A problem with house mate.

Kiera

A new guy has moved into my house last week and he's kinda strange to say the least. My boyfriend and my other house mates boyfriend find this very funny but i'm totally freaked out by it. He’s from Austria. I cant tell if he’s really geeky or just very weird. Now he’s not anyway good looking and I know that’s a horrible thing to say but if he was a wee bit I might not have this problem. Anyway my problem is this. He walks around the house in little knickers. Boys knickers that are MILES too small for him and I’m totally freaked out by this. He’s in our house only a week and I cant understand why he would do this. I know you are probably all laughing about this like my bf but I’m not finding this funny at all. Its really upsetting. My bf keeps telling me that he’s only testing the water and next week I’ll find him walking around naked. I guess I’m just looking for some advise on how to stop him doing this. Please stop laughing!

adonis

you could learn german and ask him to stop..
or just ask him to stop in english....normally the simplest answers are the best ;-)

As a show of European cooperation, walk around in your underwear to show solidarity.

Kiera

I’m really embarrassed about this and don’t think I have the bottle to say it to his face. Would a note under his door be really rude?

IceHawk

Turn off the heat in the house/Turn up the air conditioning all the way. Even if it doesn't make him put on some clothes, it should make the problem less... um... prominent

Its probably worth mentioning continental Europeans have much less hang ups about public nudity.

Dublin7

I used to have a german housemate that was doing the exact same!

Just laugh openly at him and let a few "Wowww you look soooo sexy !" out (if he can take the laugh) as I did and that might refrain him...

BizzyC

You'll have to talk to him.

Just tell him it makes you uncomfortable.

JungleBunny

Tell him "Zieh dich an!" (put some clothes on)

What an ignorant twat.
Tell him if he does not put some clothes on he has to move out.

I am definitely not laughing at you Kiera... that is not funny at all.
Is he expecting you all to join in and prance around the house half naked? :rolleyes:

Kiera

Dublin7 wrote:

I used to have a german housemate that was doing the exact same!

Just laugh openly at him and let a few "Wowww you look soooo sexy !" out (if he can take the laugh) as I did and that might refrain him...

See I cant laugh at him. He’s a very strange person and I wouldn’t want to upset him or piss him off coz I really don’t know him and what he’s like.

Kiera

JungleBunny wrote:

Tell him "Zieh dich an!" (put some clothes on)

What an ignorant twat.
Tell him if he does not put some clothes on he has to move out.

I am definitely not laughing at you Kiera... that is not funny at all.
Is he expecting you all to join in and prance around the house half naked? :rolleyes:

Thanks Bunny x Like i said, i'm too embarrassed to say it to his face. Would a note be too rude?

adonis

i would consider a note rude..he probably doesnt see anything wrong with what he is doing..tell him to his face.or get your bf to do it! if hes any kind of a man at all!!!

JungleBunny

You definitely have to let this guy know how you feel about his lack of clothes in the house.

If you can't tell him to his face, I would certainly write a note. He has to know how you feel about his behaviour. If you dont tell him soon, things might get worse and you could end up getting really upset at him and saying/doing stuff you will regret, like screaming at him in front of a load of people or something.

It might be better to confront him face to face though so he can see how this upsets you.

I really hope, for your sake, that guy puts some clothes on!!

Mossy Monk

man knickers?
wtf

Zapho

Nah a note wouldn't be too rude, but it might give him the impression that you're ganging up on him (Assuming theres more than just yourself and him in the house). My house mates and I did something similar when one of our housemates didn't wash up. (actually we left the dishes in her room)

rubadub

I nearly laughed out loud reading that! brilliant! does he have a little prance? is there pictures of bunnies on the panites/manties

I would tell him that it is not normal in this country, or that your mother is coming over, or you boyfriend does not approve. Saying it is not normal in this country should work, tell him you do not mind but if people came to visit they would be upset/uncomfortable.

Kiera

Think I’m going to go with the note. I’ll do it later before he comes home and stay in my boyfriends tonight. That way he’ll have time to calm down if he feels I was out of order with the note.

Kiera

rubadub wrote:

I nearly laughed out loud reading that! brilliant! does he have a little prance? is there pictures of bunnies on the panites/manties

I would tell him that it is not normal in this country, or that your mother is coming over, or you boyfriend does not approve. Saying it is not normal in this country should work, tell him you do not mind but if people came to visit they would be upset/uncomfortable.

Thats the thing. Everyone thinks this is gas. Even my nana who's 75 was laughing about it yesterday when i told her. I never thought it before now but maybe i'm a prude I think its just the fact that he a strange guy thats really getting to me.

adonis

1 point, did u interview this guy before allowing him to move in?
and if u did, did he turn up in his little panties then...surely you should have said no at that stage!

JungleBunny

It's just not normal to prance around in your underwear if you are living with other people!

Maybe just print out this discussion and leave it in his room for him to read.

"Dude put on some clothes you freak!!!!"

That might help.

I really hope that you will leave a note though, coz just thinking of that happening is disturbing. :eek:
You poor thing!!!

Kiera

No my landlady interviewed him. My house mate was there at the time and said she’d saw him around our area before and that he seemed very odd.

Ann Elk

TBH - i think a note is rude, like it or not you live with the guy at the moment and you should talk to him face to face. A note seems like a sneaky way of doing things and you will still have to share the house with him after he reads it. At least if you pluck up the courage to talk to him face to face you can either
a) Clear the air afterwards - he may turn out to be alright; or
b) If he reacts feakily kick him out.

I think that shoving a note under the door will only make him paranoid and probably make the situation worse - be a woman talk to the gut in the "manties" (damn good word btw!)

rubadub

Ann Elk wrote:

"manties" (damn good word btw!)

Its funny coz its true
http://www.manties.net/

dar83

Just a quick question, would it bother you so much if he was walking around in a pair of boxers?

Is it just the manties that are really freaking you out?

Sleipnir

Continually grab and snap the elasticated part of his undies everytime he walks by. As hard as you can.

Kiera

dar83 wrote:

Just a quick question, would it bother you so much if he was walking around in a pair of boxers?

Is it just the manties that are really freaking you out?

Yes it would still bother me. At the end of the day he’s only been living in our house a week and I’ve talked to him about 4 times. Its not like I know him and I caught him making a quick dash to the loo in his undies. I would have no problem with any of my mates(lads) doing this, because I know them and know what they are like. This man is a stranger and its making me very uncomfortable.

Sifo

i can see the funny side of it, you were saying earlier that if he was any way good looking that it wouldn't bother you and its the fact that he's weird/strange that bothers you!! well even if he starts wearing more clothes he's still going to be weird/strange.. all i can suggest is that you find someone else to move in...

BizzyC

Dont write a note.

It's a funny situation for everyone outside your house.
I doubt any of the people laughing would find it so funny if they lived with him.

Redneck_Rebel

Well as much fun as it sounds having a semi nude euroean wondering around your house at night, I'd talk to him as soon as possible. Whats the bother, if he starts wearing cloths how bad if he leaves how bad.

Ann Elk

Try this:

Get up very quietly in the dead of night and, ever so gently, open the front door. Then lay a trail of cunningly placed slices of smoked sausage (Austrians love that stuff) from his bedroom door, down the hall, down the stairs and right up to the front door. When the aroma wakes him in he will instinctively begin to follow the trail, hopping gollum-like, in his manties (again cool word) doem the hall towards the front door..........

SLAM!!!! you lock him out for the remainder of the night to be mocked by the passing hoardes of commuters.

That should work

Wertz

Kiera wrote:

Think I’m going to go with the note. I’ll do it later before he comes home and stay in my boyfriends tonight. That way he’ll have time to calm down if he feels I was out of order with the note.

Jesus...at least have the decency to say it to the guy's face. This under hand "leave a note and run away" crap is lame to the extreme...it might actually break the ice if you talk to him about it...oh and your b/f needs to chime in too IMO.
Don't intimidate the fella or anything, just set out a few basic rules. If he doesn't adhere then ask him to leave...

Kiera

Sifo wrote:

all i can suggest is that you find someone else to move in...

I wish it was that easy. Its not my place to kick him out. Its not my house and I wouldn’t bother my landlady with something like this so I’ll just have to say it to him and hope he stops it. God I sound like such a moany mini!!!

luckat

Could you bring another German speaker in for dinner, primed to chat to him about what's the same here and what's different, like "oh, it's a real no-no to appear in front of anyone except your family without being fully dressed", plus a few other Irish customs?

He must be a little insensitive that he hasn't picked up how much he's embarrassing you.

Actually, you might ask some friendly local Germans *if* this is the norm there. It sounds a little strange to me.

Kiera

luckat wrote:

Could you bring another German speaker in for dinner, primed to chat to him about what's the same here and what's different, like "oh, it's a real no-no to appear in front of anyone except your family without being fully dressed", plus a few other Irish customs?

He must be a little insensitive that he hasn't picked up how much he's embarrassing you.

Actually, you might ask some friendly local Germans *if* this is the norm there. It sounds a little strange to me.

One of the accountants in here just told me that her sister in-law who is German, walks around the house totally naked. She said they are all like that over there. So he might find it odd me asking him to cover up.

BizzyC

Kiera wrote:

One of the accountants in here just told me that her sister in-law who is German, walks around the house totally naked. She said they are all like that over there. So he might find it odd me asking him to cover up.

Ok, that's really creepy if her husband is around........:eek:

JungleBunny

As a German (well half German), I have to say I have never before heard about people running around half naked at home in front of others (alone maybe )

But like Kiera said, he is Austrian, so maybe they are into that sort of thing, but I pretty much doubt it. He just sounds like a bit of an eejit.

I would love to mee this dude and ask him just exactly goes on in that little twisted brain of his.

I suppose it is funny, but if I lived with someone like that, I don't think I would see the humour in it all.

luckat

I think you should also discuss this with your landlady, by the way.

Crucifix

Tell him you can't stop staring at his hot body and it's making your boyfriend jealous. Everyone wins.

JungleBunny

Crucifix wrote:

Tell him you can't stop staring at his hot body and it's making your boyfriend jealous. Everyone wins.

Might not give the desired result though?!

FranknFurter

"It rubs the lotion on its skin....."

Kiera

I was thinking of mailing my landlady but then I thought “I don’t want to bug her and make a nuisance of myself” Don’t want her thinking I’m a pain in the árse so I’ve decided the best thing is to say it myself. My other house mate said she’ll back me up if he gets rude with me. See, I don’t want any bad vibes in the house. We all have to live there and I’d hate it if I upset him and he didn’t feel comfortable around me. Aaaaaaaaahh, its such small(pardon the pun) problem but its just bugging me at this stage.

vector

Kleidung wird ständig angefordert

(Clothes are constantly necessary)

Don't tell him the other german phrase someone suggested

JungleBunny

Das Herumlaufen ohne Kleidung ist in diesem Haushalt strengstens untersagt.
(Running around without any clothes in this household is strictly forbidden)

Das Tragen von angemessener Kleidung ist erforderlich.
(Wearing appropriate clothes is neccessary)

They are a bit more formal if you are looking for a german phrase, although i dont see the point in that either.

I really think you should tell him to his face though.
And as for not wanting any bad vibes in the house.... I am sure there are plenty of them already if he is making you feel that uncomfortable!

Ah the joys of flatmates. It sucks that you don't get any say on who moves in. Assuming it doesn't bother you so much you would talk to the landlady or move out, you should just tell him it's not done in Ireland to walk around in underwear and its making everyone uncomfortable. You don't want to joke around in case it doesn't get it which he might well not, being foreign and really strange.

NeMiSiS

I had this very same problem.. living with a six ft busty sweedish girl who had a problem wearing clothes, to be honest it didn't bother me in the slightest, and had a scottish flatmate and she was the same. But I'm a guy.. we used to have 'Naked Thursdays'..
Memories..sweet memories..

p.s.
I bet if he was good looking it wouldn't bother you in the slightest.
TK

Vikings

I think the best solution is next time you see him like this let out a half-joke "Jesus man, put some clothes on!" or something along those lines.

Kiera

NeMiSiS wrote:

p.s.
I bet if he was good looking it wouldn't bother you in the slightest.
TK

I dont think i would be ok with it coz he's also a very strange person

Civilian_Target

Take some pictures and post them on the internet - he might stop then

Know how you feel though - it's cringeworthy to say the least - but the only things you can do are either talk to him about it or leave it be! At least it'll build up your tolerance levels...

reversed

Maybe people in Austria as well as in Germany don't have so much problems with that and he's just not aware that he upsets you.

The easiest way the have this stop is telling him.
Like: "Mate, I've seen you walking around in this underpants. It disturbs me. Would you mind to put trousers on?"

Something like this? What's the problem?
I don't see why he should get rude... (It's probably him, who would be ashamed then.)

Regards,
Reversed

Ishmael

Just do what every other Girlfriend would do, get your boyfriend to say something to him.





This post was made in jest, so no moaning please!!

rubadub

Kiera wrote:

We all have to live there and I’d hate it if I upset him and he didn’t feel comfortable around me. Aaaaaaaaahh, its such small(pardon the pun) problem but its just bugging me at this stage.

but it is ok for you not to feel comfortable around him?
Get the landlady to do the talking, have her call in a few times and see him before she says something, that way it will not look like you asked her to say something.
what other freaky stuff does he get up to?

if all else fails
http://www.insultmonger.com/swearing/austrian.htm