Love And Marraiage...

Go together like a Horse and Carraiage...

she looks like she ate the divorce settlement, the UK courts are the pits for that sort of thing, she blew her cash and now gets to come back for more.

Arcade_Tryer wrote: »

Go together like a Horse and Carraiage...

Damn man, beat me to it.

I think there's a young child involved though, which changes things a bit if that child is going to suffer as a result. That having been said your one comes across as a dope.n

FTA69 wrote: »

I think there's a young child involved though, which changes things a bit if that child is going to suffer as a result. That having been said your one comes across as a dope.n

The artical says they have "a now grown up son". Whatever about supporting her while she was raising the child. Now that he is grown up, any support from the ex-husband should stop.

matrim wrote: »

The artical says they have "a now grown up son". Whatever about supporting her while she was raising the child. Now that he is grown up, any support from the ex-husband should stop.

Didn't see that at all, that's a bloody joke. Sure what's stopping her blowing this on online gambling or whatever and coming back for two grand the next time?

Its the Court of Appeal - can he take it any further or is that it? A ludicrous judgement, and a clear sign the UK needs to reform its laws if nonsense like this is permitted. At some point that woman is no longer his problem - and if its not 15 fecking years after their original split then when?

To be honest, in a scenario like that he could just liquidate all his assets quietly and just escape abroad with no forwarding address and enjoy his life elsewhere.

LexieOnRale wrote: »

That's mortifying. Imagine the lack of self respect one must have to beg someone else to support her. Someone who has to be sued in order to be forced to look after her. God forbid you get a full time job and support yourself instead of using your ex as a meal ticket. Scarlet for her

She didn't beg him, she took him to court and the judge agreed with her. I'd say her self-respect is fully intact. She has health problems and cant work full time. She made a shrewd business decision for once
Other sources say he pays himself a 200k a year dividend, he's only forced to pay her 17k, he can well afford it, I wouldn't lose sleep over him.
Don't hate the playa.......

LexieOnRale wrote: »

lol


I have health problems too. Do you think if I sued him I could have him look after me? The fact she assumes she's entitled to his support after being divorced for 15 years is absolutely galling. There's absolutely nothing about her in this instance that's dignified. It is begging if he didn't offer. She is forcing him to take care of her needs because she's unwilling to take care of herself, as a grown adult.

If you were married and had a child with him and could only work part time then he probably would. Suing is not begging money, I'd say its more like demanding the share she should have been given originally, that settlement gave her 230k cash and maintenance but no mention of pension entitlements etc.
He was obviously happy for her to sacrifice her lucrative career to look after him and the child so why blame her now for what was a joint decision. Why should she live a drastically lesser lifestyle whilst he swans off with the benefits of a lifestyle she enabled him to build while they were married. Nobody's going to hire her as a part time estate agent in one of the busiest property markets in the world now so she's lost the opportunity to build her career.
She obviously presented convincing evidence to the court that she is unable to work full time, would it be more dignified for her to be on benefits? Lots of women give up careers with the agreement of their husbands so they can look after the home and kids and make his life run smoothly. They do it as they are promised the husband will support them financially. If he decides to run off with another woman then those women are up the creek. Its an age old scenario.

Plenty of wives have been told to get a job after divorce when all they will get is crappy low paid work like this woman. I don't think men realise the huge financial and personal sacrifice women make when they give up careers to run a house and mind children. Its disappointing to see a woman slating another woman for doing it and making the best of the poor outcome she got from that decision.
Her biggest mistake was giving up work in the first place.

Wibbs wrote: »

Marriage to some appears to be a career….
Ah well that's alright then. :rolleyes:

"Pension entitlements"? Are you having a laugh? Yep sounds like marriage = career alright. Though far better than any job as one can claim payments fifteen years after you leave(she divorced him) and are in another job(she remarried too). Handy career choice alright.

While she was running the house and minding their child she was not able to accrue a pension for herself.

Wibbs wrote: »

Boo bloody hoo. She took all the liquid assets in the divorce, made "unwise" business decisions one after another trying to live in a manner she wanted to become accustomed to, then expects her ex husband to cough up again as an insurance policy? Get off the stage. Where's the current husband and why isn't he "supporting" her? Though why he should be expected to. There's me thinking equality of the sexes. Apparently not.

He agreed to give her all the liquid assets at that time in exchange for her giving up an interest in his business/pension, she could have held out for a lifelong stake in his profits 15 years ago but she didn't.

Wibbs wrote: »

Dignified? What the hell has dignified got to do with it?

I don't know, another poster mentioned dignity, ask them.

Wibbs wrote: »

She's a full grown adult. Though apparently not if one possesses internal gonads according to some. All the "rights" afforded adults, but with fewer responsibilities.

I think anyone who stays home to keep house and mind children is fully au fait with adult responsibilities, mind numbingly so.

Wibbs wrote: »

Up the creek? She got all his liquid assets and then flushed the lot. Now she's looking for another payment?

She had a large nest egg and monthly maintenance. She squandered the former. Clearly her "career" in property was not best suited to her. You have got to be kidding me. Here we go. Can't go agin the code of the "sisterhood". God forbid women may think that women should act like and be treated like adults.

She made bad property investment decisions, like millions of people in these islands did in the last 15 years- did they all squander their money too? Are you against women supporting older vulnerable women who made bad career decisions in the expectation they would remain married for life. She's in her 50's and renting with no pension accrual. She's in a very precarious position, above the line for benefits, below the line to afford private rental in her retirement.

Wibbs wrote: »

And people wonder why grass roots movements like MGTOW and the red pill yahoos exist, or why a large chunk of so called "feminism" is starting to look like it's rotten at the core? With attitudes like the above I don't wonder.

Yes its all women's fault that there are angry nutters in the world. Wanting to be recognised financially for earning potential lost by one partner and gained by another by one staying at home is not unreasonable. Men are free to seek maintenance from their ex wives if they decide to be stay at home Dads. But for some strange reason they aren't queuing up to do it.

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Probably because they value their pride more than a monthly cheque from someone else's hard work?

In this woman's day somebody had to stay at home and keep house/mind kids, it was very common. Do you think women who give up work to take care of the family have no pride? Do they not work hard?

her argument was that she had health issues so couldn't work? how is that an argument? if she had never married she would have had the same issues so it looks like she was never on a path to be a successful woman about town. The UK courts seem to be more about keeping the woman in the style to which she has become accustomed and not realistically where she would have been anyway. Even in Ireland that goes on, a couple in my kids school got divorced and by all accounts she was never the ambitious type yet she now has the family home which is a nice 4 bed in Clonskeagh plus I don't think the father gets to see the kids much. On her own she would never be in that position in a million years, it was the husband who has his own successful business.