Telling someone you like them by text

bazcaz

Is it ok to tell someone you like by text msg or does it just show u hav a lack of confidence because your not saying it to them face to face.

My aim motivation behind this method is to save me the embarassment an awkwardness of sayin it to her face and her not likin me!!

Opinion?

seamus

Aw bless, what age are you?

I'll tell you one thing: If you tell her you like her via text, and she responds in the negatory, then you are going to feel a million times more awkward the next time you see her, than if you tell her face-to-face.

Tell her face-to-face (preferably somewhere quiet, it'll boost your confidence).

marshmallow

It's a cowardly way to do it. If you're in your teens though, most girls just accept this as the way that guys go about saying it. Saying it face-to-face will show her that you're confident and unafraid of the outcome. Good luck anyway.

jcoote

yeah seamus is right but txtin is dead handy in fairness... face to face is the way to go imo but it tough to keep the lump outta your throat

Kingp35

Texting is just the cowardly way to it. Say it to her face or at least ring her!!

cornbb

I'd say go for it, either by text or otherwise.. You'll feel better good about having the balls to do it even if you get rejected. And at least then you'll know.

SexyGoddess

No you cant tell a girl you like her by text! :eek:

how is she suppose to know its you texting and not someone else texting people from your phone just to annoy you

how is she suppose to know if your serious or if your winding her up

how is she suppose to know thats its not a crowd of lads waiting to see what her reaction is gonna be and then skit her about it

Tell her face to face!

SillyThings

tell her to her face boy

The_Goose

You could suss her out by text, see weather she wants to text you and see how ye get on. then next time you meet her, ask her out!
It s terrifying but you ll will feel great when she says yes!

Good luck

Nuttzz

faint heart never won fair maid...

Nightwish

my bf told me liked me, before we got together, by text. He said he had no idea why he did it, but he just felt it had to come out.

azezil

Nightwish wrote:

my bf told me liked me, before we got together, by text. He said he had no idea why he did it, but he just felt it had to come out.

likewise, my current relationship started over txt... well he was in the states at the time heh

Zulu

I'd use text to suss out if you stand a chance or not.
Asking someone out, really should be done over the phone (or in person), but you'd get away with texting in some circumstances.

Telling someone you like them has to be done in person.

WhiteWashMan

Zulu wrote:

I'd use text to suss out if you stand a chance or not.
Asking someone out, really should be done over the phone (or in person), but you'd get away with texting in some circumstances.

Telling someone you like them has to be done in person.

and yet on the PI forum, you talked yourself out of doing exactly that...

peckerhead

For the faint-hearted, here are a few SMS-friendly 'lines'...

You remind me of a spanner - everytime I look at you I feel my nuts tighten.



You’ve got mirror knickers - I can see myself in them.



I may not be the best looking guy here, but I’m the only one talking to you.



If you’re going to regret this in the morning, we can sleep until the

afternoon.



Guy: “Would you like to dance?”

Girl: “I wouldn’t dance with you.”

Guy: “I’m sorry, you must have misunderstood me, I said you look fat in that skirt”



Can I buy you a drink, or do you just want the money?



I may not be Fred Flintstone, but I bet I can make your Bed Rock.



I’m new in town, could I have directions to your house.



If your left leg was Christmas and your right leg Easter, can I visit you between the Holidays?



I love every bone in your body - especially mine.



You might not be the best looking girl here, but beauty is only a

light switch away.



Hi, I’m a necrophiliac, how good are you at playing dead?



I lost my bed, can I borrow yours?



You must be Jamaican, because Jamaican me crazy.



I can’t find my puppy, can you help me find him? I think he went into this

cheap motel room.



That shirt looks very becoming on you, but if I were on you, I’d be

coming too.



I’d like to screw your brains out, but it appears that someone beat me toit.



I’m a bird watcher and I’m looking for a Big Breasted Bed Thrasher, have

you seen one?

larryone

The one you forgot there was "Do ye wanna go halves on a bastard?"

Seriously tho. Dont do it via txt. Just tell her. It's nothing you should hide from or be afraid of or whatever. Go for it man! Testify!

Mossy Monk

so many uses for text messaging

Mysteryfish

No you shouldn't do it by text. She would probably just think it was someone making fun of her. Even if you don't get a favourable outcome from her she'll remember that you had the guts to tell her face to face and she'll remember that in future.

Ric_Flair

Just do it...

If you dont have the confidence to do it face to face, then by text is the next best thing

Its much better than not telling her at all...

