do you know your partners email address password?

LegacyUser · 12-10-2005 9:09am #1

do you know your bf/gf's email password?

was talking to a mate of mine last night, who thinks this is completly normal!

fcuk that, is what i say.

trust is one thing, but i'd equate it to opening your partners post.

what think yee?

Pinx · 12-10-2005 9:13am

No way - I don't know my boyf's password and I wouldn't want to know it / I don't need to know it! Logging in to someone's email a/c would be like reading their diary!

~Leanne~ · 12-10-2005 9:18am

Yea i do but i never bother going in and reading anything. He knows mine too.

Beruthiel · 12-10-2005 9:22am

I don't see why I would need to know that

seamus · 12-10-2005 9:28am

I do know it, but only because she's not too au fait with de pooters, and sometimes prefers that I do these things for her.

It wouldn't bother me if she had the password to mine either.

WhiteWashMan · 12-10-2005 9:28am

i guess some people just feel happier in a more open relationship.
im sure my partner has my passwords, and could log inat any time, although why she would, i have no idea.
i have never tried to open or view any of my partners personal emails. i dont feel the need to.

Big Nelly · 12-10-2005 9:31am

Kinda know it....only reason was because when she was in Oz I had to check her mail every so often to see when her flight information had come in.....actually tried to remember there and havent a clue of it.....something stupid to do with vegtables if I remember correctly but for a person that knows feck all about PC's her password is like 20 characters long...I work in IT and mine is always the min 8 characters......think I would know better than her!!! :eek:

Suppose if she wanted to check my mail all she has to do is log onto my PC and messanger is auto start up so she can check there!! dont think she ever has!! not much to see anyway because aload of crap usually in it!!!

Anyway when I was checking her mail would always only check what she asked me too...would never go in and check any other mail....thats just wrong....thats like my mate who robs her GF phone on the sly and goes thru her txt messages!! hate that!! GF done that once when we where only going out a few months....went mental at her....that was the end of that!!

azezil · 12-10-2005 9:33am

I've given passwords to email accounts / gaydar and my pc to partners in the past, doesn't really bother me, lol but i'd never give anyone my Boards password

Big Nelly · 12-10-2005 9:39am

azezil wrote:

I've given passwords to email accounts / gaydar and my pc to partners in the past, doesn't really bother me, lol but i'd never give anyone my Boards password

that would be an act of the devil!!

county · 12-10-2005 9:40am

i know my partners and she knows mine,its a trust thing really, i would never consider reading her mail,i see no problem in it

20 Times 20 Times · 12-10-2005 9:57am

seamus wrote:

Pink shirts aren't cool; they're gay

Pink shirts are cool , just for your interest

Tobias Greeshman · 12-10-2005 9:58am

I know my girlfriends email address because I was there when I helped her set it up, she doesn't know mine and I have no intention of ever giving it out! Would never log into her account, its an invasion of privacy and lack of trust IMO, so I just don't do it.

seamus · 12-10-2005 10:03am

Sarge wrote:

Pink shirts are cool , just for your interest

I'm afraid they're only worn by men in denial. Whenever you wear a pink shirt, everyone is laughing at you behind your back.

20 Times 20 Times · 12-10-2005 10:05am

seamus wrote:

I'm afraid they're only worn by men in denial. Whenever you wear a pink shirt, everyone is laughing at you behind your back.

but hey i still look good in it , and that all that counts for me .

jcoote · 12-10-2005 10:07am

yeah i know my g/f and she knows mine...it doesn't bother me either way but i've nothin to hide so...i'm sure she's forgotten it at this stage tbh she was drunk when i told her

20 Times 20 Times · 12-10-2005 10:10am

Sorry , but just to get back to the question . Why would you or your partner even ask each others email address ?

jcoote · 12-10-2005 10:12am

for the same reason i'd want any other persons email address to email them

...in my case she told me because her brother picked it for her and it was funny how appropriate it was thats it..then she asked for mine an i told her but mine isn't easy to remember tbh

Pigman II · 12-10-2005 10:20am

I think if you want to tell your significant-error your passwords then there's nothing wrong with that. However if they ask you for it then they are out of line and you shouldn't feel bad about refusing them. Also even if they have it they shouldn't ever be reading your email without your knowledge/concent/request.

seamus · 12-10-2005 10:38am

Sarge wrote:

Sorry , but just to get back to the question . Why would you or your partner even ask each others email address ?

