Girls please...be honest!

Blackpitts

hey girls,
if I go throu your posts, I see that you fall in love only with funny-sweet-masculine-sincere-quite good looking-self confident guy....but if I see what happens around in some clubs or pubs I see that you fall in love only with macho-nasty-really good looking-direspectful boys...
My flatmate is sleeping with many girls, he is always bastard, not sincere and he likes to shag someone today and forget her the day after, but they carry on calling him...
I tell you a story..he was at home and I girl called him to go to a club, he told her he was tired but she could come over after the club for shagging...
At 4 o'clock of the night the bell rang, she was there to sleep with him...
Q1: where is the truth?
Q2: what do you really like?
Q3: Do you really hate if someone get close to you asking your name and offering something to drink?
Q4: do you really like a boy who doensn't look for a girl?

Be honest pls

Beruthiel

this isn't a PI
read the charter blackpitts
B

Son_of_Belial

M'eh, more power to him Blackpitts. He'll learn sooner or later. As for your one coming over to sleep with him after the club... Doesn't seem like she has much respect for herself. Honestly Blackpitts, I don't quite get what your gripe is. Envy perhaps? Hey, I've been having a drought now for the last 3-4 months. Girls like guys who:

1. Make them laugh.
2. Are sincere.
3. Self-confident.
4. Reasonably attractive and well-groomed.
5. Sensitive.
6. Independent.

Get four or more of these and you've hit pay-dirt. Honestly though Blackpitts, I'm not sure how women are from where you come from (it's obvious you aren't Irish) but Irish women at least are easy enough to figure out. They're also easily scared off. It really depends on your personality. What makes one girl fall about the place laughing mightn't be very amusing for another girl. It's all about tastes. Really attractive girls also tend to intimidate some men who might be a teenie bit less confident/arrogant as some of the other lads around, I know the really fit ones can put me on edge and I go into silent/moody mode. Ah I dunno, I refer this one to the girls.

chern0byl

Blackpitts wrote:

They dont like you obviously. Why dont you ask the next girl that your flatmate brings home? She's probably drunk. Might give you a straight answer. Might even see how special you are and leave mr.super ride for you.

Go on. Give her a go!

Vokes

Blackpitts wrote:

hey girls,
if I go throu your posts, I see that you fall in love only with funny-sweet-masculine-sincere-quite good looking-self confident guy....but if I see what happens around in some clubs or pubs I see that you fall in love only with macho-nasty-really good looking-direspectful boys...
My flatmate is sleeping with many girls, he is always bastard, not sincere and he likes to shag someone today and forget her the day after, but they carry on calling him...
I tell you a story..he was at home and I girl called him to go to a club, he told her he was tired but she could come over after the club for shagging...
At 4 o'clock of the night the bell rang, she was there to sleep with him...
Q1: where is the truth?
Q2: what do you really like?
Q3: Do you really hate if someone get close to you asking your name and offering something to drink?
Q4: do you really like a boy who doensn't look for a girl?

Be honest pls

Sounds like you're jealous of your flatmate, tbh :rolleyes:

Blackpitts

Son_of_Belial wrote:

M'eh, more power to him Blackpitts. He'll learn sooner or later. As for your one coming over to sleep with him after the club... Doesn't seem like she has much respect for herself. Honestly Blackpitts, I don't quite get what your gripe is. Envy perhaps? Hey, I've been having a drought now for the last 3-4 months. Girls like guys who:

1. Make them laugh.
2. Are sincere.
3. Self-confident.
4. Reasonably attractive and well-groomed.
5. Sensitive.
6. Independent.

Get four or more of these and you've hit pay-dirt. Honestly though Blackpitts, I'm not sure how women are from where you come from (it's obvious you aren't Irish) but Irish women at least are easy enough to figure out. They're also easily scared off. It really depends on your personality. What makes one girl fall about the place laughing mightn't be very amusing for another girl. It's all about tastes. Really attractive girls also tend to intimidate some men who might be a teenie bit less confident/arrogant as some of the other lads around, I know the really fit ones can put me on edge and I go into silent/moody mode. Ah I dunno, I refer this one to the girls.

of course I'm not Irish (my english sucks) BTW i don't understand why people think that this is something personal..I want just to point out how the girls are ready to swear something and act in the opposite way.
It's not "they don't like you" or "try to be yourself", it's just a: "hey girl, please try to explain that pls".

pretty*monster

Radical notion:
Women are not all the same, different women want (gasp) different things!
You're questionaire is useless.

