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TenLeftFingers

THIS IS NOT A PERSONAL ISSUES erm.... ISSUE.

I was in the middle of a very heated argument after a bad day. I bit the head off my girlfriend in front of a group of people. I feel like I shot mother theresa.
I've apologised, but I made her feel about 2 feet tall. And being the kind hearted eejit she is, she forgave me (contrary to my advice) and told me she still loves me.

ANYWAY, this post is all about ways to make it up when you've messed up and shot your' closest ally, your' partner. I want to do something special.

Any ideas from giving your' last Rollo to cutting off fingers and posting them....let's hear 'em.

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TomTom

The best way is to completly suprise her with something nice. Like when she comes home knackered announce that you are taking her away for the weekend or have a nice romantic meal set out.

fisty

Dinner, Dancing and...
slip her the pork sword boy....

Ste-

When I 1st read it I thought you literally bit her in the head.


Anyway I'd say nice bunch o flowers.

lordsippa

Start off with flowers, a box of chocs, and a kiss. Take it whatever way you choose from there.

s0l

Jump her bones!!!
But seriously, you know her, so whatever she really likes to do, take her out to do it.

MrPinK

Take her to a nice hotel for a weekend, as classy as you can afford. If you can get out of the country, all the better. If money's tight, a B&B would probably suffice.

TenLeftFingers

Yeah, I'm a student so moneys a little tight but I think I can afford about €200 tops.

jammy_dodger

i know my girlfriend would love a surprise like going out for dinner, i dont think the roses thingie is a good idea, too cheesey and displays lack of effort. ie. Go do something with her, Dont just throw her a box of chocs.
I suggest surprise her one day SOON. and bring her too Dublin Zoo, Its good craic, and be sure to check out the Bat house.
And then have a nice meal in or out planned.
Then go for a few drinks, see where the night takes you.
Should easily be under €200

FoXXy

i reckon the surprise element is the best route, romantic dinners are always good! bout the flowers tho.. if not roses get her a bunch of her faves or something? that way it shows ur tuned into her likes and ur avoiding the repetitive option of roses...

Mac daddy

Roses and box of chocs, wine and dine , bring her back for a cracker of a ride.

The Sweeper

Apologise just as publicly as you humiliated her.

Better again if you could do it in front of the same bunch of people.

In future, make more of an effort to keep a reins on your tongue and you wont have to feel that you need to make a sweeping gesture.

Flowers, chocolates and weekend breaks are best when they're surprises. Not when they're obvious post-prick-grovelling.

Personally if I see some bloke sporting a bunch of petrol-station chrysanthemums I think the worst.

Sangre

Originally posted by Minesajackdaniels
Apologise just as publicly as you humiliated her.

Better again if you could do it in front of the same bunch of people.

Yeah but wont that look really forced, plus whats it got to do with them, its their business and Im sure the issue is not the people he did it in front of but what he did etc..
But I could be wrong.

lordsippa

As I said, start off small with a box of chocs or something so that she thinks you're being sweet etc and then bring her out somewhere top notch. If it's a nice night maybe end it bringing her up the mountains to watch the stars and the city lights (although if you go to the pub after a meal out or whatever this might not be the safest option, drivin an' all).

Something expensive but also some nice subtle things to show that you're not just trying to buy her.

Victor

Originally posted by merlin_bar
Yeah, I'm a student so moneys a little tight but I think I can afford about €200 tops.

Hey, give her the €200 and let her go shopping!

Antisocialiser

Eat her out

La_Gordy

Me thinks the Zoo trip was a good idea but at the Zoo like give her a letter of apology.

sceptre

Originally posted by Minesajackdaniels
Apologise just as publicly as you humiliated her.

Better again if you could do it in front of the same bunch of people.

In future, make more of an effort to keep a reins on your tongue and you wont have to feel that you need to make a sweeping gesture.

Flowers, chocolates and weekend breaks are best when they're surprises. Not when they're obvious post-prick-grovelling.

Personally if I see some bloke sporting a bunch of petrol-station chrysanthemums I think the worst.

