Men--whats the most romantic thing you've ever done for a girl??

Misticles

just wondering about this. my bf isnt one bit romantic. the most romantic thing he done would of been that he bought me a kebab on holiday while i was dying of a hangover.

LadyJ

I guess men just hate romance.....

arbeitsscheuer

I don't have any record of romantic gestures, unfortunately.

Most romantic thing?
My ex-girlf was into teddy-bears in a big way (I called her an Arctophile, I reckon I wasn't far off) and she used to call me Tigger now and again, so I got her a big Tigger teddy. There were quite a few instances like that, from what I recall, but sod all else.

Tryin' to think of stuff but... Nah, nuffink.

scojones

My ex-girlfriend (was going with her at the time) was very sick in hospital with gastroenteritis, I stayed at her bedside for an entire week (the week comin up to christmas) and brought her flowers and a teddy along with a magazine each day she was in there. We were in tralee at the time, and her family were all in Cork and could not get to the hospital to see her, so she was literally alone. I had to sleep on an old wooden chair for the week at her bedside. I also had to get up everytime she had to use the bathroom to help her get there as she was on a drip and was very weak.

arbeitsscheuer

sjones wrote:

My ex-girlfriend (was going with her at the time) was very sick in hospital with gastroenteritis, I stayed at her bedside for an entire week (the week comin up to christmas) and brought her flowers and a teddy along with a magazine each day she was in there. We were in tralee at the time, and her family were all in Cork and could not get to the hospital to see her, so she was literally alone. I had to sleep on an old wooden chair for the week at her bedside. I also had to get up everytime she had to use the bathroom to help her get there as she was on a drip and was very weak.

See? Now THAT'S romantic.

Fair play sjones. Top bloke.

LadyJ

SebtheBum wrote:

See? Now THAT'S romantic.

Fair play sjones. Top bloke.

Pssh! Surely if his girlf was that sick and all alone then damn straight he should have done all that!
That's just common curtesy!

miss_gonzo

i dont think ive ever experienced a romantic gester from a guy

Coney Island

I didn't do many romantic things, however when I look back at the times when I used to be a "nice guy" I remember one: I was going out for a girl for very short time, we were crazy for each other (or so I thought, how naive), and then all of a sudden one day she stop answering my calls, replying my messages, etc without giving me a reason.
I knew she was going on holiday back for a couple of weeks to her country but I didn't remember the exact departure date (I just knew was very early in the morning from Dublin airport)....so basically I spent 3 full nights like an idiot in Dublin aiport with a huge bunch of flowers hoping to get her back (thinking about it now I really despise myself, she didn't deserve it!)...and of course she didn't show up!!!
When you are in love your a totally blind for these things, fortunately though I still had some of my instinct left and the last night at the airport I recycled the bunch of flowers and gave it to one of the waitress working at the airport (usually girls would hate to receive recycled flowers but she didn't mind)...so got her phone number & date

Now, 2 years later, rather than romantic I find this pathetic! :mad: ....shame on me!

Morale, this is how nice guys turn into "son of a b*****" as I am now, and since then many hearts have been broken, but not mine

nedoo

Note he said exgirlfriend. What a waste of a week, espically christmas week..all the piss ups. And what has he for it but an image of his dripping exgirlfriend and a sore back. Romance is dead...long live emmmmm the opposite to romance.

jonny68

LadyJ wrote:

I guess men just hate romance.....

Not true,i travellled to the UK every week for over a year(at great expense) to see my ex,not to mention buying flowers,gifts,etc,etc (although when i look back now i ask myself why :eek: )

arbeitsscheuer

nedoo wrote:

long live emmmmm the opposite to romance.

Pragmatism? Practicality? Sanity?!?

scojones

LadyJ wrote:

Pssh! Surely if his girlf was that sick and all alone then damn straight he should have done all that!
That's just common curtesy!

Not really common curtesy as I had to take the week off work so she wouldn't be on her own.

scojones

SebtheBum wrote:

See? Now THAT'S romantic.

