Age difference

LegacyUser · 01-09-2005 4:09pm #1

Right Im going to try and keep this short. I have sorta been with this girl for a year now and we decided in the last couple of weeks to go out with each other.

Now we both love each other and care very much for each other not wanting to hurt each other in anyway. But my problem,which is'nt really a problem just a situation,is that im 16 and shes 14, there is exactly two years and two months of a difference.

Just wondering what people think of this and if they think it's ok for it to go on.

Now I do have to say that although I will value everybodys opinions here I doubt that they will make me change my mind about how I feel about her.

Thank You,

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OLP · 01-09-2005 7:13pm

its been said before, matureity isnt messured in age

Squirrel · 01-09-2005 7:48pm

OLP wrote:

its been said before, matureity isnt messured in age

I agree, but there does come the situation next year when you're 17 and she's 15, still under-age. If sex isn't an issue, fook what anyone else says.

Piste · 01-09-2005 8:43pm

16 and 14 is not a big age gap. It really, really isn't. Go for it!

Rhyme · 01-09-2005 8:47pm

Doesnt seem a huge problem, go for it.

LegacyUser · 01-09-2005 9:07pm

Wait when people are saying 'go for it' what do they mean???

StephenInsane · 01-09-2005 9:32pm

LoL...i know dudes 18+ going out with girls that age!!!

that's very wrong, but i don't see a problem with your situation.

qz · 01-09-2005 9:34pm

There's no problem if you both really like eachother. What's a couple of years?

LundiMardi · 01-09-2005 9:35pm

as has been said, there'll be a BIG problem when you're 17 and she's 15, you'll pretty much be labelled a ''rapist''.......

Gazza22 · 01-09-2005 9:41pm

LundiMardi wrote:

as has been said, there'll be a BIG problem when you're 17 and she's 15, you'll pretty much be labelled a ''rapist''.......

Yes thanks for that Lundi, wise words indeed :rolleyes:

OP: Don't worry about it, just go for it...your age gap isn't major and as long as the relationship is going well there is no reason why not!

Now let's say the relationship lasts well into next year, i sure hope that it will stay clean so to speak because i wouldn't like the idea of a girl losing her virginity at that age

LundiMardi · 01-09-2005 9:47pm

gazza22 wrote:

Yes thanks for that Lundi, wise words indeed :rolleyes:

OP: Don't worry about it, just go for it...your age gap isn't major and as long as the relationship is going well there is no reason why not!

Now let's say the relationship lasts well into next year, i sure hope that it will stay clean so to speak because i wouldn't like the idea of a girl losing her virginity at that age

WTF are you talking about man, whether you like it or not it's the harsh reality!! :rolleyes: It's not a big age gap now but it's a different story when legalities come into the equation!!

If the girls parents don't happen to like the guy then there's a good chance they'll protect their ''little girl'' buy going to the police, then the OP will be in a world of ****!

Piste · 01-09-2005 9:48pm

If the two want to have sex, the two will have sex,law or no law.

*adele* · 01-09-2005 9:48pm

If you care for each other go for it!

Stench Blossoms · 01-09-2005 9:50pm

I'd say go for it aswel.. It's only 2 years

Gazza22 · 01-09-2005 9:52pm

LundiMardi wrote:

WTF are you talking about man, whether you like it or not it's the harsh reality!! :rolleyes: It's not a big age gap now but it's a different story when legalities come into the equation!!

If the girls parents don't happen to like the guy then there's a good chance they'll protect their ''little girl'' buy going to the police, then the OP will be in a world of ****!

I know, but the OP hasn't confirmed that the relationship will go sexual or not and yes i did understand completely what you said, it's just the way you put it, it wasn't a great choice of words Lundi

LundiMardi · 01-09-2005 9:54pm

gazza22 wrote:

I know, but the OP hasn't confirmed that the relationship will go sexual or not and yes i did understand completely what you said, it's just the way you put it, it wasn't a great choice of words Lundi

well let's be realistic here.... i doubt they're gonna wait till they're married now are they?

OP, you have been warned.

Brian017 · 01-09-2005 10:08pm

Look mate, I've being going out with my girlfriend for 19 months now. I'm 19 and she's 17. Same age difference as you. We love each other to bits. It's what's on the inside that counts, not age. So go for it!

claire h · 01-09-2005 10:18pm

Go for it. But, like others have said, be careful if it progresses to the next level. And if the age thing means that you've had more experience with relationships than she has, just be aware of that and understanding and all the rest.

RopeDrink · 01-09-2005 10:20pm

If this is what you call 'love', then why are you questioning it? Go for it, and enjoy it while it's there.