Nightwish

Q1: where is the truth?

the truth is some girls are complete saps with no self respect ie the girls your flatmate attracts. do you really want a girl like that?

Q2: what do you really like?

every girl is different, but personality and similar interests are of the utmost importance to me

Q3: Do you really hate if someone get close to you asking your name and offering something to drink?

me? yeah i dont like talking to guys in bars as they usually come across quite insincere and leery cos they are usually half tore

Q4: do you really like a boy who doensn't look for a girl?

no,but girls dont like a guy who's trying it on with every girl around him

Le Rack

Son_of_Belial wrote:

Girls like guys who:

1. Make them laugh.
2. Are sincere.
3. Self-confident.
4. Reasonably attractive and well-groomed.
5. Sensitive.
6. Independent.

you have to smell good too but that kinda comes under 4...
Dude you hit the nail on the head!
Well sensitivity wouldn't bother me too much but as long as its someone you can trust to talk to about things then yeah!

honru

Perhaps instead of having a grudge against your flatmate, you should go out and find some women.

pickarooney

does 'sensitive' mean 'falls to bits at Meg Ryan movies' or 'understands your wacky wacky ways'?

Jonny Arson

Blackpitts wrote:

hey girls,
if I go throu your posts, I see that you fall in love only with funny-sweet-masculine-sincere-quite good looking-self confident guy....but if I see what happens around in some clubs or pubs I see that you fall in love only with macho-nasty-really good looking-direspectful boys...

Very true.....................

Sarky

At the end of the day, when you really get right down to it, all girls want a good cuppa.

Lord knows I do.

And maybe some biscuits. Digestives, Hobnobs, or custard creams for preference.

Puck

Your flatmate and the girls he sleeps with seem to have pretty low standards, and I'm not talking about looks. That's about it really. The really good things in life don't come so easy. You can't just "figure out" women, there are lots of them and they're all different.

simu

Well, people act odd when they first start having sex. Like badgers full of helium, full of confusion. Then they calm down when they are older and wiser.

See what this thread has done to me?

Tiffany

Blackpitts wrote:

Q1: where is the truth?
Q2: what do you really like?
Q3: Do you really hate if someone get close to you asking your name and offering something to drink?
Q4: do you really like a boy who doensn't look for a girl?

I like custard.

bp

i'm female....the bad boy b*stard image does it for a lot of girls...the treat them keep them keen thing unfortunately works a lot of time! personally I dont go for that kind.....if a guy did that to me i wouldnt call or txt....after a date i would txt if i got no answer then that would be the end of it, but thats me!!

i go for the nice kind!

Sparky

its probably because the girls on here are cool and respectfull and not slappers tbh

Shellie13

Relationship-wise 90% of women will go for the sweet guy but sometimes the rebel/bad-boy image is attractive while out in a club. Not the type of guy we envision a relationship with anyway!

However the girls who he takes home every night sound like slags-would you really want someone like that?! If the answer is yes i say learn a few tips from your flatmate and prepare to spin a few yarns and splash out on the drink.

Your flat-mate is happy with the a**hole image of different girls each night, but if you want something more a genuine girl *will* eventually come along though it may take longer as relationships take more time than 1 night stands!

StupidLikeAFox

Hey guess what, girls like sex!

This sounds like all you've learned about women are from romantic comedies, pull yourself together and have a little fun!

Le Rack

Sparky_S wrote:

its probably because the girls on here are cool and respectfull and not slappers tbh

yeah slappers can't use computers! Or so I've seen!

Scraggs

Q1: where is the truth?

You cant handle the truth....
unfortunately some girls out there just have no self respect or self worth!

Q2: what do you really like?

Sense of humour is the most important thing for me then in no particular order similar interests, well-groomed and sociable! o and impeccable manners!

Q3: Do you really hate if someone get close to you asking your name and offering something to drink?

Depends on how drunk they are... usually [for me anyway] its drunk letchy old men tryin to score who do this! Depends on th lad and the situation tbh

Q4: do you really like a boy who doensn't look for a girl?

Once again it depends on the lad. Personally I dont like lads who try it on with every female creature in the place, but then again everyone is different some girls like players.

Deadwing

Le Rack wrote:

you have to smell good too but that kinda comes under 4...
Dude you hit the nail on the head!
Well sensitivity wouldn't bother me too much but as long as its someone you can trust to talk to about things then yeah!

hey le rack, im feeling er..really sensitive about umm...your rack.
/sprays some lynx about the place
so tell me about like..your feelings and stuff
/eyes the rack
now THATS some sincere, sensitive and caring chatting up right there

Nedrac

Poor sxualie deprived blackpitts.......