Just what I would have said. Keep just buying presents when something goes wrong and you'll give her the idea that you think you can buy your way out of trouble. Let the punishment fit the crime. Buy her something nice if you feel like it. Under no circumstances say anything like "this is to say sorry". If you want to say sorry, say sorry, don't try to make a carnival event out of it. Blokes aren't the only ones who do this of course - there are girls who do it as well. An honest apology, admission of guilt and effort not to put the two of you in the same position again are probably the most valuable things you can offer. Far more valuable than anything from any shop.

cat_rant

you dont need money to show your sorry . one arrange her to call around . two have candels lit . three cook her a nice meal to show how special she is and that you want to spend tome with her. four have her favourite wine with the meal . five if you must buy her a nice piece of jewlery to say i love you. make it clear that you want to treat her because shes so good to you and so understanding

good luck

the best present is the effort that goes into it

MrNuked

Bash your head repeatedly against the wall while saying "why do I have to be such a dickhead"
or
Just don't do it again. She's already forgiven you. put it behind you and decide to be nice to her from now on.

Mac daddy

Originally posted by Antisocialiser
Eat her out

LOL she would love that.:ninja:

TenLeftFingers

Originally posted by Mac daddy
LOL she would love that.:ninja:

Hey how do you know?? Can't yurn my back on ye for a second.

With regard to the 'post-prick grovelling', I like the term MAJD, but I'm not trying to buy my way out of this. She's already accepted my apology, I just want to do something different so she knows I'm not just talk.

I tell her I love her all the time because I do, and we spend a lot of quality time together, but it's usually in my room in my flat, or in her folks house. You need some money to do something different from all that.

I think I'll surprise her with a dinner, and then bring her back to my parents house to meet the folks (she'll have a heart attack, but she wanted me to spring it on her so she wouldn't be worrying).

I might have a surprise for her too, something personal.

Thanks for all the feedback, I should show her this thread!

Feel free to add more suggestions. I won't see her till wednesday.

jammy_dodger

Take her to the Zoo

The ZOo. i tell you

Yeah but meeting the folks is a good way to go, as long as you know she's not the type to completely freak out. :ninja:

Mac daddy

Or really suprise her by booking a flight for the weekend to paris or somewere nice and cheap, go to amsterdam great night clubs, cheap drink

hoolio

I think the letter of apology is a good idea.Handwrite (not type) a very sincere letter thats neat and tidy,perfect spelling and grammar and all that and on good paper.Don't give it to her - post it to her so it will be a better surprise and enclose in the envelope good (ie expensive) tickets to some show or concert or something like that thats on (if thats her thing).And I guess a fancy dinner on top of that wouldnt hurt either.


And after all that refer to what MrNuked suggested you do.

DeVore

Post a picture of yourself up here and we'll take care of the rest...


DeV.

sceptre

Originally posted by DeVore
Post a picture of yourself up here and we'll take care of the rest...

Ah, I can see it now. Twenty of us walking up and down your road wearing a tee-shirt with your picture and the caption "He's really sorry" on and carrying balloons with the same thing.

MrPinK

Is she still pissed at you? A letter of apology is only good when she is still icy and not really talking to you. If she has already forgiven you and your trying to come up with a gesture to prove how sorry you are, then you want something a bit more grandiose than a letter

lordsippa

<Envisions a boards.ie version of The Sweetest Thing video>

patch

Fill up tour room with nite-lites......carefully.
A nice bumch of flowers.
Send her to your room to get something.
Job done, revel in the after effect.

MrPinK

And start up 'Marvin Gaye - Lets Get it On.mp3' as she walks in. That song makes ppl do strange things

gogo

I don't think buying her anything is going to do the trick, as a girl, I think that you will just be reminding her as to why you should be sorry in the first place, If it was me, i'd just be thinking that maybe i shouldn't have been so forgiving (if you think it's worth a holiday, your just reminding her how hugh a fcuk up you made).

The trip to the zoo is a nice idea i think, but don't tell her it's because your so sorry. That matter is over and you have been forgiven, get over it and work on proving to her that you really are the nice guy you say you are.

