First time sex advice - condoms etc

rangzhi · 17-04-2003 7:30pm #1

Im 18 and still a virgin. YES we do exist!!!

My girlfriend and I are both ready to have sex, I think it's going to happen sooner rather than later. The other day we had a 5 hour snogathon, and I was pumping hard ready for it. She even asked me did I have any condoms, except me just a dimwit and wasn't excepting that question. (By the way licking the ear etc is the horniest thing I have ever felt in my life!!!!).

I was just wondering does anybody some good advice on first time sex. It would be both or first times by the way. I want the do's and don't's. I am not worried about satisfying myself, I want her to orgasm etc but I'm serioulsly nervous that I won't be able to take it as she is too hot. Way too hot, she was doing things with her tongue the other day....ahhh.

anyways I know nothing about condoms. I have a clue how they go on but don't understand all these different types, ie - sensitive, ribbed, comfort. I was in the pharmacy the other, I want to spend the least amount of time possible looking for one, u know, get in get out of the pharmacy. but no, 30 different types of condoms. How is one supposed to know which one is for him?

I want it to be good for her, I want it to be able to last. The last thing I want is for her to get pregnant. Thats just a no no. She thought the withdrawl method works no problems!!.

What type of condoms does everyone use? Which do you tinks is the best etc? Thanks for anyone who has given time to read and reply!!!

woolymammoth · 17-04-2003 7:49pm

seein as it's gonna be your first, i'd suggest you steer clear of the sensitive ones... personally, i use durex extra safe. i think its a personal thing which one you choose really. just pick one. go into the pharmacy, buy a 3 pack(price depends on where you buy.. 4, 5 yo yo's), go home and try one on. read the instructions. you can always make things fun by getting her to help put it on...
it'll last as long as you can keep it up.
since i've never been with a virgin, i'll leave that advice to someone else. all i can say is go slow...

rangzhi · 17-04-2003 7:59pm

I was thinking about performa, ribbed or intense sensation. I like the idea that performa makes u last longer but ribbed might help her u know.

DapperGent · 17-04-2003 8:47pm

Seeing as it's both of your first times I think you're maybe expecting a little too much. The most important thing is that you're both comfortable, are somewhere nice and that it doesn't hurt her.

I dunno if it's too likely that she'll orgasm her first time either given that at the best of times this takes a bit of practice, don't let that bother you. Just finish the job with fingers and/or tongue -seeing as your considering sex I hope you've done lots of this already. If you haven't fully explored pleasuring your special lady with appendages other than the obvious I'd recommend doing a good bit of that first. Also don't get too caught up in the lasting for 45 minutes thing - wait until you know each other's body's a bit better. There's every chance she could get awful bored/sore.

A lot of girls hymens have already broken some other way (swimming, horse riding etc.) before they lose their virginity, if your girlfriend's hasn't then she's going to experience some discomfort no matter what you do, plus there'll be a bit of blood - you might need to put a towel down or something. She should know better than you.

Also with the hymen thing - it'll increase the chance of the condom splitting so get a fairly strong one. Buy a good few condoms and practice putting them on, they're awkward little yokes (though not as awkward as ****ing bra clasps which are the bane of my life) and read the instructions. Make sure and organise that you have good bit of time with her in your love nest and don't light scented candles, she'll think you're gay and she'd be right.

This may all sound none too rose-mantic or spontaneous but leave spontinaeity until you know what you're doing. Then and only then bend her over a kitchen table and slide her skirt up over her soft, supple thighs.

[Edit - stupidity banished]

smiles · 17-04-2003 9:28pm

DapperGent:
Also with the hymen thing - it'll increase the chance of the condom splitting so get a fairly strong one or slap two of the bad boys on. Buy a good few condoms and practice putting them on, they're awkward little yokes (though not as awkward as ****ing bra clasps which are the bane of my life) and read the instructions.

ERM! Never ever put on more than one condom, it'll increase friction between them both, encouraging breakages, and its far easier for the top one to come off inside her.

Jesus, there's more to it than that but i cant remember.

<< Fio >>

DapperGent · 17-04-2003 9:37pm

She's right you know.

Good thing I never tried to use that trick to increase my girth. The reason being of course that I don't need to.

Editting orginal post to make erronious advice disappear.

Cake Fiend · 17-04-2003 10:11pm

Bring her off orally before you slap the sausage in. She'll be more relaxed and tbh she'll want it more.
When you get to the main event, take it slow and gentle unless she tells you otherwise.

cujimmy · 17-04-2003 10:24pm

she is too hot. Way too hot, she was doing things with her tongue

and

She even asked me did I have any condoms

Shes a virgin then Iam the pope

Typedef · 17-04-2003 10:34pm

Get ribbed ones.