Fair play sjones. Top bloke.

Thanks Seb

monkeyfudge

Three words:

"Dublin Wax Museum"

KdjaCL

Made a thai curry from scratch with starters and dessert, boxed off kids , put out candles then burnt my hand on soup which was at least 4000 degrees , for the entire night i tried in vain not to pass out from the pain.

Proposed on a beach whilst on holiday in Portugal (didnt get married never will im bitter now as posted above this was when i was nice, now im a bastard.

There are many many more each all deadly , tbu no way in hell i ever bother doing anything like it again. Except tonight when i get a set meal for two and eat it by candleight

/ssssh she doenst know

kdjac

Bard

Ex-girlfriend :- Pampered her for the evening and cooked a fantastic candle-lit dinner (I'm a crap cook generally) for her, proposing marriage half-way through on bended knee with a gorgeous ring. Left her speechless (for once). She accepted. It fell apart 3 months later.

Current girlfriend:- had a dozen red roses hand-delivered to her workplace (in the middle of a busy shopping centre) and then took her out shopping for clothes and onward to the finest restaurant in town.

There are others. I won't mention them.

Sleepy

Hmmm, hardly an original idea for a thread but immitation is the sincerest form of flattery

As you might guess from my last thread I'm a bit of a sucker for romance actually... I've gotten every girl I've ever gone out with flowers at least once for absolutely no reason, I've surprised a number of girlfriends with picnics on their lunchbreaks in work, I actually *think* about what presents to get for someone for their birthday/christmas (e.g. tracking down deleted CD's, favourite childhood movies etc).

Anyway they're just the more normal things, the most romantic things I've done would be entirely subjective as to which was more romantic. The first cost me a packet, the second cost me nothing, take your pick as to which was more romantic:

• Brought a girlfriend to Paris during a snowy January where she got to laugh at my childish wonderment at the fact that fountains *do* actually freeze with a spout of water at the top like in Disney cartoons, get brought fresh croissants and coffee in bed every morning and generally treated like a princess for the week.
• When I first knew that something was going to happen between me and a girl, I brought her down to the beach at Gentian's hill (Galwegians will know it) at night so that she'd have a romantic memory of our first kiss.

I'm quite proud of the second one because she literally started shaking at the knees and was left absolutely breathless when I kissed her. Even two years after we broke up it's still a very happy memory...

[see, I'm not a complete bastard all the time! ]

nedoo

I'm quite proud of the second one because she literally started shaking at the knees and was left absolutely breathless when I kissed her. [see, I'm not a complete bastard all the time! ][/QUOTE]

I dont know Sleepy...sounds like she was crapping herself!

Azureus

i think im one of the lucky ones with a very romantic guy! random flowers, amaing dinners, candles, thoughtful pressies and all round chivalry-that and putting up with my incessant me-ness (that has to be the most tolerant and romantic thing a guy could ever do!!) i sound like im bragging but its true-im a lucky gal! ... ok maybe i am braging a little :rolleyes:

tribulus

for anniversary with current gf (bear in mind I was and still am a jobless bum i.e. broke)

I was in college late so asked her to meet me in town. I took her to pizza hut on suffolk street and then to the savoy to see a jude law film(cus he's hot but apparently a cheating b*astard now :rolleyes: )

Now at this stage this sounds like a sh*t anniversary but I wanted to recreate the 1st "date" we ever went on, which was pizza hut on suffolk street(i even got the exact same table), and film with hot actor in the savoy.

She seemed pleased with it- more the thoughtfullness of it than some exuberant gesture seems to work better. LadyJ, Azureus, thoughts??

Farls

I put her pyjamas on the radiator before bed and brought her down to my house cuz she had no heating oil in hers, that was more the thoughtfulness.

Brought her shopping in macys NY, seemingly women love this place. Took her to the beach.

Its tough being rosmantic and being an irish fella...it doesn't come natural to us.

Farlz

miss_gonzo

Farls wrote:

I put her pyjamas on the radiator before bed and brought her down to my house cuz she had no heating oil in hers, that was more the thoughtfulness.

