Do you ever wonder

Edups wrote: »

I hope they have died to be frank.

Needs a comma. Nobody needs to be frank that badly, to be frank.

I care far less about the lives of anyone in secondary school. I went to an excellent primary school. When I moved to secondary school there seemed to be an influx of scumbags . I don't have to put much thought into the direction most of their lives took.

This thread prompted me to have a quick search for some primary school friends, and I'm not at all shocked by what I've found. One girl went on to gain fame due to her love of sailing. I remember her being so chatty and smiley to everyone. Then another girl has gone on to be a chief editor, again doesn't surprise me. She had a wonderful artistic flair, and came from a family big into art. She was quiet, but not unfriendly at all. I used to dread when the teacher would ask us to submit our work for the Texaco art competition, because I knew none of us had a chance with her about. Year after year she won her age category Far better memories of primary to be honest.

Gremlinertia wrote: »

I have never kept in contact tbh, bullying and some other issues but i do know what some are doing due to the 'Mammy evening post'
I'm amazed that after 25 years there has been no deaths in your group.

I came from a small school - 62 people in my year. I'm in my mid 40's so not that old!

I'm still friends with my school friends so I don't really think it applies to me. However I do find myself wondering about my old teachers from secondary school. Would love to see a few of them and have a chat maybe.

No. The past is best left there.

Deleted User wrote: »

I think the way things were forever before Facebook etc. was much healthier and more natural. It is artificial that a person should still care much or think much about people they went to school with 10, 20, 30 years ago. Knowing about how their lives unfolded is knowledge which shouldn't be in your head. Knowing about what's going on in their lives because you are either facebook friends with them 10 years after you both left school or because you see them tagged in photos etc. is not natural.. it is mentally depleting to hold all that information about people in your head. If they are doing better in their life than you you are apt to feel negative emotions because of this, if they are doing worse than you then you are apt to think dickish thoughts of "at least I'm in a better position than x" .. it all contributes to what I perceive to be a very psychologically toxic world we've lived in since the late 00s but especially early 10s.

Despite being connected to them on Facebook i wouldn't be arsed meeting up with any of them in real life to be honest i know there was talk of a 5 year reunion thing 2 years or so ago but there was no real intret from anyone , to be honest im still good mates with the lads i was good mates with then so see them regular and i think most others are the same. No interest at all in actually meeting up with any of the rest tbh.

3 of the lads i was in secondary with have died and 1 is dying at the minute. One killed himself in Australia after a relationship ended (He was a nice fella tbf) 2 died of drugs and the other lad is dying of heroine addiction (these were not nice people). 5 more are either currently in or have been to prison , most of them for drug related offences i think (again most people would have seen that coming)

My school wasn't in a bad area by any stretch ,only 2 lads dropped out before doing leaving cert i think over 80% of the 120 lads that graduated with me started College the following September i know it was some record for the school at the time and they made a big deal about it, though i know allot fewer finished then started :P

3 are married and i will be the fourth , and id say a good quarter have kids at this stage. loads have emigrated , we graduated in 08 so no surprise there really. suppose we'd all be between 24 and 26 now.