And dont worry if she responds negative, becoz when u see her, u can act like nothing happened at all, or better yet, pretend your mate texted it haha

Flukey

Don't text her, especially if she is sitting next to you! Face to face is the way to go. Be prepared to duck, just in case.

Tar.Aldarion

tbh dont do it for seamus' reason.

Coney Island

Never tell a girl that you like her so directly, you give away all the power to her...there is no need to tell a girl "I like you". Do something about it instead. Try to seduce her, work on her, but let her understand that she is not the only woman out there and that SHE would be lucky to have you, not vice-versa. Two step forwards, one step back....and so on until she falls for you, but never show that you are totaly crazy about her, especially at the beginning. It is just not attractive, unless she is very sensitive and in need of security and attentions (this is usually due to some lack of confidence).

Maybe next time you see her, ask her (smilling) "You really like me, don't you? Well, I am not easy you know, you will have to fight for me " ...things of this kind, and see how she react.....

Women on the board will tell you otherwise, of course ....

PS: girls, please don't hate me

Mr.Nice Guy

A man that gets it. ^

I'm impressed Coney Island. :cool:

Coney Island

Mr.Nice Guy wrote:

A man that gets it. ^

I'm impressed Coney Island. :cool:

I hope you aren't being sarcastic.... :mad: ....this is a scentific analysis, 100% tested

Mr.Nice Guy

Coney Island wrote:

I hope you aren't being sarcastic.... :mad: ....this is a scentific analysis, 100% tested

Nope I'm being serious. Just wait for all the female posters to come on though to tell us that we're wrong and that they like nice guys etc.

I agree with you that you must lead through actions and not words. I know myself this is the best way.

Coney Island

Mr.Nice Guy wrote:

Nope I'm being serious. Just wait for all the female posters to come on though to tell us that we're wrong and that they like nice guys etc.

I agree with you that you must lead through actions and not words. I know myself this is the best way.

Oh, sorry then....what a strange feeling having someone agreeing with me on one point after 250 posts

Flashling

Be a real man...get your friends to tell her!

chrisandra

oooooooooooooo Coney island your good hu bein talkin to?

Coney Island

I am the "Doctor of Love".....but don't fall for me please...

carpothepunk

i have the same problem,shes way outta my league,actually about six leagues above like,but i told her mate i liked her and she said she likes me!the mate i mean!

now i like one girl,who doesnt know i do,and her mate knows i like her,and fancies me!!gah my head hurts

is_that_so

IMO if you're under 18 you can get away with texting "I like you" , questionable above that age. But there is nothing wrong with the OP texting to see if she wants to do something. If she says yes I suspect that might tell you something.

You could also consider turning the text machine into a phone and call. Carpe diem as they say. The word "No" is not life threatening even if it feels like it sometimes .

Tar.Aldarion

punch her in the arm,tried and tested in playgrounds throughout the ages

R0ot

knew a guy that texted "i love you" in a text, pity it was to the wrong person, he got punched by the guy he texted it too, and we can learn something from this don't text personal sentiments to people cause it doesnt work in a text!

Scraggs

Tar.Aldarion wrote:

punch her in the arm,tried and tested in playgrounds throughout the ages

personally i'm a sucker for hair pulling...but thats just me *sighs

JohnCleary

I havent read the other replies, so im just gonna say it..

If you *must* use txt, do it in subtle way... Don't say "oh i like you"....

Personally id to it IRL, much earier way of finding out

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chern0byl

Coney Island wrote:

Never tell a girl that you like her so directly, you give away all the power to her

What power? He wants to be with her not use and abuse her(if i understand him correctly). The point is, she certainly isnt going to say directly to you: "heh, i like you". If she does[like you], she is already telling you. This can be obvious, and unfortunately it can be that needle in that haystack. Either way, if you like her then you have to find your way to tell her but bluntly going "i like you" has been very rare imo! The worst thing to do is over think all this which you are probably doing!

You already know if she fancies you or not. You do know. Time to hang yout bálls over that blade.

Caliden

face to face.
if she tells you she doesnt feel the same via text you will never be able say a word to her again and will have to delete her number from your phone

Dagnir Glaurung

Say it to her face. Who cares if she doesn't like you? You'll probably hate her yourself in a week anyway.

bohsman

Text her and if the outcome isnt good you can just say it was your mates using your phone or that you were drunk

WellyJ

A great rule of thumb regarding ALL text messages is:

Never text someone something that you wouldnt say to their face.

