Are you happy? If not, why?

Speedwell · 08-08-2016 11:17AM

TSMGUY wrote: »

I know these feels.....:(

Yeah me too, anxiety overwhelmed me in my mid-40s and, since I'm an American and we are shameless about such things, I found a good therapist who taught me some mental coping tricks that most people know and I had never learned, and some simple ways to clear the mind and body of built-up trauma and stress, and a tactic or two for telling an overactive mind to STFU. I am not good at using those things when my head is trying to play Harrison Bergeron tricks on me. But you guys make me want to invite you over to bake cookies. Is 50 too young to be in grandmother mode, I ask you?

Squall Leonhart · 08-08-2016 11:20AM

I had to think hard about what answer I was going to give. I decided that I don't actually know, as odd as that may sound. I guess I'm not but couldn't tell you why, or what I'd change. It's like there's often an underlying sadness, even when I'm doing things I enjoy or spending time with people I love.

Hmm.

TSMGUY · 08-08-2016 11:20AM

Speedwell wrote: »

Yeah me too, anxiety overwhelmed me in my mid-40s and, since I'm an American and we are shameless about such things, I found a good therapist who taught me some mental coping tricks that most people know and I had never learned, and some simple ways to clear the mind and body of built-up trauma and stress, and a tactic or two for telling an overactive mind to STFU. You guys make me want to invite you over to bake cookies. Is 50 too young to be in grandmother mode, I ask you?

Cognitive behavioural therapy never really did much for me. I'm 19, so you can be my grandmother if you want. Just er..... include TSMGUY in the ole' will:D

Sariah · 08-08-2016 11:24AM

Am off work for 5 weeks. Just found out at the weekend I got 1st place in Ireland and 8 th world wide out of 26,000 in my accounting finals. Have a reasonable chance of a promotion in a few weeks time. Kids and family are healthy. House is grand. Marriage is ok. I'm relatively happy except I need to give the house a thorough clean over the next few days. Also I just got a cheque in the post for 180 this morning totally unexpected a refund from vhi even though haven't been a member for 6 years. Will cash it quick in case it's an error. Think I might spend it in ikea new stuff might look like I cleaned the house more than I could be bothered to atm.

TSMGUY · 08-08-2016 11:26AM

Sariah wrote: »

Am off work for 5 weeks. Just found out at the weekend I got 1st place in Ireland and 8 th world wide out of 26,000 in my accounting finals. Have a reasonable chance of a promotion in a few weeks time. Kids and family are healthy. House is grand. Marriage is ok. I'm relatively happy except I need to give the house a thorough clean over the next few days. Also I just got a cheque in the post for 180 this morning totally unexpected a refund from vhi even though haven't been a member for 6 years. Will cash it quick in case it's an error. Think I might spend it in ikea new stuff might look like I cleaned the house more than I could be bothered to atm.

Top 0.03% in the world, Jesus! Well done!

Speedwell · 08-08-2016 11:29AM

TSMGUY wrote: »

Cognitive behavioural therapy never really did much for me. I'm 19, so you can be my grandmother if you want. Just er..... include TSMGUY in the ole' will:D

Oh, today the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak. (The flesh is willing if the spirits are strong, however. Preferably expensive Scotch.)

Seriously though, EFT "Tapping", while it sounds remarkably fatuous at first glance, really does work. Ignore the stupid mysticism that its practitioners favor. I actually did learn it from a stupid mystic, but my therapist was a wise older woman who made it her field of study. I teach it to frightened folks in the airport; in my opinion it distracts the brain and body long enough for it to metabolise and resolve the "bad" biochemistry associated with panic and stress. But its effects last a long time.

If you have a kitten, like the tabby who just crawled onto my desk in front of my keyboard for a cuddle, that works too.

Nothing is totally bad.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 08-08-2016 11:36AM

Tsmguy is like the happy police, determining if your reason is good enough for being happy or not.

bluestrattos · 08-08-2016 11:36AM

I'm happy, very happy actually! For the last couple of weeks, my life has slowly become better and better

And because of that, I keep thinking, that "sh*t is about to hit the fan" because, you know yourself, if everything is going great in your life, something very wrong is about to happen, but until then, I'm a (very) happy man

Pac1Man · 08-08-2016 11:41AM

I'm Mick McCarthy's baby.

TSMGUY · 08-08-2016 11:41AM

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Tsmguy is like the happy police, determining if your reason is good enough for being happy or not.

Better than being the miserable bastard police, entering threads and trying to preemptively shut them down by being snarky:(

Speedwell · 08-08-2016 11:46AM

Cut it out, you two, Grandma has a headache. :P

Shint0 · 08-08-2016 11:49AM

Right now in this moment I'm happy but in the general scheme of things could be much better but I still dare to dream. Happiness is elusive.

Maximus Alexander · 08-08-2016 11:52AM

I'm not unhappy most of the time and that's good enough for me.

