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Anxiety and depression thread (Please read OP)

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  • #1202
    Hugo Stiglitz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Gremlinertia wrote: »
    So in a development today I've effectively finished therapy treatment, a nurse called and said with my psych gone they'll go back to seeing me every few months.. Feeling scared and down now.


    Sorry to hear that, Grem. *hugs*

    It's only natural for news like that to be a source of fear. I hope it passes soon and that your mood improves too. x


  • #1203
    Gremlinertia
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 61,688 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Just feel a bit like there's nothing solid under me, I'll be ok in time just a very strange turn of events i think.


  • #1204
    bridgettedon
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 391 ✭✭bridgettedon


    Gremlinertia wrote: »
    So in a development today I've effectively finished therapy treatment, a nurse called and said with my psych gone they'll go back to seeing me every few months.. Feeling scared and down now.

    Well down for completing all the therapy. It's a change going from seeing psych/therapist on a regular basis to every few months.


  • #1205
    Gremlinertia
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 61,688 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    My psych was moved so it's stopped suddenly..


  • #1206
    Hugo Stiglitz
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,891 ✭✭✭✭Hugo Stiglitz


    Gremlinertia wrote: »
    Just feel a bit like there's nothing solid under me, I'll be ok in time just a very strange turn of events i think.

    I fear it's a situation that we all will face in time.

    Rest assured though that there are people in your life who love ya lots and will be there to turn to. :)


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  • #1207
    bridgettedon
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 391 ✭✭bridgettedon


    Gremlinertia wrote: »
    My psych was moved so it's stopped suddenly..

    These things should be planned months in advance. A phonecall stating that it has stopped is not enough.


  • #1208
    trixychic
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,138 ✭✭✭trixychic


    Ok guys this has come on quote sudden but feeling really... bleh right now. I was grand all morning but some kind of cloud has descended. Can't explain it but feeling awful. I should bring my boys out the front and play but honestly feel like im about to have an anxiety attack.

    I only know how to stop it when im in it. I don't know how to prevent it.


  • #1209
    Gremlinertia
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 61,688 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    My trick if i can spot it coming is a common one, see five things around you, describe four, touch three, smell two etc. It's a grounding thing. There's quite a few methods you can look up if that one isn't your thing.


  • #1210
    trixychic
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,138 ✭✭✭trixychic


    Gremlinertia wrote: »
    My trick if i can spot it coming is a common one, see five things around you, describe four, touch three, smell two etc. It's a grounding thing. There's quite a few methods you can look up if that one isn't your thing.

    Thanks Grem. I managed to keep it bay... only just. But it's worn off now. Thankfully. Sometimes they can last for ages!!! I hate them. Thanks Grem I will try that next time.

    How are you doing???


  • #1211
    Gremlinertia
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 61,688 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    It's something to do with using all your senses one by one to get your mind back to yourself..

    Doin ok now, still a bit 'off' with battling nasty intrusive thoughts since earlier


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  • #1212
    La.de.da
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,010 ✭✭✭La.de.da


    MrsYelnekoff wrote: »
    Insomania is driving me mad! I really can't seem to sleep. Lying awake at night is not fun.

    Here is your sister.
    I'm gone manic from the lack of sleep. It's very frustrating.
    Going to ask for some sleeping tablets Monday if no better.


  • #1213
    Hugo Stiglitz
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    Hope the weekend is kind to ye all.


  • #1214
    La.de.da
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,010 ✭✭✭La.de.da


    Hugo Stiglitz wrote: »
    Hope the weekend is kind to ye all.

    You too H. :)


  • #1215
    Gremlinertia
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 61,688 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Oh i hope you all get peace for the weekend.


  • #1216
    mansize
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    Hope you guys have a good weekend


  • #1217
    Turtle_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 640 ✭✭✭Turtle_


    Gremlinertia wrote:

    Doin ok now, still a bit 'off' with battling nasty intrusive thoughts since earlier

    Sorry to hear you're having such a rough time of it, intrusive thoughts are a bitch. I've no idea how to shut them down though, hope they aren't too nasty.


  • #1218
    Gremlinertia
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 61,688 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    The dbt stuff says not to shut them down per se, but try let them 'float through' as opposed to letting them impact and stick with me, still learning though :o


  • #1219
    Tell me how
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 23,110 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    I'm thinking of those suffering tonight.

    It's so easy to talk about "do this", "do that" and so on but when you're in a tough spot it's so hard to change.

    Hopefully tomorrow it'll be better.


  • #1220
    Gremlinertia
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 61,688 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Same to yourself Tell Me How


  • #1221
    SAINTBRIGID
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 ✭SAINTBRIGID


    Mod edited by Gremlinertia

    very bad place.
    I told o/h Id been to a therapist last Feb. I should have kept it quiet.

    One of the kids was away with friends last week and sent a text to o/h phone. I was beside the phone. I opened text which said "having a great time". Otherhalf lost it. How dare you touch my phone etc etc. "i suppose your going to sulk now" " what would your THERAPIST SAY ABOUT THAT". I ignored the comments. then got "going to sulk for a week now"? I replied "Actually I was told not to engage with agression" (I lied".)

    Next day I got "still sulking?" I was hurting. Was already in a bad place. That pushed me to the edge. Later Sat evening in front of the kids I got " If you turn into your father Ill have you out that door so quick". My father was an abusive bully until i stood up to him twenty years ago.


    Im on ssnri and xanax. i o/d the other night in the spare room. Had a great nights sleep........

    I just got an appointment with a psychiatrist. for late next week.

