Pleasuring girlfriend? :/

LegacyUser

Fingering..
there said it..:S

Seriously has anyone got any information what to do regarding pleasuring girls?
I know every girl is different but is there any deff do's & don'ts?
If the area is all moist is that a very good sign or is it normal?
hmm. i feel really stupid asking this. but if anyone can give my some info that will defo get her off id really appreciate it..
I just wanna return the favour..

And no i cant just talk to her.. sorry! .i'm really shy..

Beëlzebooze

lick it!

The Saint

1. Keep your finger nails short and clean.
2. Wet is receptive.
3. Don't try to put your arm up, one finger initially then maybe you can slip in another.
4. Dont go straight into her knickers, kiss her then start moving south to the twins. Spend some time kissing and caressing there but be gentle. By the time you go for goal if all is done properly she should be quite moist.
5. Dont just stick your digits in as far as you can. Start at the top and very slowly work your way in, but spend a lot of time with just the top of you finger rubbing just inside the top. I cant be bothered numbering these anymore. While doing this keep kissing and caressing her breasts. I wouldnt advise trying to put more than 2 fingers in. Also, if you want to be appreciated then its time to move your head further south. Women love to be given oral sex and usually show their gratitude by waking your neighbours but thats another thread. I'm sure the rest here will aid you also and if your lucky maybe some of the girls here will pass on some of the secrets.

Tusky

[edit: OR NOT! Thanks for the influx! << Fio >>] allthough they may not be too frndly heh Saint covered it really....theres no absolute right and wrong depends on person and the time but all in all its really quite easy

Samson

Get her to masturbate in front of you, best way to see what she likes.
The females that I have experience with have not tended to "finger" themselves, rather they have massaged around their clit.

Another thing to try, take her hand and place it over yours while you are at it, she will guide you.

patch

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Get her to masturbate in front of you, best way to see what she likes.
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-Best take it one step at a time tiger! Not alll ladies will consider this a normal request........ shame thogh!!!:D

Samson

Originally posted by patch69
-Best take it one step at a time tiger! Not alll ladies will consider this a normal request........ shame thogh!!!:D

I was not suggesting he should ask her to "play with yourself in front of me", perhaps I should have made that a little more clear initially.
It is not really very hard to get a woman to do this, if you just guide her hand down, particluarly during a bout of steamy foreplay.
Or during intercourse, some women do this anyway (give their clit a bit of stimulation).

woolymammoth

word of the day is: CLIT

and.. er,

the second word of the day is: GENTLE

the only two words you'll need to remember. try what the guys here have told you and then add your own element to it. improvise, try touching different places and if she likes it, keep diong it. the best way you'll learn is by practice. thats how everybody else done it. now its your turn.

a google on Cunnilingus (chowing box) will be a good source of info for both of you.

http://www.sexuality.org/ has lots of helpful info on all sorts of sexual topics including masturbation.

and try not to worry too much about if you're doing it right or not.

she likes = doin it right
she don't like = SHE don't like

simple.
hope this helps...

daveg

a google on Cunnilingus (chowing box) will be a good source of info for both of you.

http://www.sexuality.org/ has lots of helpful info on all sorts of sexual topics including masturbation.

*mmm for some reason I can't seem to access that page from work I keep getting a "blocked by websence" error. Perhaps if I keep trying I'll get through eventually.






* Sarcasm

Doodee

A quick google will solve all your problems

www.askmen.com

lots of info for various stuff. Men and Women

Typedef

One thing you could try doing ... is putting your hand on top of hers when you have your hand umm... in action.

That way your bit-o-stuff could use your hand as a proxy..... and umm don't be afraid to encourage her to put her hand on top of your head (pun) or use a pelvic thrust... in order to enhance the Cunnilingus*


*Let's start with one or two Latin Terms

DeVore

Typie, you are either a cunning linguist or a master debater!

DeV.

Beruthiel

Originally posted by Beëlzebooze
lick it!

all you need to know caller!


Dev!! you made me laugh out loud in the office, you bold boy!!

Typedef

Originally posted by DeVore
Typie, you are either a cunning linguist or a master debater!

DeV.

Just like James Bond.

Shaken... not stirred.

Wolf

I posted this some time ago for a different thread but I can asure you that it works and is a good all round refference.

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The best way to get any girl heated up and in the mood and this works on the tightest of girls to the point where they a grwoling "PUT IT IN!!!".

Firstly just start kissing, take your time and slow run your hands up and down her back going from deeper to softer kissing as you go. Gently start to run your hands over different areas of her body.