Also... if it is her first time you are going to have to break her himen.....

Hmm... ease her into it in so much as you can.... for god sake... go down on her...

umm... it will still probably hurt her... so be prepaired to only penetrate very slightly... and then back off go down on her again...

get her very ready ... and then try a small amount of re-entry....

again... it will still probably hurt her....

so even though it might give you a pain in your face (haha) ... I'd say try to alternate very slight penetration with oral/hand stimulation...

"It might be an idea to ask her to ... shave in advance of this... 'for your own good'".

sigh

Madonna : "Like a virgin... touched for the very first time...."

tribble · 17-04-2003 11:03pm

I'm serioulsly nervous that I won't be able to take it as she is too hot.

If by this you mean you won't run the distance you may want to jack off before hand, it'll do wonders for your stamina...

...so i've been told:)

LegacyUser · 17-04-2003 11:04pm

Hey this himen you speak of???
Is this why it may be hard to get it up her?
like im a virgin but i have a girlfriend and we've tried it but failed! mind you i was after 12 cans but i was hardish... losing it alot but i was.. but i couldnt get it in!! so its alot easier if she's not a virfin to just slip it in right..? even if your not in a raging horn?

oh and for the condom thing..
get spermically lubricated ones.... something inside them kills the sperm.. so very safe..

Mutz · 18-04-2003 12:30am

My Personal Favs are Durex Feather Lite - REd Box. They're fairly thin and give pretty good sensitivity (If anyone knows any better shout out!

)

Good Luck and Have Fun - Be safe too :ninja:

Mac daddy · 18-04-2003 7:36am

if she is a virgin, you are going to have problems a little rule i have never break them in, as they will fall in love with you, this always happens, couple of months down the road you will want to break but she will keep on stalking you telling you that she still loves you. my advice let some body else break her in!

rubadub · 18-04-2003 7:55am

Originally posted by DapperGent
A lot of girls hymens have already broken some other way (swimming, horse riding etc.)

dont forget masturbation! the main way most hymens are broken (oh sorry girls dont get up to that).

if she is so hot as you say, you can forget about her hymen still being intact. only a nun still has hers after her teens. female deodorant bottles have broken more hymens than all the men in the world. why do you think they are so thin compared to mens deodorants

DapperGent · 18-04-2003 7:59am

Originally posted by Mac daddy
if she is a virgin, you are going to have problems a little rule i have never break them in, as they will fall in love with you, this always happens, couple of months down the road you will want to break but she will keep on stalking you telling you that she still loves you. my advice let some body else break her in!

You've never had sex have you?

Mac daddy · 18-04-2003 8:03am

Probally more times than you have ever had

mooman_00 · 18-04-2003 8:13am

Originally posted by 2shy
i was after 12 cans but i was hardish... losing it alot but i was.. but i couldnt get it in!! so its alot easier if she's not a virfin to just slip it in right..? even if your not in a raging horn?

oh and for the condom thing..
get spermically lubricated ones.... something inside them kills the sperm.. so very safe..

first paragraph is the answer to your question 2shy if its not up it aint going in, not even if she's seen more road than a council worker, even if your half hard you might as well forget about it and try something else.........

and in your second paragraph you say "so very safe" its true they are safer than normal condoms but dont take chances....................thats where kids come from................

DapperGent · 18-04-2003 8:21am

Originally posted by Mac daddy
Probally more times than you have ever had

Masturbating while shouting,

"Who's your Daddy? Mac's your Daddy."

doesn't count as sex.

Dr. Loon · 18-04-2003 8:52am

Originally posted by Mac daddy
if she is a virgin, you are going to have problems a little rule i have never break them in, as they will fall in love with you, this always happens, couple of months down the road you will want to break but she will keep on stalking you telling you that she still loves you. my advice let some body else break her in!

What a fúckin idiot!!! :rolleyes:
What are you?...... 10? Where'd you hear that shít?

Mac daddy · 18-04-2003 9:04am

Everbody wiht half a brain knows this, o' sorry all you nerds never get outside to see a woman i first bloody place, try to remove yourself from your computer, go out and get a life, and find a woman, and you might know what i'm talking about you bitches, keyboards are not the same as woman, 18 year old virgins go **** a cow or something!

Dr. Loon · 18-04-2003 9:28am

Originally posted by Mac daddy
Everbody wiht half a brain knows this, o' sorry all you nerds never get outside to see a woman i first bloody place, try to remove yourself from your computer, go out and get a life, and find a woman, and you might know what i'm talking about you bitches, keyboards are not the same as woman, 18 year old virgins go **** a cow or something!

