Is marriage worth it ?

Jim Bob Scratcher · 24-06-2016 04:55AM #1

What do you think folks. I myself can never see myself ever getting married.
Are you married ? if so how's it going ? and for those who are single or going out without someone can you ever see yourself tying the knot ?

pwurple · 24-06-2016 06:27AM

What do you mean?

Marriage is a legal contract, binding you to a spouse instead of your parents.

Next of kin, inheritance, guardianship, tax laws all tied up in a neat little legal package.

We didn't bother until my (now husband) had an accident and needed an ambulance. I couldn't go with him, couldn't consent to treatment. Had to call his parents for it.

Anyway, yes, for us it has been worth it, especially since we had children. Didn't have to go off getting guardianship arranged.

XsApollo · 24-06-2016 06:36AM

Would I do it again?

Nope.

NikoTopps · 24-06-2016 06:51AM

Boyfriend is Greek, so maybe one day we will!

riclad · 24-06-2016 07:36AM

Marriage is a legal contract designed to protect mostly the woman,
if she chooses to have children she has a right to the family home and
financial support if they separate .
Its a good thing,
but its possible to live with someone and never get married and to be happy.
People seem to get married later now, many women have children before they get married .
In they 80,s if you went out with someone for 2-3 years ,then you,d probably get married .

gifted · 24-06-2016 07:39AM

Marriage is code word for ....no sex. ....don't be fooled by anything else

CaraMay · 24-06-2016 07:39AM

I think it's important especially when there are kids involved. We aren't married and until we are I won't feel like his family ie his kids and mother etc, are my family. It might not make sense but I just don't feel they are my family yet.

24-06-2016 07:43AM

riclad wrote: »

Marriage is a legal contract designed to protect mostly the woman,
if she chooses to have children she has a right to the family home and
financial support if they separate.

Um...no she doesn't..

24-06-2016 07:55AM

Find the right person and yes, yes it is. I'm married 3 years now and I cant imagine a life without my beautiful wife.

whiskeyman · 24-06-2016 07:56AM

gifted wrote: »

Marriage is code word for ....no sex. ....don't be fooled by anything else

Just no sex with the wife...

:P

The flying mouse · 24-06-2016 08:05AM

For the most part marriage is the final commitment to your partner,usually after spending some years together you have said yes, your the one I want to spend the rest of my life with through thick and thin.

It doesn't always work out for everyone but for the most part I think it's a good thing.

FortySeven · 24-06-2016 08:14AM

[Deleted User] wrote: »

Um...no she doesn't..

Yes, she does.

Guardianship is no longer determined by marriage either.

Oh, you don't need to be married now to have your worldly goods and possessions taken. Just living together for more than 2 years if you have a child together or 5 years if you don't gives your partner a claim on your property.

Getting married. Not worth it. Massive waste of money to give a girl a day of being a princess. Sure, didn't we grow up sometime around the 20th century?

These institutions are done, perpetuated only by business and failed institutions like the church.

Go ride, enjoy and never ride long. Till you want kids, then ride a good mother. Not a good ride if you know what I mean.

24-06-2016 08:26AM

This question will be answered based on people's experiences I'm guessing.

I'm not married and have no strong opinion on it either way. Sometimes I like the idea of it. Him and me. Of course there is no him.

It wouldn't be a big elaborate affair. I'm atheist so no priest or church. No white dress either. Maybe green.
Ah dreams

philstar · 24-06-2016 09:31AM

Is marriage worth it ?

ask john and mary.....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7eYmgAnIPn4

Shenshen · 24-06-2016 09:33AM

I think that question can only be answered on a case by case basis, really.

Do I think my marriage to my husband is worth it? Not a doubt in my mind.
Do I think some celebrity marriage taking place 10 days after meeting someone is worth it? Doubtful, though it creates jobs for journalists.
Do I think my husband's parent's marriage (now in it's 60th year) was worth it? From what I can tell, it really was.
Do I think the marriage of a Pakistani girl to a cousin she's never met in order for him to come live in the EU is worth it? Again, I'd have my doubts.

Marriage covers way too many scenarios to give a unified statement.,

matrim · 24-06-2016 09:40AM

riclad wrote: »

if she chooses to have children

If you don't want kids then don't have kids. It's a choice for both people

she has a right to the family home and
financial support if they separate .

While often the case (because they are the primary child carer) it's not guaranteed that the woman gets the home. And it doesn't require marriage for that to happen. If you have kids with someone and live with them for 2 years they get a lot of rights. Hell even without living with them they (or the kids) will require financial support.

For myself I don't view marriage as some romantic guesture or requirement for a happy life with someone. For me the core reasons are to do with next of kin rights, etc. I'd hate for something to happen to my partner and not be able to make the decisions, at least partly because I know that what I (and my partner would want) are different from what her parents would want.

Hazydays123 · 24-06-2016 09:45AM

I'm married but was in a relationship with my husband for 8 yrs prior to getting married.

I think it definitely changed other people's perception of our relationship- ie. that we intend on being together forever. I always knew that to be the case but I think that others question the seriousness of your relationship if you haven't taken the leap and done it.

I definitely wouldn't have children outside of marriage. Kids are a huge lifelong commitment so I'd find it hard to understand if a person wanted to have kids with me but wasn't interested in giving our relationship a legal status.