Still fully clothed. Run the very ends of your fingers over her knee, down the middle of her back and in particular her neck moving your hand around under her chin then brushing ever so gently over the top of her brests, but not touching them. Then again to the legs. Run a finger up and down the outside of her thigh gently tickling her just enough that she sivers a little. Then again taking ages about it, put you hand on the inside of her thigh. Run your hand on the inside of her knee and gradually run it up and then turning away again. Then after a while run your hand right the way up the inside of her leg then lightly dust past without touching and go back to other areas of the body. At this point kising her around the neck and above her chest. Then eventually after going for a few fakes slowly but gently begin to stroke and bush her pussy (very non comittedly) thro her jeans, dress, or what ever.

Now, we can start with the clothes. First, start up top. Start, kising just above her chest again still massaging her down stairs very gently, litening to her sounds and breathing will let you to know how hard/soft and fast/slow to go. Slowly start kising a lillte lower and gradually move what ever top she is wearing down a little, but without actually taking her breasts out. Run only the very smallest tip of your tounge over the top of her breasts and the slowly and carfully down the middle of her breasts trying your best not touch either breast. Now reamove the top (leaving bra on) and play your hands, trickling your fingers over her now bare stomach. Now we move down. Start to gently kiss her all over her stomach barely touching her at all and using your breath to blow gently all the time. Spend a long time at this and kiss her all over gently, still running your fingers here and there in the special places (ie down the small of her back, between her shoulder blade, the nape of her neck, in between her breasts,the inside of her thigh without touching her etc). While still kissing all over always try to keep a reasonable and varied amount of pressure and contact around her viginal area.
Now we move on for the kill.

On one of your forrays in around her stomach kiss a bit lower and undo one or two buttons. Kiss and lick in around this area. Then go back kissing all over. Thry now gently and carfully licking her nipples a little under her bra (leaving the bra on usually make the girl feel a bit more relaxed I find tbh). Now go back down again and after doing this a few time take what ever she is wearing down stairs off and start to kiss in around her thighs and slowly start to move into the focus of our attention.

Im not going to go into detail about the actually cunny linguistics of it all, but il give one tip and that is listen to the lady and also try to spend a reasonable amount of time outside, and oh yes your hands are still free as well use them all over her body and down there as well.

Now one last thing. Try your damdedest not to let her cum while you are down the and dont go for the sex. Try and act as if you could tease her all night and be perfectly happy.

This is just from personal exp and, but, I have had many a young lass say on the way home we arent "sleeping together" and have them beg for it at about 4 or 5 ish in the morning. If she is'nt dripping after the above then smething needs to be done professionaly. Well good luck to you all and happy hunting.

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yossarin

are we doing "readers wives" now ?

also - that all sounds like a lot to remember.
can you bullet point it so i can print it out ?

Samara

[-UK-]Wolf is spot on!! There's nothing like having gentle hands lightly roaming your entire body, it's unbelievably sensual and sends shivers down your spine - in a completely good way of course!! Magic hands!

The females that I have experience with have not tended to "finger" themselves, rather they have massaged around their clit

This is definitely the area to go for, very gently and lightly - this combined with the 'magic hands' business and you can't go wrong

Hells_Fury

Originally posted by Samson
Get her to masturbate in front of you, best way to see what she likes.
The females that I have experience with have not tended to "finger" themselves, rather they have massaged around their clit......

Moving for sensitive areas to quickly ( clit and nipples ) tends to make some of the more sensitive women defensive. If you spend some time rubbing her with your hands and following with your lips , kissing and nibbling , you'll get a much better response. Rubbing the whole of your hand lightly over her crotch will be more readily accepted than diving straight for the clit. After you spend a bit of time rubbing perhaps with a bit more pressure with the heel of your hand over the clit AREA, not the clit itself , then inserting a finger between the lips should reward you with a very wet treat . Then usually all systems are GO for oral action. Finger penetration can be HIGHLY enjoyable when getting oral , gives a girl something to "clamp down on" during orgasm ( if you know what I mean), and usually the last barrier to complete surrender. Personally I don't always penetrate with my fingers when I masturbate , believe me when I say a sexual partners touch ( male or female ) is different than touching yourself and what you do with yourself may vary from what you want DONE TO YOU.

Hope I've helped a littel

Hells_Fury

Originally posted by [-UK-]Wolf


............. Spend a long time at this and kiss her all over .........

Spend to much time at it and your likely to find yourself jumped , even shy girls can turn aggressive if teased long enough

The Saint

I agree. Its one thing teasing them, its quite another frustrating them.

Sposs

If you Really want to pleasure her, take her Shopping

Samson

Originally posted by Hells_Fury
Moving for sensitive areas to quickly ( clit and nipples ) tends to make some of the more sensitive women defensive.

I agree, but the impression I got was that he was looking for information on what to do once you got past the aforementioned kissing/nibbling stage (not that it ever really ends though).

The Corinthian

Kissing. Lots of kissing. All over.

Caressing. Lots of caressing. All over.

And take your time. Be relaxed.

Failing that, handcuffs.

PacO

Dude!

as long as u cum yourself then who cares!!

(when I say "cum yourself" what i mean is ... aww forget it)

Hells_Fury

Originally posted by The Corinthian

Failing that, handcuffs.

:eek: Isn't it hard to use your hands if your handcuffed (wicked grin) ........although the thought is rather appealing

the Guru

Bite the Bullet and ask her what she likes.

It may be embarrising at first but it will come good in the end.

Excuse the pun

The Saint

Wave an enormous dildo in her face and tell her to get in position.

Samson

Originally posted by The Saint
Wave an enormous dildo in her face and tell her to get in position.

I think the technical term is:
Present!

po0k

Originally posted by PacO
Dude!

as long as u cum yourself then who cares!!

(when I say "cum yourself" what i mean is ... aww forget it)

Selfish twat *

Kissing on the shoulders, gentle caressing, prehaps a little bit of light biting (more like gripping then sinking your teeth in mind - dont' want to draw blood - yet).

When she's nicely primed try tracing your name or the alphabet over her clit.
Gently and slowing work your finger (and later fingers(2)) in, and gently fuck her with them. Flicking your tongue works well too.
If you've both been going out for a bit, prehaps inserting a spare finger (say your ring finger) into her ass too (not straight away, giver a chance to say yay or nay first).
A soft gentle screw afterwards is always nice.

Also, there are a few different orgasms. Some better then others, but all good

And then there's Fruit 'n Veg.

*[sarc] I mean, how are you going to get her to deepthroat and swallow unless you've made her feel guilty and selfish? [/sarc]

The Saint

It would be funny to see the expression on her face. You could also empty the fridge and haul the contents to the bedroom.

po0k

Whipped.
Cream.
Cherries.
Mop.

The Corinthian

Originally posted by Hells_Fury
:eek: Isn't it hard to use your hands if your handcuffed (wicked grin) ........although the thought is rather appealing

hmmm... feel free to PM me...

Beruthiel

Originally posted by The Corinthian
hmmm... feel free to PM me...

and he's not joking either!!

Hells_Fury

Originally posted by The Corinthian
hmmm... feel free to PM me...

What !? And give you the pleasure ! Perhaps I need to ask my master first

Doodee

Originally posted by SyxPak

When she's nicely primed try tracing your name or the alphabet over her clit.


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err, what if his name is Joe Joe Jo JnR Shebidue?

mooman_00

completely off topic but i think its fukking brilliant.....well a good laugh for me anyway.....im not gonna explain it much, and it takes a lot of paitience.........get your partner(female) off while they sleep without waking them up using your fingers, ive done it a few times and they usually wake up just before orgasm or during orgasm......if your a true master at it you have to pretend to have been asleep and ask in a worried manner "whats up hun? did you have a bad dream?", the look on their face when you say that is comical......................


getting caught for the first time with a partner who cant quite understand what you were doing is a little awkard!!......


/me graps long brown jacket and heads for the pevert corner

Doodee

errr, is that not really sexual assault, they are sleeping, doubt they want it...

/me throws tomato's at the perverts corner

Abraxas

Top marks for brightening up my day Mooman_00. Truly evil.

leeroybrown

/me adds another line to his "To Do" list.....

po0k

Am, Eoin, I was somehow logged in under your nick.

Cookies enabled?

ART012 btw....

leeroybrown

Holy Jeff Batman ... I havn't been in theat stupid suite in over a month. Combine that with the fact that I don't use IE and the miniscule probability that I'd forget to log out. You'd think the cookie would have timed out.

I'll try disabling cookies again ... but last time I did that I had to re-enable them as the proxy made a much of things and I kept ending up logged out.

Samson

Originally posted by mooman_00
completely off topic but i think its fukking brilliant.....well a good laugh for me anyway.....im not gonna explain it much, and it takes a lot of paitience.........get your partner(female) off while they sleep without waking them up using your fingers, ive done it a few times and they usually wake up just before orgasm or during orgasm......

I've done that, and she told me it's the best way to wake up.

patch

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completely off topic but i think its fukking brilliant.....well a good laugh for me anyway.....im not gonna explain it much, and it takes a lot of paitience.........get your partner(female) off while they sleep without waking them up using your fingers, ive done it a few times and they usually wake up just before orgasm or during orgasm......if your a true master at it you have to pretend to have been asleep and ask in a worried manner "whats up hun? did you have a bad dream?", the look on their face when you say that is comical......................


getting caught for the first time with a partner who cant quite understand what you were doing is a little awkard!!......

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Awkward you say??

