstly find out whats going on and go from there. Did your 14 year old message him first? Is he actually not at all interested but just playing along to keep her occupied (he could be a decent chap that reckons he's better off keeping her chatting, instead of her talking to someone else who may actually have a more sinister side), etc etc.

    I just think that a quick word or such is a better way to go about things than anything else. If you have him on FB then maybe even a quick PM/phone call.

    If it was him that initiated the contact with her and started banging on about tying her up etc then I'd probably be a bit more concerned, but having no background or context makes it a bit difficult for me personally to stamp 'predator' on him.


  • #29
    kate357
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 40 ✭kate357


    Not going to say much more on this but apparently he has previous.


  • #30
    Sleeper12
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,255 ✭✭✭✭Sleeper12


    Believe it or not it's called grooming. Doesn't matter how keen she is on the idea. If caught the 20 year old can go to jail and would be classified as not just a sex offender but a peadophile. Its a debate no, no. I'd report it in a heartbeat


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  • #31
    alroley
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,290 ✭✭✭alroley


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Maybe I'm in the wrong here (clearly, based on previous responses) but I think getting the Gardai involved is a tad dramatic.

    Firstly find out whats going on and go from there. Did your 14 year old message him first? Is he actually not at all interested but just playing along to keep her occupied (he could be a decent chap that reckons he's better off keeping her chatting, instead of her talking to someone else who may actually have a more sinister side), etc etc.

    WTF??? This is NEVER okay. A "decent chap" would block and ignore if he received messages like that from a young teenager.


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