Gazza22 · 01-09-2005 11:02pm

LundiMardi wrote:

well let's be realistic here.... i doubt they're gonna wait till they're married now are they?

OP, you have been warned.

I never said anything about marriage, though i think it is being realistic to not expect your 15 year old girlfriend to have sex with you when your 17. But as said previously, if they want to do it, they're gonna do it so... yes you have been warned and just be careful OP

StephenInsane · 01-09-2005 11:49pm

LundiMardi, you are a dumb fool if you think the law is going to come down on them over this. There are loads of relationships like this, get with the real world.

Stench Blossoms · 02-09-2005 6:42am

StephenInsane wrote:

LundiMardi, you are a dumb fool if you think the law is going to come down on them over this. There are loads of relationships like this, get with the real world.

Well he's not really dumb now is he.... Just say for instance that they do have sex when he's 17 and she's 15 thats statory rape whether you agree with it or not. And what if her parents find out and aren't happy? They could go to the guards and he'd be done for statory rape.

It's not like parents regulary consent to their 15 year old daughters having sex now is it?. Maybe you should get with the real world

Squirrel · 02-09-2005 7:30am

Opinion Needed wrote:

Wait when people are saying 'go for it' what do they mean???

Go out with her.

I just realised for a few days next year I'll be 17 and my gf 15, no problem once sex isn't involved

LundiMardi · 02-09-2005 9:14am

StephenInsane wrote:

LundiMardi, you are a dumb fool if you think the law is going to come down on them over this. There are loads of relationships like this, get with the real world.

:rolleyes:

Well he's not really dumb now is he.... Just say for instance that they do have sex when he's 17 and she's 15 thats statory rape whether you agree with it or not. And what if her parents find out and aren't happy? They could go to the guards and he'd be done for statory rape.

It's not like parents regulary consent to their 15 year old daughters having sex now is it?. Maybe you should get with the real world

Indeed

Talliesin · 02-09-2005 9:44am

LundiMardi wrote:

well let's be realistic here.... i doubt they're gonna wait till they're married now are they?

Well, they might, some people do.

They might also wait until they're older and have been going out with each other for a long time.

And they might have sex, or be having sex already.

There are further "mights". I could spend the rest of the day saying things they might be doing, but there isn't really much point.

Not all 15 year olds are having sex, so the fact that one is dating someone aged 17 or older does not make the 17yo a rapist.

Yeah, he could be "labelled" a rapist, but there's always some sick and distrubed weirdo that's going to make dumb-ass assumptions about you and label you accordingly no matter who you are or what you do. It's best to just ignore them and let them mumble their accusations into their cans of fortified wine while the rest of us get on with our lives.

OP: The age-difference is one that wouldn't even be called an age-difference once you are both adults. Despite my disagreeing with Lundi's bizarre brainfart I would say that there is a more serious issue as to whether you actually are having sex. It's not a good idea as young as she is (and for that matter, as young as you are) and the law isn't the only reason.

Apart from that, if you're both happy, both not doing anything harmful to yourselves or each other, and the age-difference doesn't come with a maturity-difference, then don't worry.

Mighty_Mouse · 02-09-2005 9:55am

Yeah, he could be "labelled" a rapist, but there's always some sick and distrubed weirdo that's going to make dumb-ass assumptions about you and label you accordingly no matter who you are or what you do.

"labelled" in a court of law. Tried in a real court. Imprisoned in a real jail. Criminal record as a rapist in real life. Maybe even "labelled" as a sexual offender.

LundiMardi · 02-09-2005 10:06am

Talliesin wrote:

Well, they might, some people do.

They might also wait until they're older and have been going out with each other for a long time.

And they might have sex, or be having sex already.

There are further "mights". I could spend the rest of the day saying things they might be doing, but there isn't really much point.

Not all 15 year olds are having sex, so the fact that one is dating someone aged 17 or older does not make the 17yo a rapist.

Yeah, he could be "labelled" a rapist, but there's always some sick and distrubed weirdo that's going to make dumb-ass assumptions about you and label you accordingly no matter who you are or what you do. It's best to just ignore them and let them mumble their accusations into their cans of fortified wine while the rest of us get on with our lives.

OP: The age-difference is one that wouldn't even be called an age-difference once you are both adults. Despite my disagreeing with Lundi's bizarre brainfart I would say that there is a more serious issue as to whether you actually are having sex. It's not a good idea as young as she is (and for that matter, as young as you are) and the law isn't the only reason.

Apart from that, if you're both happy, both not doing anything harmful to yourselves or each other, and the age-difference doesn't come with a maturity-difference, then don't worry.