Le Rack

bazcaz wrote:

Is it ok to tell someone you like by text msg or does it just show u hav a lack of confidence because your not saying it to them face to face.

My aim motivation behind this method is to save me the embarassment an awkwardness of sayin it to her face and her not likin me!!

Opinion?

I haven't actually read all the replies here, but where face to face is maybe the best it is also the touhgest, especially if you're unsure as to whether she likes you or not. I've always used text simply because I lack the balls to do it face to face and no matter how confident you are there is always the twinging fear of rejection, even if you won't addmit to it!
If she's a close friend you could just start talking to her about "this girl you like" and gradually bring it out that its her if not just work up the balls and tell her straight. Try to be cool with it though, as if its just something you wanted to get out of the way and its okay no matter her responce, whether she likes you or not, you just wanted it out there. That'll work through text or in person.

Good luck!

Mysteryfish

Coney Island wrote:

Never tell a girl that you like her so directly, you give away all the power to her...there is no need to tell a girl "I like you". Do something about it instead. Try to seduce her, work on her, but let her understand that she is not the only woman out there and that SHE would be lucky to have you, not vice-versa. Two step forwards, one step back....and so on until she falls for you, but never show that you are totaly crazy about her, especially at the beginning. It is just not attractive, unless she is very sensitive and in need of security and attentions (this is usually due to some lack of confidence).

Maybe next time you see her, ask her (smilling) "You really like me, don't you? Well, I am not easy you know, you will have to fight for me " ...things of this kind, and see how she react.....

Women on the board will tell you otherwise, of course ....

PS: girls, please don't hate me

Right, well I actually think you're kind've right there Coney Island. It's all very well to say "I like you" but if you haven't been giving out any signals or DOING things to show her you care then she's going to think it's a joke or something, whether you do it by text or face to face. It is attractive if a guy is clearly not desperate but it also sucks if he's too cocky, so just be careful that you don't over play the "you'll have to fight for me" card.

Zulu

WhiteWashMan wrote:

and yet on the PI forum, you talked yourself out of doing exactly that...

That's not entirly correct. Re-read my post there WWM. Is there anything wrong with that advice?

OT: In relation to the PI I was wondering about reading signals from people taking pills. I still maintain that if you're going to tell someone you like them - do it face to face. Asking somebody out is a different matter.

Bottle_of_Smoke

I would have said say it to her face, but then thinking about it, if you know her the chances are she's already decided if she likes you or not, and your method of telling her isnt going to change that.

I personally prefer being told by text. It's much easier to say no and make excuses. I mean there's people I've rejected by text but if they came up to me and I was drunk some night I don't know what I might of got into! Now that's prob putting you off texting her, but if you do at least you know it *would* have been easy for her to say no had she wanted to.

Tar.Aldarion

it would be very awkwaard the next time they met though....
i prefer to just chicken out altogether !

Coney Island

Bottle_of_Smoke wrote:

I personally prefer being told by text. It's much easier to say no and make excuses. I mean there's people I've rejected by text but if they came up to me and I was drunk some night I don't know what I might of got into!

In other words, on a guy point of view it is much better the face to face way ...more difficult to reject as you said.

Mysteryfish

Tar.Aldarion wrote:

it would be very awkwaard the next time they met though....
i prefer to just chicken out altogether !

This is what so many guys seem to do! How is a girl ever suppose to know you like her? You have to take risks!

Bottle_of_Smoke

Coney Island wrote:

In other words, on a guy point of view it is much better the face to face way ...more difficult to reject as you said.

Well if all you want is a quick score that will soon be followed by "i don't want to get into anything right now" then yeah the face to face method is better. But that's only if she's as easily convinced when drunk as me. My final stand is it doesn't matter how you tell her as long as you do.

Franky Boy

Depends how far away they live!

panda100

I would definatly send a flirty text or some sort of text to see where you stand with her,for example send a normal txt just saying hello,how was your wknd and then make up something like you went for a 5mile jog to build up the old muscles-say it in a jokey way!Her reply will speak volumes cos if she replys saying oh you dont need to work out or something along those lines she most probably likes you. You can find out if she likes you in a roundabout way without you laying all your cards on the table and saying you like her!

tonyj

bazcaz wrote:

My aim motivation behind this method is to save me the embarassment an awkwardness of sayin it to her face and her not likin me!!

Don't worry about her not likin you - at least wait until you've been going out for a while.