Priceless.......:D

LegacyUser

Thanks guys..
hmm still kinda confusing.. wud the 2 finger thing make a difference if she's a virgin tho? might hurt ya?
So all that kissing lark very important..?
and if she groans that could be from pain too couldnt it..? thats wat i'm afraid off..
i dunno.. hmm well if its really wet before you get busy its a good sign right?
and it only hurts when dry? i think?
hmmm.

and as sumone said i was wondering what to do after the kissing stuff ( sorry cant quote ur on other page) but your right...
I dunno i'm just the same as everyone else.. i wanna do it right..

And what exactly is the female equal to "cumming" just moistness or what? is it actually projected.. and sumone said "dont let her cum".. why? isnt that good..
and can u make girls orgasm with just fingering.?. is it easy and how long does it take?
ahhhh!!

Hells_Fury

Since she's a virgin and her hymen is possibly still intact ( barring accidental breakage ) you might want to stick to just clitoral stimulation . She can definitely orgasm from that as well . If you do decided to use your finger then start with one .... have her TELL you how it feels ( if it hurts, feels good .... don't push so deep , push deeper .... ALL that ) If she wants to try two fingers ...go for it , if not don't worry. And YES wet is GOOD , wet is VERY GOOD , WET IS EXCELLENT !!!! Wetness is the bodies was of preparing itself for sex ..... if she wasn't wet then penetration would hurt ... ALOT !! Breakage of the hymen can hurt also but it's not a lasting pain and it's only a one time deal ...once it's broke it doesn't grow back. Breakage of the hymen can ( and always does to my knowledge ) result in blood , the amount of blood will vary with each person. As for moaning .... moaning is good ...... so is panting , whimpering, writhing around and in the end screaming I don't know how other females experience orgasms but I can tell you that for me it is INTENSE ! My body tightens , my pelvic muscles clamps onto whatever ....fingers , cock , toys and my world shatters . I SCREAM .... loudly , insistantly and I've no control over my actions , I'm usually seeking to drive myself harder onto whatever is in me at the time , it's wild, at times it can hurt .... but DAMN it's such a GOOD hurt !!! However .... not all girls are as vocal as I am . I had a girlfriend that wouldn't make a sound , just lay there and go stiff .... took me two weeks to get her over THAT , things were much more enjoyable once she "loosened up" though ( oh yea ... did I mention I'm bi ). Also things will get ALOT wetter , if your fingers are inside you will more than likely feel her pelvic muscles spasming around them. She's likely to feel blissfully tired afterwards ..... and some , if your lucky will DEMAND more ..... MUCH more.
HOWEVER..... since your both inexperience you need a "stop" word. Something to let you know that she's become uncomfortable and if she tells you to stop , FOR GOD SAKE STOP ! Chances are it's only a momentary deal , if not then try again some other day . Have fun , enjoy it ..... OH ......and don't stop licking the clit until she tells you too , lick , lick , lick

Caesar_Bojangle

careful son, you could lose your watch in there.

i guess i'm lucky that all my ex's always frowned upon masturbation.

Hells_Fury

Originally posted by Caesar_Bojangle
careful son, you could lose your watch in there.

:eek: IN A VIRGIN !!! I don't think so !! I'm WAAAAYYYYY past virgin and if a man were to TRY to insert more than TWO fingers I'd kick his friggin' head off ..... no thanks , it would hurt !

Get Busy ......lick lick lick

DriftingRain

How have I been missing over this thread???

~2shy, Practice makes perfect. And when your both all hot and sweaty (As I like to be) then you will be jumping all over each other and nothing else will matter even your inexperience. Everything will come and go with the flow. Follow the advice the guys have given, alot of it sounds "REALLY YUMMY" But.....:) Good Luck~

phaxx

Originally posted by 2shy
So all that kissing lark very important..?

!!

You make it should like a chore! Have never heard of anyone referring to it like that, it's a JOY and there are few things nicer... (most mentioned in this thread )


To be honest, some of the questions you ask make me think you're not ready - these are things you find out together by spending hours upon hours fooling around, talking about it, experimenting, and so on.

Just my opinion. Explore some more. You're not in any rush, and the more you learn about the other person the more fun it is.

Bicky

hm...
I think the other posts are going a bit OTT.
I take it that you are both virgins?
If that is the case the most important thing is to make her feel comfortable. Be gentle and slow. Go at her pace. Her pace is something that you will learn with experience. You can read a wealth of information on the internet but to be honest it just comes with practice and the more complex stuff is nice to know down the line..

Bicky

o and to answer your question the majority of girls dont project when they orgasm. The way you know is they make a lot of noise and their face does this kinda....

I had a girlfriend who ejaculated when she had an orgasm and i thought i was the man. The first time was such a turn on . But actually it turns out that some girls just cant control their bladder when they cum!!!!!!!!!

Do let her cum! Just tease her a but first is what they were getting at.

You can make a girl cum by fingering and the time it takes depends on the girl..