    Lady might see you next week. Ill be the one sulking in the garden.


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  • #1222
    Turtle_
    Closed Accounts Posts: 640 ✭✭✭Turtle_


    MOD edit in line with edit of the op post
    SAINTBRIGID wrote: »

    I just got an appointment with a psychiatrist. for late next week.


    This current sh1t storm will eventually end, it's not permanent.

    If you do want to do something positive, move into the spare room.

    If you are accused of sulking, just quietly say that you're not sulking, you just have no desire to talk to someone who is a bully and treats you with so much contempt that it's bordering on abuse.

    Get a diary, log anything done against you. Things might improve in your marriage but if they don't then at least you have records that can help you stand up for yourself.

    Take the kids to the park, make sure you spend calm and fun time with them.

    You can do this, you have it in you. If your other half won't treat you with respect, then make sure you're at least treating yourself with respect.

    Oh but don't confide in her again. She'll only use it against you.


  • #1223
    SAINTBRIGID
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 ✭SAINTBRIGID


    Turtle_ wrote: »
    MOD edit in line with edit of the op post




    This current sh1t storm will eventually end, it's not permanent.

    If you do want to do something positive, move into the spare room.

    If you are accused of sulking, just quietly say that you're not sulking, you just have no desire to talk to someone who is a bully and treats you with so much contempt that it's bordering on abuse.

    Get a diary, log anything done against you. Things might improve in your marriage but if they don't then at least you have records that can help you stand up for yourself.

    Take the kids to the park, make sure you spend calm and fun time with them.

    You can do this, you have it in you. If your other half won't treat you with respect, then make sure you're at least treating yourself with respect.

    Oh but don't confide in her again. She'll only use it against you.


    Thanks, you just made me laugh! No offence intended, my kids are late teens and eldest is 22! I think if I suggested bringing them to the park to play, they;d have me locked up

    Its funny about the diary - During one heated argument I reminded her of something she had said to me before I got "I suppose your putting all this down in a diary"

    Just a a side - its now 4 years since we.........

    If I leave, they will get FIS, medical card, susi grant and as the mortgage is just about paid there will be no bills.

    I cant do fighting, my spirit is gone, I was very sick last year had a lot of life changing surgery but still went to work.


  • #1224
    SAINTBRIGID
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 ✭SAINTBRIGID


    Lady is a tramp wrote: »
    Well I'm still in St Pats, have been most of this year, with a couple of brief discharges. Seems to be always one step forward and two steps back for me. :( My mood etc is OK at the moment, but sure I can't live in hospital forever! Really wish I could get my life back on track. :(

    do you need a referral for pats or can you make an appointment for assessment?

    where is perspoly? :)


  • #1225
    Gremlinertia
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 61,688 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Referral, usually by gp for assessment by psych department of local hospital, however depending on urgency casualty is also an option..


  • #1226
    Tell me how
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 23,110 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    SAINTBRIGID wrote:
    do you need a referral for pats or can you make an appointment for assessment?

    Your Psych needs to make a referral. Could be waiting up to few weeks for possible admittance.


  • #1227
    Lady is a tramp
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭Lady is a tramp


    Tell me how wrote: »
    Your Psych needs to make a referral. Could be waiting up to few weeks for possible admittance.

    No in my experience if you ring them, they'll take you without a referral if it's urgent.


  • #1228
    Tell me how
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 23,110 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    Lady is a tramp wrote:
    No in my experience if you ring them, they'll take you without a referral if it's urgent.

    If you've previously been a patient I think they'll do this.

    I understood for first time users it needed a referral.

    Their website outlines the "typical" process of being admitted.


  • #1229
    trixychic
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,138 ✭✭✭trixychic


    SAINTBRIGID wrote: »
    Mod edited by Gremlinertia

    very bad place.
    I told o/h Id been to a therapist last Feb. I should have kept it quiet.

    One of the kids was away with friends last week and sent a text to o/h phone. I was beside the phone. I opened text which said "having a great time". Otherhalf lost it. How dare you touch my phone etc etc. "i suppose your going to sulk now" " what would your THERAPIST SAY ABOUT THAT". I ignored the comments. then got "going to sulk for a week now"? I replied "Actually I was told not to engage with agression" (I lied".)

    Next day I got "still sulking?" I was hurting. Was already in a bad place. That pushed me to the edge. Later Sat evening in front of the kids I got " If you turn into your father Ill have you out that door so quick". My father was an abusive bully until i stood up to him twenty years ago.


    Im on ssnri and xanax. i o/d the other night in the spare room. Had a great nights sleep........

    I just got an appointment with a psychiatrist. for late next week.

    Lady might see you next week. Ill be the one sulking in the garden.


    No offense and I hope your ok but she sounds unbelievable!!! I'm actually lost for words!!! I can't even imagine what it must be like living with her. I don't think my advice would br very helpful. I'll just say please look after yourself. Spare room sounds cozy. I hope your ok. Xxx


  • #1230
    SAINTBRIGID
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6 ✭SAINTBRIGID


    Thanks, everyone.

    I now have another problem. I fell asleep last night after my last post. My eldest came in to borrow the laptop (mine is connected to the printer by wi-fi). The computer was open on this page.
    She was very quiet when I got up.
    I dont know what to say or even if I should approach it.


    Im just thinking out loud.


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  • #1231
    Gremlinertia
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Regional West Moderators Posts: 61,688 Mod ✭✭✭✭Gremlinertia


    Honestly, ask if she read anything that concerned her. Open a discourse, she's old enough to have at least a bare bones conversation about this.. In fact this could be a good thing for you both/all


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