My two cents....by gogo

skittishkitten

If you feel you must do something ..... then tell her one more time how awful you feel about acting like a jerk. Apologize once more .... give her a HUGE hug , a sweet kiss , ANOTHER HUGE HUG ..... then let it drop , get over it and DON'T EVER DO IT AGAIN !
As a girl I can tell you it makes more of an impression on me if you give a sincere apology and a show of affection than anything else. Jewelery and flowers are nice , but they should be given at other special times , not just because you screwed up. I'd rather have an apology and a cuddle any day

DriftingRain

I hate it when guys flub up then try to buy their way out of it. Just tell her you are sorry and hold her, cuddle and be the sweetest thing you can be. This is the best route cause you won't feel as if you have to buy your way out of it and she will enjoy all the cuddle time with her man. You know us women, we love the cuddling:) Good Luck and best to try to control your temper when it is not ment to be directed towards her.:rolleyes:

daveg

Originally posted by dj_ste
When I 1st read it I thought you literally bit her in the head.

B]

I just made an idiot of myself at work by bursting out laughing.

daveg

Originally posted by patch69
Fill up tour room with nite-lites......carefully.
A nice bumch of flowers.
Send her to your room to get something.
Job done, revel in the after effect.

And you wonder why you can't get a girlfriend

gogo

jeez, you can tell who are men and who are women the minute you read this thread, completely different interests of opinion.

Either way, what are you going to do merlin_bar?
once again as a woman---I urge you to go with the women's suggestions,(no present, just work on not being a prat).

gogo

skittishkitten

Here's another thing to think on.... say you give her presents every time you mess up ... then one day out of the blue you decide to surprise her and give her something "just because" .... then she's going to be wondering what you did that you felt you needed to give her a present to "make up" for it

patch

Originally posted by daveg
And you wonder why you can't get a girlfriend

How the fup did I miss this!!??

You sir, are a swine (Daveg and myself had a difference of opinion on the merits of my single life, over his premature settling...) I could recount stories where you came to my door, many nights. Nights where your spirit was breaking from the weight of....... - I'll stop there you cad.....for I am your friend.:mad: ps. Your buying breakfast

daveg

You sir, are a swine (Daveg and myself had a difference of opinion on the merits of my single life, over his premature settling...) I could recount stories where you came to my door, many nights. Nights where your spirit was breaking from the weight of....... - I'll stop there you cad.....for I am your friend. ps. Your buying breakfast

[start Liverpudlian accent]A'right, a'right! Calm down, calm down[/end Liverpudlian accent]

DeadBankClerk

Originally posted by merlin_bar
shot your' closest ally, your' partner. I want to do something special.

Any ideas from giving your' last Rollo

The rollo belonging to you = Your rollo.
You + are = You're.
If you are eating the rollo then you're going to rot your teeth.

Tyrrial

very simple:

walk up to her/him and tap them with you knee and then say "i need you" it's just to cute for someone (with a heart) to resist!

commuterised

Originally posted by dj_ste
When I 1st read it I thought you literally bit her in the head.


Anyway I'd say nice bunch o flowers.

me too thought I was the only looney!


If me hubbie did this to me, I'd be totally won over by a public display of affection , ie flowers deliverd to my office or something like that, and I'd have the grace to blush when they're delivered.

Carnate

WHO sez Romance is dead in Ireland?



2 cents worth, Don't do it again!

Mistakill

Shave off all the hair on your body and buy satin sheets.

Should feel really kinky

TenLeftFingers

Thanks for all the advice. I took her to meet my parents, just to show her that she means a lot to me. It went really well and they got on great.

I managed to get the same crowd of people together since, and I apologised to her for being an @sshole in front of everybody.

I had just finished my exams so we were able to spend a week together. We had a lot of fun. We just went out for drinks the odd night, and watched movies, things we never had time for during the college year. It was great.

Aside from that we've put it behind us ( not that I'll forget, but all is well ).

Thanks again everybody for the input.

Gordon

Let us know when she takes her revenge out on you in the future mmkay?

Wolf

A surprize where you do somin to show your love for her and do it in public where you make fool of yourself.

Carnate

Slaps Wolf


did you READ any of the posts?



Hur Hur!

He did the right thing.

Nuff Said

cournioni

Originally posted by TomTom
The best way is to completly suprise her with something nice.

That is all that is needed.

Wolf

Originally posted by Carnate
Slaps Wolf


did you READ any of the posts?



Hur Hur!

He did the right thing.

Nuff Said

DOH soz typical me

and your right he did do the right thing well played