Brought her shopping in macys NY, seemingly women love this place. Took her to the beach.

Its tough being rosmantic and being an irish fella...it doesn't come natural to us.

Farlz

aw, how sweet

CathyMoran

Good to see that there are some romantic guys around. One of the most romantic things that an ex ever did was kiss me for the first time when we saw a fox and her cub in the near distance.

Another guy bought me a pendant that was symbolic of one of my favorite songs, the Dire Straits song "Romeo and Juliet" ('kiss you through the bars of Orion' - it had the constelation of Orion on it and 2 hearts), it did not cost much but I wore it for years afterwards.

Flowers etc are nice but thoughtful gestures mean so much more.

jrey1981

Won her an expensive bottle of wine in a uni quiz and shared it with her by candlelight on her birthdday
Sent flowers before she went to work in Kabul
Gave her a photo of her and I at graduation when all the ones she took had red-eye
Gave her books and a note to inspire her

Should have done way more, but that is a whole other story...

In my cheery bitterness, I am reminded of the Homer Simpson quote - "if you try and fail kids, remember this important lesson: never try" (or words to that effect)

Farls

She still managed to dump me though!

Anyway...its so hard to know what a girl feels is rosmantic, like you could spend all your money and buy her something amazing but it might mean féck all to her cuz ya didnt put your heart in it. But if you put the smallest bit of thought into how you hold her, or tell her what she means to you every now and again, or as cathy said a timely kiss...it means the world to ladies.

Bit late for me finding all this out now tho! but you live, you learn

Farlz

miss_gonzo

Farls wrote:

She still managed to dump me though!

Anyway...its so hard to know what a girl feels is rosmantic, like you could spend all your money and buy her something amazing but it might mean féck all to her cuz ya didnt put your heart in it. But if you put the smallest bit of thought into how you hold her, or tell her what she means to you every now and again, or as cathy said a timely kiss...it means the world to ladies.

Bit late for me finding all this out now tho! but you live, you learn

Farlz

aw she dumped ya eh!

thats too bad

but sounds like you figured a thing or two out about romance

ive yet to find a guy to show me some, i just figured it was dead along with chivlary

Sleepy

tribulus wrote:

for anniversary with current gf (bear in mind I was and still am a jobless bum i.e. broke)

I was in college late so asked her to meet me in town. I took her to pizza hut on suffolk street and then to the savoy to see a jude law film(cus he's hot but apparently a cheating b*astard now :rolleyes: )

Now at this stage this sounds like a sh*t anniversary but I wanted to recreate the 1st "date" we ever went on, which was pizza hut on suffolk street(i even got the exact same table), and film with hot actor in the savoy.

She seemed pleased with it- more the thoughtfullness of it than some exuberant gesture seems to work better. LadyJ, Azureus, thoughts??

Aye tribulus, I've done the whole "recreate the first date" thing too. Money is rarely needed to be romantic. I think at times being broke can actually inspire much more romantic gestures because you have to think more about how to express yourself when you've less resources to do it. Hmmm, I wonder is this why so many girls I know reckon that guys used to be more romantic than they are now? Maybe it's just that the guys they're around now have jobs and don't need to put in as much effort to make a gesture?

"the thoughtfullness of it than some exuberant gesture" is a much better way of saying what I meant in my initial thread about romance not all being about roses and candles etc.

JC 2K3

Why do guys have to do all the romantic shít? I think I'd quite enjoy romantic gestures from girls...

miss_gonzo

JC 2K3 wrote:

Why do guys have to do all the romantic shít? I think I'd quite enjoy romantic gestures from girls...

ya but when we're romantic its being "needy"

from what ive seen that is.

JC 2K3

miss_gonzo wrote:

ya but when we're romantic its being "needy"

from what ive seen that is.

romance is really just a gesture to show your love, it's nice to do and have done to you, I don't really get what you mean by "needy".

Farls

miss_gonzo wrote:

ya but when we're romantic its being "needy"

from what ive seen that is.