That's such an original and intelligent response.
I reckon you need to cop on to life yourself ye little bástard.

DapperGent · 18-04-2003 9:31am

Originally posted by Dr. Loon
That's such an original and intelligent response.
I reckon you need to cop on to life yourself ye little bástard.

I reckon he's inbred.

yossarin · 18-04-2003 9:33am

If by this you mean you won't run the distance you may want to jack off before hand, it'll do wonders for your stamina......so i've been told

Indeed. Every gentleman should partake in a daily constitutional as a means of promoting robust health and delaying the inevitable should it ever occour.

Mercury_Tilt · 18-04-2003 9:41am

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eth0_ · 18-04-2003 9:44am

Originally posted by Mercury_Tilt

And can you blame them? A guy just took something that was very precious from them.

You're sweet!

Mac daddy · 18-04-2003 9:47am

Thank you Mercury_Tilt.
i'm glad someone half agrees with me.:p

yossarin · 18-04-2003 9:47am

One of the dints on my head is from being smacked by a car phone by such a lady.

tell us more ! colourful histories are always good

Mercury_Tilt · 18-04-2003 10:01am

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Gordon · 18-04-2003 10:03am

heh, you know Merc I'm coming to the same conclusion of bubbles that you actually are the Blip!

Mercury_Tilt · 18-04-2003 10:13am

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Ronan|Raven · 18-04-2003 10:26am

In the words from the Doctor from Third Rock From The Sun

"Ribbed for Her Pleasure.. But I turned them Inside out!"

rangzhi · 18-04-2003 6:59pm

Yes she is a virgin, I know this for sure. She can be very hard to get in the mood. It takes a long time of encouragement just for a snog from her but once she's there, there's no stopping her, she just wants more and more and more. She got to be the best kisser ever.

She watched porno when she was 15, 16 and she knows all these techniques now. Lucky for me I suppose.

Someone says women fall in love with their first time man. Well this girl is already in love with me, and me her.

I think it would be common that most people who get laid the first time would be in love with each other, the opposite could be true too. Lads just going out for a ride in some nightclub and sluts doing the same thing when there 15 or whatever age they start no.

sisob · 18-04-2003 8:22pm

Dude, it's not likely that she is hard to get in
the "mood", more likely that she knows that
once she starts she cant stops and so she
is careful.

cujimmy · 19-04-2003 11:45am

Masturbating while shouting,Who's your Daddy? Mac's your Daddy."doesn't count as sex.

excellent

Dappergent you the daddy

yossarin · 19-04-2003 11:49am

Lads just going out for a ride in some nightclub and sluts doing the same thing ...

nice sentiment.

The Corinthian · 19-04-2003 1:31pm

Originally posted by rangzhi
She watched porno when she was 15, 16 and she knows all these techniques now. Lucky for me I suppose.

Not really. Pornographic sex concentrates on playing to the camera not the enjoyment of the protagonists. I certainly would not recommend taking any lessons from a skin flick - have you ever seen foreplay in any of these films, for example?

Someone says women fall in love with their first time man. Well this girl is already in love with me, and me her.

How touching.

Lads just going out for a ride in some nightclub and sluts doing the same thing when there 15 or whatever age they start no.

If male they’re lads and if female they’re sluts... interesting, does the love of your life know that you feel this way about sex?

seamus · 19-04-2003 2:02pm

ranghzi, I wouldn't let it get you stressed out. 18 is the normal age for people to lose their virginity. Fine, some people have been at it like rabbits since they were 14, but the majority of people in your class in school/college are probably still virgins, regardless of what they say, or what rumours you hear.

Don't expect too much from the first time (in fact from the second or third times either

). Sex doesn't come naturally to many people, and especially the first few times, you'll have to get used to being in that position and controlling your body in ways you've never controlled it before (at least not with another human around

). Don't expect either of you to orgasm from penetration. If you do it'll be a bonus. You'll be in your head so much for the entire time, you'll forget to orgasm

. The first few times, both parties are constantly thinking, "Am I doing this right? Is this what it's supposed to be like? Is he/she enjoying him/herself?", just be reassuring and listen to eachother and it'll quickly get better and more enjoyable.

Think of it like the first time you hit 'second base' or 'third base' for that matter. You were probably fumbling around like a blind epileptic, and it wasn't all that enjoyable, but at the same time felt a kind of 'nice weird', and maybe it felt a little special too. Now you're probably a digit maestro. Such as it is with sex. You're just taking it 'home base', so you're going to be awkward the first few times, but appreciate the fact that you're taking it to the next level, instead of worrying about how you're performing.

