What to talk to women about

Widdershins wrote: »

If she doesn't then he's going to have to start boning up on the X Factor. They'll be married for eight years until they stop having sex and then they'll divorce because they have nothing else in common.

Jaysus yeah I'd forgotten about the sex. That will definitely dry up.

L.Jenkins wrote: »

Thought that was directed at me for a second :P

hey if sanitary pads are your thing then go for it.

Temptamperu wrote: »

women love to talk about themselves. Try that.

L.Jenkins wrote: »

Not really as it usually ends up on the floor :P

Ah. You're one of "those"

Sweetemotion wrote: »

Learn how to play a few songs on the guitar and bring it to house parties. :pac:

Anything that happens to those people is completely justifiable.

DanielODonnell wrote: »

I don't see many ladies, what did you talk to your girlfriend or wife about when you first met them?
The things I enjoy talking about are history, specifically the early medieval period, the gym and television dramas.

They are like a different species to me.

If the girl you are dating has zero interest in history or television drama, your relationship is doomed. You can feign interest in Expose, Americas Next Top Model and Jimmy Choo, but in 10 years time you will wake up with a kid and a mortgage and realise you have nothing in common with your spouse. What will you talk about when you are both sixty?

Define your interests and find someone with those interests.

Mrs Denartha tempted me into her bedroom not with the promise of access to her genitals but instead she wanted to show me a book she had recently bought on Unix shell scripts. Then we watched The Hunt for Red October. I knew then she was a keeper.

It means ten years later I dont have to pretend Im someone that Im not when with her.

DanielODonnell wrote: »

I don't see many ladies, what did you talk to your girlfriend or wife about when you first met them?

I talked to them about exactly the same things I talked to guys about the first time I met them too. I have never been infected with this notion that women are different enough to men to have to worry about socially acting differently with them.

When I meet a new person I never see them as "man" "woman" "Black" "white" "straight" "Gay" "Liberal" "conservative". I just see them as an individual. And I act around a new individual entirely the same way each time.

I remember a great experiment run by TV personality Derren Brown. Several groups of people around the world were formed - different races, sexes, languages, the lot. And all he requested from them was their full name and date of birth.

From this he was going to writer a personal profile of them - kind of like what Zodiac Astrology people do.

He returned to each person a very long and detailed profile. Some of the people were so amazed at how personal it was - how much it "got" them - that they were in tears at the idea of letting anyone else read it. It was that deeply personal and precise that they were embarrassed to let anyone read it.

Of course the big reveal at the end was every single person - every gender - every language - every race - received the exact same "reading".

James Randi used to do something similar where he would read out two Zodiac Profiles and ask how many people think it was accurate for their star sign. He would then reveal "oooops - I had the two mixed up and actually text 1 was for star sign 2 and text 2 was star sign 1 - sorry about that".

So seemingly the only real barrier to knowing what to talk to someone about - is your own preconceptions about the label _you_ have allocated to them. And if an entire gender feels like "a different species" to you - it is likely only because you have made it so yourself.