I can see that...like if a girl asks to go on a walk or spend time together etc, it feels from a guys point of view as them being needy...this used to happen with me a lot. I'd rarely see it as it was...she loved me, she obviously wanted to spend time with me...instead i seen it as being she wants me to do things her way or something ridiculous like that.

Men see rosmanticism more in presents (of the sexual kind normally) and telling us out straight to our face what we mean to you.

Farlz

LadyJ

My ex's attitude was that of Homer Simpson
"What's the point in going out? We're just gonna wind up back here anyway!"

miss_gonzo

Farls wrote:

I can see that...like if a girl asks to go on a walk or spend time together etc, it feels from a guys point of view as them being needy...this used to happen with me a lot. I'd rarely see it as it was...she loved me, she obviously wanted to spend time with me...instead i seen it as being she wants me to do things her way or something ridiculous like that.

Men see rosmanticism more in presents (of the sexual kind normally) and telling us out straight to our face what we mean to you.

Farlz

thats why i tend to stear away from romantisism

small gestures are fine
but constant romances...well, its almost like youre getting too caught up in the infatuation of relationships. gotta keep it grounded.

JC 2K3

LadyJ wrote:

My ex's attitude was that of Homer Simpson
"What's the point in going out? We're just gonna wind up back here anyway!"

Not all guys are like that

I mean pretty much every guy thinks about sex more than girls, but that's not all we want out of a relationship, not even a hugely significant part of it, for me anyway....

Farls

LadyJ wrote:

My ex's attitude was that of Homer Simpson
"What's the point in going out? We're just gonna wind up back here anyway!"

Hehe gotta love the old homer quotes...the reasoning is unquestionable.

LadyJ

It was actually quite funny,one time he took me to the cinema to see some horror film and I got so scared that I couldn't look so I covered my eyes for most of it. He sat there trying to pull my hands off my eyes and telling me I had to watch it because he paid for it!

He was (half) joking however........

arbeitsscheuer

LadyJ wrote:

It was actually quite funny,one time he took me to the cinema to see some horror film and I got so scared that I couldn't look so I covered my eyes for most of it. He sat there trying to pull my hands off my eyes and telling me I had to watch it because he paid for it!

He was (half) joking however........

Wow. The word "tosspot" springs to mind.
How long did you go out with him for?

LadyJ

SebtheBum wrote:

Wow. The word "tosspot" springs to mind.
How long did you go out with him for?

Hmmm....long enough......

Gazza22

I couldn't say off my head that i have done something remarkably romantic though one thing i always do with my gf is always pay, this is common courtesy though i have heard of a few cheap guys in my time...

the_syco

Meh. Sent a rose down the country to someone I was in love with on valentine's day. She brought in her ex-bf (that she started dating again the day after valentine's day) two days later. Pretty much gave up then.

Hardest part was proberly tracking down her address (got it off someone who knew her, 2 weeks beforehand).

=-=

Used to do the daily chivlary thing, but it died suddenly. Forget what happened (it was unrelated to the above, tho). Still do it the odd time, but rarely.

LadyJ wrote:

It was actually quite funny,one time he took me to the cinema to see some horror film and I got so scared that I couldn't look so I covered my eyes for most of it. He sat there trying to pull my hands off my eyes and telling me I had to watch it because he paid for it!

He was (half) joking however........

Me thinks he wanted you to cuddle into him. Guys bring girls to horror moves so they bury their faces in the guys shoulder when the scary bit happens. This gives a mini-boost to his ego, as he's somehow "defending" his woman.

gazza22 wrote:

I couldn't say off my head that i have done something remarkably romantic though one thing i always do with my gf is always pay, this is common courtesy though i have heard of a few cheap guys in my time...

Pay fully the odd time is good, but all the time, and you may become the doormat.

Farls

gazza22 wrote:

I couldn't say off my head that i have done something remarkably romantic though one thing i always do with my gf is always pay, this is common courtesy though i have heard of a few cheap guys in my time...

thats crap man...paying for stuff for her isn't common courtesy or romantic IMHO, my last g/f liked to pay her own way and i respected her more for this.