FizzleSticks · 08-08-2016 12:13PM

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Fleawuss · 08-08-2016 12:21PM

TSMGUY wrote: »

14077 posts in 3 years
Happy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pzkS8k5iacw

In your best David Attenborough please:
The hunter, having carefully prepared the trap, now lies in wait. The occasional flick of the ears is the only sign of impatience; and suddenly with an explosive burst of speed he lunges from cover and overwhelms the unsuspecting poster. A quick check of the profile page and the hunter crushes his prey with his most lethal weapon, the Burgundy clip. It's all over in a matter of seconds.

Birneybau · 08-08-2016 01:44PM

Meh. For a Monday. Which is good I guess.

OldNotWIse · 08-08-2016 01:47PM

I have reasons to be happy (job, family, home, health) but I'm fúcking miserable. Mostly because I am not using my hard earned qualifications in any way and I feel like I am stuck in a rut. I also feel like I am living a lie romantically and cant see a way out. The biological clock is hammering away but I haven't met the right person yet. Sometimes cant believe I wanted to grow up. :mad: Jeez OP I was fine until I typed this now I feel blue :P

Speedwell · 08-08-2016 01:50PM

OldNotWIse wrote: »

I have reasons to be happy (job, family, home, health) but I'm fúcking miserable. Mostly because I am not using my hard earned qualifications in any way and I feel like I am stuck in a rut. I also feel like I am living a lie romantically and cant see a way out. The biological clock is hammering away but I haven't met the right person yet. Sometimes cant believe I wanted to grow up. :mad: Jeez OP I was fine until I typed this now I feel blue :P

Yeah, that's what happens when you focus on negative stuff. Go look at silly pictures of kitties on the Internet for a while until you get your mojo back a bit.

EICVD · 08-08-2016 01:51PM

Nope, life is just too depressing & stressful to enjoy it.

osarusan · 08-08-2016 01:58PM

Yes, happy.

Life's not perfect, but the things that aren't as good as they could be are all things that are within my power to improve.

Shint0 · 08-08-2016 01:59PM

OldNotWIse wrote: »

I have reasons to be happy (job, family, home, health) but I'm fúcking miserable. Mostly because I am not using my hard earned qualifications in any way and I feel like I am stuck in a rut. I also feel like I am living a lie romantically and cant see a way out. The biological clock is hammering away but I haven't met the right person yet. Sometimes cant believe I wanted to grow up. :mad: Jeez OP I was fine until I typed this now I feel blue :P

Ah, so that explains why you are the best poster on the TA thread

but seriously, your post would echo a lot of my life situation but I'm trying to become more proactive and currently addressing some of the negatives. You never know what might bounce back once you start to take the bull by the horns and see where it leads.

Your Face · 08-08-2016 02:00PM

TSMGUY wrote: »

God, you and Lexi are insatiable. I ask a simple question - too simple. I ask a complex question - too convoluted. My grammar's certainly no worse than the standard here on AH.

There's a very simple solution. Instead of effing up the flow of the thread by being a whiny little naysayer, why don't you just stay out of my thread? You're like the ****ing earthworm in James and the Giant Peach who complains for the sake of complaining.

So you'll be voting 'no' I take it.

TSMGUY · 08-08-2016 02:04PM

Your Face wrote: »

So you'll be voting 'no' I take it.

You're exactly as witty as someone called "Your Face" could be expected to be. Btw, there were no grammatical mistakes in the OP. Stop being a moany bollocks. It's really annoying.

Your Face · 08-08-2016 02:05PM

TSMGUY wrote: »

You're exactly as witty as someone called "Your Face" could be expected to be. Btw, there were no grammatical mistakes in the OP. Stop being a moany bollocks. It's really annoying.

You're great craic. Say something else.

TSMGUY · 08-08-2016 02:06PM

Your Face wrote: »

You're great craic. Say something else.

Let's just say you're a real Jeremy Hunt.

EDIT: And Lexie, ffs will grow you up, egging him on every post. The pair of you would be most welcome to never enter my threads because you invariably derail them with what you consider to be pithy wit but is, in actual fact, plain bitchiness.

Speedwell · 08-08-2016 02:06PM

Your Face wrote: »

You're great craic. Say something else.

I would like very much to give in to the childish whim to say "Shut up Your Face" in a Brooklyn accent.

Your Face · 08-08-2016 02:09PM

TSMGUY wrote: »

Let's just say you're a real Jeremy Hunt.

I wouldn't consider myself a conservative.

TSMGUY · 08-08-2016 02:12PM

Your Face wrote: »

I wouldn't consider myself a conservative.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjH4arIn-80

Your Face · 08-08-2016 02:16PM

TSMGUY wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjH4arIn-80

Be honest, you just learned Jeremy Hunt was a politician after you googled my post.

TSMGUY · 08-08-2016 02:17PM

Your Face wrote: »

Be honest, you just learned Jeremy Hunt was a politician after you googled my post.

You're really not funny.

Are you happy? If not, why?

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