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Naked attraction.

  • 18-08-2016 09:39AM
    #1
    2012paddy2012
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    Hi ..my partner (late 40s) loves tv shows. Presently her favourite is " makes attraction" this involves males looking at females naked..and females looking at each other ..full nudity.

    I see on the recordings today..this programme recorded beside a kids programme that our 15 year old boy watches also.

    I said to her I wonder could we put a password on that programme as it is my view it's very unsuitable anyway certainty not suitable for an impressionable young boy. He is 15.


    Her reply " sure he won't see it" ! It'd beside the recording on the list on the tv box ..strange reply.
    Then this
    ...sure he is nearly ,20!!!!

    Is it just me or is this a very strange opinion?

    After a short discussion she reluctantly said ..."oh delete the programme ' this was just to shut me up rather than any interest in her child's moral upbringing ..I'm quite sure.

    Is this a normal parental reaction ? Am I wrong ?

    Thks


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  • #2
    baby and crumble
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,510 ✭✭✭baby and crumble


    I'm confused. You say he's 14, then 15, then your partner says he's nearly 20?

    In any case, even if he's "only" 14, there are much, much worse things he could be (and probably is, sorry to say) watching than a pretty tame tv show showing nudity. It's just the human body, it's not like they're having sex on the show.


  • #3
    [Deleted User]
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    As someone who was once a 15 year old male, I can tell you that if I wanted to see naked people then there's a lot of other ways.

    If you are worried, place PIN codes on your box, so they can't get access to it, if they tried. But seeing naked people isn't going to corrupt them. Do you allow them to watch adult rated movies? (not adult movies, because that's a whole other kettle of fish) Play adult video games, like GTA? Call of Duty?

    I'm not sure if you do, but it always surprises me how many people are in favour of the latter, but are horrified of the thought of their kids then seeing naked people.


  • #4
    2012paddy2012
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    Ya he does watch GTA good point.. all the rest of them have it .... argument worked with me ....she said ..sure he is nearly ..20....in a heated debate about it ..��


  • #5
    Meauldsegosha
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    If you think you son (whatever age he is 14/15) has never seen a naked body, you are sorely mistaken.

    I've seen the programme and it is very mild. It is just a dating show with naked people. They are not preforming sex acts on each.

    The "nearly 20" comment is a bit strange but I don't think there is anything wrong with your partners reaction.


  • #6
    LegacyUser
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    2012paddy2012 wrote: »
    than any interest in her child's moral upbringing

    Moral upbringing impacted by watching a Channel 4 show that shows some naked bits? Sorry OP but think you're totally over reacting and I would find it more damaging to make the teen think there was something wrong with the human body by over reacting. It's a trashy show for sure but it's not porn. If it really bothers you that much then just put a pin on the box and tell your wife the code


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  • #7
    [Deleted User]
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    Personally I'd say there's more wrong with the OP's reaction than their partner's. If you're starting to be concerned, it might be time to sit down with your son and talk to him about the birds and the bees.


  • #8
    bp
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    I think the OP is more concerned with the critiquing of the body, there are enough issues these days with teens being exposed to unrealistic body images and believing pornography to be real (e.g. how women (usually) are treated, male member size, breast size etc.) So a show focusing on body image will not help learn how to appreciate people the way they are.

    I would make sure to have real versus fake conversations with him and how to treat people. I don't like GTA as it is so disrespectful - yes I know it is fake but I just don't like watching it being played


  • #9
    cbyrd
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    At 15, I bet he could tell you a few things. I have 17 and 14 year old girls. From chatting at school, being on their phones there is very little they don't understand. Sex is not the taboo subject that it used to be.. where mammys used to switch over the channel when there was kissing on the telly :D
    It's also a good opportunity to get his views on the opposite sex, a lot of the selfie generation objectify sex and each other.
    I've watched the show.. albeit in total omg full frontal nudity on Channel 4 ? Lol... Scraping the bottom of the barrel for shock value. My eldest girl was watching it with me (it came on after Eden and curiosity got the better of me) we had such a laugh... ) But I think it's healthier to be able to watch and discuss this stuff than pretending it doesn't exist until they're 18 and haven't a clue. That's how they get in trouble or use watching porn as a baseline.

    Morals and teaching go hand in hand. Hes at an age now where he'll have more questions than you're comfortable answering :D
    And .. I cringed more than she did that night :D


  • #10
    Mr. Incognito
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    I'd be more inclined to ban it because its shallow and objectifies people rather than nudity tbh.


  • #11
    baby and crumble
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    Mr. Incognito wrote: »
    I'd be more inclined to ban it because its shallow and objectifies people rather than nudity tbh.

    It's a good opportunity to have a horribly awkward but important conversation around expectations of attraction, future relationships and sex though.


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  • #12
    [Deleted User]
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    baby and crumble wrote: »
    It's a good opportunity to have a horribly awkward but important conversation around expectations of attraction, future relationships and sex though.

    Precisely. It teaches that there is nothing wrong with finding certain body types unattractive and it opens up a frank discussion about this.


  • #13
    Lux23
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    I reckon your lad has seen plenty of nudity already.


  • #14
    2012paddy2012
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    Goo points all. Agreed. Thk you


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