GrumPy

You can tell that ^^^ was written at 5 in the morning without knowing the time

Collumbo

A few people here are suggesting that Blackpitts is jealous. I reckon that's bu11sh 1 t. I was in a similar situation about 7 or 8 years ago... I had nothing to be jealous about but a bloke I lived with scored/(bedded in some cases) about 20 birds in 4 months. They called him various things from "ba$tard" to *******, yet, they still wanted a bit of action.... Wierdo women.

Anyway, I met one of those girls recently (we are all in our thirties now). It's odd, but I think she had a bit of a complex being around me because I knew her history from those 4 months... funny how freelance shagging eventually has diabolical repercussions. She is single and is about as appealing as gone-off milk....

Dave!

There's nothing wrong with what your flatmate does... He's young (presumably) and getting the most out of it. Live a little! There'll be time for all that relationship stuff when you're older, you won't be able to f*ck around then though(unless you're suptle;))

Blackpitts

Collumbo wrote:

A few people here are suggesting that Blackpitts is jealous. I reckon that's bu11sh 1 t. I was in a similar situation about 7 or 8 years ago... I had nothing to be jealous about but a bloke I lived with scored/(bedded in some cases) about 20 birds in 4 months. They called him various things from "ba$tard" to *******, yet, they still wanted a bit of action.... Wierdo women.

Thank you Collumbo, I've already said that there is nothing personal (it could be if I wrote "why I don't shag many girls as he does?"), but for someone here I'm frustrated, ugly and envious, but I don't mind.
Basically I wonder why some girls are telling to the entire world that they are looking for the sweetest guy but they shag the bastards..that's it.

ShiverinEskimo

The man has a point - magazines, boards.ie, romantic comedies all have girls going for the underdog who is sweet and wants to love them yet all the girls I know, even close friends of mine get hurt constantly because they go for the players of this world.

Saying that, at the end of the day, the first thing you have about any person you meet is looks - so thats going to be the first attraction. You'd probably find that if people get together after knowing each other for quite a while it will last longer because they have something else to go on than looks.

As for this pink tee-shirt, diamonique-earring-wearing, collars-turned-up brigade - thems the guys that gets the girls on a night out, despite all this girl-talk of good personality first ****e - but thems the girls I have no real interest in other than drunken admiration.

After 3 years in a relationship where I know its my personality thats appreciated most (i'm not what you'd call a good looker) I feel i'm in a position to laugh at all those pink tee-shirt wearing muppets competing for the shortest skirt..

I guess my point is, let your flatmate shag his way around the place - eventually he'll see all his mates married around him and every girl he calls will either hate his guts, be obsessed with the next dickhead or be pregnant..

LegacyUser

get yourself a flashy car!

LadyJ

Son_of_Belial wrote:

As for your one coming over to sleep with him after the club... Doesn't seem like she has much respect for herself.

Bollox.


Did the girl ask for a relationship? Eh....NO! She asked him out clubbing which probably meant she wanted to get drunk and **** him! In fact,considering she dropped by at 4am then that was definitely it!

Women have needs just like men do. If men want to sleep with someone without persuing a relationship then most people accept this but when women want a good time they have no self-respect.

By letting her in just for sex at 4am then she's using him just as much as he's using her!

Kell

From a blokes perspective, its easy really.

1) Make sure you are not hammered when attempting to chat up. No one likes someone who is drooling and can barely speak to chat them up

2) Be all of the things you listed - charming, self confident etc

3) Display an interest in what the person is saying instead of trying to look down the front of their shirt

Never have I been so disinterested in female company and never have I garnered so much female attention. Go figure.

K-

Le Rack

Deadwing wrote:

hey le rack, im feeling er..really sensitive about umm...your rack.
/sprays some lynx about the place
so tell me about like..your feelings and stuff
/eyes the rack
now THATS some sincere, sensitive and caring chatting up right there

Excuse me???!
Lynx is mank, especially that much!

Deadwing

Le Rack wrote:

Excuse me???!
Lynx is mank, especially that much!

Damn...you mean the 'spray more, get more' ad slogan lied to me??