Opening a door for her, helping her sit down, walking on whatever side the wind is blowing strongest etc is common courtesy...not paying for everything.

Farlz

arbeitsscheuer

Farls wrote:

thats crap man...paying for stuff for her isn't common courtesy or romantic IMHO, my last g/f liked to pay her own way and i respected her more for this.

Opening a door for her, helping her sit down, walking on whatever side the wind is blowing strongest etc is common courtesy...not paying for everything.

Farlz

Yeah, spot on. My ex-girlf refused to let me pay for anythin as well, and it makes sense tbh.

Altho: "Walking on whatever side the wind is blowing strongest"

Em... What?

angeldelight

gazza22 wrote:

I couldn't say off my head that i have done something remarkably romantic though one thing i always do with my gf is always pay, this is common courtesy though i have heard of a few cheap guys in my time...

I don't see why guys feel the need to pay all the time! Unless the guy has wayyyyy more money I don't see why paying for stuff isn't shared fairly equally?!? Even then I'd rather pay my way. It's nice to be treated but not fair if guy pays for everything!

Farls

SebtheBum wrote:

Yeah, spot on. My ex-girlf refused to let me pay for anythin as well, and it makes sense tbh.

Altho: "Walking on whatever side the wind is blowing strongest"

Em... What?

Hehe i used to do things like that...kept the wind off her so she wasn't frozen! Same as when its cold in the winter warming up the bed for her and hugging her to warm her up when she gets in...maybe thats just me now

arbeitsscheuer

Farls wrote:

Hehe i used to do things like that...kept the wind off her so she wasn't frozen! Same as when its cold in the winter warming up the bed for her and hugging her to warm her up when she gets in...maybe thats just me now

I know I'm a bloke so I'm not supposed to say this (esp. not about another bloke) but - Awwww. How sweet.

Jesus, this thread is depressing me now; I'm suddenly realising how substandard I've been as a boyfriend all these years... Damn.

jellie

Farls wrote:

I put her pyjamas on the radiator before bed and brought her down to my house cuz she had no heating oil in hers, that was more the thoughtfulness.

Farls wrote:

Opening a door for her, helping her sit down, walking on whatever side the wind is blowing strongest etc is common courtesy...not paying for everything.

I find little day to day things like these far more romantic than any big gestures yeah sometimes flowers, candlelit dinners, etc can be nice (& i certainly wouldnt complain if receiving them!), but personally i notice the little things

Farls: PJs on radiator - so cute!

Farls

sar84 wrote:

Farls: PJs on radiator - so cute!

Hehe if its any consolation she told me that the night she dumped me! I remember doing it but i didnt think it meant so much.

And Seb, its only when you see threads like these or actually sit down and talk to other people about this stuff that you realise how bad you have actually been...its amazing.

jellie

Farls wrote:

Hehe if its any consolation she told me that the night she dumped me! I remember doing it but i didnt think it meant so much.

:eek: what a b***h!!!

Dizzyblabla

Farls wrote:

She still managed to dump me though!

Anyway...its so hard to know what a girl feels is rosmantic, like you could spend all your money and buy her something amazing but it might mean féck all to her cuz ya didnt put your heart in it. But if you put the smallest bit of thought into how you hold her, or tell her what she means to you every now and again, or as cathy said a timely kiss...it means the world to ladies.

Bit late for me finding all this out now tho! but you live, you learn

Farlz

ooh, I nearly cried... *sigh* that's what we want, not expensive pressies....

Farls

sar84 wrote:

:eek: what a b***h!!!

Ah no, we had a big 4 hour talk the night we broke up...we talked about everything and it just came up like...she said its the most romantic thing i had ever done for her. We were just going through old times etc. It wasn't a bit aruement break up thing where we told each other to f off, it was more a "i love you, but just cant be with you right now" thing.

Enough bout me tho!

jellie

ah sure now ull have half the girls on boards fighting for u! :P