And once you pop, you can't stop. And take precautions.

/exit stage right

kaimera · 19-04-2003 2:47pm

though not as awkward as ****ing bra clasps which are the bane of my life)

hehehe

buy a number of different bra's [the clasps differ with the bra's],
put them on a pillow and practice opening them with one hand.

You'll be a pro in a short while....able to undo her bra WITH her top still on AND she'll never notice till her chest is showing.

works for me anyway

CuLT · 19-04-2003 3:57pm

Originally posted by Mac daddy
Everbody wiht half a brain knows this, o' sorry all you nerds never get outside to see a woman i first bloody place, try to remove yourself from your computer, go out and get a life, and find a woman, and you might know what i'm talking about you bitches, keyboards are not the same as woman, 18 year old virgins go **** a cow or something!

Cop on.

YoungNastyMan · 19-04-2003 6:00pm

Im sorry you cant have sex till your married, or you'll be banished from the church.

So get get your priorities straight.

GOD
or PUSSY.

daveirl · 20-04-2003 12:52am

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po0k · 20-04-2003 9:53am

Originally posted by YoungNastyMna
Im sorry you cant have sex till your married, or you'll be banished from the church.

So get get your priorities straight.

GOD
or PUSSY.

Well balls.....that's me rightly fucked now and no mistake

And I was soooooo looking forward to sitting round the TV having a few pints with St. Pete and "De Baiiis"

Cop on.

Pld sir. Excellent usage.

Oh, and RE: the Durex Featherlite, tried em recently. I likes

Far better then the Extra Safe, can't feel a thing through em.

cujimmy · 20-04-2003 2:11pm

Originally posted by YoungNastyMna
Im sorry you cant have sex till your married, or you'll be banished from the church.

So get get your priorities straight.

GOD
or PUSSY.

Pussy it is then . My souls going to hell, but thats where the action is

LegacyUser · 21-04-2003 1:32am

First of all let me start by saying I think it is disgraceful that you are thinking of using a condom during this magical and Godly act. St Joseph never sheathed his circumcised penis and neither should you.
If you absolutely do insist in using a condom, do NOT get a ribbed one as the woman should have as little pleasure as possible. Also, if you put one of those ribbed things on, brush your teeth, blow your nose, clip your nails, clean your ears and then look down at the long-forgotten condom - you will defecate on your bathroom floor in horror. Not good especially if you would like a little 'rimming' (as I believe the fashionable term to be) action later.
Secondly I must insist that you insist that your little lady get a little blood test. The first time I 'dipped my wick', so to speak, I ended up getting the Herp and the Clap... cost me my left testicle it did. While no doubt you have swapped bodily fluids before (or ejected them into her mouth anyway), man-goo is another thing and her dark nether-regions house many disgusting, sinful diseases.
If the thought of probing her gash with all this in mind has put you off, never forget that there is always entrance number two. Or number three if she's not adverse to oral pleasure. If you're really lucky, there is entrance three (but only if she has a particularly large nose).
I hope this has been of use.

Typedef · 21-04-2003 10:12am

Originally posted by YoungNastyMna
Im sorry you cant have sex till your married, or you'll be banished from the church.

So get get your priorities straight.

GOD
or PUSSY.

Hello caller : You seem to be abusing prescription drugs.

Would you like to

A: Seek medical attention
B: Search for more help on hearing Jesus speak to you through inanimate objects
C: Skip steps A & B in favour of a stay in our newly refurbished home for the mentally ..... special, with gratis shock treatment 'threapy'?

But seriously.... since I don't believe in Jesus (I just believe in me) and since stories about 'god' wanting sex only in marriage are in fact subtle forms of population control (as well as civilisation control) I just don't see the rationale behind your agrument.

Sex before marriage "doesn't" mean I don't want to get married, it doesn't mean I don't believe in long term loving monogamous relationships (based around marriage (or not)), and it doesn't mean I like to victimise people (or allow myself to be a victim to notions of chastity or hedonism) it just means I live in a world where the church and it's hypocritical pontification (pontification by a load of celebate virgins) have been proved to be one of the sickest parody's of the fundamental building blocks 'civilisation' is proported to be built on since the world has been proved not the be the centre of the universe.

Yes I want all that long term stuff, I'm not prepaired to be some pent-up looser with a fear of god's reprisal, for the sake of a bunch of hypocritical celebate virgins. I'm not sure which gets to me more, the people who proslatise chastity or the people who proslatise swing.... both are clearly crazy.

Typedef : Running for president... moral compass, facing 'whatever' way gets me elected......

And hey interweb wierdo : I burnt that bra.

sceptre · 21-04-2003 1:15pm

Originally posted by cujimmy
My souls going to hell, but thats where the action is

Too right. Those girls in hell put out.

Heaven for the company, hell for the coffee.

yossarin · 21-04-2003 9:15pm

its not for religious reasons Typedef,
we just plain dont want you having sex at all on the off chance you end up pissing in the gene pool and having some kids

Kell · 22-04-2003 1:38pm

OK back on topic now. Main piece of advice- take it SLOW. Condom choice, personally I favour the Mates sensitive ones (red box). Good amount of feel and non latex methinks which is an interesting experience having been brought up on Durex Gossamars. Where was I? Oh yeah. Loads of foreplay and dinner in the carpeted garden, pop one on and slip it in just to the base of your glans and see how she handles it. Give that a few motions, then withdraw and go back to the garden for dessert for a few minutes then pop it on home a little deeper. Oh and if you can angle yourself back a bit, munch on her nipples. Penetration + nipple sucking they go wild for. Basically keep pulling out and going back in until you can get all the way in without hurting her.

Another thing to try if you really want to pleasure her is to get her to go doggy and while entering her put your arm around her hips and play with her clit. Make sure your finger is well lubed though.

K-

Adolf · 22-04-2003 4:11pm

dont think about it too much, for gods sake, or drink beforehand, you mightn't be able to get it up. that happened to my ,em... friend.

pyramid man · 23-04-2003 3:42pm

its easy man. just dont **** it up.

Wolf · 23-04-2003 3:59pm

I posted this some time ago for a different thread but I can asure you that it works and is a good all round refference.

The best way to get any girl heated up and in the mood and this works on the tightest of girls to the point where they a grwoling "PUT IT IN!!!".

Firstly just start kissing, take your time and slow run your hands up and down her back going from deeper to softer kissing as you go. Gently start to run your hands over different areas of her body.

Still fully clothed. Run the very ends of your fingers over her knee, down the middle of her back and in particular her neck moving your hand around under her chin then brushing ever so gently over the top of her brests, but not touching them. Then again to the legs. Run a finger up and down the outside of her thigh gently tickling her just enough that she sivers a little. Then again taking ages about it, put you hand on the inside of her thigh. Run your hand on the inside of her knee and gradually run it up and then turning away again. Then after a while run your hand right the way up the inside of her leg then lightly dust past without touching and go back to other areas of the body. At this point kising her around the neck and above her chest. Then eventually after going for a few fakes slowly but gently begin to stroke and bush her pussy (very non comittedly) thro her jeans, dress, or what ever.

Now, we can start with the clothes. First, start up top. Start, kising just above her chest again still massaging her down stairs very gently, litening to her sounds and breathing will let you to know how hard/soft and fast/slow to go. Slowly start kising a lillte lower and gradually move what ever top she is wearing down a little, but without actually taking her breasts out. Run only the very smallest tip of your tounge over the top of her breasts and the slowly and carfully down the middle of her breasts trying your best not touch either breast. Now reamove the top (leaving bra on) and play your hands, trickling your fingers over her now bare stomach. Now we move down. Start to gently kiss her all over her stomach barely touching her at all and using your breath to blow gently all the time. Spend a long time at this and kiss her all over gently, still running your fingers here and there in the special places (ie down the small of her back, between her shoulder blade, the nape of her neck, in between her breasts,the inside of her thigh without touching her etc). While still kissing all over always try to keep a reasonable and varied amount of pressure and contact around her viginal area.
Now we move on for the kill.

On one of your forrays in around her stomach kiss a bit lower and undo one or two buttons. Kiss and lick in around this area. Then go back kissing all over. Thry now gently and carfully licking her nipples a little under her bra (leaving the bra on usually make the girl feel a bit more relaxed I find tbh). Now go back down again and after doing this a few time take what ever she is wearing down stairs off and start to kiss in around her thighs and slowly start to move into the focus of our attention.

Im not going to go into detail about the actually cunny linguistics of it all, but il give one tip and that is listen to the lady and also try to spend a reasonable amount of time outside, and oh yes your hands are still free as well use them all over her body and down there as well.

Now one last thing. Try your damdedest not to let her cum while you are down the and dont go for the sex. Try and act as if you could tease her all night and be perfectly happy.

This is just from personal exp and, but, I have had many a young lass say on the way home we arent "sleeping together" and have them beg for it at about 4 or 5 ish in the morning. If she is'nt dripping after the above then smething needs to be done professionaly. Well good luck to you all and happy hunting.

First time sex advice - condoms etc

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