/me hatches different plot to impress le rack..me fails miserably

Giblet

It's easy, just apply the scenario to yourself. If you see someone who is a bitch and you're drunk/horny enough, you won't care and go up to her. Of course when you're sober she is still a bitch and you don't want to know her. All thought goes out the window when your pissed in a club. Women would probably do the same thing. You can always blame it on being drunk.

weak infant

when women say they are looking for x y and z they mean in relationships.

when people are looking for an uncomplicated shag then you get the case of your roommate. and once that starts it's very easily turned into a game where they can be led on for still more shagging. a relationship never materialises and people get upset. they keep coming back and whining because they are being played like instruments, not because they are in relationships.

the most legendary slapper i have ever met is well able to use a computer.

lynx africa is the win.

jonny68

Get yourself to England if ya want easy birds,they love the auld Irish accent

U$ername

Blackpitts wrote:

hey girls,
if I go throu your posts, I see that you fall in love only with funny-sweet-masculine-sincere-quite good looking-self confident guy....but if I see what happens around in some clubs or pubs I see that you fall in love only with macho-nasty-really good looking-direspectful boys...
My flatmate is sleeping with many girls, he is always bastard, not sincere and he likes to shag someone today and forget her the day after, but they carry on calling him...
I tell you a story..he was at home and I girl called him to go to a club, he told her he was tired but she could come over after the club for shagging...
At 4 o'clock of the night the bell rang, she was there to sleep with him...
Q1: where is the truth?
Q2: what do you really like?
Q3: Do you really hate if someone get close to you asking your name and offering something to drink?
Q4: do you really like a boy who doensn't look for a girl?

Be honest pls

BTW Im not a girl but..

> Q1: where is the truth?
Some chick likes shagging your housemate and soon realises that he is not up for a relationship and decides to
a) Keep shagging him (as is her want, women like sex too)
b) Moves on to find a guy who she likes who wants a relationship

Q2: what do you really like?
Confidence.

Q3: Do you really hate if someone get close to you asking your name and offering something to drink?
You are making a move on a woman when you do this. She will either start talking to you if she likes you, or blow you off if she doesnt. Problem solved.

Q4: do you really like a boy who doensn't look for a girl?
Confidence again plus women often like testing mens responses to things. If she doesnt think you are trying to chat here up she may find it harder to test you -> Mysterious.

Please note the comments posted above are sexist, irrelevant etc so flame war over.

lazylad

For the original post,

Well, its all the more reason to look for a girlfriend then. Most fellas love sex and likewise with women, but truth about it is you are more focussed on your flatmate getting sex than looking for it yourself.
Him getting all that sex doesnt mean there is anything wrong with you, he just has a natural way of getting women flocking to him easier. I myself dont get much girls, I am what you would call good looking and I have a distinctive personality. But I get glances from women but when they start talking to me its :rolleyes: :eek: . Im an unusual character. There different ways of looking at it.
You got the looks but not the personality(or bad boy attitude)--in that case you more likely to attract genuine girls but more likely to fall for users etc.

You got the attitude, half looks and plastic personality--everyone knows of you, you#ve shagged a few and you might have a kid or too.. Exagerration!

Youre not good looking and have a nice personality--Most of the time too nice of personality is from someone who I would be weary about. I have found that women mostly, who are unnattractive are usually either too sweet or too mean. They are conscious of themselves and have to try extra hard or just not try at all, and this leads to them tagging along or just complaining about you the whole time. Nice ladz can get dragged into this.

I think that fact that theres types of guys who get a lot of attention normally end out in the long run to lead pretty ordinary, average lives with average wives.

The nicer guys normally end up with nicer more "classy" wives.
LIke attracts like.

personally, Im quite attractive(not bragging) but I hold my head down when passing people constantly, I feel inferior to most etc etc. And I never seem to attract as many girls as lads with confident shining personalities. Fact of life ladz, girls like confidence. The confidence is like conditioner after shampoo(for youz girls again). You must have used shampoo ie have some degree of looks, and apply conditioner to make it nicer ie CONFIDENCE. Some women are shallow and only like to be seen with the Popular ladz. This dies with age and they are normally embarrassed of how the acted when they were younger and you can meet them and look at their shame in your 40s

Looking at this situation brightly to the original poster, as long as you can attract a girl, dont sweat!

We all have insecurities and its good to get to know them and talk about them(fact is most people dont give a sh*t ) but as long as you know the reality you're fine yourself.

Remember, there's loads of lookers who dont score because they don't shine. There's loadz of mingers who score the whole time because they're on display, with a good bargain attached Keep yourself well, have high standards, dont let yourself be used, leave the rest of them shagg away. I dont envy them coz I know I want better in life! You gotta focus on relationships later into your 20s. You might seek a relationship, but chances are not many others are! Unless they#re individual.