Sweet jesus, let's be a little more realistic shall we? Ok let's say that they're not having penetrative sex yeah? What about sexual acts? It's all the same ffs....

You call it a brainfart, i call it the law, i'm not saying i agree with it, i'm just explaining that it's something to be aware of from the op's point of view!

I can't even believe their are people actually arguing with me about this ffs! :rolleyes:

OP, condoms increase chances of pregnancy, don't use them, they're evil!!:rolleyes:...... Sorry, just thought i'd join in with the ****e talk on this thread...

WhiteWashMan · 02-09-2005 10:21am

calm down kids.

as for the OP, do you not hang out with anyone your own age.
why are you hanging around with 14 year olds?

there may be only 2 yers between you, but i remember when i was that age, the difference was absolutely massive with respect to maturity. plus the fact tht i wouldnt be seen dead hanging around with anyone younger than me.

just curious really.
personally, id be going for the older women at that age, but thats just me.

Talliesin · 02-09-2005 10:22am

Mighty_Mouse wrote:

"labelled" in a court of law. Tried in a real court. Imprisoned in a real jail. Criminal record as a rapist in real life. Maybe even "labelled" as a sexual offender.

WTF?

I'm sorry, but it's hard enough to get evidence of sexual acts in real cases of rape. How is someone going to prove in a court of law, beyond reasonable doubt, that they had sex if they didn't.

LundiMardi wrote:

Sweet jesus, let's be a little more realistic shall we? Ok let's say that they're not having penetrative sex yeah? What about sexual acts? It's all the same ffs....

Eh, what sexual acts?

LundiMardi wrote:

You call it a brainfart, i call it the law, i'm not saying i agree with it, i'm just explaining that it's something to be aware of from the op's point of view!

The law only applies if they engage in certain sexual acts. Dating someone under the age of consent is not illegal if you don't have sex.

I do agree with the age of consent laws (could be tweaked a bit, but in general I'm in agreement). I don't agree with making assumptions.

LundiMardi · 02-09-2005 10:30am

Talliesin wrote:

Dating someone under the age of consent is not illegal if you don't have sex.

I never commented on them dating, i don't give a **** either way, all i'm saying is when he's 17 she's 15, if they are having sex he could land in a world of ****, that's all i've said... So what's the problem?

Talliesin · 02-09-2005 10:54am

LundiMardi wrote:

I never commented on them dating

You did. The OP's post was about them dating. You said he'd be labelled a rapist. The jump from dating to being accused of statutory rape is what I was calling a brainfart.

LundiMardi wrote:

all i'm saying is when he's 17 she's 15, if they are having sex he could land in a world of ****

That's not what you said, though it is something I would agree with - and not just because it's illegal.

StephenInsane · 02-09-2005 1:08pm

LundiMardi, you are a self-righteous dumbass. I bet you're afraid to do anything because you could "get in trouble" or even "go to jail"

It wouldn't suprise me if you're still a virgin.

Keep your jealousy to yourself, and let the happy couple be.

Nevyn · 02-09-2005 1:19pm

StephenInsane persona abusel and attcks are not permitted.
You have been warned.

That goes for the rest of ye in this thread,
Please read the charter.
Have a nice day.
Thaed

LundiMardi · 02-09-2005 1:19pm

StephenInsane wrote:

LundiMardi, you are a self-righteous dumbass. I bet you're afraid to do anything because you could "get in trouble" or even "go to jail" It wouldn't suprise me if you're still a virgin.

Keep your jealousy to yourself, and let the happy couple be.

mature:rolleyes:

LegacyUser · 02-09-2005 6:44pm

Squirrel wrote:

Go out with her.

I am I said that in my first post!!!

WhiteWashMan wrote:

as for the OP, do you not hang out with anyone your own age.
why are you hanging around with 14 year olds?

there may be only 2 yers between you, but i remember when i was that age, the difference was absolutely massive with respect to maturity. plus the fact tht i wouldnt be seen dead hanging around with anyone younger than me.

just curious really.
personally, id be going for the older women at that age, but thats just me.

Dont get to hang around with her as we leave a good bit apart! To be honest it may seem as a problem to you but I dont see it as a problem,especially since we both love each other. The both of us dont even notice the age thing! Do you not think your a bit vain saying you would not hang around with anyone younger than you,im sure you have friends who are younger than you!

RopeDrink wrote:

If this is what you call 'love', then why are you questioning it?

Who said anything about questioning my love for you except you! If you read my first post I did say that although I will value opinions it wont change my mind bout her!

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