So you can email eachother....?

melekalikimaka · 12-10-2005 10:49am

I have hers...only cos she wanted me to see her timetable for coll and i had to check her mail once to see her results for her when she has no access, i just looked at the relevent email, nothing else, suprised i didnr have a peek tho...

kaimera · 12-10-2005 10:55am

i have hers, she has mine. [that should read know hers]

Only have a need to check hers for flight details or summet.

20 Times 20 Times · 12-10-2005 10:56am

seamus wrote:

So you can email eachother....?

Sorry my fault

i phrased that wrong why would you ask for the password and vis versa ? well done for the witty answer.

Töpher · 12-10-2005 10:57am

No. Its plain wrong.

jcoote · 12-10-2005 10:57am

lets say u found something say a flirty mail from her ex or something would u say it?????...i wouldn't cos it wouldn't bother me at all cos i trust her not to do anything with that person and i would flirt meself so its no biggy imo...i'm sure a lot of people woul freak out tbh

seamus · 12-10-2005 11:05am

Sarge wrote:

Sorry my fault i phrased that wrong why would you ask for the password and vis versa ? well done for the witty answer.

Ah, I wasn't trying to be witty, I was genuinely curious. A few people had omitted the word "password", so I honestly thought ye didn't know your partner's email addresses.

As I say, the only reason I know mine is because I check hers when she asks (plus my name is part of it :rolleyes: )

Oriel · 12-10-2005 11:12am

Wouldn't want to know it at all.

CarolLorraine · 12-10-2005 11:16am

Einst&#252 wrote: »

No. Its plain wrong.

What's so wrong about it? I have his password, he has mine. Used his password to access his email account which was set up for his ebay account. I use his ebay account and his Paypal account i.e. his credit card and just give him the money. We live together and it all just becomes one after a while. My boss emails me at my boyfriend's email address as I am no longer contactable at the company email address. I use his Mac computer, he uses my PC. We lend each other money whenever and share video cards and bills.

Same as anything really, even the food shopping. I pay for more food than he does as I do more food shopping for us than he does and I always pay for the movies we rent out etc. but it doesn't bother me. Sharing is just convenient!

koneko · 12-10-2005 11:23am

Sarge wrote:

but hey i still look good in it , and that all that counts for me .

Denial is a wonderful place.

I know my bf's e-mail password, but I don't ever use it, his e-mail is his e-mail and I have no reason to check it.

pickarooney · 12-10-2005 11:24am

I know hers - she often asks me to check stuff - and mine has no password on it.
Of course, all the other e-mail accounts have passwords.

chump · 12-10-2005 11:54am

know each others... but more because we'd use the same passwords for logging on to diff. pc's, o2 website etc etc... oh and it might be a version of our pin codes!

matrim · 12-10-2005 11:54am

I've never had a girlfriends password, but I do know the password for 2 of my friends and 2 of my brothers and my brothers boyfriend. I also know the 24 hour banking details of one of my brothers. Although, I never use them unless they ask me to do something.

the Guru · 12-10-2005 12:11pm

I have no issues given my passowrds to my partner , when you have nothing to hide , I have her passwords too as they are mostly the same (work ones), but never ever read anyones person info it not big and its not clever and you dont want anyone finding out about your nappy fetish :-)

impr0v · 12-10-2005 12:12pm

My brother knew his gf's one and checked her account when she was on a J1 for the summer and had been acting strange over the phone. In her account were mails from her friends advising her not to tell him about the guy she had been with over there as it was none of his business and he'd never find out.

Needless to say, she isn't still with him, and her password has been changed.

yossarin · 12-10-2005 12:35pm

seamus wrote:

...the only reason I know mine is because I check hers when she asks (plus my name is part of it :rolleyes: )

whats the other part? sexy../ireallylike.../..iscool

I know my gf's password, but only as she sometimes gets me to check it.

sceptre · 12-10-2005 12:55pm

paperclip wrote:

trust is one thing, but i'd equate it to opening your partners post.

As would I. Now, I have opened my partner's post but that's because she's currently living 70 miles away and likes the occasional thing that still arrives here to be opened. She doesn't see the need for the rigmarole I go through every time on the phone ("oh, you got post" "who was it from?" "dunno" "well, open it then" "right so" "more sales stuff from that marketing list you somehow got yourself on"). And I know her email password, assuming she hasn't changed it since the last time I had to check it for her. She appears to have less of a tendency towards requiring privacy than I appear to do.