Personally in a girl I look for a deep, caring, personality(with a hint of fire and deep thought)...aka brains! and I like blondes with big expressive caring blue eyes. I like dark complexion with hazel eyes too. Of course I like really skinny girls too. Sounds primordial, but still we all like beauty. Most girls who go for one night stands are 1)ugly 2)hard to please and they not got much to offer 3)always complaining about ladz looks attitude clothes etc 3)not my ideal woman at all...I dont give them a thought coz they're sH*te! Thats why my girl is always gonna be special to me. A cut above the rest!

snorlax

Q1: where is the truth?
everyone digs different things

Q2: what do you really like?

I like sensitive guys, also guys with a bit of confidence (but this is not to be confused with being arrogant/ and those men that use women)


Q3: Do you really hate if someone get close to you asking your name and offering something to drink?

A relationship has to start somewhere.

but personally i prefer to know people before they start drinking as it can effect their critical features especially if they drink too much. also you might not be getting the real deal, beer googles etc


Q4: do you really like a boy who doensn't look for a girl?

not really they should go for it if they like someone. girls like to know the fella's interested

Aisling(",)

I fall in love with sweet,funny guys

but yet I find myself attracted to the typical scumbag that i know would never treat me right.Why is this?Is it that girls want to have fellas to change?

Everybody saysthe reason I go for strong gang leader types(the kind of guy you would try to avoid ever meeting) is because I'm searching for someone to protect me.

snorlax

the alpha male?

iv never ended up with one of them but i have dated a few chancers in my time, you have to meet many frogs before you find your prince/ princess !

lazylad

Rejection is a horrible thing. But I have to say one thing, I love giving rejection to a girl sometimes! Normally I can tell they're just after a shagg, and they try get all close and I just tell them to f*ck off in the nicest possible way. THey deserve it. They'd do the same if they werent interested so Il do too. Any ways, I find myself not attracted to most people anyway, Only certain types!

Alpha male, yeah masculine hard lads. You girls like that type yeah? GO FOR IT. But do me one favour, dont bother with us baby faced guys! If you get dumped, dont look on us as carers, chances are we love to see you DOWN

deisedevil

DaveMcG wrote:

There's nothing wrong with what your flatmate does... He's young (presumably) and getting the most out of it. Live a little! There'll be time for all that relationship stuff when you're older, you won't be able to f*ck around then though(unless you're suptle;))

Damn right! I can't understand some people who go from relationship to relationship while they are young. In a lot of cases(myself included) i have seen lads giving out cause they can't go out for the weekend cause the girlfriend doesn't want em to(afraid they will do the dirt) and constantly moaning that they are fighting again. when your young enjoy yourself, there are very few people who find their life partners early in life and get married so why go through all the grief. fair enough some people are lucky and just click and it's meant to be that's fine but just think about how many people you knew while you were 18-22 who went through one crap relationship after another, pointless.I was called a s*** on a thread before cause i said i was sick of long term relationships and i was stickin to one night stands or short term things cause i wasn't ready for anything serious again,i realised i'm way too immature and was sick of having my head wrecked. Young adult relationships are immature and usually don't last, they try to copy the real thing(marriage) and more often than not end up in tears.
Do all you can while your young, it'll be all downhill soon and regrets are a bit**!!!!

lazylad

Guys stop torturing yourself. girls are gonna cheat on you. so have fun while you can with decent girls. I would make sure you have fun with good looking girls, preferably not irish girls, they are not good looking in my opinion go for nice girl from somewhere else. pack you bags go off for few years and forget about the girls here--they not attractive.

nesf

lazylad wrote:

Guys stop torturing yourself. girls are gonna cheat on you.

I think you'll find that that is just your taste in women rather than women in general

lazylad

nesf wrote:

I think you'll find that that is just your taste in women rather than women in general

I think you'll find that is just natural and true rather than your comment being true in general

nesf

lazylad wrote:

I think you'll find that is just natural and true rather than your comment being true in general

I'd disagree tbh. Women and men both cheat, that's a fact of life, but all of them all of the time? No. That simply isn't true.

There are plenty faithful people in both halves of the sexes.

simu

"Women only cheat on men who are bad in bed".

Azarea Steinwell 1867-1914

ando

lazylad wrote:

Remember, there's loads of lookers who dont score because they don't shine. There's loadz of mingers who score the whole time because they're on display

ah I have to write that one down !

lazylad wrote:

Normally I can tell they're just after a shagg, and they try get all close and I just tell them to f*ck off in the nicest possible way. THey deserve it. They'd do the same if they werent interested so Il do too.

you are my new god

Ruaidhri

It's time to rise up against the evil gynaecocracy and burn our boxers. that'll show 'em :rolleyes: