spanking?

LegacyUser

hi there everybody,imnot trolling by the by, this is serious,

i have a slight problem regarding spanking, in the erotic sense. i have a boyfriend of a year and i have NO IDEA how to broach the subject.

i dont mean S&M or anything like that, my fantasies are usually very tame. we have a lot of really good sex but i feeling that i have to be honest with him or itll come out in some horribly humiliating way.

im always smacking my boyfriend on the bum and the other day he smacked me back, and it got me thinking about how to tell him/show him. : (

after he smacked me that time, i got very...excited.. andhe jokingly said: 'we'll have to bring a paddle nxt time!' and laughed.

i really dont want him to run away or think im a pervert or a freak, so please give me some (non taking the piss) advice on how to tell him??

thanks

ferdi

chances are he will be cool with it, i would be;)

annabegins

Just tell him straight.
He's already willingly used his hand and it was him that mentioned the paddle, maybe its also a secret fantasy of his and he doesn't know how to ask you.
If he didn't want to do it, there's no way he would even mention it.
Most guys get more pleasure out of women's pleasure so if it makes you even more horny then I don't see why he would o0bject, his gain in the end!

woolymammoth

he's already joked about bringing the paddle... so in a couple of days, or a week, just turn around to him with a cheeky grin and ask him where's the paddle he promised. try to make it sound fun and playful so he won't know if you're joking or serious. he'll probably get the idea that you're serious and.. well you take it from there really.

DeadBankClerk

Get him to spank you while he wears manties.

LoGiE

Originally posted by DeadBankClerk
Get him to spank you while he wears manties.

:eek:

woolymammoth

do we even want to know how you know about them...??

Gordon

/me looks at DBC in a new light!

Funny my sister did a bit of extra acting these past few weeks and was telling us about a 3 day shoot she was involved in where she only had one guy to chat to for the whole time (I'm not sure why mind you). She started talking to him and he said "well you really wouldn't want to know what my job is". Of course being the inquisitive sort she said "No no I really am, tell me" and he said that he ran a paddle firm selling paddles over the internet (reminds me of Lock stock and 2 smoking barrels heh.) She was a bit wierded out by it but got through the day. The next day he brought in a sample of his favourite paddles to show her. She made her excuses and left.

A tad worried, it sounds like he may just feel the same way too. I'd go with woollymammoth and annabegins. If he is into you as much as you are into him then he will be well up for it.

Mutz

Just whisper quietly in his ear - "Spank me" - Sorted - He'll love it!

lordsippa

I go with Mutz on this...

LegacyUser

agree w/ mutz.

OMG, I remember being led to that link from boards before. Odd, very odd.....

DeVore

Err... theres nothing weird or perverted about wanting to be spanked during sex. If you were into German gasmasks and foot-tickling then ok maybe you might have something to be concerned over but people have been spanking their sexual partners for centuries. (not worksafe if you work in a catholic office )

DeV.

Kell

Originally posted by Mutz
Just whisper quietly in his ear - "Spank me" - Sorted - He'll love it!

I know I would. Definitely gotta go with that piece of advice.

K-

Tusky

aye hed be crazy to say getaway from me you pervet...bet he wont say that....

LegacyUser

Thanks for all your replies

hmm, that whispery suggestion sounds very fetching indeed ill still be terrified but maybe ill risk it next time we're in bed...maybe....still, i dont want him to have a changed view of me.... but thankyou for all the help

Wolf

If my girl friend told me she wanted me to spank her id be like.......



The id be really happy! :ninja:

YoungNastyMan

Great i just looked up that MANties site in a packed internet cafe, with the sound blared, and everybody heard the sound file.

god damn embaressing

Carbiens

if he doesn't go for it, well...

will you marry me?:p

Enygma

My girlfriend said it to me, I thought it was really cool.
We'd say anything to each other though

Catsmokinpot

yeah spank that ass! take it through the car wash and get it waxed he'll like it

every man wants you if you like that stuff

mutz got it in one

DeVore

LOL @ Carbine!!

I hope the poster comes back to lets us all know how it went


DeV.

YoungNastyMan

Originally posted by Catsmokinpot
yeah spank that ass! take it through the car wash

Good one ROFL

LegacyUser

hi again everybody, thanks for your replies,

teehee carbine, but im sorry, i think hes gradually getting my drift. i was leaning across his lap to 'get something' a couple of days ago and he smacked my bum a couple of times, in a laughy non serious way.

so..i giggled like an idiot. he has GOT to have caught on by now, i havent got the chance to take up on mutzs suggestion..i think ill save it for tomorrow night... teehee! its all so exciting. i dont think he'll hate me or freak out any more judging from his reactions.

do boys really like girls who a bit more kinky than most more than 'normal' girls?

DeVore

Originally posted by ATadWorried
do boys really like girls who a bit more kinky than most more than 'normal' girls?

Most guys want to date a tramp and marry a virgin. Its hypocritical but true.

I think the majority of guys would like to date someone who is at least a little adventurous in the bedroom. I mean, its not like you are asking him to tie you up in Japanese rope bondage or apply clothespegs to your body-parts. I'm not sure wanting a light spanking during sex would even *qualify* as kinky in most guys books

DeV.

Executive Steve

this aint 100% work safe, but its NOT a pr0n site either, you'll find the forum there are an extremely good source of information/tips/techniques on anything that falls outside of the boundaries of "vanilla" sex and relationships... although by jaysus theres some scary scary people posting there....
http://ssm.bondage.com look for the forum. moderators, please feel free to remove/edit this post if its presence offends but i am posting after serious consideration decided it was warranted to do so.

Hells_Fury

Originally posted by DeVore
Most guys want to date a tramp and marry a virgin. Its hypocritical but true.

DeV.

Isn't that the most digusting truth !! Can you imagine how many "closet" kinky girls are roaming around out there !!

I hope you can get him to come around to your way of thinking I really don't think a light spanking would be considered kinky also, from what you say he seems to have a rather open mind about the experience .... perhaps he's unsure about the idea because he's afraid he might accidentally spank you to hard and hurt you. Guys seem to think girls are more breakable than they really are at times.

LegacyUser

aha,i HAD to drag this up, im reallly really sorry. i know its been well over a year and a half since this thread existed, but i thought i should tell you all how it went.

the boyfriend and i broke up, and continued to (this day, actually) to be fukbuddies. anyway so one night, things were happening, i leaned over and huskily whispered 'spank me' in his ear.

he did spank me but i was too self consious and it got REALLY awkward and mortifying.

lets just say that sometimes fantasies are better left in your head!

Mercury_Tilt

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Sherifu

Well done for trying.

Sleepy

A Tad Worried wrote:

aha,i HAD to drag this up, im reallly really sorry. i know its been well over a year and a half since this thread existed, but i thought i should tell you all how it went.

the boyfriend and i broke up, and continued to (this day, actually) to be fukbuddies. anyway so one night, things were happening, i leaned over and huskily whispered 'spank me' in his ear.

he did spank me but i was too self consious and it got REALLY awkward and mortifying.

lets just say that sometimes fantasies are better left in your head!

Don't let one failure put you off it for life... I've found that some things can be mortifying with one partner and absolutely thrilling with another

And as for the issue of men wanting one thing in the bedroom and anothet outside of it, I think Jerry Hall put it best:

"Men want a maid in the parlour, a chef in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom"

Walls

A Tad Worried wrote:

lets just say that sometimes fantasies are better left in your head!

Nonsense. You weren’t straight with him, nor did you openly discuss it with him. Not criticising your shyness, it is perfectly understandable, but really how else are you going to get what you want? Put on Secretary with the next bloke and the conversation will develop naturally.

Sleepy wrote:

"Men want a maid in the parlour, a chef in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom"

Yeah, well, women want a Jaguar in the garage, a Tiger in the bedroom and an Ass to pay for it all!!

][cEMAN**

Out of all of the PI threads i've read over time, i'm curious why this is the one DeV has decided to pay special interest in

WhiteWashMan

Walls wrote:

a Tiger in the bedroom !!

well, you know what winks and fúcks like a tiger dont you?

WhiteWashMan

WhiteWashMan wrote:

well, you know what winks and fúcks like a tiger dont you?

Roar!

Occidental

Carbine

You're in!

Beruthiel

keep it on topic ladies
B

DeVore

' wrote:

[cEMAN**']Out of all of the PI threads i've read over time, i'm curious why this is the one DeV has decided to pay special interest in

I think you'll find I occasionally drop in and give my advice if I have some. I've had a g/f in the past who liked that sort of thing and frankly I'm not sure I would even label it as "kinky". I mean, if you give your partner a love bite, is that canabalism??

Oh, and take heed of your own sig...

DeV.

WhiteWashMan

DeVore wrote:

I've had a g/f in the past .

oh lord, thats the funniest thing ive read in ages!

can someone ban this muppet for blatent trolling!

Beruthiel

WhiteWashMan wrote:

oh lord, thats the funniest thing ive read in ages!

can someone ban this muppet for blatent trolling!

which would mean I would also have to ban you too for the same offence Mr. Kettle!

WhiteWashMan

Beruthiel wrote:

which would mean I would also have to ban you too for the same offence Mr. Kettle!

but to get back on topic, while youre having a good ol shag in the doggie style position, in between your 'oh god', 'youre so big', 'oh yes' and 'fúck me big boy' comments, add in 'spank me, oh yeah, just like that, oh yes, thats so good, oh god baby, spank me, spank me whitewas.....' erm, nevermind.

][cEMAN**

DeVore wrote:

I've had a g/f in the past who liked that sort of thing and frankly I'm not sure I would even label it as "kinky". I mean, if you give your partner a love bite, is that canabalism??

If it is I should be watching out for the local authorities because i'm guilty of it. I'd say everything is kinky. I'd say to some people the missionary would be considered kinky. Hell, to some people drinking a bit of each others blood would be considered weird...

Personally I don't like being spanked (*rocks back and forth* no mommy don't hit me any more *rocks back and forth*) but i'm not against doing a bit of spanking myself.

To the original poster, i'd say to ease into it, but definately make sure you address this. It's not fun being with someone you don't feel you can be free to express yourself sexualy with.

mycroft

DeVore wrote:

frankly I'm not sure I would even label it as "kinky". I mean, if you give your partner a love bite, is that canabalism??

DeV.

That depends on whether you need a toothpick to get the niggly bits of flesh out from between your rear molars....................

To the original poster it's not called a bit of slap n tickle for nothing. hell harcore s&m is borderline fashionable these days, slap with his hand not even close to weird.

Basq

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