Waltons · 12-10-2005 1:01pm

We both know each other's passwords. It wasn't some huge deal though, it just happened when one of us was at the keyboard and the other wanted to check some email

Oral Slang · 12-10-2005 1:04pm

I have my boyfriends password cos before we bought a house together, he had no email at home, so was always asking me to check it for him. I also know his banking password for the same reason - wanting me to check balances, pay bills etc.
Don't see the problem with it at all. My brother & my dad both know my passwords - can't check anything other than outlook from work, so get them to check it for me sometimes if I'm waiting on a mail!

forbairt · 12-10-2005 1:21pm

funny the responses this is getting but ..

I know hers .... she's asked me to check stuff for her before ... she .. hmm possibley knows mine .. but she can check my email without it if she wants ...

I think its just a trust thing ...

A diary I would find more personal ... as in its your private thoughts put down on paper ...maybe you've got private thoughts in email .. but if you have them in email then you've obviously told someone else them so why not tell her ..

replace her with him/it if required

jaggeh · 12-10-2005 1:22pm

most of my closest mates know all my passwords, i pretty much trust them not to abuse that and as far as i know they dont. i have no problem with this whatsoever.
i really couldnt care less.

R0ot · 12-10-2005 1:27pm

No g/f atm but i set up the email for my last one and showed her how to use it and change the password periodicly, i don't think its right to read other peoples email but i have done it once before when i was younger going through the whole "0H L3t5 b3 a Hax00r" Dark days they were.

Nightwish · 12-10-2005 3:33pm

i set up my bf's email account cos he's completely computer illiterate. Anyway he never uses his email, except for buying stuff on the net.

nesf · 12-10-2005 4:45pm

I don't have my partner's email passwords and she doesn't have mine. We both like it that way

Paradoxically, we have each other's phone passwords. Which some people would be odder about.

Personally I don't see it as an issue. If I didn't trust her, I wouldn't be with her. And I've a strong belief in some degree of privacy being needed in a relationship.

Tar.Aldarion · 12-10-2005 5:16pm

phone password..meh...
people actually turn off their phones?
if somebody really wants my password(email) and can give a good reason i would give it to them.The only reason i can think of is no trust...not a good reason.I have given it before and gotten theirs,to check mail for each other.

reversed · 12-10-2005 5:25pm

county wrote:

i know my partners and she knows mine,its a trust thing really, i would never consider reading her mail,i see no problem in it

It's not a trust thing, it's a matter of privacy. Everybody has his right for privacy, even in a relationship.
And if you don't consider reading her email, what would you need it for?

You wouldn't give anybody the PIN to your bank account, would you?

Reversed

seamus · 12-10-2005 7:44pm

reversed wrote:

You wouldn't give anybody the PIN to your bank account, would you?

I'd have no problem giving my gf my PIN.

Privacy is subjective. There are some things which some people would consider as privacy above all else, whereas other people may not be bothered about allowing the world to see the same issue. Sexual exhibitionism, for example.

Gazza22 · 12-10-2005 7:50pm

Yeah i know my gf's email address password and she knows mine. It's not like we just decided to swap one day, we just freely enter out passwords onfront of each other all the time

We wouldn't ever log in to each others email or anything...there's trust there

Sparky · 12-10-2005 9:53pm

paperclip wrote:

do you know your bf/gf's email password?

No.

id put emails as the same as post, if its not mine i dont open it.

funk-you · 13-10-2005 1:01am

unless there would be a real reason to know then i dont feel i'd want to know her passwords and i wouldn't tell her mine unless there would be a real reason also. it's not about not trusting, its just that there is no need to have them.

missingtime · 13-10-2005 1:04am

My girlfriend knows my pin number but she never lets me see mine. She thinks she knows my email password

I dont know any of her things but one time she asked me to get money out from the ATM for her and gave me the pin *evil grin*

billy the squid · 13-10-2005 1:13am

was looking over the shoulder of my last partner when she was typing it into her user account on the computer for those interested it was *************

monkeyfudge · 13-10-2005 1:15am

I know my girlfriends password as I looked over her shoulder one time when she was entering it... It's easy to remember as it's just a bunch of asterisks...

do you know your partners email address password?

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