I like knowing that legally my husband is recognized as the most significant person in my life. It's a true reflection of our life. If anything bad ever happened to me (healthwise), I'm glad that he could make decisions on my behalf.

Tax wise, you save a ton of money by sharing credits too.
Basically I can't think of any disadvantages to marriage. You can do it for a few hundred euro if money is the issue.

Duggy747 · 24-06-2016 09:47AM

It would feckin' want to be, I'm getting married in 2 weeks :eek:

Hazydays123 · 24-06-2016 09:51AM

gifted wrote: »

Marriage is code word for ....no sex. ....don't be fooled by anything else

That's an unhealthy marriage if so.

ClovenHoof · 24-06-2016 10:03AM

I am very happily married for many years to my best friend. Looking back on it now there was no reason to get married. Living together would have been fine.

I will say this though. Most people marry without considering what a very serious legal contract it is. Yet they spend more time worrying about the flowers for the reception.

ClovenHoof · 24-06-2016 10:06AM

Oh, but marraige is really a No More Blow Jobs contract more than anything else.

Xyzforsure · 24-06-2016 10:08AM

Duggy747 wrote: »

It would feckin' want to be, I'm getting married in 2 weeks :eek:

How's the nerves? ?

Any doubts

Duggy747 · 24-06-2016 10:25AM

Xyzforsure wrote: »

How's the nerves? ?

Any doubts

Nerves are sound, the two of us are pretty chill about everything anyways in general and everything is done so we're just playing the waiting game now.

Everyone else is more nervous about how things will go on the day than we are, we're more "eh......fúck it........"

No doubts either, not much will change between us anyways.................less sex maybe :pac:

FizzleSticks · 24-06-2016 10:27AM

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anndub · 24-06-2016 10:29AM

FortySeven wrote: »

Yes, she does.

Guardianship is no longer determined by marriage either.

Oh, you don't need to be married now to have your worldly goods and possessions taken. Just living together for more than 2 years if you have a child together or 5 years if you don't gives your partner a claim on your property.

Getting married. Not worth it. Massive waste of money to give a girl a day of being a princess. Sure, didn't we grow up sometime around the 20th century?

These institutions are done, perpetuated only by business and failed institutions like the church.

Go ride, enjoy and never ride long. Till you want kids, then ride a good mother. Not a good ride if you know what I mean.

What are you on about? Sweet Jesus

VisibleGorilla · 24-06-2016 10:30AM

I'll never get married, it's 50/50 whether it will actually last and more often than not the woman calls for divorce, I believe it's around 70%.

Why add in a legal contract to a relationship? Why invite the government in?

Madness in 2016.

Hazydays123 · 24-06-2016 10:33AM

My other thought on marriage (i'm full of thoughts today!!) is that it should be a two way conversation.

If it's important to you and you think you're with the right person then you should tell them that it's where you see things going. If they have a problem with that then there's something not right.

ChampagnePop · 24-06-2016 10:38AM

FortySeven wrote: »

Yes, she does.

Guardianship is no longer determined by marriage either.

Oh, you don't need to be married now to have your worldly goods and possessions taken. Just living together for more than 2 years if you have a child together or 5 years if you don't gives your partner a claim on your property.

Getting married. Not worth it. Massive waste of money to give a girl a day of being a princess. Sure, didn't we grow up sometime around the 20th century?

These institutions are done, perpetuated only by business and failed institutions like the church.

Go ride, enjoy and never ride long. Till you want kids, then ride a good mother. Not a good ride if you know what I mean.

Yes because only women want weddings - what a ridiculous statement to make.

You need to take more responsibility for the choices you made when choosing a partner to have children with and stop your endless sexist rants on every thread you can find. It's getting more than old at this stage

Hazydays123 · 24-06-2016 10:38AM

VisibleGorilla wrote: »

I'll never get married, it's 50/50 whether it will actually last and more often than not the woman calls for divorce, I believe it's around 70%.

Why add in a legal contract to a relationship? Why invite the government in?

Madness in 2016.

It's sad that in 2016 people don't see the significance of taking a leap of faith!

Even if my marriage doesn't work out, I'll never regret it. I don't believe in living a life where I sit on the fence and try and insulate myself from all the possible things that could go wrong.

If nobody has ever made you feel inspired enough to put all your trust into them and believe that they will always try and do right by you, then you just haven't met 'your person' yet. At least try and be open to the idea.

the evasion_kid · 24-06-2016 10:39AM

pwurple wrote: »

What do you mean?

Marriage is a legal contract, binding you to a spouse instead of your parents.

Next of kin, inheritance, guardianship, tax laws all tied up in a neat little legal package.

We didn't bother until my (now husband) had an accident and needed an ambulance. I couldn't go with him, couldn't consent to treatment. Had to call his parents for it.

Anyway, yes, for us it has been worth it, especially since we had children. Didn't have to go off getting guardianship arranged.

Nothing like daddy government to make it sacred...

pxdf9i5cmoavkz · 24-06-2016 10:47AM

Jim Bob Scratcher wrote: »

Is marriage worth it ?

It is not easy, but, it can be great if both sides work towards it.

Is marriage worth it ?

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